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writes:hi my name is kylie, i have a boyfriend and i dont think he loves me. all he really wants to do is take my virgintiy away from me, and it scares me. PLEASE help me im scared! Reply to this Question
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reader, dell123 +, writes (29 September 2009):
Well i am only 13.I am in a serious relationship with this boy. his name is freddy.We been going together for 3 weeks an he proposed to me the second date we went on together.An since we made a commitment that we will not have sex at our age we are going to wait till we are married.My advice to u 13 year olds out there tell the boy you want to wait till you are married
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): tell him to get away from you he doesnt deserve to be part of your life trust me i know about this but i went and had sex and regret it every since so trust me get rid of the him he's a waste of space
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): The pros of sex: it feels good and possibly makes you feel 'closer' to the person you're with.
The cons of sex: with a premature knowledge of birth control, many unwanted pregnancies can ensue. If you're pregnant, it is not so easy to just get an abortion. An abortion can yield a vast range of emotional and mental disorders such as depression and suicidal tendencies due to hormonal changes. It is also very unhealthy and does your body a lot of harm at your age.
Another con of sex at your age is that your sexual organs are still developing. Sex at your age can be deemed harmful to your body and cause various problems and dysfunctions over time.
Another con of sex at any age is the possibility of transmitting sexual related diseases such as HIV, Aids and Herpes. Aids and genital Herpes have no cure. Aids is a degenerate disease that can kill you over time. For Herpes, read it here:
http://www.aocd.org/skin/dermatologic_diseases/herpes.html
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Another thing is that sex is a form of intimate communication and 'dance' between lovers. If you are uncomfortable and simply not ready for it, then you shouldn't do it. One day, you may find out when you are truly ready. As it stands, it is apparent you're not. This boy pressuring you is not a gentleman and obviously as you could tell, is trying to satisfy his own ego and libido and taking absolutely NO consideration towards your own feelings.
A simple: "NO" followed by your willingness to leave him would be prudent. No male should force you into something you don't want to do, if it only benefits them and not you. Sex won't feel good if you're not ready for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I know exactly how you feel I am only 15 but I have been in your shoes I'm not going to lie I did have sex with my boyfriend at 13 because I loved him and he said that he loved me to and to this day I still love him but we are not together anymore he got what he wanted and left 3 months later I cried myself to sleep so many nights and it was horrible don't let any man get in the way of you bring a teenager have fun with your life because later on down the road you will regret it I promise and who likes being called a slut? I know I don't! Just have fun being a teen :) love, Destiny
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): You are too young for sex. Wait, wait, Wait!
Do not do anything you aren't ready for.
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reader, lovemebunnie +, writes (3 September 2009):
You are way too young sweetie.If he keeps trying, you shouldn't be with him. If you don't want to, then he needs to understand that and get through his thick skull.-Alice
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): dump him, if your not sure he loves you and all he wants is sex then just get rid of him. It might be hard to do but at the end of the day its for the best xx
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reader, softtouchmale2003 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 You're too young to go out and have sex. Tell him to go away. Let your parents know about this.
As a side note, you should not lose your virginity to just anyone. Truth be told, the last thing you want to do is lose it to someone who has no interest in you whatsoever. That's bad sex and its not healthy anyway.
Try and focus on working on yourself, growing up a bit and getting into a normal relationship with someone who has patience and cares for you as a person and not solely focused on your virginity.
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reader, Blod  +, writes (3 September 2009):
 If he makes you feel this way and is just using you then chuck him. You're still really young and he should know that. You don't want to lose your virginity if you don't want to, especially when you're only 13. The best thing would be to get rid, avoid him if you can and move on. Best of luck. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): He obviously doesn't respect you, and you can be sure that if you did have sex with him, he'll be straight out the door afterwards anyway, so i think you should dump him first and keep your dignity and self respect intact.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 September 2009):
Dump him, and if he won't go away then tell someone like an adult.
Call the police if you are scared. It's better to make a fuss than get raped.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Well the simple answer is to dump him! Just get rid of the idiot, there is no need to have someone like that in your life!
You are right to be scared - you dont want to lose your virginity to a jerk like him! Your first time should be special, with someone you love and who loves you too! Not some guy that is after 1 thing who will dump you once he has had sex with you!
Just get rid of the guy, end the relationship and tell him you never want to see him again. Delete his phone number, facebook etc and get him out of your life! You will soon forget about him!
Just enjoy being young free and single for a while, go out and have fun with your friends. Dont worry about silly boys that just want sex - these guys are the ones you should avoid like the plague! One day a nice guy will come along that loves you and will wait until the time is right for you, but until then just have fun and enjoy being a teenager!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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