He left me twice for two other womanand keeps coming back! What do I say to him?
Q. Well, I know the answer to this seems obvious to everyone else, but I really need to hear it. i was with a man for 3 and 1/2 years, we broke up once for 6 months and he dated someone else, he also spent a ton of money on her snd took her to Mexico, ...
A. 14 February 2007: He's doing this because you are his backup - the person he goes to when he is out of options. I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but I dont believe he goes back to you because he loves you, but because he thinks you will take him ... (read in full...)
Is my boy too young to start puberty??
Q. When do boys start puberty? The reason i ask is because my 7 year old son has started getting pubic hair not under his arms! I thought this was a bit too young but anyone who can help would be much appreciated. Thankyou...
A. 14 February 2007: Some people are trying to scare you with this. I have had asthma since I was 4, and am now 22. I have had a seroid inhaler since then, and it is an above normal dosage. I am now 6 feet tall, and I have to say usually in a better mood than anyone ... (read in full...)
I love her but she says there is no spark!
Q. Im in love with this beautiful girl but she doesnt know my full feeling for her, we have kissed before. I have said to her that i want to have sex with her but now shes saying that friends is all she wants because theres no spark. I really love ...
A. 11 February 2007: I agreed with what Ask Eve wrote before I even read it. A girl telling a boy "I want to have sex with you" would be a one way ticket into her pants. A guy telling a girl "I want to have sex with you" comes across as childish and unromantic. You are ... (read in full...)
Here is my list of the "perfect" boyfriend! What do you think?
Q. Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend. Are there any men like this? 1. Shares all email and IM passwords 2. Has none, or only one, female friend 3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls 4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywher...
A. 11 February 2007: Wow! You sound SOOOOOO insecure! No, I dont believe there are any guys out there looking to be a dog chained to a lamppost. And if there are I kinda think they'd get sick of it really fast. Are you so lacking in trust that you need all of these ... (read in full...)
At the moment it's "tops only" but worried he'll want to venture further!
Q. dear cupid i am 16 and have a 17 year old bf. my problem is that he is asking for sex should i give in. i let him touch my breats but thats it. what should i do??????...
A. 11 February 2007: You are clearly not ready to have sex with him. He, being a teenage boy may say that you dont love him if you wont have sex with him. Don't give in to such ultimatums. If he truly loves you, he wont pressure you into anything you aren't ready to do.... (read in full...)
My gf put me through hell and after all this she wants me to take her back. Should I or shouldn't
Q. Hello, ok, so here is my situation. I've been with my g/f for about a year and 8 months. We've broken up during this relationship about 3 times now. The first in march, she left me, calls me back the next day. I agree to see her, back together, t...
A. 10 February 2007: I think you're way too good for her to be honest, and that you deserve someone who treats you with love and respect, not as her personal doormat which she can wipe her feet on whenever she feels it convenient to her. I mean what kind of person does ... (read in full...)
My gf got angry when I tipped my glass at another girl (bar), who was celebrating a b'day! Is my gf over-reacting?
Q. Dear Cupid While at a bar with my girlfriend the d.j. announced some girls b-day over the loud speakers. Turns out the girl and her friends were facing me maybe five few feet away. I smiled at the ridiculous spectacle they were making and raised m...
A. 7 February 2007: Yes, it is unreasonable....unless of course there is more to it. Do you have a history of cheating/flirting?... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and I am thinking of giving him my virginity on Valentine's Day! Got any sex tips?
Q. hello i 14 and still a virgin, by bf is 16 cummin on 17( not a virgin) i reali reali lyk im n we av been totching each other and so on, n he sed e wud neva kiss and tell (all his mates say e wodnt as well) i thinking of losin my virginity to him on ...
A. 2 February 2007: Speak English please!... (read in full...)
I want us to be closer and I plan to tell him but I don't want him to think we're going too fast. How do I tell him?
Q. Hello! I have a question...but I will start from the beginning so you have more of an understanding of the question. In fifth grade, most of my friends (including my best) had boyfriends and what not. I did have a crush, on one guy though, who ...
A. 1 February 2007: My advice would be not to act so insecure. If you have negative feelings, this could lead to the relationship turning sour, and then he may well break up with you. At the moment it seems that everything is going nice and slow and he has reassured ... (read in full...)
My husband of 25 years slept w/ a prostitute and got an STD! He doesn't want to leave me and our daughter, but I can't face staying w/ him!
Q. i have been married for 25 years, have a 5 year old daughter. my husband has come home with a sexual disease. he admitted he has been with a prostitute. i told him to leave and he said he was sorry and that he loved us both and did't want to go. i...
A. 1 February 2007: Agree 100% with Eyeswideopen. Children are happier and in a more stable environment with happily separated parents more that with miserable ones. It's clear that you have no love for him, and he has obviously been unsatisfied by the relationship, so ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm 2nd best... I barely ever get hugs or kisses unless he wants sex
Q. Hey all, I have a slight proble concerning the guy I am with at the moment. I am 18, he is 28. But its not the age gap thats the problem. I have been seeing him for 2 months, he is a very nice person, genuine, caring, he has a good job, nice hou...
A. 31 January 2007: Well, to be perfectly honest, the problem is quite simple. You want a proper relationship, and he deosnt, as he has told you. As far as I can see, he is in it for the sex and nothing much else. If you are willing to be what you arranged with him (in ... (read in full...)
How do I 'finger' my gf without hurting her? Any tips?
Q. Hi my I was wodering how is the best way to finger girl freind becuse last time i seemed to hurt her and she started lieing saying it was fine but i no it isnt so Please help me !!!...
A. 28 January 2007: Well, the first thing is dont just kiss her, then start fingering her. Make sure you do plenty of foreplay so she is wet first. It probably hurt last time as you were a bit too eager and did it while she was still dry down there. Do lots of kissing ... (read in full...)
At school, my gf pretends we aren't going out...why does she do this?
Q. hi i have a girlfriend but she doesn't hug me or anything and pretends that we are not going out wen we are at school plz help...
A. 27 January 2007: She's immature...not surprising as she is not even a teenager. She's not ready for a boyfriend, but can't admit it to herself, so she hides it. If I were you, I would tell her that she should either be open and honest about your relationship with ... (read in full...)
For my b'day, my bf had wine and cake for me but no present! Am I expecting too much?
Q. OK, i was just wondering on peoples opinions on this. It was my birthday a couple of days ago, had a lovely evening with my mates but then I got a bit disappointed. My boyfriend bought a bottle of wine and birthday cake, but no present for me. ...
A. 27 January 2007: It's not like he forgot, and not like he didn't make an effort. Personally I would prefer the effort, as it is more of a sign of love than anything he bought in a store.... (read in full...)
When he went for my penis I pushed him away! I now regret it..does this mean I am gay?
Q. hi im confused. about 2 yrs ago i went on holiday with my cousin and 1 nite he started acting gay and wanted 2 do stuff with me. anyway i secretly wanted it but when he started 2 go 4 my penis i pushed him away pretending i didnt want it. we have ...
A. 27 January 2007: Well, not necessarily. I would say if you have never had sex, and this is therefore your only sexual experience that you've ever had, then that may be the reason that you a) wanted to do something with him, and b) masturbate over this now.
I wou... (read in full...)
I left my wife for another girl, but the other girl now refuses to give up her "lifestyle!"
Q. I recently left my wife, for a girl, I have been having an affair with for two years. she always promised to move to my part of the country, as I have children. Now, she refuses, because she can't bear to give up her life or lifestyle. This...
A. 26 January 2007: So, let me get this straight...you're allowed your wife, but are suprised when a person who you cheated with is cheating on you? Hurts doesnt it! I think you will have to accept the fact that once this relationship looked like turning serious, she ... (read in full...)
Can I learn to deepthroat?
Q. my boyfriend says that the only time a girl is good at giving head is when she can deep throat. how do you do that? he's fairly large in the trouser department. 8 inches. so i'm guessing it wont be easy but i want him to enjoy it so i gotta learn ...
A. 26 January 2007: This is a total guilt trip. Firstly, you have to breathe like any other human don't you, and secondly, it isnt the only way to get pleasure from it...in fact it is less pleasurable as the tip is the most sensitive part. He is trying to manipulate ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my fiance he should only invite close friends to our wedding?
Q. Ok so I am engaged and in the process of planning my wedding. I am working on the guest list and I am having some disagreements with my fiance. My fiance comes from a small town where everybody kinda knows everybody. He used to date this girl for ...
A. 26 January 2007: I have to say, your problem is major paranoia about your husbands ex. Remember, he is with YOU now, so why should you give two hoots as to whether she sees the pictures or not. What do you think is the worst that will happen if she does?
Your ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're ready for sex?
Q. How do you know if you are ready for sex? Because i want to and i feel like im ready but i have a really big problem with a fear of pain! ...
A. 25 January 2007: You know you're ready when you dont have to ask strangers on the internet.... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and I'm worried..he never says he loves me! What's wrong?
Q. Hi. I am 11 years old and I am really upset. I asked my boyfriend to the movies. He said 'yeah, i was going to ask you anyway' so i got all excited, this being my first date with him, (i've been on others) but then he ruins the moment by telling me ...
A. 25 January 2007: Well, to be honest, I'm not suprised that he isnt in love with you. I mean you've only been out one time! I think you are confusing love with liking someone. He must like you or he wouldnt go out with you, but he doesnt know you well enough to love ... (read in full...)
Is there really any point to trying at a relationship if there is no trust ?
Q. hey guys thanks again. i was just curious as to what u guys thought about trust. i was with a girl and we are now on a "break". and during this time she is talking to any guy that looks at her. now i hear that she "likes" one of them. if hell ...
A. 25 January 2007: Yes, it is worthless to try in a relationship that has no future.... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me why men are such commitment phobes?
Q. Why do men fear relationships/commitment so much, even if they fall in love? Why can't they just "go with the flow"??...
A. 18 January 2007: Agree with Dr Pete 100%.... (read in full...)
My guy on the side makes me feel special even though he only wants to have sex with me in the car. What should I do?
Q. I am having a affiar with a 26 year old man. He has a girlfriend and two kids. I have a bf of 3 years i luv him to bits, but he doesnt make me feel special any more and the 26 year old does. Even tho he is just wantin sex i still enjoy being with...
A. 18 January 2007: Wow, what is your boyfriend doing wrong? If all it takes is sex i the car to make you feel special, it doesnt seem to take alot!... (read in full...)
More than anything, I want a baby! How can I persuade my bf to give me one?
Q. Right before i even say this i know your going to start going on about how young i am and how i should live my life but i dont want that i want advice, NOT a lecture thanks xxx I want a baby, I've thought about it alot and have decided that i w...
A. 18 January 2007: Er, and just how are you going to afford this baby without a job, house, money or education? Somebody needs to knock some sense into your head. You are TOO YOUNG to have a baby! Well, not technically, but you are to young to ever give a child a good ... (read in full...)
I find my husband-to-be an irritating little nerd... give me a wake-up call
Q. I find my bloke an irritating little nerd! Honestly, we are getting married in 8 weeks time and he gets on my nerves. He picks at my son (aged 15). States all the jobs he is 'going to do' and nothing gets done. He works shifts and sometimes we don't ...
A. 17 January 2007: If your relationship is a non-starter, why the hell are you getting married?! This is a recipe for disaster and divorce. I think you know that it's time to call off the wedding and just want to hear it from someone else. Get out now while you still ... (read in full...)
Would my man be embarrassed to receive roses at work?
Q. I want to send the man I love a bunch of roses, just cos im a bit of a soppy romantic and want to suprise him. However he is at work all day and so if I sent them to his home he wouldnt get them. Do you think it would be too embarrassing for him to ...
A. 17 January 2007: Probably. Nice idea though.... (read in full...)
My bf gave me a black eye! He says he'll change. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hello,im 21 and i have been in a relationship with an amazing guy for 4 months. We planned to get engaged this year and i really know i love this man. But just over a week ago we had a row, to which he hit me in the face and i still have (a week ...
A. 16 January 2007: Don't be so short sighted. Guys who beat their wives/girlfriends will always beat them. And this happened after only a few months of being together. Can you iagine how things will be down the line?! Do yourself a favour and end it now, for the sake ... (read in full...)
We used to contact each other daily, now she only replies every 3 days. Is she forgetting about me?
Q. Hi, I have been with my current girlfriend since around November/December and we contacted each other daily, spending all our credit on each other. Recently though she seems to be ignoring my texts and only replying every 3 or 4 days when ...
A. 16 January 2007: Well, she's obviously backing off a little, as texting every day is rather clingy and possessive, considering you have only been going out for just over a month. I would leave it a few days until you text her again. If she really likes you, she will ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and dating. What is the best time for me to start having sex?
Q. hello, i am 12 years old and 13 next month me and my bf have been talking about sex and are thinking of doing it but he as told me he has produce sperm before and ive started my period .my mum said if me or my sister got pregnat she wouldnt have ...
A. 13 December 2006: If you have to ask you aren't ready, and my god, you are still a young child. Slow Down!... (read in full...)
Why would I tell this peson, I didn't love them ...when I really do!
Q. Have you ever told someone who you really loved and said that you didnt love them but you do but you told them that you didnt even tho you do? If you do love the person but you tell them that you dont to there face but you didnt mean it (and i d...
A. 12 December 2006: Er, what?... (read in full...)
I'm 14 - how do I stop this 'relationship' I'm in?
Q. Okay, im fourteen years old, and me and this boy sam have been mucking around together for the last month. its a secret fling which i loveed, and we would do sexual things to each other. it seemed perfect, none of us got hurt, i liked this other...
A. 12 December 2006: Wow, Sam's taking all of you for a ride and none of you can see it. How do you stop it? You realise you are being completely used and start to see him for what he really is.... (read in full...)
He has women's numbers and texts saved under men's names in his phone!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We have been having problems and I have found a number of text messages to 3 different women he has listed on his phone as men's names. He says that there is nothing wrong with this and that I am ...
A. 4 December 2006: I dont answer loads of posts, but read this one, and had to. This is VERY suspicious. My guess is that he's doing the dirty on you. If he had nothing to hide, why would they be listed under different names? There are many things you could do from ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and this man from Turkey tells me he loves me...on MSN. What should I do?
Q. Ok, im 13 right? This man from Turkey added me on MSN and we have been speaking for around a month or two, and he tells me he loves me, he is 18, and i know he is because he showed me his ID and he also speaks turkish and lives in Istanbul, Digorlu....
A. 4 December 2006: This is just proof that young teenagers dont know what love is. You barely speak the same language, and you think you love him? No, more likely you like the attention he gives you. This guy is a total nutjob, crying because you didnt respond. Don't ... (read in full...)
She broke it off with her bf to be with me - but now I like her best friend!
Q. Hi, I have recently started going out with this girl and im really close with all of her friends. the only thing is i really like her best friend, i would just tell her but she went through alot to be with me. she had a boyfriend and she broke it...
A. 4 December 2006: You are the kind of guy who give the rest of us a bad name. If you didn't plan for the relationship with this one to go anywhere after she broke up with her boyfriend for you, why did you bother at all?!... (read in full...)
I'm a Jew for Jesus, but he will only marry me if I renounce Christ! What do I do??
Q. He wants me to convert to Judaism and renounce Christ in order to marry me!!!! I am already Jewish but I believe in the son of G-d. I'm what you call a Jews for Jesus. He says he loves me and that I have to renounce my beliefs in order to get ...
A. 2 December 2006: To be honest, I think you did the right thing breaking up with him. People who love you are supposed to accept you for what you are, and he clearly wasnt willing to compromise. If you had have renounced your religious beliefs for him, it probably ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I are having sex! Is this okay?
Q. is kissing my cousin ok? I mean she beautiful we both have feelings and we had sex is that ok?...
A. 1 December 2006: If you ask the question, you must already know it's wrong. This could lead to serious complications, both emotionally, and physically as she could get pregnant. Imagine how your family would react, and there could also be defects to the child. ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want to introduce me to his family until we're almost engaged! Is this normal?
Q. advice from guys, please: how big of a deal is it if a guy doesn't want to tell his family about you? at what point in a relationship should he want to do this? my bf told me he doesn't think he'd want to really bring a girl into that part of his ...
A. 30 November 2006: Er, no that's not normal at all. ... (read in full...)
Will this girl be able to tell I'm a virgin?
Q. I am a 20 yr old male virgin.im seeing this girl now that is a little more experienced than me do you think she will be able to tell during sex ...
A. 29 November 2006: Yes, she will more than likely be able to tell. The best thing you can do is tell he you're a virgin. She will respect you more for it.... (read in full...)
He came in me, but I think I got it out. Can I still get pregnant?
Q. I am 22 years old and me and my boyfriend had sex last night. When he stopped he told me that he did come inside me but it was just a little bit. I got right up and went to the bathroom. I may have gotten it out. But would I still get pregnant?...
A. 27 November 2006: Try this. Put a spoonful of yoghurt on a piece of tissue. Then scrape the yoghurt off. The tissue is still damp right? Well, thats what it is like after he came in you. You probably got most of it out, but there are millions of sperms in an ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and my family called the police because I'm dating a 25 year old!
Q. Lets start off with the fact that i'm 15. the guy i like is 25... and if thats not a big enough deal, he's my cousin's ex-husband. Jis brother is dating my sister, so we started hanging out alot. and before we knew it, we fell for eachother. the ...
A. 26 November 2006: If he loved you as much as he claims, he would not put you in such a situation, but the bottom line is he is a paedophile who is only in it for himself.... (read in full...)
I feel worthless and stuck in this nowhere relationship. Need advice on what I can do?
Q. my boyfriend and i have two small children. One is 16mo. and one is 2mo. He turns me down for sex, can't stop looking at other women, hides naked pics of other women and throws mine out. He lies about where he is. He goes out all night and doesn't ...
A. 25 November 2006: Well, dont take any more. The first thing is, that it would be impossible for him to just take your babies away. This is a threat that cowardly men use to play mind games and control women in such a way that they will lie down and take the abuse. He ... (read in full...)
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