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writes: hello everyone, im a 17 year old girl and i am on the contreceptive pill however every time i have sex im convinced im pregnant. No matter how many negative pregnancy test i have i still convince myself im getting pregnancy symptoms, even when i use a condom and the pill i still think this. Whats wrong with me ?
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reader, rmocha  +, writes (25 November 2009):
I don't know how helpful this will be to you. I also went through the same thing. Next thing you know you have symthoms, and you are not alone. Many women go thru this. Often times we want it so bad we can not help our selfs. The only thing that helped me is to come to reality that 1 i can not afford to have a baby, and 2 what can i really offer a child. 3 spend as much time as possible with my niece and nephews to act out my mothering, 4 plan for when that time does come( what baby room do i want, what color crib, who will i tell first, ect.) although i am not i can still plan for the future. ( i would not recommend buying anything just plan.) Save money. And of course talk to other women who have dealt or dealing with the same thing. Support is always a plus. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2009): Phantom pregnancies sweet heart trust me ive went through the same thing
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (11 September 2009):
I get like that, but I had an abortion a few months earlier, I am on the pill, and had sex last month, I panicked and took plan B, now I am worried that I'm pregnant. Though my doctor told me I was not. I want to get my tubes tied so I don't have to worry about it again, but I figured no doctor would do it.
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reader, LoveIsRough +, writes (10 September 2009):
 I have a feeling you feel guilty about having it in the first place. Sex is a choice, and maybe you feel guilty that you are having sex with anyone. I'm not against sex, as long as you are protected, but I think there's some guilt in the era here....You can always stop having sex if you think you're pregnant!I know that you are scared, and that's ok. Just make sure you always double up, and you should be okay.
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reader, LauraWindy  +, writes (10 September 2009):
I think it's normal to have the fear of becoming pregnant even if things prove that you're not. However, yours seems to have taken up a rather larger space. If you use protection, and you are on the pill, then there isn't much to worry about. Of course there is always the small chance of condom breaking, but the possibilities are very few and since the tests you take show negative, then there's nothing to worry about.Have you thought of abstaining from sex for a while? If you think this fear is taking over you all the time, maybe you should take a break from having sex and also give your mind a break from worrying. Try to convince yourself that you're being as careful as possible and you're not going to end up pregnant if you keep at it. I know it might seem hard now but there's nothing else you can do at this point..
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (10 September 2009):
To be honest, fear is healthy, it stops us doing stupid things.
Pregnancy is the last thing you want unless you are willing to be broke and have no life and lose your body for the next 20 years.
The simplest solution for you is to take a break from having sex for a while. Get your head straight for a bit and figure out if you would be happy in a non sexual relationship instead of a sexual one.
Then once you are a bit more settled with the whole idea of sex then you can try again and this time hopefully you'll be able to handle the emotional side of it and not get stress symptoms like delayed periods.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): You want a child. Thats why you think you are pregnant.
What you can do that will help you: decide if this is really something you want. Do you really want to be pregnant and eventually give birth at this moment in your life? Is it a wise decision? Are these desires subconsciously or are you aware of them?
How often do you look at baby related programs on tv? Or in the store? Any babies in the family atm? Anything in your family related to babies/pregnancy? Maybe someone has a hard time getting pregnant?
These are all thoughts that can come to you, even if you arent aware of them being there, they affect you. By becoming aware, you get back in control of your mind! Be determined of what you want in life and set clear goals for yourself.
Hope you understood this. One last thing: interpreting your dreams will probably help you more then anything, because they tell you about what you are thinking off that you might not be aware of consciously.
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reader, Jenny Junkie +, writes (10 September 2009):
 ur just worried. ur scared to be pregnant so you go out of ur way to convince urself that ur not so u feel ok again. but dont tell ur partner that you think ur pregnant unless ur absolutely sure cuz ull scare thm to death. teenage boys freak out about stuff like that. also if theres no rips in a condom then dont worry!!! :D
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reader, Aries15 +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Hey hunni,
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! I know this cause i suffered from the same problem a few years back. I am also 17 and suffered from this so know exactly where your coming from.
Whats wrong (if anything) is that you suffer from "phantom pregnancies" and believe it or not this is a real medical condition. You can read more about this at http://www.pregnancy-bliss.co.uk/phantompregnancy.html
It is where you either worry so much or wish so much that you were pregnant you develope some of the symptoms, the power of the subconcious mind. Unfortunately there is no easy way to cure this as it is phychological but there are ways just visit the website and get yourself appropriate help
The best of luck xxxxx
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