Boyfriend pushing me to get a breast lift
Q. I am 20 and my breasts have been sagging since I was 18, when I lost a lot of weight. My boyfriend has for quite a long time been asking me(frequently) if I could get a breast lift done in the future. As of now I don't have the money but should I ...
A. 21 September 2009: If you want surgery at some point in your life then that's up to you.
I know it's something I may well consider when I get a bit older and have more cash as mine have been big and are starting to head south now I'm hitting my later 20's.
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Blow jobs & STD'S
Q. in regards to blowjobs, are std's transmitted just by having your mouth come in contact with the penis, or does that only happen if he cums into it? ...
A. 21 September 2009: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/sti-std-what-are-they-and-how-do.html
This article will explain everything.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
His priorities are all screwed up how can I make him see this?
Q. Hello. I feel kinda silly asking for advice online, but I am confused and in need of the advice so here it goes... I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. He just recently moved out into his own place that he shares w...
A. 20 September 2009: Yes you are being unreasonable.
This guy clearly doesn't want to grow up. He doesn't want to work, he doesn't want a serious girlfriend.
He's made this clear to you so why are you hanging around trying to change him?
Either put up with th... (read in full...)
What do I do about a drunk boyfriend?
Q. What do I do about drunk boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years and we have one child who is three. I recentley broke up with him because his drinking has become a problem. I allowed him to come back because it hurt me to see h...
A. 19 September 2009: Why don't you want to involve the law?????
HE HIT YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER!!
Why risk your childrens lives because you don't want to cause a fuss.
Ring 911 right now.
I'm glad you threw him out but you HAVE to follow through on this and mo... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to tell him I only want to be his friend without hurting his feelings?
Q. There's this guy who i met a few days ago when his mom brought him around my house.I agreed to talk to him as a friend only.but his mom wanted to match make us.i made sure that i was only giving out friend signals to him but then i overherd him ...
A. 18 September 2009: You CAN'T just be his friend when he thinks he is in with a chance of something more. I know it sounds horrible and you sound like a nice girl who just wants to be nice to him.... But I've been there and done this and not wanted to upset a nice ... (read in full...)
I discovered he is married!
Q. He told me he was divorced. I just found his myspace page. And his wife's myspace page. both updated within the past week. both listed as married. i am sick and angry. really angry. i suspected. do i confront him? i haven't heard from h...
A. 18 September 2009: I wouldn't even bother wasting the time and energy it would take to confront him.
Just act as if he's dead to you.
I always advise to hold you head high and act like a Lady in these situations.
Move on and never look back because he's beneat... (read in full...)
How long does sperm live outside the male body?
Q. My girlfriend and I want to have a baby, She is the dominant one in the relationship, however she wants to have the baby. She also does not want to have sex to get pregnant, so we are trying to come up with other ways to get her pregnant. I want ...
A. 18 September 2009: Arrrgh I didn't realise you were a woman too!
Please ignore everything I said. SORRY!!
Yep, as far as I know the turkey baster approach works well. If you have a male donor in mind (it's always better to know family history, hairline, and a ... (read in full...)
How long does sperm live outside the male body?
Q. My girlfriend and I want to have a baby, She is the dominant one in the relationship, however she wants to have the baby. She also does not want to have sex to get pregnant, so we are trying to come up with other ways to get her pregnant. I want ...
A. 18 September 2009: One question for you?
Why are you letting this woman (who doesn't even like you enough to have sex with you) have your baby?
You do have a choice in this too.
If you want to be treated with this much disrespect for the next 20 years then g... (read in full...)
He wants to change my status of virgin to non-virgin
Q. I am 13 and there is is boy that i really like. we've been going out for about 3weeks and 1night we were talking on the phone and he said,"are you a virgin?" so i said "yes" and then he said "do you want me to change that?" i didnt say anything back ...
A. 18 September 2009: Don't be so weak that you do something you don't want to just to keep a guy.
Do you honestly think that by having sex with him, he'll like you and stay with you?
No, he'll think you are a slut and tell everyone.
You never ever ever ever hav... (read in full...)
Help! my baby's dad could be a rapist!!!
Q. dearcupids, i really dont know who to go to now! im hoping someone will have a bit of advice, im 17 and i met this great guy when i was 14 and i instantly fell for him, i didt think he was interesting so i guess it was a secret crush i had on him, ...
A. 18 September 2009: This is an awful thing to happen to anyone.
I'm surprised they didn't give you the morning after pill when they took you to be seen by a doctor at the police station.
As an agony aunt on the internet, let me tell you that I don't think anyo... (read in full...)
I feel like using condoms is making my sex life go down the drain!
Q. my boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now, and the problem is, whenever we have sexual intercourse, (we use condoms) I tend to dry up so easily. I really love him and want him very much, although I will admit we do not do any ...
A. 18 September 2009: It's not condoms that are the problem, it's the fact your boyfriend is rubbish in bed.
Foreplay is there for a reason.
It gets you turned on and wet, and it also stretches you out so you don't feel as much discomfort during sex.
No disco... (read in full...)
What do I do about a drunk boyfriend?
Q. What do I do about drunk boyfriend? My boyfriend and I have been together 5 years and we have one child who is three. I recentley broke up with him because his drinking has become a problem. I allowed him to come back because it hurt me to see h...
A. 18 September 2009: You know it was a mistake to let him back.
Now he knows all your threats to chuck him out are meaningless AND all he has to do is look a bit sad and you'll forgive him.
You have seen he's not going to change and he's using you because you let ... (read in full...)
Should I stay on this committee or go? My ex is causing me problems.
Q. Hoping people can help. I am on a board of directors. I am the only woman and my ex is on there. He was the one who ended it and wanted no contact but it seems to me he picks his words to wound. He will often repeat back expressions I have used and ...
A. 18 September 2009: Is there anyone else on the committee that you can talk to about this?
I mean obviously they are going to notice that he's being an arse to you.
The chairman could easily pull him up if he steps over the line.
I don't think you should l... (read in full...)
How should I phrase this letter?
Q. Nearly 2 years ago my relationship with my parents rapidly deteriorated because they would get drunk and out of control, and then constantly abuse and threaten me and my fiancée. I was thrown out of my home by my mother, who is an alcoholi...
A. 18 September 2009: I think writing to them is a good idea.
However, a letter is likely to be found by your mum.
Now you are gone, you know full well she will have started on them so you don't want to give her fuel to accuse them of being on your side and making ... (read in full...)
Too much has happened and I think I'm growing up too fast
Q. So heres the thing i have just won a legal battle so as me and my pregnant girlfriend can live on our own (you wont have heard about it, non of us wanted it to go public). We now live in a flat for 800 rent which the court pays. I LOVE my life, the ...
A. 18 September 2009: Well if you've convinced a court that you can cope on your own then yes, you probably have grown up too fast.
You are now living as an adult.
But to be honest, you can't turn around now and complain. If you wanted to enjoy your childhood then y... (read in full...)
I'd like my b/f to communicate with me more and not be so shy
Q. I have a boyfriend that I have been with for four months now. We have known eachother for almost 2 years and were best friends before we got together. I liked him for a long time and come to find out after telling him 4 months ago he was in love ...
A. 18 September 2009: Well it took him 2 years to even ask you out so you may have to accept that this is the way he is. You didn't seriously think you were ever actually FRIENDS with this guy. He was only there being so nice because he liked you but was scared to say ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my clingy friend?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I have a clingy friend and I've been able to tolerate it for a couple months, but now it's to the point where I'm tired of it. If I don't pick up when she calls me, she repeatedly calls me back until I answer plus she texts ...
A. 18 September 2009: Seriously, I don't believe that you have that few friends that you NEED someone like this in your life.
If she's being a bad friend and bringing you down then slowly remove her from your life.
I used to think that I HAD to stick with my fr... (read in full...)
Do confident people get into relationships if they know they won't result in marriage?
Q. Do people with healthy, high self esteem get into exclusive relationships if they know the other person won't ever marry them?...
A. 18 September 2009: Hell yes.
Not everyone in the world is after marriage. If I was 19 I wouldn't want a boyfriend who wanted to marry me.
Hang on, if I was single NOW at 26 I don't think I'd want a guy to be planning to marry me. I'd have no interest in meet... (read in full...)
He will not stop going on about having sex with me!
Q. Well theres this dude and hes really nice and confident. He got my number and started to txt me. It was all grand until he was started trying to persuede me to have sex with him! like i dunno if he was serious but he like wouldnt let it go. I am not ...
A. 17 September 2009: He sounds like a bit of a nut job to me.
He may be nice and flirty and stuff, but seriously, this is not the normal way a guy should ask.
He could be a psychotic rapist for all you know.
Tell him to bugger off and leave you alone.
Do ... (read in full...)
Would you stay in a marriage where you aren't loved?
Q. What are the signs that your husband loves you? I feel my husband does not love me, and i wonder, if you could describe, how you would feel loved. I just want to make sure I'm not mistaken ,when I think he does not love me. Because would you stay i...
A. 17 September 2009: Rather than wondering what he's thinking about and what his motives might be....
Why don't you just sit him down and tell him: "I don't feel like you love me any more and it makes me wonder if you want to leave me."
If you can't communicat... (read in full...)
Should I say "I like you but I won't sleep with you"?
Q. If I had sex with this guy would he think I was easy? I have known this guy for about three years, we have never dated but french kissed on a couple of occasions, we know each other through mutual friends. We have texted each other but he nev...
A. 17 September 2009: I would just stay cool.
You know this guy has no intention of making you his girlfriend because he would have done it by now.
I would tell him up front that you aren't doing the casual thing.
He's being very forward and I think since you ha... (read in full...)
Can I move to Turkey alone?
Q. Im a 16 year old girl from the UK and im in love with a Turkish man, we have been together for only a few months now but im so in love with him. I want to move to Turkey and live with him and get married to him but am I legally aloud to move abr...
A. 17 September 2009: Making him wait 2 years is far better an idea.
Apart from anything else it will prove his love and also allow you to get a decent education in England.
You can also learn Turkish / Arabic before you move out there.
You have to always ha... (read in full...)
Ever since I moved back to her town, our relationship has been different. Now she wants a break?
Q. Im have been dating this woman officially for 6 months. To ease the strain she asked if I would return back to our college town with her for a while, she has a yr left. When I got down here everything changed. we are staying together and she said ...
A. 17 September 2009: I think it's clear that she thinks she's made a huge mistake and she doesn't want to be with you.
However, rather than be mature and admit that to herself, to you, to all her friends, and be seen to be selfish and have messed you about, she is i... (read in full...)
Does she really love me or have I misunderstood?
Q. Hi! my Gf,she is working with me in the same office. I love her,she always watch my face gives smile and other lovely expression. But I dont know that really she loves me or it is my any mistake to understand her. so suggest me that can i pro...
A. 17 September 2009: Ask her how she feels!
She has no reason to lie to you.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Are these potential red flags in new relationship?
Q. Hi, So I've been dating a new guy officially for about a month now, seeing each other for two in total. We were sort of friends for a little while before this and the relationship came totally out of the blue, but it was a good suprise So f...
A. 17 September 2009: Well if you are just out of a long relationship then it's best to be a bit cautious with your heart.
Some girls will have no problem with just having their own space and getting the odd text every couple of days.
Some girls need that contac... (read in full...)
Should I just take it slow for a couple of months and if it doesn't move forward, move on?
Q. I don't understand. We broke up but he keeps coming back to me. He told me he doesn't want a commitment but when I don't call him he keeps calling me and I go back. He is all lovey dovey like a true relaionship even talking about us vacationing ...
A. 17 September 2009: Well you haven't said what you want from him.
If you want a boyfriend then stop letting him mess you about!
If you are happy to mess about and enjoy his company until something better comes along then go for it.
If you want this guy then t... (read in full...)
Maybe he likes me? Or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Reet. So there's this guy I know, and before today we only ever saw each other every now and again. He never knew my name or anything like that. But then today I bumped into him by chance and the person I know him through was there but then left, ...
A. 17 September 2009: You'll have to see him again and flirt with him and find out.
Not knowing how he feels straight away is all part of the game.
Enjoy the ride, don't invest and get your hopes up on one guy too soon, and chill out.
Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years(we are both 26). We bought a house 3 years ago and until 12 months ago were happy as ever. 6 months ago I began mentioning that I thought it was time we got engaged. He always changed the ...
A. 17 September 2009: From what you say here, you have told him you want a house an engagement, marriage and then kids.
You have then asked for his response to this.
Have you ever asked him what HIS long term hopes and dreams are?
Talk to him about the future, te... (read in full...)
His skype had strange messages from girls wanting to webcam!
Q. Hey guys, any help would be much appreciated. My boyfriend and I have been going out 2 years. Were currently in a long distance relationship. I logged into his skype account to send a text as I had no credit on mine and he had messages from 2 girls ...
A. 17 September 2009: Hi wanna cam?
There, now you are as guilty as him.
I get those messages.
They aren't even from real girls, it's all done by one guy in Nigeria who uses a programme to set up loads of accounts to send out spam.
Calm down and don't be ... (read in full...)
Can I move to Turkey alone?
Q. Im a 16 year old girl from the UK and im in love with a Turkish man, we have been together for only a few months now but im so in love with him. I want to move to Turkey and live with him and get married to him but am I legally aloud to move abr...
A. 17 September 2009: No you can't move out and get married on your own at 16.
And the likely hood is that this man is not the guy you think he is.
Only a real idiot would think about marriage after a few months... and I bet most of that has been online and over ... (read in full...)
How do I improve the outcome of the month break? I want to get back with my ex!
Q. my boyfriend and i just broke up a few days ago... he said that he doesn't want a relationship right now. he also said that he needs space and when we were in the relationship that i smothered him, and i didn't give him enough space. he said t...
A. 16 September 2009: 1. No, he may not come back. he might discover he is happier on his own. You should figure out if you are happy on your own too. Start the process of getting over him rather than obsessing and planning your every move. It will also help you be less ... (read in full...)
My mother broke her promise to me and really let me down. Should she apologize?
Q. I have been living on my own for some time now few years, and done actual very well, but my car broke down and so I have no way to get around I am in a very tiny rural town and without a car you cant get around. I told my mother this but never asked ...
A. 16 September 2009: Sounds like your mum is just a pretty weak person when it comes to it.
She's not willing to stand up to her bully of a boyfriend and he obviously doesn't care enough about her to make a bit of effort with you.
I think you have to accept that s... (read in full...)
I want to meet her but she seems happy with our online relationship
Q. Hey guys, My girlfriend and I have been in an online relationship for 9 months, we've not met in real life yet, and she told me this Sunday she has a family party, and jokingly said I should come to it. In response to that I said "I could very ea...
A. 16 September 2009: Most of the time when people have an "online" relationship, it means that one of them takes it seriously, and the other considers it a pen pal they flirt with.
YOU were the one that said "It's never going to happen" when you spoke about meetin... (read in full...)
I need a steady but she's not reliable, do I keep looking?
Q. I have been seeing a 40 year old mother of 1 6 year old (girl)... I am 58... we have a great time together, seldom as it is... we met last year... I left her for florida for 5 months, came back and called her. Her schedule is crazy, work, child, e...
A. 16 September 2009: Well if you know what you want then why settle?
If you want someone steady and reliable, then find that person.
Sex is important but it should be the icing on the cake, not the main ingredient in your relationship.
My advice is to keep ... (read in full...)
My ex's post is still coming to my house and they are like little bundles of memories coming through my door!
Q. I broke up with my partner of 4 years about 5 months ago. We haven't had any contact since we broke up. We were living together and it was my house and he had to leave and he wasn't too happy about it. Any way his post is still coming to my hom...
A. 16 September 2009: Same thing I did when I moved into my house.
I was getting lots and lots of stuff through addressed to the guy who used to live here.
You simply get a marker pen, cross out the address on the front, write "not known at this address" on the ... (read in full...)
Risk of STDs from masturbation?
Q. hi im back with another question about trying to avoid stds/aids i was just wondering about me being sexualy active with myself like masturbation and was wondering if that gives you a bigger risk of geting a std and yes i know that condoms help ...
A. 16 September 2009: Well you can't catch STD's if you aren't with another person.
That's like asking if you can catch a cold by sitting in your own bedroom.
If there is no outside source of disease then you can't be infected.
I think you need to look up what... (read in full...)
Addicted to stealing my mom's credit card!
Q. I think im addicted to stealing from my mom, im 13 and i've been stealing her credit card for about 2 years. I have spent over 1,000 on it over the 2 years. She finds out right away everytime, shes a banker, she gets reallly mad every time and i ju...
A. 14 September 2009: Well you clearly don't want to stop or you wouldn't keep doing it.
Tell your mum to hide it better, and come up with a decent punishment for when you do it.
And don't ever get a credit card for yourself as you will most likely get in to masses... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much - a blowjob whilst driving?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have benn married for 20 years, 2 great kids. I love my wife very much, but I want more when it comes to sex and foreplay. When it comes to iniating sex, it is always me who iniates, and I feel like when we do have sometype of sex,...
A. 13 September 2009: Your wife would become world famous around the internet, her name and photo would be in every 14 year old boy's inbox. Because you were distracted by her doing things to you, and didn't see the deer run out, and then when you braked hard, and the ... (read in full...)
How can I stop the shaving rash?
Q. Everytime I shave whether my pubic hair or my legs I get a hideous rash for atleast a day. On my legs it goes with cold water and if I pat them dry but when I shave my pubic hair it comes out in this horrible red rash wich I think is highly ...
A. 13 September 2009: Well the easiest way is to stop shaving.
At your age I very much doubt that someone is going to be seeing you in your pants that often so getting a good pair of small sharp scissors and just trimming to keep the worst of it down should be fine.
... (read in full...)
We both know we could be good for each other but are afraid to date one another
Q. A friend of mine last week revealed to me that she loved me. I have known for quite some time that she felt that way and never said or acted on it because I did not want to risk ruining what we have. Now that she has made it clear her feelings for ...
A. 13 September 2009: Woah there, well the fact that she is in love with a MARRIED MAN with CHILDREN may well explain why she's a bit hesitant.
That's a pretty important detail just to drop into an update.
If that's the case then you can't blame her for wanting to k... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't care who I go out with. Does he really love me?
Q. My b/f loves me but is not at all possessive about me. I can go out with anybody and do whatever I feel like. He doent mind. On the other end I am extremely possessive about him and he respects it and feels really good about this . Then why he ...
A. 13 September 2009: He sounds a great boyfriend!
I wish all boyfriends were like that, it would solve a lot of misery.
If you want to get rid of this wonderful man and let some other girl enjoy having the perfect boyfriend then do it.
Find yourself a man w... (read in full...)
We both know we could be good for each other but are afraid to date one another
Q. A friend of mine last week revealed to me that she loved me. I have known for quite some time that she felt that way and never said or acted on it because I did not want to risk ruining what we have. Now that she has made it clear her feelings for ...
A. 13 September 2009: Just get the hell on with it.
If you have feelings for her then you are not her friend. You are lying to her by saying you are. It's exactly the same with her as well.
The only reason she's back tracking now over what she said is because she r... (read in full...)
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