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writes: I've been good friends with this guy now who's 26 now for about a good month or more now, but the thing is that he's married and we catch up usually 1-2 times sometimes more, a month cos he's so busy with work. But what im trying to figure out, he says that were good friends but friends who more act like bf/gf in a way cos when were out together, without his wife knowing, i guess u would call it foreplay i spose. Well lets put it this way i've seen him naked before and yes i've touched his penis and stuff but have'nt given him a bj though, he hasn't seen me naked at all but has said to me via txt msg that he would like 2 touch my tits (in his words), my pussy plus lick me out if i wanted him to. So what does this all mean?, plus what does he really want from me? or to be good friends that muck around a bit or what? (PS: before any of this started we had a good strong friendship and still do.)
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reader, eddie  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 I can't believe this is a real question. What do you think he wants? If he wanted you, he'd leave his wife. Do you talk to your "good friends" like this? Let's face it, you enjoy the attention and he enjoys the diversion from his marriage. YOU should butt out of his life and grow up, he should get back to his marriage and you should both have a cold shower...separately.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (13 October 2006):
 You are 'friends with benefits'...only there are no real 'benefits' for you. You crossed the line of friendship into something more sexual when you touched him etc; the problem is that it is just a sexual thing for him...it isn't romantic, he isn't yours and he never will be properly. Imagine you have a fling...he leaves his wife (he won't)...you have a proper relationship...he leaves the house without you one night...are you SURE he isn't out with some other girl offering them sexual services? There is no win situation here; he isn't your 'friend' but more a no-commitment lover...he gets everything (a wife to go home to and a mistress for sex) and you get nothing (you don't even see him that often!). There is very little point over-analysing the situation - he is being a lousy husband and you are enabling him to be this way by consenting to sexual stuff with a married guy. Plenty of single men out there who will treat you better, see you more often and won't be going home to someone else!
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (13 October 2006):
 Wow, you're naive. You're his bit on the side. He sounds like a total dick if he would do that to his wife, and you sound just as stupid for thinking its harmless fun. HE'S MARRIED! Stop being so childish and end this 'friendship', or rather this affair.
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reader, beentheredonethat +, writes (13 October 2006):
 He wants a little on the side. He'd like to have sex if your willing but don't think he's looking to leave the wife or BE yours. That is all it means.
Now...Do you want sex and little else or are you looking for someone who you can really Be seen with and not have to sneak around to see.
As long as you understand exactly what you get and don't expect that you two will fall in Deep forever love...you can have a nice time. But...if you develop feelings for him...you loose. It is your heart that you are playing with...can you handle sex as a separate fun hobby with no strings? Can you practice safe sex and be willing to enjoy physical closeness without letting your heart confuse sex for love? It's up to you. Take your time and really think about where you want to be in say two years with him. If you are in College or have other constraints that don't allow you to have a Full blown relationship with a single unattached person then you can continue on the path you are taking.
If you want More....look elsewhere.
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