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writes:I'm sharing a flat with a good friend of mine, though I have not been completely honest. I love him, I love him so much i feel physically sick, and feel physical pain just by thinking of a time when I will not be with him. So far I have managed to use inhuman amounts of self control to act normal around him but i feel like its eating away at me.There are several problems... 1)He has a girlfriend 2) I am not openly Gay 3)I am 99% sure he does not feel the same. My question is... is there any point in telling him?If not, what do I do to stop the hurt?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2007): I wouldn't tell him if I was you. The fact that he has a girlfriend means he's probably straight which means there is no hope for a relationship.
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reader, chachacha +, writes (18 April 2007):
No, there's no point in telling him.
In terms of stopping the hurt, remember firstly that you can only really love someone who loves you back, so you're really in love with the idea of him, not really him.
You'll have to decide whether you can continue to be flatmates with someone you fancy so much, although personally, I find it hard to fancy someone who does not fancy me, as one knows that there is never any chance.
Finally, you're in your 20s, and if you're gay, say so! It's really no big deal at all. Your flatmate should know - what if you bring a nice chap home one night? If you have some problems with it, then you could join a coming out group to help you.
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