My friend is dancing with death
Q. I need some advice about my friend, as I'm worried about her. She's 19 years old and a lot more immature and naive than me. She gets easily taken advantage of by men that want to use her and I'm worried she's going to end up pregnant or even worse, ...
A. 4 June 2006: Well you can talk to her about it or buy her a book or something - maybe go with her to the doctor to get the pill at least, if she is too shy to tell a bloke to wear a condom, maybe buy her some condomns to keep about her person.
At the end ... (read in full...)
Problems with my ex who ruined my life
Q. Ok here goes..about 4 months ago myself and my girfriend of 3 years broke up out of the blue b/c she wasn't happy anymore..i thought there was something wrong, i sensed she might be cheating, ect ect..she never wanted to talk about anything, try to ...
A. 4 June 2006: Sometimes when you have broken up with someone, they have moments ( just moments ) when they regret it ( or at least, regret losing bits of it ) and sometimes thoughtlessly and selfishly send those kind of e mails.
The relationship is over. S... (read in full...)
Her past is threatening our future
Q. I am destroying our marriage. We are not long married and probably should have waited. My wife did not tell me everthing about her past until after we had fallen in love and i has asked her to marry me, I should have realised I could not handle it b...
A. 4 June 2006: I think you should spend time listening to you wife about her various relationships - what led her into these relationships, what made her stay in them, how does she feel about them now, what has she learned from them.
Where a woman goes int... (read in full...)
Can we rekindle our love?
Q. my fiancee and i have been together for two years until last week said out of the blue that he doesn't want to be with me and he loves me but isn't in love with me and feels he is too young to be in a serious relationship. im still in love with him ...
A. 4 June 2006: Firstly, you don't know that you can work it out - because you don't know why it is that he has said this.
You said that this has come "out of the blue" - how can that be? were you suddenly in love, close, talking, etc one day, and then suddenly... (read in full...)
Does size matter?
Q. hey girls! i am scared my penis is too small to satisfy my girlfriend. do you think 5.75 inched is ok?...
A. 4 June 2006: Girls do care about penis size (i.e. 2 inches is too small), but yours sounds fine. Stop worrying. ... (read in full...)
I think i'm bisexual or a lesbian... confused!
Q. I think i am bisexual or a lesbian i am only 13 years old.I have never kissed or been intimate with a boy.I look at girls at school and wonder what it would be like to kiss or do more with them. This boy asked me out 2 nights ago but i'm torn ...
A. 4 June 2006: Many people haven't kissed anyone when they are 13 - don't worry about that.
You are young and you should just do whatever makes you happy - if someone asks you on a date, and you think it'll be fun, then say "yes" - you are not committi... (read in full...)
I think i'm bisexual or a lesbian... confused!
Q. I think i am bisexual or a lesbian i am only 13 years old.I have never kissed or been intimate with a boy.I look at girls at school and wonder what it would be like to kiss or do more with them. This boy asked me out 2 nights ago but i'm torn ...
A. 4 June 2006: Many people haven't kissed anyone when they are 13 - don't worry about that.
You are young and you should just do whatever makes you happy - if someone asks you on a date, and you think it'll be fun, then say "yes" - you are not committi... (read in full...)
Are my breasts too small for the boys?
Q. I am a teen girl, and I want to know if having small breasts turns off a guy. I'm 32b, tall and slim, considered quite pretty, but it seems like the only girls getting boyfriends are the ones with big chests. Is that what really matters to most tee...
A. 4 June 2006: Some guys like big breasts, some guys like small breasts. You have what you have and that's that - so enjoy everything you have, and look for the right guy in due course.
If you actually had large breast and a guy only liked you because ... (read in full...)
How do I get more gay friends?
Q. Need to get some new friends to discover something about myself. I'm male, 22, and single, and curious. I've many friends, different genders, different race, but not different sexuality. How do I get more gay friends, I've not been to any gay ...
A. 4 June 2006: Join a gay club, which is not oriented towards sex - e.g. swimming club, running club, salsa lessons, rambing association. Then you'll be welcomed by the organiser and can make new friends under no pressure. Or join a coming out group for younger ... (read in full...)
Im having a hard time releasing the fact that Im gay, Please help?
Q. I need some help, I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I know that NO ONE suspects me at all as I have ladies always hinting things and flirting with me, so no one suspects a thing people just think that I haven't meet the special one yet. Thing is,...
A. 29 April 2006: Just tell people! It's really easy and if you make nothing much of it, they won't either.
With your female friend, just say: "hey, I am so happy, I have met someone I really really like, and I would like you to meet him". She'll say somethin... (read in full...)
Im having a hard time releasing the fact that Im gay, Please help?
Q. I need some help, I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I know that NO ONE suspects me at all as I have ladies always hinting things and flirting with me, so no one suspects a thing people just think that I haven't meet the special one yet. Thing is,...
A. 29 April 2006: Just tell people! It's really easy and if you make nothing much of it, they won't either.
With your female friend, just say: "hey, I am so happy, I have met someone I really really like, and I would like you to meet him". She'll say somethin... (read in full...)
Im having a hard time releasing the fact that Im gay, Please help?
Q. I need some help, I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I know that NO ONE suspects me at all as I have ladies always hinting things and flirting with me, so no one suspects a thing people just think that I haven't meet the special one yet. Thing is,...
A. 29 April 2006: Just tell people! It's really easy and if you make nothing much of it, they won't either.
With your female friend, just say: "hey, I am so happy, I have met someone I really really like, and I would like you to meet him". She'll say somethin... (read in full...)
Im having a hard time releasing the fact that Im gay, Please help?
Q. I need some help, I'm gay and I have a boyfriend. I know that NO ONE suspects me at all as I have ladies always hinting things and flirting with me, so no one suspects a thing people just think that I haven't meet the special one yet. Thing is,...
A. 29 April 2006: Just tell people! It's really easy and if you make nothing much of it, they won't either.
With your female friend, just say: "hey, I am so happy, I have met someone I really really like, and I would like you to meet him". She'll say somethin... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for another women and its scaring me!!
Q. Im a 19 year old female and have never had strong feelings for anyone particularly. But since before chiristmas i have been having strong feelings for a girl-this is not like me at all and its scaring me. Once more its scaring me because i think sh...
A. 29 April 2006: There's nothing wrong with having feelings for another woman.
If this girl is a friend of yours, then the best thing to do is to continue being friends, and then see whether you can be close enough to share a discussion along the lines of "have... (read in full...)
Broken down marriage, Please help!
Q. i need to get out of my marrige but dont know how please help. ...
A. 29 April 2006: what a short question! it is not quite clear what your problem is ...
Is it that you don't know how to tell your husband that the relationship is over?
Is it that you don't know how to go about getting a divorce?
Is it that you don't ... (read in full...)
How can I initiate my sexual encounters with my experienced partner?
Q. Hiya, i recently lost my virginity to my boyfriend of four months (he's 19, im 18). I dont regret starting a sexual relationship with him, but the thing is i'm a bit unsure as to what i'm actually supposed to do during sex. It sounds stupid but he's ...
A. 29 April 2006: Firstly, you can do anything you want to and if it feels good to both of you, carry on, and if not, then say "oh well" and don't do that again.
Secondly, if you are having sex with your bf, you should be able to communicate with him - so ask him!... (read in full...)
Did I make the right move with confused partner?
Q. k so here it is....my sons father fell in love with me while he was with his fiance that he's been with for 3 yrs. i ignoreded him for about a week and a half cuz i wasn't gonna be a third party so he left her, cuz he couldn't stop thinking about ...
A. 28 April 2006: yes... (read in full...)
Getting soooo bored with this reserved guy..what should I do?
Q. i am quite outgoing, single mum with 2 kids. met a fella who is fantastic with kids, really devoted, but seems boring and bit cold towards me 80% of the time. sex is fine, but i want to be more adventurous. he's quite reserved. bit naieve. he is ...
A. 28 April 2006: dump him... (read in full...)
The idea of sex makes me frigid and nervous. What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm posting this on here because I cant't talk about this to my friends. I'm a 21 year old virgin. The trouble is, I don't feel like I act like one and feel I'm in danger of being percieved the wrong way. I drink too much, probably swear to much, ...
A. 28 April 2006: No - if you don't feel like it that's fine.
Few questions:
* do you masterbate? if not, then you should think about how to feel saucy and sexy by yourself
* could you possibly be more interested in women than men? think about that as well... (read in full...)
Do I lose the weight to make myself feel better, is it all in my mind?
Q. I feel like I'm being pressured into losing weight. I've always had a thing about my weight, from being bullied about my weight throughout my childhood, but truth be told, I'm not fat, and I'm not thin, but yet I feel like I have to lose weight or ...
A. 28 April 2006: Lose weight if you want to and it may make you feel better.
Don't lose weight to try to find a bf though - do it for yourself.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Help me understand what kind of person am I to cheat on my bf?
Q. I am a 20yr old mother of one eight month old.My boyfriend works all the time and mostly has interest only for his son when he visits us.I thought I had lost interest in sex till I was told by a guy that I worked with that he was attracted to me.I ...
A. 28 April 2006: you are a person who has not faced up to the fact that you are not getting on that well with your bf
he is the father to your son and you don't live together? and he just visits?
finish with him, grow up, find yourself, look after your child... (read in full...)
He's married and I tried to cut all ties with him! What can I do?
Q. I have managed to let myself get involved with a married man. He never ever hid the fact he was married, he says he loves me but he does not want to put his kids through a divorce. I tried to cut ties but to no avail. He says he thinks about me ...
A. 28 April 2006: He's married and therefore not available. Say to him that you don't want a relationship with him, and if he wants one with you, then that means that he has a problem in his marriage. Say that he should either work on his marriage or end it, but ... (read in full...)
How can I teach my parents to show their affection for each other, they act like complete strangers!!
Q. Hello- I'll apologise in advance as this is pretty long. Is there any way to make my folks more "in love" and behave like a married couple. My folks have been married for 30 years and they do love and care for eachother, but they are in no way a...
A. 20 April 2006: Oh dear - you see, the things is, you can't do anything. They are adults, living their lives the way that they want to. You are their child, and despite now being "grown up" to them you are very young, and your child.
We can all see lots of ... (read in full...)
My friend let me kiss him but now he wants to stop and I feel so used!!!
Q. hello, I'm bi and ive told my best friend and also told him i loved him, he was more than fine with it. He isn't bi yet was willing to kiss me, we did a few times and it was great... i said many times not to do it if it was just to make me happy, h...
A. 20 April 2006: You don't say how old you are, but you sound young.
I would say that you mutually used each other - you wanted to kiss a boy and you did. He kissed you, and it sounds like either he wanted to make your happy (which is not really using you, is ... (read in full...)
Is there any way i can live with my fiance??
Q. I'm a few months away from being 16 and i have been engaged to my fiance for about 2 years now and a few weeks ago my mom decides to move and make me go with her is there any chance that i could go live with my fiance?...
A. 20 April 2006: It is rather strange, and if you don't mind me saying so, totally inappropriate, that you would get engaged at 14 years old - you are barely more than a child.
It sounds like your mom is a single mom, and therefore it is not surprising that you... (read in full...)
I slept with the father of my son but I dont want to be back with him and dont want to hurt my bf!!
Q. What am i going to do? Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months and love him to pieces.My sons father came over and stayed the night and i ended up sleeping with him. He told me he cares for me and would like us to get back together but i dont want ...
A. 20 April 2006: Why did you sleep with him? You didn't say that he forced himself on you - so did you secretly want him to?
If you really don't want him, make sure that he doesn't have access to such a situation again - don't have him to stay - have him take you... (read in full...)
I blacked out and now my friend is claiming we had sex!!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we have an amazing relationship and i am completely in love with him and we are really happy together. At the weekend I went out with some of my female friends (i am a girl) including one that has always ...
A. 20 April 2006: If you had blacked out, then you did not consent. So it's hard to see how anyone can hold you responsible.
However, this person does not sound like much of a friend. I would say to her that you don't want to be friends with her anymore, because ... (read in full...)
My bfs past is putting me off sex and getting me down!!
Q. My boyfriend has a past of a lot of sex with different girls. I have been with him over a year and love him more than anything, but thinking of him doing with me what he has done wiv all those other girls is makeing me feel down, n not wanting ...
A. 20 April 2006: Why are you focusing on this?
Did you want to go out with a man who was a virgin?
It sounds like you have a confidence issue - why don't you share it with him, and have him confidence you that he loves YOU NOW, and that his past is irreleva... (read in full...)
I couldnt contact my bf so i called our friend for emotional support, now my bf is back in touch but i am worried he will be bothered!!
Q. My boyfriend came back from overseas and I didn't hear from him for a few days as he was catching up with family and friends,and I had no way of contacting him, nor was his mobile working. During this time I was in panic because he didn't call me ...
A. 19 April 2006: Tell your bf that you were worried when he didn't call you and you couldn't contact him, and that you called his friend.
It's not like there is anyting going on between you and his friend - it's normal to try to find out what is going on.
A... (read in full...)
What shall I write in his birthday card?
Q. Hey Guys! Well i was wondering if you can all give me some advice on what to write in my bfs birthday card. His birthday was in january but i didnt get him nothin.So i've decided i'll get him a card with something funny yet...
A. 19 April 2006: You're only 12, and his birthday was in January?
If so, he has so forgot his birthday. If you want to send him something don't link it to the birthday - as you are so young, maybe just get a little teddybear saying "thinking of you" or somethin... (read in full...)
My GF is so close to her male friend... I can't help thinking she's closer to him than she's letting on!
Q. Please can someone help me? My girlfriend has lots of male friends, which is not something that particularly bothers me, but there is one friend I'm a bit concerend about. I've often noticed her texting him and talking to him on msn while I'm at h...
A. 19 April 2006: You should just say that you are pleased that she has a good friend, but that you have a natural curiosity and that given that her good friend, you have an element of jealousy too. Tell her that you don't want her to end her friendship with him or ... (read in full...)
We love eachother but he doesn't want me to tell anyone we've said it, is something wrong?
Q. Hi, I just told my boyfriend of 10 months that I loved him on Easter, it took em a long time to say it (seriously, 20 minutes)and in fact my bf helped me out by asking if what I wanted to tell him was that I loved him.. I said yes and then was ...
A. 19 April 2006: Oh baby, saying "I love you" sounds a lot like commitment and always marks the move of a relationship onto a new footing.
You are both young, and your issues are nothing to worry about at all.
You should talk to him about it, and say "how did... (read in full...)
He's lied to me many times and when I suggested getting him a present he freaked out, what do I do?
Q. Hi there. On July 3rd 2006, me and my boyfriend will have been together for a full year, and I wanted to get him something special, so i thought i could get him a plain silver ring with my name engraved on it. Nothing too expensive and nothing ...
A. 19 April 2006: Tell him exactly how you feel. Relationships are based on honesty and if you can't be honest, your relationship is worthless.... (read in full...)
My fiancee's cousin touched me while I was sleeping!
Q. My fiance's cousin touched me while I was sleeping... A couple of months ago my fiance and I had a big party at our new place. Plenty of our friends live quite far so a whole bunch of people crashed the night at our house instead of driving home....
A. 19 April 2006: Tell your fiancee exactly what you have told us. Chances are the cousin was drunk, will also be totally devastated with guilt, and will say sorry immediately, thereby clearing the air.
But if you do nothing, it will hang like a dirty cloud ov... (read in full...)
I got pregnants even thought I was on the pill, I'm 16 and don't know what to do! help!
Q. I'm 16 and I think I could be pregnant. I'm booked for a test tomorow and I don't know what I'll do if it turns up positive. I'm still at school, my parents are not the type that will be supportive, I won't abort it or give it up, any advice? Also, ...
A. 18 April 2006: You need counselling - having a baby at 16 while you are still at school is really a bad idea and will adversely affect your whole life.
You say you won't abort it, but you don't say why - you need counselling about that.
You say that you won... (read in full...)
She has been with over 100 men and I can't get this image out of my head!
Q. My girlfriend just told me of her past, consisting of a couple of hundred men. I am having a hard time accepting this number and find myself thinking of her with her former partners rather than myself. How do I get over this?...
A. 18 April 2006: Well it kind of depends upon how old she is really, and what her history of faithfulness is.
For example, if she has slept with one man a month, that makes 12 a year, and therefore over 10 years, she would have slept with 120. If she is 28, a... (read in full...)
Iwas motherly with her about my sexual advice but was I wrong to say it?
Q. Basically my friend told me that she thinks she ready to have sex for the first time(she is 15 her bf is 18 but she is 16 in june n i think she will wait till she is 16) anyway as she is younger than me i sometimes act motherly when it comes down to ...
A. 18 April 2006: Well you probably said the right thing, but the reason why 16 is the age of consent, is for a reason - a 15 yr old is rather too young to decide.
And you have to bear in mind that it is illegal for her bf to have sex with her when she is only 15.... (read in full...)
I'm gay but I think I'm turning and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi i have been gay for nearly 7 years and am currently in a relationship. however for a while now i have developed feelings for girls. Recently i was in a potential situation where something could have happened however i stayed away so it couldn't ...
A. 18 April 2006: It doesn't matter what sex the person is that you fall for - the key is what relationship you are in, and what relationship you want.
You say that you are in a relationship - your doubts about that relationship are key - it doesn't matter that tho... (read in full...)
I'm confused! In a relationship with my boyfriend, but I feel I love him less, now that I've fallen for my best mate!
Q. Heya, Me and my current boyfriend have been together for just over two months, and even though there is 200 miles between us, we still see each other more or less every 3 weeks. I love him very much, but two weeks ago, my best mate told me he loved...
A. 18 April 2006: Your bf lives 200 miles away, you have seen him every 3 weeks but have been with him only 2 months - so you must have seen him only 3 times - that is not exactly a huge commitment or a relationship.
Your best mate sounds great, and really, ... (read in full...)
After having a colposcopy exam, sex is just unbearable!
Q. Since having a colposcopy exam about 6 months ago ( which i found particularly distressing) i have found sex (oral and penitritive) very painful, to the extent that the strss and nerves that i feel before hand are totally putting me off sex. prior ...
A. 18 April 2006: It does sound strange that 6 months after the exam, you can't even enjoy oral sex, which is not penetrative.
I would agree with the other person who says you should visit the doctor, to check that nothing else is wrong.
However, I wo... (read in full...)
When is enough actually enough!!
Q. Hi. I am 23 years old engaged and living with my fiancee for the past 2 years. We have no kids. Both of our families think that we are married and we wear wedding bands to show everyone as we are married. Yet, there was never any paper signed or ...
A. 18 April 2006: Your family think you are already married - did they ask you when you got married? Did they ask you why you didn't invite them? What kind of lies did you have to tell?
When and how did you start wearing wedding rings? What discussion did you ... (read in full...)
| *hachacha's friends
These are mutual friends, so *hachacha has
added them and they have added *hachacha!
|
