So, is this relationship already doomed to fail? Has my ex changed?
Q. Has my ex changed? I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex a year ago, and just talked to him for the first time yesterday. He said he has been seeing a girl, but that it wasn't serious (yet he had sex with her) and that he stil missed me and ...
A. 12 October 2008: Ultimately, yes, I think it's doomed to fail. You clearly don't see eye to eye on things and he is not willing to change not talking about things - the reason you give for breaking up in the first place. I think wanting to get back with him is just ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend shows my nude pictures to his friends, isn't this wrong?
Q. My boy friend used to be addicted to porn but now he doesnt havethe internet and is forever taking pictures of my bits. I wouldnt be to bothered but he shows his friends at i'm still young and i feel very uncomfortable but he says if i love him then ...
A. 11 October 2008: er, this guy has NO respect for you. AT ALL. Ask him if you can take nude photos of him and then a few days later that you showed them to YOUR mates - then watch his reaction.... (read in full...)
I am having suspicions that my girlfriend is cheating on me.
Q. Hi everyone, I am having suspicions that my girlfriend is cheating on me. I have been having these suspicions for quite a while now, and recently took action to see if anything was going on. The other night as we were asleep in bed I secretly placed ...
A. 10 October 2008: What are you smoking?!?! How would a HAIR still be there?!?!? I'm assuming she actually moves around and showers when I say this of course. Of all the STUPID things I have read on Dear Cupid over the years, this HAS to be the stupidest.
Pleas... (read in full...)
I like the idea of a threesome but I'm worried I would be made to feel like the "second wheel"...
Q. I have been dating this dude for about 7 months and he and I are both great at exploring new things sexually. Lately, he has been asking me to have a threesome which i am okay with. I love trying new things and I want to have the threesome too....
A. 8 October 2008: Wow - honest opinion - you are totally too insecure to be doing ANYTHING like this...if you want to ruin your relationship completely, this is a good way for you to go about it.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him just to keep the relationship going?
Q. hi .. my boyfriend and i have known eachother for over 6 months now .. and we havnt had sex yet. He has been asking me to have sex with, but im just nervous. i realy love him and he said he feels the same way, and just the other day he said to me i ...
A. 22 September 2008: Do I smell blackmail?... (read in full...)
My ex says he will marry me now but only if I let him have anal sex!
Q. my ex bf wants me back now that I have a new bf, he is a good guy and while we lived together I had everything, except marriage and kids, he wants to give that now, but wants me to have anal sex with him, he says if I do not do it he won`t be able ...
A. 10 June 2008: This isn't the condition of a man who loves you - this is a condition of a man who wants sex and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I've been recording our conversations?
Q. recently ive been recording me and my girls conversations without her knowing. i do this so i can play them back later and analyze what she said. should i tell her about this or would that seem sketchy?...
A. 9 June 2008: That is weird. I would advise you to seek help as this is not normal behaviour, but rather the behaviour of an irrational control freak. That aside, just STOP recording your conversations and dont tell her - she will freak.... (read in full...)
We wake at the same time although we live apart. Is it a coincidence?
Q. for the past two weeks myself and lover have been waking at the same time everyday, we have a child together but don't live together as he is now married, could the waking at the same time be coincidence or a sign that we should be together, we have ...
A. 9 June 2008: I think you are clutching at straws here. Read what you have written - it comes across this end that you are desperate for this guy, but the truth is he doesn't want to know. If he truly wanted you and you alone he wouldn't still be with him wife ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have sex with a semi erect penis?
Q. Is it possible to have sex with a semi erect penis?...
A. 8 June 2008: Not very well, haha... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's boyfriend and now I'm pregnant.
Q. i need help and quick. im 13 and about three months ago i had sex with my best friend's boyfriend. i regret it, because im pregnant. i dont know how to tell people. let alone my best friend. please help....
A. 7 June 2008: Well, you decided you were old enough to have sex, so surely you are old enough to know that you need to tell your parents. Their reaction is likely to be one of bitter disappointment and anger, but that's the consequences of having unprotected sex ... (read in full...)
Bi-BF! What do you think I should do?
Q. ok so... i meet this amazing guy and hes relly nice and everything, but then he tells hes bisexual and that he wants to have a three some- whilst hes been 'done' by another guy and hes 'doing' me!! i no it sounds strange but the thought turns me ...
A. 5 June 2008: Agree with Star 07 - if this is just a sexual thing, by all means experiment, but if you are looking to invest emotionally into this guy it could cause major problems between the two of you.... (read in full...)
I get horny during my period. My boyfriend won't...
Q. hi everyone quick question when im on my period i get super horny and i want sex but my bf wont have sex with me bc im bleeding how can i convince him 2 have sex with me? plz can anyone tell me what 2 do he wont go into the shower with me when i ...
A. 5 June 2008: You're probably just gonna have to control yourself till it's done. I won't touch my girlfriend sexually while she's on her period - it's just not nice. It's a personal preferance thing, and if he doesn't wanna do it he probably wont budge. ... (read in full...)
Once we were inseparable, how did it turn out to be this bad in the end?
Q. Oke.. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago.. We have decided to stay friends.. but he just isn't being a good friend.. Whenever he calls me.. He normally talks about sex.. and sometimes even wants me to "talk dirty" with him, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Well it sounds like he is still obsessed - but in his own personal pleasure, not you. The honest truth is he has turned out this way because you let him. He wants you to talk dirty and you do it, he wants to talk about sex and you do it. Don't you ... (read in full...)
I hurt him when I gave him a blowjob!
Q. Dear all, yesterday I tried giving a blow job to my boyfriend, but he kept complaining that i hurt him with my teeth,it has never happened before and its not the first time it happened with him, now im so scared to give him one. yest we ended up...
A. 4 June 2008: You gotta keep your teeth out of the way!... (read in full...)
Please help, I've got a new boyfriend, don't really like him and am still in love with the ex.
Q. i went out with this guy and we finished i still talk to him loads but i have recently got a new boyfriend and dont really like him and still in love with the other lad but i dont no what to do please help?...
A. 2 June 2008: You must end it, as you're stringing him along. Tell him that after breaking up with someone you just aren't ready for a relationship with someone else yet. If you haven't been going out long, he should begrudingly let you go.... (read in full...)
Unhappy with my boyfriend, all he wants is sex. Your advice on how to dump him, or at least try and make this work without sex?
Q. I've been dating this guy, lets call him Sam, for 6 months now, and it was all going great. Until a couple of weeks ago when we lost our virginities together at only 15 (using protection). Before this the only sexual thing we did was kissing....
A. 2 June 2008: Tell him what you said here. You're not ready for sex again in the short term future, and his talking about sex all the time is making it seem like that's all he's in it for. If he can't accept that, then you will know that you were just a piece of ... (read in full...)
Insecure girlfriend, what do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3months now, but she keeps thinking that im going to cheat on her, she says she trusts me, but i cant go out without her getting worried, and she hates how she is and wants to change because she doesnt like it, and ...
A. 2 June 2008: She clearly has no self confidence. Just keep telling her how great she is and she will probably soon cool off worrying.... (read in full...)
Do you think my wanting a baby is a good idea?
Q. Hi im 13 and really wnat to have a baby i know im young but i could handle it my sister had a baby at 16 and she is an amazing mom i wanted to know if you think this is a good idea or not?...
A. 2 June 2008: No, actually this is the stupidest idea I have ever heard. How could you 'handle it' as you put it? Do you have the money to give the child the best possible quality of life - NO, will you be able to look after it properly - NO, because you'll be at ... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend but I don't trust other people.
Q. I'm in a weird situation, I've been with my boyfriend for 2years and I trust him but I don't trust other people. I don't like it when he looks at other girls because i'm scared he will leave me for someone else... I really don't know what to do x...
A. 28 May 2008: He looks at other girls and you are scared he will leave you? Doesn't sound from that like you trust him at all, but what I would say is this: just let this fear go - it will consume you and ruin the relationship otherwise. Good luck.... (read in full...)
He's more experienced than me and I need some tips on improving my technique
Q. I've been on three dates with this guy and on our third and last date we finally made out. I know that in the next few dates it'll lead to at least oral sex if not actual intercourse. I'm very self conscious about my abilities for oral and ...
A. 28 May 2008: Talk to him while you're doing it - not too much though, don't bug him - just stuff like "hows that" etc. I'm sure he won't be too disappointed though as long as you keep your teeth out of the way. lol. ... (read in full...)
Condom came off during sex, I'm on the pill too, should I see the doctor or wait for my period?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles; I have a problem which could be very serious and life changing. My boyfriend and I decided to have sex, [Im on the pill and we used a condom] The condom came off and we didnt realise until afterwards. I know the...
A. 28 May 2008: If you are taking your pill correctly, you will be fine. ... (read in full...)
How can he move on like that and just stop caring?
Q. I am a married woman for about 4yrs i have two children and i am having an affair with a man who has been married for 18yrs and has two children as well. We both work together this is his part time job he works full time during the day elsewhere. We ...
A. 28 May 2008: Agree with LazyGuy, here. You stopped caring for your husband and now he has stopped caring for you. I mean, if a guy is gonna cheat on his wife, do you really believe he is trustworthy? This was a good test of how much he cared - it came down to ... (read in full...)
He hasn't spoken to me since I brought home a new kitten! Was I wrong?
Q. So my relationship with my boyfriend has been dodgy for some time. We have been together 10 years. He's away a lot on business so our time together is really limited. To cut it as short as possible, I am an animal lover and would give any creatur...
A. 28 May 2008: Well, I think it is a little over the top since he doesn't live with you. Perhaps he was waiting until you had a couple less pets (is he a pet person?) before asking you to move in with him, and you kinda crushed his plan. Either way, it is a little ... (read in full...)
Is it really easier for a guy to stop thinking of his ex?
Q. do men really just move on or is it just a front. is he going throught the same hurt and sadness that i am going throught, why do men make it seem so easy to move on after a break up. And how do i move on when all i can do is think about he and that ...
A. 28 May 2008: Perhaps men do a better job than women of just saying to themselves, "look, it's over, forget it". After all, once the door has been slammed once, it's never really the same again is it. But everyone has emotions, and maybe you need to analyse the ... (read in full...)
I keep needing to go to the toilet. Please help!
Q. After ive been to the toilet i feel like i need it again sometimes and i get a little pain but when it comes to going again i cant. its strange it doesnt happen all the time just occasionaly. does anyone know whats wrong?...
A. 16 June 2007: urine infection. go see the doctor.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is sending emails that sound like she's sleeping with other blokes! She tells me it's nothing to worry about. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old and have been seeing my girlfriend of the same age for about 9 months now. We met each other at our 'home' town but we study at different universities so it is effectively a 'long-distance relationship' most of the time. Over ...
A. 16 June 2007: To be honest, this will eat away at you for 9 months if you dont do it. Phone her about it. It's not the nicest thing to do by phone, but then again its not great to have to read about being cheated on in an email either.
If she cheated before and ... (read in full...)
He doesn't reply to my text messages fast enough and I think I should dump him! What do you think?
Q. i have been dating a bloke for around a month now, he is ok with me a part from the fact that he has done all the initiating, ie texting me and asking me out, which obviously i dont mind at all but the problem i have is that when he texts me to ...
A. 14 June 2007: Oh my God, what are you, like 13 disguising yourself as a 30 year old. Perhaps you should read what you have written. Are you really whining because he doesnt text you fast enough?!?! Bloody hell!... (read in full...)
I have a bf and 2 kids but love a married 50 year old man. How do I convince him to leave his wife for me?
Q. I am 22 with a boyfriend who i dont love but we stay together for our 2 children, for 6 months i have sseing a married guy who i am desperatly in love with, he is 50. his wife has recently caught us so our relationship is now over and i feel so is ...
A. 25 May 2007: I think it's about time you grew up and started realising what is important. Perhaps you should think about actually working on your current relationship and looking after your kids as opposed to hopping into bed with this guy. It is clear from the ... (read in full...)
Neighbor is wanting to call the police as his kid looked in our window, and saw us having sex! I think you should be able to do what you want in your own home! Any views?
Q. My neighbour has threatened to call the police as his 11 year old son saw my partner and I having sex in our living room. he also says it is illegal to walk around naked. The boy must have been in our back garden looking in the window so surley h...
A. 25 May 2007: no, you shouldnt be worried. what can he possibly do? two people having sex in their own home is hardly illegal is it? if it was then everybody would be getting arrested! i think the more logical solution is to teach his son that it is rude to look ... (read in full...)
Suddenly he doesn't know what he's feeling anymore. How did that change?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for only a month. A problem has kicked off about our age difference (13-16) and his mum kicked off about me being to young. And now i found out he doesnt love me! Im so heartbroken but when i asked him is it ...
A. 22 May 2007: Sorry to hear you're heartbroken, but it was very unfair of you to put him on the spot like that. Of course he doesnt truly LOVE you yet, it has only been a month. He probably wasn't even thinking about it. In the early stages of a relationship, it ... (read in full...)
Are any ladies or men who can give me some advice on what males of 23 think, want in a relationship?
Q. Hey Hey, I'm seeing this 23 year old....and there's a 7 year difference between us. Like... I wanna get inside his head...know or understand what he's thinking. I wanna know what 23 yr old males think and what they want. I wanna know conversa...
A. 14 May 2007: To be perfectly honest, and this wont be what you want to hear, but if a 23 year old guy is dating a 16 year old, I would say it is pretty obvious what he wants.... (read in full...)
Should I give him 'head' and would doing this make me his official gf?
Q. My Boyfriend recently asked me to let him "smash" (have sex). i told him yes. and he started to get more into it. I havent let him yet but i am going too. He asked me the other day if i "sucked dick" and i told him no he asked me would i do it for ...
A. 7 May 2007: This guy sounds vile! Why would you possibly desire to be with such a person?... (read in full...)
I want to tell my dad I've decided to date a 20 yr old, he wont approve! What should I do ?
Q. hey hey..... thanx kay fay and martini for your replies it helped me alot... and i think i know what im gnne do... theres just one thing that i would like to ask... i wana be with the 20 year old and stuff but iv got a prob like what must i do...
A. 31 March 2007: Sorry, but at 20, although they may have the best intentions as well, guys only really have one thing in mind, especially with a 16 year old girlfriend. Your parents weren't born yesterday.... (read in full...)
What do I do? Please take the time to read my story...
Q. I just lost my girlfriend and can't get over her what can i do to forget her? This was our situation okay i met her when I was 12, we had sex when we were only 13, had our first child when we were both 15 and our second when we were 19. She was my ...
A. 16 March 2007: The fact that you were willing to jeapardise your loving girlfriend and children for a meaningless one night stand says it all. I think you seriously need to take a look at what is important in your life - your family or racking up as many notches ... (read in full...)
I did the stupidest thing, I set my friend up with the boy I love... :o(
Q. I've just done the stupidest thing. I set my best mate up with the boy I love :( what can I do to tell her I like him?? xx...
A. 16 March 2007: Unfortunately you have made your bed, and now I'm afraid you will have to lie in it. I can't imagine what compelled you to set up the guy you are desperate for with your best friend. Telling them now will most likely damage relations with both of ... (read in full...)
How can I persuade her that the love of her life is ME... and not her boyfriend!
Q. Hey, i've been talking to this girl for like 5 weeks now over the internet, and we got to know each other really well, and she fancies me and i fancy her, so i want to make a shot at it, but...shes got a boy friend.i know i need to wait but is there ...
A. 12 March 2007: You're the love of her life and you've never even met? Slooooow down. You're in your early teens and there is very little chance you'll be together down this line. This time in your life isnt about looking for someone to marry, it's about getting ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to be engaged after only 2 months!!?
Q. Is marriage (or engagment) too soon, if you've been in a relationship for only two months ? She is 19 and Hes's 27....
A. 28 February 2007: Although I do think it is too soon, as the two people cannot possibly truly know each other yet and have not lived together - if the two people think it is right, then there is not alot else that anyone can do. They are both adults after all. What I ... (read in full...)
Is she being emotionally abusive? I'm beginning to think I'm the problem, what do I do here?
Q. I'm 26 and have been dating my gf (20) for 4/5 months now, known her (off and on) for 2 years, first 2 months were great, but things nosedived and have been progressively getting worse the last 3 months. First off she tries to make all my plans an...
A. 17 February 2007: I honestly believe that the best thing for you is to get out of this relationship and find someone who makes you happy. This relationship has no future. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Ex bf (whom I love) has asked me to do a 3-some with him and another girl! Should I or shouldn't I?
Q. query on threesomes. never been there but often curious. My ex boyfriend (who i'm still madly in love with) has asked me to have a threesome with the woman he left me for (they are no longer together). My first response was an emphatic "never". I ...
A. 17 February 2007: I think having a treesome would just make the situation worse. It is just his fantasy to have two ex's pleasuring him at the same time. As far as I am concerned, you see this as your chance to get back with him, when he doesn't have any interest in ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for me to like my cousin's cousin? She's 12 and I'm 14.
Q. im 14 and thers this girl that i like. shes only 12. im writing to ask if this is ok. and also she is my cousins cousin. is this ok to....
A. 15 February 2007: You're relatives, and she is 12 dude! You are 14 and I advise at this age you look for someone in your own age range.... (read in full...)
He left me twice for two other womanand keeps coming back! What do I say to him?
Q. Well, I know the answer to this seems obvious to everyone else, but I really need to hear it. i was with a man for 3 and 1/2 years, we broke up once for 6 months and he dated someone else, he also spent a ton of money on her snd took her to Mexico, ...
A. 14 February 2007: He's doing this because you are his backup - the person he goes to when he is out of options. I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but I dont believe he goes back to you because he loves you, but because he thinks you will take him ... (read in full...)
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