Who do I choose???
Q. I was thinking about leaving my bum of a boyfriend to be back with my successful ex. But there's a few problems. I'm in love with my current boyfriend. I know I'd have a hard future with him becuase he won't do anything with his life even though I ...
A. 29 June 2006: Why do you have to pick either of them. The successful guy doesnt do it for you, and the bum will hardly make a good husband or father will he? Go out and find someone who has the whole package rather than settling for half of what you want.... (read in full...)
He wants an open relationship, but not THAT open!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 6 months - i love him alot, i was a virgin before (oral virgin aswell) but i have kissed other guys in the past. he gets mad at me because i have kissed other guys. anyways, he told me that he has sexual fantasys ...
A. 29 June 2006: Terrible. He wants sex with other women but doesnt want you having sex with other guys? This guy sounds crazy. I would ditch his sorry ass now. I mean what kind of a guy starts up a relationship and then says, well I like you but I still want these ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts me, and my boyfriend doesn't enjoy it either...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have had sex a few times, but he never cums. Does this mean we are not really having sex? And it still hurts when we do it. I thought it is not supposed to hurt after a few times. Is this normal? Also, my boyfriend and I had sex ...
A. 29 June 2006: Firstly, yes, you could most definately be pregnant. Secondly, if it's hurting you and he doesnt cum, then I would say you arent doing much foreplay. Foreplay for a while will get you both excited, which should lubricate you and get him excited. ... (read in full...)
Is it ok for live-in boyfriend to keep sex tape of ex-girlfriend? Male perspectives welcome...
Q. Hi, I am in a crisis with my live-in boyfriend (I just moved in officially last month) and wanted to ask you all for your opinions, men and women, and the reasoning behind your views. My boyfriend likes to videotape his life and keeps several V...
A. 29 June 2006: If he truly loves you he will get rid of the tape, as no loving partner would want to see their other half hurting and suffering like you so clearly are. I think you should see this as a good test of where the relationship is going. If keeps the ... (read in full...)
I know about my wife's affair, but she doesn't know I know...
Q. I found out about 2 weeks ago that my wife had an affair. It was about 10 years ago (we were married at that time) and lasted for 6 weeks. I know for sure there has been no other affair since. However, although I know for sure it finished after 6 ...
A. 28 June 2006: If you dont tell your wife, then these demons will porbably circle in your head for an eternity. You and your wife should lay your feelings out on the table together, as it is the only way you can ever have a chance to truly trust her again. Good ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but I don't want to stop seeing the other guy, either!
Q. I'm 14 and I have a really great boyfriend who lives in Norfolk but I really like this guy in my cadet group. I kissed him while we was watching the football and I didn't mean for it to happen. I really don't want to split with my boyfriend because ...
A. 28 June 2006: It will destroy your boyfriend? Hardly likely as you are just kids, and not exactly planning your lives around each other at this point. You have to work hard at relationships, and it seems like you're not ready for anything serious, and who can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hounds me for a threesome - with another guy!
Q. every time i have sex with my boyfriend he wants another guy joing us either doing me or him. what should i do?...
A. 28 June 2006: Sounds like he is gay or at least bi. I like the 'doing you and maybe me', meaning 'maybe doing you and definately me' bit. I think if he is thinking about this every time you have sex you need to have a serious talk about his sexuality.... (read in full...)
I want him interested again, but he flirts with other girls right in front of me!
Q. pls help.. we started a relationship that lasted 3 weeks. he just changed and became distant, he doen't text me anymore and ignores me all the time. we are together every day, because we do the same sport. i want him back, he flirts with other girls ...
A. 27 June 2006: I think this is a good lesson not to invest so much or expect so much of a relationship in its infancy. You say you're hurt, and you have a right to be, but this should have taught you another useful lesson...you cant truly fall in love in a few ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but dont feel anything towards him, dont want to ditch him case I dont find anyone else!
Q. I have a boyfriend,but I dont really feel for him.I'm pretty sure he likes me,but I dont like him(In that way)! I dont know any other boys to him and I'm afraid if I break it off I'll never get a boyfriend!What should I do,Is it natural to feel this ...
A. 27 June 2006: That's incredibly selfish of you. You cant just play with his emotions and lead him on until something better comes along. Do the right thing and let him find true love as opposed to you leading him on. That's so unfair to him.... (read in full...)
I have a new g/f that is pregnant, but my ex wants me back...
Q. I am 24 and about 5 months ago split up with my girlfriend of about 18 months - she is 29 and has her own house and a 7yr old girl. I still love my ex and she still loves me and wants me back. The problem is my new girlfriend who is 22 is 3 1/2 ...
A. 27 June 2006: You should stay in your current relationship, AND stop sleeping with your ex. Maybe not what you want to hear, but you are as responsible for creating this baby as your g/f is and it has a right to a father. It didnt ask for life. You and your ex ... (read in full...)
Worried my older boyfriend might expect more than I'm ready for! What should I do?
Q. I'm only 15 and still very young. I've recently met this guy and we've been dating for about 4 months. This guy is older then me, in fact 3 years older so he at the moment has more experience. He recently broke up with his ex and now that we're to...
A. 27 June 2006: Well, really there is only one thing to do to resolve this issue. Have a talk with him (face to face, not on the phone or thru text or IM) and let him know what you are ready for and what you are not. By his answer/reaction you will be able to ... (read in full...)
I've remarried, but still want to get back together with my ex-husband...
Q. I have been recently chatting to my ex husband and we have spoken about meeting each other to possibly get back together. He cheated on me but I still love him and he has feelings for me. The only problem is that I'm married again with kids. I ...
A. 27 June 2006: Wow, your head must be spinning right now. The bottom line is that we always think the best of people in their absence. The reality is that you weren't able to work it out with your before, and you are totally kidding yourself and him if you are ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong if I were to date my E'xs sister ?
Q. I was recently dumped after a long relationship and my ex now has someone else, she left me for him although she will not admit this. I still have feelings for her but realsie we could never get together again if she left her new boyfriend as the ...
A. 27 June 2006: Really it's nothing to do with your ex unless dating her sister is just to get back at her or a way to eventually look at getting her back. She left you for someone else, so there's no reason that you shouldnt be happy if you think you could have ... (read in full...)
He thought I was ready for something serious, and knew he wasn't -- so he disappeared!
Q. I was seeing a guy for 2 months (me 27, him 21) and wasn't sure where we stood. We didn't go out much and he wouldn't stay over after sex, so I suspected he was using me. I asked him where I stood and he said he saw me as the perfect girl, th...
A. 27 June 2006: Well, give him a phone call then if you like him so much. There's no point waiting for him to call you.... (read in full...)
My best mate slept with my girlfriend, but can I ever forget that fact and be friends again?
Q. Hi Everybody, I had a friend for eighteen years, literally a childhood friend. A few years ago he slept with my girlfriend, my first "real" girlfriend/relationship shinanigan. Well he never admitted it to me, which drove me mad at the time as I rea...
A. 27 June 2006: Well, he doesnt sound like a particularly excellent friend. Agree with Dr. Psycho, if he had told you I maybe would have given him a second chance, but personally now I would leave it. With friends like him, who needs enemies?... (read in full...)
Should we try and get back together, and was I wrong to confront him over these rumours?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple of days ago. Prior to us getting together, we had been friends for a couple of years. He had always liked me, but didn't think I was interested. Anyway, we were fine until something happened. A guy added me on ...
A. 27 June 2006: Normally, I would say how can you trust some stranger over IM no less over your boyfriend. But the fact he broke up with you there and then makes it very suspicious indeed. I guess it depends which way you look at it to say if you were in the wrong ... (read in full...)
My Husband as advertised on a sex site, is he bored of me ?
Q. I recently found out that my husband has posted himself on a website for finding adult friends for sex/relationships etc. I have been cheated on before and am going paranoid. He says he's never cheated but has lied to me before about pornographic ...
A. 26 June 2006: I'm not going to lie...it doesnt sound good. I disagree with the others saying you should masquerade as someone else to find out...that puts you at his level and will just upset you more. You need to have a good long conversation with your husband ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend wear things too big!
Q. Not sure how to handle this...I noticed that my boyfriend wears shoes that are about 2" bigger than his actual shoe size. I had an idea, but when we went bowling the bowling shoes were obviously big on him. I thought maybe they didn't have his size ...
A. 26 June 2006: This is a blatant case of OCD. It's usually pretty managable, although it is weird that he wears shoes too big for him. I would reccomend a therapist to see how extreme his condition is.... (read in full...)
I text and ask girls out, but they don't reply! Where am I going wrong?
Q. I have recently found a couple of girls I like. They are nice to me when I see them, but If I text them and ask whether they'd like to meet and do something like go to town or the cinema they just don't reply. For example a msg might read "hey, ju...
A. 25 June 2006: Well, women like confidence. Asking them out by text probably tells them you're too chicken to do it in person. Do it face to face with some confidence, and you will get your answer.... (read in full...)
Had the perfect relationship, but how can we get past these issues that seem to be in my head!?
Q. I have been with my bf for a little over 3 years. He was my soulmate, my perfect partner, we did everything together and he was always there for me, always showering me with love and affection and nothing was too much trouble. The sex was perfect, ...
A. 25 June 2006: He probably does still fancy you, but he's either tired at night, or sick of your whining...I wouldnt want sex if my girl was moaning at me all the time. You just have to relax. You are totally overanalysing the relationship to the point where you ... (read in full...)
After 6 years we suddenly broke up, shes says she was unhappy, but I know thats not the case!!!
Q. Hi everyone. I've been with my girlfriend for 6 years. I'm 25 years old now and it was the best 6 years of my life. We were the perfect couple. We did loads of stuff together and shared alot of first experiences together like going abroad for ...
A. 25 June 2006: I'm sorry to say she ain't worth fighting for....even after all that time. People change, especially in those ages, and as she started with you so young, she is probably longing for the experiences she missed out on while she was with you (sleeping ... (read in full...)
We want to be together forever! Will it happen?
Q. Okay, I'm 14 and I've been dating this guy for only 2 months and I lost my virginity to him. I want to be with him for the rest of my life and he wants the same but considering im only 14 do you think this will happen? I love him so much and I wa...
A. 25 June 2006: There is no way that after two months he can be saying he will never break up with you. People change over the years, especially during the teenage ones, so I would say that to say that at 14 after two months together is pretty unrealistic. It's not ... (read in full...)
Twenty guys before age 23. Too many partners?
Q. Is 20 guys a lot for a girl to sleep with before they are 23 years old?...
A. 25 June 2006: Yes, it is quite alot and if you've had unprotected sex with her, I would recommend you get checked out for STD's immediately.... (read in full...)
I have this fantasy, about threesome with my husband and this other guy, what do you think ?
Q. Hey guys how are you an thisd lovely saturday morning well this is my next question recently I keep fantasiing about having a three some with my husband and this married guy i like so what do you guys think...
A. 24 June 2006: If you have to seek the approval of a bunch of strangers, then you must know that it is a slightly bad idea, and in the long run will have an effect on your marriage...AND the other guys! How would his wife feel? How would YOU feel if your husband ... (read in full...)
How can I get past this porn issue, he says its a time filler, I think its taking over!
Q. Hi, Its the porn issue again. Normally Im cool with it, but ive got myself upset about it. Ive know for a long time that he looks at porn, it didnt really bother me and he knew that at times i was a little fed up with it, felt like he was viewing ...
A. 24 June 2006: I think you are both kidding yourselves if you think it's 'just a time filler'. If that was the case, and he saw you were upset, he'd be able to stop it. Unfortunately, he has fallen down the path of obsession. Perhaps he could actually do something ... (read in full...)
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