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writes: on thursday, november 2nd, i will be losing my virginity to my ex girlfriend, and I am nervous, but in an extremely good way, because i know it is right for both of us. is there anything i can do to stop the nervousness? i smoke cigarettes, so maybe that will help, but im not sure.. I want it to be with her and no one else, please help me out, im nervous
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2006): Relax and let it happen. Just the first step on a
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reader, bonym  +, writes (1 November 2006):
 Sorry I dont get it, I mean I have just worked a 9 our day, I am a bit tired, have been having nightmares all week and I have been racking my brains with figures all day, but seriously this makes no sense. Why would you be losing yout virginity to an EX? I cant understand why? It makes as much sense as saying 100 - 55 equals 786. Virginity is PRECIOUS, and lose it to the RIGHT person who you LOVE and ideally will be with for a long time if not FORVEVER. Please dont make a big mistake. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): U shouldnt lose your virginity to ur ex. The 1st tym should be really special. If you still love her, why not get back with her, then lose your virginity.
Sex is a wonderful thing, especially if shared in a committed, monogamous relationship.
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reader, stina  +, writes (1 November 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I have to agree with the others - why are you going to have sex with your ex girlfriend? If it were really "right for both of us" then why isn't she *still* your girlfriend? I hope you don't think that having sex with her will make you two stay a couple. The reason I'm saying that is not to be nasty to you, I just don't want you to end up hurt. It might work for a bit - she might decide to get back with you - but if/when your relationship ends with her again you might feel even more crushed than you do now.
If you do decide to have sex with her, and you want to get over being nervous, then I agree with Reality Check - try to get out your stress by going to the gym or doing some kind of physical work. Then there's always the option of talking things over with your ex. She might feel the same way as you and it might be helpful to talk to one another (especially if working out doesn't appeal to you). :)
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): Well only do it if u feel ready. You say it is ur ex gyal so y would u wanna loose it 2 ur ex. I did that and after wished i hadnt cos it only made me like him more especially when i watched him move on! Just think about it and go at ya own comfatable speed. Everyone is nervous on thier first time and first time with a new person so just sit back and let it happen. Don't think too much bout if she is liking it etc just go with the flow. and if u dont feel ready b4 u do it then say so and do not feel pressured in to itgood luck hunny all me lovex0x0x0x
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reader, Yos  +, writes (1 November 2006):
 She is your ex? Sex really is best within a strong loving relationship. As horny as you feel, I recommend not doing this but waiting until you are with a girl who is your current girlfriend, not your ex. You two are setting yourselfs up for problems doing this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2006): Smoking can only make things worse for you, not only with your anxiety, but also you'll be physically less capable, there will be less oxygen in your blood, and well, you'll stink it's not exactly a turn-on for the other person.
"I want it to be with her and no one else, please help me out, im nervous"
It sounds to me like you are not emotionally ready to have sex yet. Sorry to put this suggestion in your head, but if you really are nervous and worried about this, the whole event could end in embarrassment and disaster; I think you know what I mean. Concentrate on your self-confidence, save your virginity for someone whom your in a proper relationship with. It'll mean far more, and you won't be so nervous. Don't be so desperate to have sex with this ex - it really is un-necessary.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (1 November 2006):
 Why to your ex girlfriend? I would advise against smoking as the smell is a little offputting. Perhaps you could try something like going to the gym to get all that stress and energy out.
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