Should stay or leave our relationship? I think we have different goals and different attitudes to handling our money.
Q. Dear cupid, I don't know if I should stay or leave my relationship... myself (almost 24) and partner (almost 23) have been together two and a half years and I feel like we are going no where at the moment... We have been living with each other...
A. 17 March 2017: Binge watch Judge Judge on You Tube, then Dump Him.
Sorry. Short answer, but homestly, this man does not share your life aspirations or dreams, and does not have your drive and discipline. So he is not a worthy partner for you. ... (read in full...)
Wedding plans. What can I say to my sister and yet not upset her?
Q. I am getting married in September and have chosen my bridal party. My sister is supposed to be a bridesmaid in my bridal party. We had a falling out after I had asked her and she had said she no longer wanted to be a part of the wedding. The re...
A. 16 March 2017: It is good that you and your sister have made up. It is also good that she will come to the wedding ceremony, even if her bf is not invited.
Even though you may think he is bad news (and he probably is), the fact is that she clearly has feel... (read in full...)
Do I quit my job? I feel my coworker doesn't like me, and some of the behaviour at work feels like bullying to me.
Q. I work for a warehouse factory that distrubutes sporting things such as football tops and trophies etc. I'm being bullied at work from my boss and the assistant of the boss and they can't seem to leave me alone for five minutes. everytime I go into ...
A. 16 March 2017: It is a very sad fact of life that if your boss or someone above you is bullying you, it is either you or them that has to go, and it is usually you.
Are you sure that they are bullying you, though? Because asked to empty bins just sounds l... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get married without a proposal?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm 40 and my boyfriend of 2 months is 44. We both have a kid from our previous marriage. He is a professor and I'm a nurse. I know it's too soon but things are going so well and fast! He is ...
A. 16 March 2017: If someone brings up the issue of marriage and discusses it with you, then it is a proposal, even if it is not the traditional down on one knee type.
But after two months there is no way you should be thinking about marriage. Why is he rushi... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get married without a proposal?
Q. Hi, I have a question and would appreciate your help. I'm 40 and my boyfriend of 2 months is 44. We both have a kid from our previous marriage. He is a professor and I'm a nurse. I know it's too soon but things are going so well and fast! He is ...
A. 16 March 2017: If someone brings up the issue of marriage and discusses it with you, then it is a proposal, even if it is not the traditional down on one knee type.
But after two months there is no way you should be thinking about marriage. Why is he rushi... (read in full...)
Dating advice after divorce
Q. My ex husband and I were high school sweethearts, I was only 16 when we started dating. I never dated anyone besides him. We recently parted and I'm nervous about dating. What type of rules go with dating now? I've been chatting with a guy from our ...
A. 16 March 2017: Well what is it you are looking for?
If you have five children (and given your age, presumably at least some of them are still living with you), you just be very busy.
Do you want companionship? Someone to talk to? It sounds like your... (read in full...)
Can she still be a virgin?
Q. I know a girl when she was young she did not know what sex means or what it could do to her. She was used by three men sexually eight times, but they never penetrated her vagina and she never remember seeing blood. Can she be still a virgin or get ...
A. 16 March 2017: Why are you interested in whether she is a virgin or whether she got an STD?
It sounds like this girl has been through a terrible ordeal. How is her mental health? Does she needs counselling, care or support?
What is your relationship to ... (read in full...)
Am I justified to break up with him?
Q. I'm going through a mixed phase right now with my bf. Recently, I've been reflecting on our relationship for the past 5 years, and I'm wondering whether I should just move on because I just don't feel happy anymore. We have been dating for 5 yea...
A. 16 March 2017: It's your life. If he is not making you happy move on. ... (read in full...)
I said "I love you" but he's not at that point and now I'm hurt/confused and wondering if I should break things off
Q. About two weeks ago, I found myself (regrettably) drunk after a super fun night out with a group of friends and my boyfriend, who I have been seeing for nearly 6 moths. The BF very sweetly took care of getting me to my house, getting me into my ...
A. 16 March 2017: Goodness me, you are coming across as being quite hard work!!
The crux seems to be that
(i) you said I love you when you were drunk
(ii) you both then talked openly and honestly and shared how positive each of you feel about the relations... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f talk to his ex but won't allow me to do the same?
Q. My boyfriend of a year is friends with an old ex who he doesn't feel attracted to anymore and I am totally fine with their friendship and glad they are friends. He has another ex who broke his heart and things got messy with her during the break ...
A. 16 March 2017: "He is very jealous and has asked me to not contact my ex and to delete him off my phone after I innocently texted him to ask about the computer he gave me when we were dating."
This is unhealthy behaviour from your boyfriend. A healthy ... (read in full...)
I feel it's okay to say no to babysitting my husband's sister's children!
Q. My husband and I are both 26 and have been married for half a year. His sister is 10 years older and married with a 2 year old and a 4 year old. I'm neutral to kids but my husband absolutely adores them. However neither of us are interested in ...
A. 16 March 2017: It seems as if some information is missing in your question.
You say that you and your husband planned to spend time together at home this Sunday - is this something special? have you been apart a lot lately? were you planning a special ... (read in full...)
How can I get smaller boobs?
Q. This may come as an odd question but it is dear to heart for me. How can you make your boobs smaller? I am only talking about appearence wise. I claim this as odd because all my friends want bigger boobs, yeah at times I do too, but for this I c...
A. 6 September 2007: I can think of three things:
1. lose weight - your breast is a place where you store fat, if you are slimmer, your breasts will get slimmer too
2. exercise - if you do weights (things like bench press), the muscles that hold up your boobs will ... (read in full...)
Had sex with my twin sister's husband. Not sure if I should tell my sister or wait to see if I'm preganant...
Q. Hi my name is Stacy. I need some advice. I have had sex with my twin sister's husband. I do not know if I should tell her or not. I know it is wrong for me to have done that. The first time it was only anal sex just because I was curious and my ...
A. 4 September 2007: What do you think you are doing? You are married, so you are cheating on your husband? Your twin sister is married, so you are cheating with her husband and lying to her? Doesn't she know you quite well? And you're having unprotected sex to... (read in full...)
Is what you see on porn films real or camera trickery????
Q. In a porn vidio i just watched, this guy put a ping pong ball in this girl's vagina. then he pushed it in so it was out of sight. Then he did something with her ass or something. i saw him put his finger's in her vagina, and fish out the ball.could ...
A. 4 September 2007: yes, you can do that... (read in full...)
My wedding is coming up soon and my fiancee's parents aren't offering to pay for anything (or even send invitations), while my parents are! Am I overreacting?
Q. My wedding is coming up in a few days. My mom and step dad are having it at their home. They are paying for everything. My real dad bought my wedding gown and wedding cake. My mom's paying for the food, drinks, minister, photophragrapher, ...
A. 4 September 2007: Yes, I think you are over-reacting. Firstly, it is traditional for the bride's parents to pay for the wedding. Secondly, when planning the wedding, you have to cut your cloth to suit your means - that is to say, you, your parents, your fia... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and desperately want feelings of love. What should I do?
Q. Dear All I’m very innocent and 15; I have never had a ‘ petty girlfriend’ – a relationship tat means nothing. I have never kissed a girl etc. I never intended to have true feelings of love to a female until 16-18+. Last year a girl who I th...
A. 4 September 2007: Be patient Remember that love is not a feeling, it's an action.... look around you and try to see beauty in the world and in people ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me so mad that I hit him. I know this is wrong but cant seem to control myself!
Q. I really need some help with me and my BF's relationship. We have been together for 1 year and things have started getting a little violent. When I say that I mean that he will say something to me that will hurt my feelings and make me cry and all I ...
A. 4 September 2007: Sorry, it says you are aged 18-21, and I assumed that you must be at the young end of this. If you are actually 21, then I would suggest that you do see a counsellor to work out your emotional issues.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me so mad that I hit him. I know this is wrong but cant seem to control myself!
Q. I really need some help with me and my BF's relationship. We have been together for 1 year and things have started getting a little violent. When I say that I mean that he will say something to me that will hurt my feelings and make me cry and all I ...
A. 4 September 2007: I think what is wrong with you is that you are too young to have a boyfriend as you are not capable of understanding or managing your emotional responses.
Having a relationship is about each of you being mature indiviuals who enjoy spending... (read in full...)
My gf is always trying to start a fight and is quite controlling. What can I do about this?
Q. hello, i have a problem with my girlfriend, she's malfunctioning, haha, jk, she is always trying to start up a fight, and she just thinks she can control me, i dont know what to do, i just seems like she is wanting to break up with me from all this ...
A. 19 April 2007: You are very young and just learning your first things about relationships......
When two people form a relationship, there is often a desire on the part of each person to avoid being hurt, and to do so, they look for reassurance from the... (read in full...)
She didn't give me the whole story about the concert tickets! Am I being played here?
Q. The woman I've been dating for the last year and a half told me about 2 months ago she was going to a concert with some friends. I had asked her if she wanted to go with me, but she said she had already planned going with some friends. I said "OK", ...
A. 19 April 2007: It sounds like she has something to hide - although I must say, I don't approve of you reading her e mails - that's not a nice thing to do, and if you read things you're not supposed to, you may find out things you don't like.
If you wanted t... (read in full...)
I don't think my new girlfriend cares about me. What do you think?
Q. i dnt think my new girlfriend cares about me. what do u think? today me and my girlfriend was down town and i met her mom for the first time. her mom turned around and said " well who r u then " i said " i'm the boyfriend the pretty one " her...
A. 19 April 2007: It sounds to me like your girlfriend has a strange communication style, which she probably got from her mother -
Most mothers on bumping into their daughter with a chap wouldn't need to say "who are you then?" because the daughter would already ... (read in full...)
I'm crazy about her! I've tried asking her to cinema but she's always busy! Any tips?
Q. i really really fancy this girl in my year. i never get to talk to her because she's really shy and quiet and i dont know how to start a conversation! yesterday i played football at lunch time on the grass. everyone which is the whole year has lunc...
A. 19 April 2007: If she has turned down your offer of a date at the cinema, then you have your answer, I'm afraid.
If you can't think of anything to say to her, then I'm not surprised she has turned you down. She probably would like to go out with someone ... (read in full...)
We get on real well but he has troubles in the sex department! Is there anything I can do to help him?
Q. I started seeing a guy I've known for a few years. We get on really well and everything, but when it comes to sex we have some difficulties. Everytime we get intimate, he comes really quickly either early when I'm giving him some head or within t...
A. 19 April 2007: I would suggest you stop "giving him head" because I believe men find that very exciting, and it will only speed him up.
I suggest that you delay intercourse - have him make love to you with his hands and his mouth, so that you have an excellen... (read in full...)
Im very new at online dating thing. How do I know if they are lying online??
Q. I need advice on online dating, long distance style. I "met" this guy online about 2 weeks ago n we hit it off. We live a great distance apart. There's a time difference but it's not too bad. We've exchanged several pictures and he has my number. ...
A. 19 April 2007: Online dating is supposed to be a route to MEETING someone, not a relationship in itself.
The idea is that you get to know a bit about each other, enough to decide whether to meet.
You seem to have agreed to monogamy with a guy you've never... (read in full...)
I have friends and family in my life, but all I do is cry and feel alone. Please help.
Q. I still really need some help. Things have gotten to the point were all i do is cry. I just feel so lost and alone even though i have friends and family around. How ever i have not been able to talk to any of them. Not even my boyfriend as i feel as ...
A. 19 April 2007: If you cry for 6 hours without stopping at all, your eyes must be hugely puffy and red and you must be dehydrated.
How come your family, friends, and boyfriend don't notice? ... (read in full...)
During sex she just lays there doesn't make any noise! How can I get her to do more?
Q. what can i do 2 get my girl 2 be more playful when it comes to foreplay? ok the problem is i've been wv my girlfriend 5 weeks we had sex twice which everyone (EVERYONE) i speak 2 laff's at because i'm 25 shes 20 and everyone keeps saying " u sould...
A. 19 April 2007: Well you need to talk to her about it.
Say that you love her, and that you find her very sexy and attractive, and you would like to enjoy a great sex life with her too.
Say that you want to know what she likes and doesn't like about sex. ... (read in full...)
We are second cousins so would this cause any problems with the baby we want to have together?
Q. hi i need some advice im 25 and my partner is 36. The problem is we are second cousins he's my mums cousin. We love each other so much we are now considering having a baby together im wondering if we did would the baby be ok? or would it have ...
A. 18 April 2007: No problems... (read in full...)
Why is this one-night stand being so mean after so many months?
Q. Hi Cupid, So confused? I met this man a few months ago exchanged #'s and texted back and forth but never went out. It was clear that he was looking for a late night friend, lol. So anyway, I had not heard from him in weeks, now this Sat I get...
A. 18 April 2007: He's not being mean.
If he lost his phone, he may have his phonebills with itemised numbers on them, and is trying to piece together his stored numbers - seems a plausible story.
Sadly, sometimes people put numbers in their phone and afterw... (read in full...)
We are very happy together but he leers at other women when I'm with him!
Q. My partner lears and smiles at other attractive women in my presence My partner and I are generally very happy together and I really couldnt ask for a more loving, caring and supportive man - he is a real brick in times of hardship - he is...
A. 18 April 2007: Have you told him (a) that you have noticed him doing this and (b) how it makes you feel?
If you haven't told him, he might not know, and if you tell him, he might stop, or at least have a discussion so you can understand why he does it.
I... (read in full...)
I am in love with my flatmate but I'm 99% sure he doesn't feel the same - do I tel lhim?
Q. I'm sharing a flat with a good friend of mine, though I have not been completely honest. I love him, I love him so much i feel physically sick, and feel physical pain just by thinking of a time when I will not be with him. So far I have managed to ...
A. 18 April 2007: No, there's no point in telling him.
In terms of stopping the hurt, remember firstly that you can only really love someone who loves you back, so you're really in love with the idea of him, not really him.
You'll have to decide whether y... (read in full...)
The girl at our work openly says horrible things to me and my new BF is still friends with her! Do I have a right to be hurt?
Q. hey, im in a new relationship with a guy i met at my part time job. However, there is a girl we work with who has a reputation for being a B*t*h as she is always being nasty about people behind their backs for no apparent reason especially me. the ...
A. 18 April 2007: This is a work place that you are talking about, not a social club. You are young, but I think you need to change your attitude at work.
Firstly, it is never the best idea to date someone you work with, because if the relationship goes wrong, y... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to let him know I really like him without telling him outright?
Q. Hi I really badly fancy my best m8(Who's a boy)nd I fink he feels the same way.But I've been out wiv him b 4.I'm scared 2 tell him.N e tips on how 2 tell him wiv out having 2 tell him outright?sum 1 plz help!!!x...
A. 18 April 2007: If he's your best mate, then maybe you can have one of those chats, when you ask him if there's anyone he fancies?
Maybe he'll say you?
Or maybe he won't......
You could say something like: "I quite like Tom, Dick and Harry, but also... (read in full...)
Ladies, how do you tell your wife your biggest fantasy is to sleep with hot, young 18 years old females?
Q. sexual fantasy / fantasies / fetish My wife has asked me before what kind of fetishes or fantasies I had. My real answer is hot young 18 year old girls. Would a wife really want to know the truth of a fetish or fantasy that has nothing to do wi...
A. 18 April 2007: No, don't tell her the truth.
If she asked about your fantasy, it's probably because she wants to tell you hers and probably to act out on it.
I think you should do more listening to her, and not worry about your particular, unsa... (read in full...)
I love her and I crave her but my penis won't co-operate! Help!
Q. Problem starts out a few nights ago, when my girlfriend and I are about to make love again. We made love the night before, and earlier that day. We've had a pretty strong love life before this, and I think it's odd that it just came out of nowhere, ...
A. 18 April 2007: Your girlfriend would love it if you spent the evening giving her a sexy massage and then used your hands and tongue to "make the earth" move.
Why not do things like this for a week or so, while you get over your cold, and get over your incredib... (read in full...)
How do I sort out my problems! Do I leave my marriage for this other woman?
Q. I have been cheating on my wife for several months with another woman that I have clicked with in every way since the start. I have been married for 5 years but never cheated before. The woman I have been having an affair with wants me to be with ...
A. 18 April 2007: You have got your self into a pickle -
a piece of advice for ALL Readers - if you feel an urge to start having an affair, then it means that there is a PROBLEM in your marriage.
Having an affair is the WORST solution to solving that pro... (read in full...)
Will he date me when he gets back from his holiday?
Q. i like this lad who is my brother friend but my brother has now gone to uni and he dnt really talk to him that much any more. so this lad i like has he broke up with his 2 yr gf which was about 6 months ago, he recently went on the rebound....
A. 18 April 2007: It sounds quite unclear what the position is with him.
I guess if he's your brother's friend and your brother went to university, then I suppose he is 18, and you're 16-17, so that all sounds okay.
If he was dating a girl for 2 years, tha... (read in full...)
She changed her mind about going out right away - her friends told me to back off. Does she really not like me?
Q. This is an update on something that I have posted before.Theres a girl in my class that I really like. We have always had passing conversations and last week I asked her out by writing a letter. In the letter I put some really soppy things. A while ...
A. 18 April 2007: I'm afraid there is nothing for you to do. She has made it plain what she wants from you and if you like her, you'll respect what she has asked of you.
Concentrate on your French in your French class and do your best to pass your own exams. ... (read in full...)
Bars, internet dating hasn't worked for me! Where do I meet decent men?
Q. Hi all, does anybody have any ideas where to find decent men, i come from the midlands and have not got a clue where they are hiding. Im at that age now that i want to get into a proper relationship now I have tried internet dating but its not for ...
A. 18 April 2007: You must have some friends? Why don't you ask your friends if they know any single men that they think you might get on with.
I don't know why internet dating is not for you - you've kind of just swept it aside - but it does give the opportun... (read in full...)
I keep thinking about her past even tho she is still a virgin but its the fact she has done more then me! How do I get past this?
Q. I have just got my first girlfriend she used to like me four years n she sed i wos the first she told she liked! bt the ting ws at the time when she liked me i wos a bit silly n thort i cud do better that wos cuz i had other girls telling me they ...
A. 18 April 2007: here here Mitch!... (read in full...)
How can I get the ball rolling between us? He's shy and we don't have much money, either!
Q. hey sorry this is so long! last month my friend told me he fancies me and i like him too. We text eachother everyday and see each other at work at a few days a week but because we are both shy, nothing is happening between us. Its so frustrating!!...
A. 18 April 2007: Say to him: "remember before I went on holiday, we said we'd meet up? do you still fancy the idea?"
When he nods or says yes, say something like: "well why don't we go for a walk in the park on Saturday lunchtime - I could bring a picnic" (that's... (read in full...)
I have friends and family in my life, but all I do is cry and feel alone. Please help.
Q. I still really need some help. Things have gotten to the point were all i do is cry. I just feel so lost and alone even though i have friends and family around. How ever i have not been able to talk to any of them. Not even my boyfriend as i feel as ...
A. 18 April 2007: You don't cry ALL the time, do you? There are some times when you are not actually crying, aren't there? You don't cry non stop for 24 hours a day?
So that tells me that you are in a mood where you are telling yourself that you "cry all the time... (read in full...)
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