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writes:my bf and i have been going out for about 5 months and he said he was ready to have sex (we're both 18). should i be concerned about our age or the length of our relationship? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2009): If your both 18, then your both adults, and the decision is up to you both. However, use contraception if your not planning to get pregnant.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (10 September 2009):
You are old enough to vote drink and go to war so you should be able to handle sex.
If you want to wait a bit longer though then that is absolutely fine. Make sure it's what you want and not what you think you should do.
If it's your first time having sex then I would DEFINITELY advise you do lots of foreplay and kissing etc. Have you done lots of fingering / hand jobs and oral?
You need to get used to each other's bodies before going for the big one.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, busy04  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Question is: are YOU ready for it?
If you feel like you guys should wait longer, then by all means, wait longer. There is no time limit or law that says you have to have sex at a certain time. It's your body & your emotions getting involved in it. Think about if he's someone you really want to be with, can you see yourself being with him longer? Is your relationship stable & steady enough right now without the sex? Think about things like that. I think it's a good thing that you're even considering age & time, that speaks very highly of you.
I also say don't feel pressured to do anything, don't lose sleep over this & if your boyfriend respects you enough, he would understand how you feel. Talk to him about your concerns, let him know how you feel and you two go from there.
Best wishes!
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reader, MissWright +, writes (10 September 2009):
I dont think you should be concerned about your age or the length of your relationship
you are both old enough and have been together for a long enough time to know whether you can trust one another.
Talk to your boyfriend and if you are deffintaly both ready then i dont see the harm in it
hope this helped
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