I feel worthless and stuck in this nowhere relationship. Need advice on what I can do?
Q. my boyfriend and i have two small children. One is 16mo. and one is 2mo. He turns me down for sex, can't stop looking at other women, hides naked pics of other women and throws mine out. He lies about where he is. He goes out all night and doesn't ...
A. 25 November 2006: Well, dont take any more. The first thing is, that it would be impossible for him to just take your babies away. This is a threat that cowardly men use to play mind games and control women in such a way that they will lie down and take the abuse. He ... (read in full...)
He ended his relationship with another because of me-said he still loves me! I'm not sure I want this..what should I do?
Q. About 5 yrs ago i had to make a choice between two guys to decide whom to date. One was my father best friend son and the other i met in school and have know for several years.I didnt follow my heart i allowed myself to be pressurised by my parents ...
A. 24 November 2006: I would say go for it with this guy. He clearly cares about you like your last boyfriend didnt. Perhaps it is his talk of commitment already that is scaring you. If so, tell him that you want to take things slow and see where it leads. I am sure he ... (read in full...)
We used the pull out method!
Q. okay, so im 15 and my boyfriend have been together for 3yrs. we had sex for the first time on tuesday. we didnt use a condom, he pulled out. but i think he mightyhave came a little. i didnt get my period yet this month. it is pretty irregular, and ...
A. 24 November 2006: Firstly, the pull out is not a method...its a myth! There is still a high chance that you could be pregnant even if he didnt come inside you. My advice would be to get a pregancy test....fast!... (read in full...)
My bf and I have a baby but we fight and I'm not happy...do I leave and move in with my ex? What should I do?
Q. I have a baby with my current boyfriend and have been together for 4 years... If feels likes we are going in a circle ( we are happy, then we fight, then we dont talk etc.) I am not happy, it feels too little too late... but there is an ex that ...
A. 21 November 2006: If your ex is sooo nice, why did you break up in the first place? Try to make it work with your current boyfriend, if only for your childs sake.... (read in full...)
Oral sex and the lifespan of sperm
Q. If u come through oral sex, and then in a couple of hours have sex without a condom but do not come is it possible your girl friend could get pregnant or would the sperm from earlier on be dead?...
A. 21 November 2006: Er, yes! I cant believe that there are people out there who still think that pulling out works! Regardless of whether or not the sperm from before was still alive, the penis leaks small amounts of fluids containing some sperm when having sex.... (read in full...)
He finds intercourse tiring but prefers I give him blowjobs! What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 11 months now. I was a virgin when I met him but he wasn't. I'm 18 he's 20 and besically after about 4 months he told me he loved me and a couple of weeks later i realised i loved him (first guy i've ...
A. 21 November 2006: Wow, how lazy and selfish. I would say ok, give him blowjobs but only after he has pleasured you.
PS. He sounds like a jerk!... (read in full...)
I'm shattered..how can he move on and replace me so quick with a new gf? Did I love him more than he loved me?
Q. Hey, i seem to have a problem and i feel really alone. I am 18yrs old and week ago i split from my 20yr old fiance. We had been together for nearly 3 years and things had been bad with our relationship for quite a few months. Over the past 3 weeks ...
A. 18 November 2006: To be honest, I think there was probably something going on with him and this girl long before you broke up. He probably met her at one of those nights out you weren't allowed to go to. You deserve much better than this fool. ... (read in full...)
He pulled out but then we had sex again! How can I prevent pregnancy?
Q. Hey im 15 yrs old turning 16 today I had sex for the first time! It did'nt last long but he didnt have a condom and he pulled out and he wiped it off and put it back in. It was only like a 10 min thing. But I have one more week until my next period ...
A. 16 November 2006: Get a pregnancy kit as soon as possible! Chances are, you're pregnant, as even if he wiped it off, there still would have been semen inside which probably would have come out when you carried on.
That could have been the most costy 10 minutes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forgot my birthday
Q. My boyfriend completely forgot my birthday! I am so upset. We've been together for a year-and-a-half and during that time, he's celebrated two birthdays, both of which I have remembered and tried to make special, even though the first year, we'd ...
A. 16 November 2006: To be honest, I think you probably are wasting your time with this guy. Firtly, he forgot your birthday, which is bad enough after being told many times, but then he turned the whole thing around and blamed it on you as you didnt mark it on the ... (read in full...)
My BF hit me across the face when all I was doing was joking around - will he do it again?
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but the other day he hit me across the face when i was pretending to pull his pants down. It was suposed to be a joke. I ran of crying after that shocked and hurt. He has apologised so much but should i be worried he ...
A. 16 November 2006: If a man can hit a woman once, he can do it again.... (read in full...)
She says she's ready for sex, but avoids it everytime the chance comes up! What can I do?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year now. we haven't had sex yet, and she says its not a big deal. shes says shes ready for it, but everytime the chance comes up she gets mad about something or finds something else to do. how do i ...
A. 14 November 2006: Sounds like she's not ready at all and trying to convince herself that it's 'no big deal', but pulls out at the last minute, as she isnt yet ready. She needs time, but on the other hand she shouldnt be lying to you and leading you on in this way. ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and I'm so scared to have sex, he can't get inside! What can I do to relax?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months now and we both want to start having sex. I am really scared though b/c I am a virgin. I get so scared that whenever we have tried I am so tense he can't get inside me. My legs seem to refuse to ...
A. 13 November 2006: I think the bottom line is...you're not ready yet. If your b/f loves you, he will understand. You say that you both want to start having sex but it sounds more like he is pressuring you for sex. You clearly have to get more comfortable before you ... (read in full...)
I'm skinny and want to impress this girl. Is it possible to get "six pack' abs in 5 days?
Q. i'm 16. i have a close female friend who is also 16. we go to the same school. i have recently joined the gym as i am tryin to keep fit and help me gain weight. well i have a guest pass and i asked her to come. she accepted and told me she is free ...
A. 3 November 2006: If it was mate, we'd all do it!... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't fancy men, but wants a mmf threesome and checks out guys! How do I deal with this?
Q. Recently my boyfriend told me he wants a threesome - me, and another man. I told him no, and that it would bring out negative emotions in the relationship, but he insisted it was for the best. I asked him why he liked threesomes, and he said th...
A. 2 November 2006: Does HE actully want to have sex with the guy, or just watch you with him?... (read in full...)
Tomorrow I lose my virginity.
Q. on thursday, november 2nd, i will be losing my virginity to my ex girlfriend, and I am nervous, but in an extremely good way, because i know it is right for both of us. is there anything i can do to stop the nervousness? i smoke cigarettes, so maybe ...
A. 1 November 2006: Why to your ex girlfriend? I would advise against smoking as the smell is a little offputting. Perhaps you could try something like going to the gym to get all that stress and energy out.... (read in full...)
I lied and told this guy I 've had sex 3 times but I'm still a virgin!
Q. Can people tell if your inexperienced sexually? i have done things once! but im still a virgin! i told this lad im seeing iv slept with 3 people!! and i havnt lol!:S but i told him as I've only had sex 3 times it still kinda hurts! Help please ...
A. 26 October 2006: Well if you have never ridden a horse before, do you think people could tell first time? of course!... (read in full...)
One guy treats me badly but I like him..the other guy is nice but I don't like him. Who do I choose?
Q. Which is the best way to find a proper bloke? do you think it's better to go out with a boy who likes you but you don't have a crush on or with a guy who doesn't treat you properly? Is it better to wait fot Mr Right, do not try and stay home sle...
A. 26 October 2006: Neither! Why should you choose a guy you know treats you like crap or the other who you dont have any chemistry with? There are other men in the world.... (read in full...)
We've been together 9 years! He doesn't want a baby, he doesn't want to marry and he goes out till all hours of the night. What should I do?
Q. i'm 40 years old. i have a bf and he's 35 we've lived together for over 9 years now. we both live in my parents house but my parents have moved to another village 5 years ago. now it's just me and him and his parents now living with us. he comes ...
A. 17 October 2006: You are obviously desperate to have children and get married, and why deny yourself what would make all your dreams come true. Leave this guy NOW, as if you dont, it really will be too late, and then you will spend your days thinking 'if only'. ... (read in full...)
He says he will leave me if I don't have sex with him....I'm a virgin!!!
Q. I am going out with this guy, he is 18 and I am 16. I really love him. A LOT. We've been going out for about three months. He wants to have sex, but I don't. I am a virgin and I am kinda scared. He says he's gonna leave me if I didn't give him what ...
A. 15 October 2006: He thought if he said the three magic words you^d jump into bed with him. He doesnt love you....he loves the idea of sex with a 16 yo. Leave him NOW...... (read in full...)
I have a good male friend who is married and he's been coming on hard and fast! What does this all mean?
Q. I've been good friends with this guy now who's 26 now for about a good month or more now, but the thing is that he's married and we catch up usually 1-2 times sometimes more, a month cos he's so busy with work. But what im trying to figure out, he ...
A. 13 October 2006: Wow, you're naive. You're his bit on the side. He sounds like a total dick if he would do that to his wife, and you sound just as stupid for thinking its harmless fun. HE'S MARRIED! Stop being so childish and end this 'friendship', or rather this ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any tips on how to swallow?
Q. Hi everybody After a conversation with my bf he mentioned that he would like me to swallow. i have never done this before and was wondering if anyone has any tips. When i take him in my mouth i sometimes gag a lil bit he makes me feel really r...
A. 11 October 2006: Pineapple juice improves the taste dramatically.... (read in full...)
He stayed at her house and his excuses were pretty weak. What's he really up to..any advice?
Q. Need advice. Don't know if I am being cheated on, or if I am just in denial of the whole situation. My man and I have been together for over 3 years. We got pregnant early on in the relationship and unfortunately our daughter was stillborn at 36 ...
A. 11 October 2006: Nope, sounds really suspicious, and generally your gut feeling is the right one in these situations. I mean, it can be no coincidence that he turned off his phone around u and the minute he turns it on she rings, can it? This guy is keeping things ... (read in full...)
I cheated on her several times but now, she's done it to me..with my best friend!! What should I do??
Q. I am having a problem right now with my wife. I have cheated on her several times before but now that she has done it to me, I don't know how to deal with it. She had an affair with my best friend. Please advice on what to do? Thanks ...
A. 11 October 2006: Well, you got exactly what you deserved didnt you! That's how it feels. Perhaps you will think twice about the feelings of those who love you before you do it again.... (read in full...)
I'm confused... he swears he isnt gay or bi, do you think he is?
Q. hi, ok so iv been with my bf for nearly 5months, nearly 3months in to our relationship, his best mate told me tht my bf had asked him out the day i asked him out and when i asked him out he told his mate it wouldnt work between them and then said ...
A. 11 October 2006: He sounds seriously confused. He wants to be seen to have a girlfriend to make a pretence, but in my opinion he is 100% gay. He just perhaps hasnt admitted it to himself yet.... (read in full...)
Does a tongue stud give more pleasure whilst performing fellatio?
Q. Dear all It is a simple question but causing my girlfriend and I some heated discussion.It is the query on whether a tongue stud gives more pleasure when doing fellatio.My girlfriend don't have one and I am not particular keen on her having it be...
A. 11 October 2006: No, it doesnt really add to the sensation, and it's hideously unattractive.... (read in full...)
How do men get free sex without having to pay for it?
Q. Hi!, i need to ask a question that eveyone escapes from or ignores, without being offensive. How do men get free sex without having to pay for it. More and more men are struggling to get free sex. Its a growing problem that needs to be solved, its ...
A. 11 October 2006: Are you an idiot or what?... (read in full...)
BF has received oral from other girls. Should I give him a second chance?
Q. I need some serious advice--I apologize if this is long. Background info: I have been in a relationship for 6 years. We met as undergraduates and spent a little over a year together before I was accepted to graduate school across the country. I ...
A. 10 October 2006: My relationship with my gf was long distance for most of last year, and I think its an excellent test of a relationship. The facts are, if he was sober enough to get and hold an erection, he was sober enough to know what he was doing. A long ... (read in full...)
Have I made the right decision in staying with my husband and remaining loyal? I cannot get my true love out of my head.
Q. I have been married for 11 years to my husband N and have two kids aged 6 and 10. My husband and I had a communication breakdown some time ago and I felt very alone and isolated by him and our sex life was for some years practically non existant. ...
A. 10 October 2006: Agree completely with beentheredonethat. This guy is fiction. Yes, you had a great weekend together, but your husband loves you and has changed his whole life for you. Does that mean nothing? You would be a very selfish woman to leave your husband ... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend, but realise I made a mistake. Now he has a new gf and tells me to leave him alone. What can I do? I need him back.
Q. I made a horrible mistake and broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago. We dated a little over 6 months.I got scared and overwhelmed by some things. I told him I just didn't feel anything anymore, but it was really because I was so stressed out. I ...
A. 8 October 2006: Sorry to say that he's moved on, and you need to too. When he loved you very much and you said you didnt feel anything anymore he would have been very hurt in a way he thought you would never do to him. At the end of the day, what's done is done, ... (read in full...)
I am 14. Am I in love?
Q. I am a normal fourteen year old, thing is i think im in love. I cannot go a day with thinks about him. We have been like together since but like last june but been on and off. Yesterday we had a row, and coming to think of i need to get over him....
A. 5 October 2006: If your relationship is on and off and you cheat on him, then I would say no, you're not in love.... (read in full...)
I got drunk and allowed this other guy to finger me! If the truth comes out I will lose my bf...help!
Q. Okay, I have a boyfriend, but on saturday night i got really drunk and this boy who nearly all my friends fancy, fingered me and i tossed him off. I love my boyfriend more then anything - bit too much. But if the truth comes out i will lose my boy...
A. 5 October 2006: You must tell your boyfriend before someone else does. If I were him I would want to know instead of finding out later and wondering what else you are lying about. Relationships need to be open and honest to stand a chance.... (read in full...)
Hes only in England for 6 months of the year, Im pregnant, can this work ??
Q. Dear Cupid, Im 18 years of age, I have a boyfriend 23yrs but lives in antigua as he's born there. He comes to England for the cricket season to play and gets paid, which is about 6 months a year. I'm 3 months pregnant. can this work or will i have t...
A. 4 October 2006: To be honest, if you thought it would work, I dont think you'd be asking the question. Why will he not move to England for you? Is there a visa problem?
A home with a father for only 6 months of the year will be very confusing for your child (w... (read in full...)
He told me that if I had a threesome it would prove I love him!!!!!
Q. Hi Im currently in a relationship with a man of 37 I'm 21 We are engaged and living together 2 years. He has 2 children to a women he was married to ten years, they split up 2 years before we met. I have cheated on him in the past and I deeply r...
A. 2 October 2006: People who truly love you dont make you do things you dont want to. Get out NOW.... (read in full...)
He wants me to get an apartment so his ex can continue to live in our house!
Q. Ok folks...awhile ago I wrote about a problem with an ex-g-friends pawning her child on my boyfriend and interrupting in our relationship and everyone was mad because I didn't want any of it anymore...So, update...As he continued to treat her needs ...
A. 1 October 2006: Tell him to decide between the two of you....and be firm!... (read in full...)
He won't wear condoms because he says he gets a rash! Is this just an excuse?
Q. My new boyfriend knows that i have a rule and that is - no condom, no sex. But he said to me that condoms irrate and causes a rash on the end of his penis,and he wont wear 1 for that reason. Is this just an excuse? Plus im quite concerned that ...
A. 1 October 2006: You're quite right. No condom brings risk of both diseases and pregnancy. Remember STDs are for life....he may not be. He probably just doesnt want to wear a condom. Buy him some non latex ones and try them out. If he doesnt get a rash, what excuse ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend dragging his feet over my pressing engagement?
Q. my boyfriend and i have beeen dating 22 months. i am ready for an engagement but he is dragging his feet. he tells me that when i get over two of the problems that he has with me...then he will move forward. the two problems that he has with me ...
A. 25 September 2006: That's slightly hypocritical. You wont do what he wants, as in staying unmarried a little while longer, but you end with 'please tell me some ways that I can get him to do what i want so much'. Let's face it, you've only been together less than 2 ... (read in full...)
We are friends from work and he hugs me, he tickles me. He has a gf with 2 kids! Is this guy gay?
Q. I have a friend, we met at work, after a while we got close, he would hold my hand, tickle me because he liked how i laughed, hug me from behind, he would pull me onto his lap, embrace me, even once i felt him hard behind me. he's got a girlfriend ...
A. 25 September 2006: Just re-read what you've written, and I am sure you will realise, as most of the rest of us are, that yes he's gay....and has a major crush on you.... (read in full...)
Why is my daughter acting in this way? We dont approve of her boyfriend, but that is no excuse.
Q. My daughter is 25 years old, she is a medical doctor recently graduated. She has been involved with this man for some time now, and did not say anything to her 2 sisters or her father nor me until early July this year she told her father and I about ...
A. 24 September 2006: The truth is that whether you 'approve' of his religion or not, you should have accepted that it was your daughters choice, and be done with it. The fact that she couldn't tell you in the first place shows how much she wants to please you and doesnt ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but I know I'M the right one for him...what can I do?
Q. I'm a 15 year old girl and i'm inlove with a guy who's 17 but his dating someone else,him and i have had a fling but then i started dating another guy for a while until i found out i'm madly inlove with the above mentioned guy!I really want him and ...
A. 29 June 2006: If his girlfriend at the moment isnt the one, then he will eventually break up with her, so you will just have to wait it out until then. If he doesnt break up with her, you will know you were only fooling yourself...if he does, then take your ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm going to be all fingers and thumbs when it comes to making the next move... ?
Q. Hiya me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over a week and I know that he has done things with his girlfriend in the relationship before and im a complete virgin but want to take the next step with him. I really want to give and receive ...
A. 29 June 2006: Hey! Don't be so keen to give up sex to him. While he may seem like a good guy right now, you really dont know him that well. If you give it up so soon, he will treat you as a doormat for sex any time he wants.... (read in full...)
Who do I choose???
Q. I was thinking about leaving my bum of a boyfriend to be back with my successful ex. But there's a few problems. I'm in love with my current boyfriend. I know I'd have a hard future with him becuase he won't do anything with his life even though I ...
A. 29 June 2006: Why do you have to pick either of them. The successful guy doesnt do it for you, and the bum will hardly make a good husband or father will he? Go out and find someone who has the whole package rather than settling for half of what you want.... (read in full...)
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