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writes: About 5 yrs ago i had to make a choice between two guys to decide whom to date. One was my father best friend son and the other i met in school and have know for several years.I didnt follow my heart i allowed myself to be pressurised by my parents to chose their friend's son. The relationship ended last year when i discovered he was two timing with another girl.The other guy which i didnt choose kept writing me emails all these years but i never replied. I decided to reply last month just to know how he was doing. He said he never got over me, even though he was in new relationship. We have been speaking on the phone throughout the entire month and he wants to come see me. He told me he has ended his relationship because of me and he just feel i have always been the one for him.I really im not sure what to do really, i have always loved him previously but i dont want to hurt him again because he is sure a nice guy. I am not sure of what i want(im very unstable with deicisions) and if the spark will still be there for me after so much years. But he is so positive and he is already taking about commitment and marriage if the love is still there saying he wouldnt let me go a second time. what do i do?
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (24 November 2006):
 I would say go for it with this guy. He clearly cares about you like your last boyfriend didnt. Perhaps it is his talk of commitment already that is scaring you. If so, tell him that you want to take things slow and see where it leads. I am sure he will be understnding.
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reader, ellie6 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 I think you should definitely go for it with this guy!! If you get along well and are happy together, what's stopping you?
This guy sounds great and completely honest about his feelings towards you, there aren't many guys out there like that! Why reject him and be unhappy?
I don't think you will hurt him if you have been in love with him previously, you can rekindle your feelings- and I think it's a risk that you have to take. If everybody said "oh i'm not going to start a relationship with him incase i hurt him" then everybody would be alone and single!
I really think you should go for it and see where it takes you. He's been waiting for you for years it seems, you'll break his heart if you say no.
Unless, you don't have the same feelings for him and you don't get along with him and fancy him... but get to know him more and take things slowly.
Good luck!
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