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writes: Dear Cupid,Im 18 years of age, I have a boyfriend 23yrs but lives in antigua as he's born there. He comes to England for the cricket season to play and gets paid, which is about 6 months a year. I'm 3 months pregnant. can this work or will i have to go against my morals and have a termination?please help xx Reply to this Question
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reader, pica +, writes (5 October 2006):
You need to talk to you boyfriend, to know how he feels about this - will he stand by and support you? Also, go to your GP, or depending on where you live there may be a community sexual health service, they should be able to refer to someone who is impartial and will discuss your options with no bias. It's a hard situation and you may have a choice to make. Be strong. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2006):
A question that you should have asked before you got pregnant.
There are 6 billion people on the planet because intercourse really does produce children. There is always *some* chance.
You shouldnt abort the kid because of your poor judgement.
Anything can be made to work. At the very least he can be adopted by a family that wants him/her and you may be embarrassed in front of your family and friends but it will all over by this time next year. You can take a little humiliation for your morals, right?
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (4 October 2006):
 To be honest, if you thought it would work, I dont think you'd be asking the question. Why will he not move to England for you? Is there a visa problem?
A home with a father for only 6 months of the year will be very confusing for your child (why does he not love me enough to be here all year etc). I would either raise the child completely alone or with him full time. Otherwise its not fair on you or the baby.
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reader, bumble bee +, writes (4 October 2006):
if you both want it to work and both put the effort in, i dont see why not, long distance relationships are very difficult though. Is there no way you could live out there with him or him move here permanently?
if this baby is what you want then you will make it work, there are full time single mums who cope very well. think about the baby, it will be difficult on the baby when its father comes and goes all the time.
HTH xXx
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