My bf's mom and older sister hate me for getting pregnant w/ my guy!! Help!
Q. I am 6 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend's mom and older sister really hate me. They are angry at my boyfriend for getting me pregnant. ...
A. 8 March 2007: Sorry - this is less an answer to your question and more an answer to the previous posters view on abortion.
It sounds like you have no problem with being pregnant, just your in-laws, and as everyone has agreed, just ignore them.
However... (read in full...)
Why do men vanish??
Q. Why are men really into you one minute and then all of a sudden you don't hear a thing from them, they don't call or reply to your text's twice this has happened to me completely out of the blue!...
A. 8 March 2007: Glad he didn't "vanish" as your previous guys have.
If this is your second date, then you should just look to enjoy getting to know him a little better.
Be supportive and empathetic regarding his loss and listen to him talk about it.
J... (read in full...)
I feel so neglected by my partner, he seems to have time for everyone else but me!
Q. which is the best way to get your man to give you more attention? im feeling really neglected by my needs lately and everytime i tell him how i feel, he seems to run futher from me. He plays rugby, cricket and squash, he has kids, and it just seems ...
A. 8 March 2007: You have a right to demand some of his time.
You should set out clearly what time you want him to give you - dinner together on a Wednesday, etc, - and discuss it with him.
If you are sitting at home now, ignored, imagine what it would be... (read in full...)
I feel so neglected by my partner, he seems to have time for everyone else but me!
Q. which is the best way to get your man to give you more attention? im feeling really neglected by my needs lately and everytime i tell him how i feel, he seems to run futher from me. He plays rugby, cricket and squash, he has kids, and it just seems ...
A. 8 March 2007: Thanks for the extra information. So what you're saying is that you both met in Joburg, when he was away from his family and away from his sporting activities, and when you presumably were able to spend a lot of time together. But when you both ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my relatives I'm gay???
Q. Im 17 years old and up until now i have never really dated a girl. Since i was about 11 or 12 i had tryed things with girls but never thought i could do it myself. My bestfriend now moved to my school and he was gay... i talked to him about my...
A. 7 March 2007: Things sounds like they are going well with you and you sound pretty happy with your new girlfriend.
I would just be open about it. No need to make a momentous occasion "grandad, I'm gay". Just say: "this is my partner X" and move on. Don't w... (read in full...)
Am I a chauvanist??
Q. If i am doing a favour to a woman for the feeling of mercy i get towards her because i think she may be weak in being able to do something that a man can do otherwise, am i being kind or am being chauvinistic? ...
A. 7 March 2007: Helping others is a good thing.
Making others helpless or feel bad is a bad thing.
So, for example, if you always drive the car, and you tell the woman you are doing it for her, because she's a bad driver being a woman, then that would ... (read in full...)
Why do men vanish??
Q. Why are men really into you one minute and then all of a sudden you don't hear a thing from them, they don't call or reply to your text's twice this has happened to me completely out of the blue!...
A. 7 March 2007: I suppose if you go on a date with another guy in the future, you could say, in a really nice casual way, at the end of the date, that you have enjoyed yourself but you are not taking it for granted that he will decide that definitely wants to see ... (read in full...)
I would like to know does anyone know how to trim down the stomach from flabby to firm??
Q. dear people I would like to know does anyone know how to trim down the stomach from flabby to firm?? also can some-one give me any links to site that tell you how to do sit-ups or crunches properly, and i also how long will it take for my stom...
A. 7 March 2007: To have a firm stomach requires two things :
(i) that the muscles are not covered in fat
(ii) that the muscles are nicely toned
You can do the latter with various ab exercises - maybe have a session with a personal trainer to show you a variet... (read in full...)
The thought of 'having a break' and us both getting other partners really upsets me. Any advice?
Q. Dear Cupid I've been with my boyfriend for just under 3 years and I love him very much. He makes me feel so special and we get on so well. I can see myself being with him forever, he works so hard I know he'd look after me and I know he'd be a g...
A. 7 March 2007: I disagree with rhythmandblues.
You have a good relationship and you should be enjoying it, and indeed you were, until your silly friends came along and suggested that there was some grass out there that might be greener.
Enjoy your re... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but I have lost my trust in him!
Q. Hi there, I've been with my current partner for almost 6 months. He has been showing his love and care, but somehow I lost my ability to trust him. I was hurt by my ex bf who cheated on me, but he claimed that because I had always doubt him, and...
A. 7 March 2007: You are worrying so much, that one day he will leave you.
One day he might leave you. One day he might fall out of love with you. One day he might go off with another woman. One day he may be killed by a bus.
Or he might not.
Don't ... (read in full...)
I cant be with him if he smokes!!
Q. My marriage of 10 years broke up due to my ex husband's homosexual affair - his cruelty and utter disregard for myself and our children also caused me to have a breakdown which involved self harm and developing an eating disorder. Oddly though, ...
A. 7 March 2007: I don't think your reaction is that extreme and I shouldn't worry too much about judging it. Your reaction is your reaction, period.
You have decided that you do not want a partner who smokes and that is a perfectly reasonable thing to hold a v... (read in full...)
I feel so neglected by my partner, he seems to have time for everyone else but me!
Q. which is the best way to get your man to give you more attention? im feeling really neglected by my needs lately and everytime i tell him how i feel, he seems to run futher from me. He plays rugby, cricket and squash, he has kids, and it just seems ...
A. 7 March 2007: It is unclear whether he has recently been undertaking more time consuming activities, or whether he always has done so, since you first met him.
If he has always been busy and involved in all of these activities, then when you got together... (read in full...)
I want her to dominate me and spank my butt!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a wonderful relationship with a wonderful woman. we truly enjoy each others company in and out of the bedroom. The problem is, I have this fantasy/fetish that i would like my lover to dominate me! I would love it for her to wh...
A. 7 March 2007: I agree with the others and have just one additional point to make:
What might lose her would be if, when you have finally expressed your desires, if she really really does not want to do it, if you cannot cope with that.
Relationships... (read in full...)
How can I stop looking at too much porn?
Q. Help, i look at porn and i am just 13. i need to stop because it is slowly eating away at me. I know god hates it. Any advice plz....
A. 7 March 2007: If you feel it is "eating away at you" then it is a problem.
Is it because you are spending too much time looking at it, when you should be doing homework or being with friends? If so, you are probably addicted to it. Addictions are often ea... (read in full...)
Why do you think he's ignoring me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this boy in my year but i don't know if he likes me or not. Whenever i am on msn i talk to him but he doesn't reply. I have'nt done anything wrong, well at least i don't think i have. Why do you thik he's ignoring me? than...
A. 7 March 2007: If he likes you, he will find a way to talk to you, and if he is ignoring you and not talking to you, I'm afraid you have your answer.
It's not a matter of you doing anything wrong - people just have different preferences for different people -... (read in full...)
My boss seems infatuated with me but he's married, should I go for it?
Q. Hi, I've been working at a restaurant for about six months and my boss has been flirting with me. To begin with i just thought that it was friendly flirting but last month he gave me a huge bouquet of flowers, everyone starting talking and since ...
A. 7 March 2007: He is guilty of sexual harrassment.
Never go out with a married man, and never go out with your boss.
If you can, I would look for another job and another restaurant, and once you have secured a position, I would go to your boss and let him... (read in full...)
My gf drinks too much and treats me badly! Should I stay or leave?
Q. My girlfriend drinks excessively and then treats me bad. In the year we have been dating she has thrown a plastic cup in my face, came to visit me and left for the whole day to party with her friends b/c she got pissed and then called me crying ...
A. 7 March 2007: She has got issues that she needs to deal with. If you allow the relationship to continue you will allow her to get away without dealing with her issues. If you really love her, you will not take her back.
You should tell her that you cannot h... (read in full...)
I feel like I've lost him and I'm in tears...
Q. hey , I dont think My boyfriend likes me anymore.. At first we couldnt keep our hands of each other but he moved house and he lives next door to lots of girls around the same age as us. One of them the same age as me keeps syaing horrible things ...
A. 7 March 2007: I'm sorry for you. This may be your first really painful loss and it stinks. Sadly, it probably won't be your last either.
As he is being such a thoughtless idiot, if I were you I would aim to retain my dignity as best I can and simply t... (read in full...)
He says his feelings towards me have changed but I would marry him in a heartbeat. Should I stick around and work on things or just go ahead and pull the plug now?
Q. I moved in with my boyfriend about 5 months ago. He used to tell me that he wanted to be with just me and knew he would marry me one day. Since we moved in we have been arguing a lot more and he recently told me that he did not think he could marry ...
A. 7 March 2007: It sounds like there are some problems in the relationship which need addressing. If he does love you, as he says he does, then he must be committed to working on those issues with you. Some couples counselling may help, or at least talking about ... (read in full...)
Can too much masterbation cause impotence??
Q. dear cupid, i am 16-17 i masterbate at least 3-4 times a week or evn more, if you masterbate too many times can it cause impotence?...
A. 5 March 2007: no... (read in full...)
How can I get over the fact that my bf likes breast implants!!?
Q. I'm completely turned off by my boyfriend because he likes Anna Nicole Smith's breast implants! I sent him pictures as a joke because I found them absolutely horrific, and when he wouldn't comment on them I asked him why. He finally told me he can ...
A. 5 March 2007: Hi again - you asked some more questions
You ask: am I picking fights on purpose? Well only you know that, but you have said something pretty interesting in your answer -
you say: " I do like being with him..." well liking being with someo... (read in full...)
Should I tell her to stop contacting me, or should I try to suck it up until I get back into town and see what happens?
Q. My ex (age 23) and I (age 26) had been in a long distance relationship for 3 years, spending about 5 months of every year around each other. She broke it off saying that she was unsure I was the one for her. She says she hasn't ruled out getting ...
A. 5 March 2007: As she has broken it off, you shouldn't be waiting around hoping to get back together, because if she was really interested in doing that, she wouldn't have broken it off.
It sounds like she wants to have her cake and eat it - she wants you to b... (read in full...)
I seem to feel lost all the time, not depressed but lost, anyone any solutions ?
Q. Hey all.. just wanted some views or opinions on this please.. i feel so lost in a world i dont want to be in, its hard to explain..doesnt matter where i am or what i do i feel so alone in a big world.. i have many friends and family that love me and ...
A. 5 March 2007: Try reading "Being Happy" by Andrew Matthews. ... (read in full...)
Why dont girls understand me asking them out??
Q. When something doesn't work with one person, does it mean it won't work anytime with anybody else? For example, i asked a girl out at work saying "do you want to go out with me?" and she said, "i don't understand what you are trying to say, clarify" ...
A. 5 March 2007: You poor thing. Asking a girl "do you want to go out with me" is, (sorry!), what teenagers do. They then say that the girl is "going out with me", i.e. dating, even if they never go on a date any more serious than sitting together in the school ... (read in full...)
Is my mum right?
Q. My mum says if you have sex just after you finished your period you cant get pregnant as its already released the egg, im not sure this is true, does any one know if this is true...
A. 5 March 2007: Your mum is even wrong about when the egg is released - at the end of the period, you start building up more lining for a potential baby, and about a week later the egg is released. It waits about for a bit, and if no sperm show up, at some point ... (read in full...)
If a chick has sex many times, does the feeling feel less satisfying after a while?
Q. OK... If a chick has sex many times (like a hell of a lot of times), does the feeling feel less satifying after a while... i'm thinking it would hey. And is it the same with masturbation? If one does it really often, does it feel less good after ...
A. 5 March 2007: The main thing to understand is that while sex does have a physical basis, it is controlled by the brain.
The brain will determine whether a woman enjoys sex and masterbation.
The brain gets reminded of sex when a woman has sex. So the mor... (read in full...)
I think I might be gay! How can you tell if you're gay? Realm????
Q. ok.I'm confussed. I might be gay, but I'm not sure. I like always hug boys.......like all the time.....and i had feelings for one once. any ideas?...
A. 5 March 2007: I don't entirely agree with rhythmandblues:-
Firstly, not all gay men know when they are young that they are gay.
Secondly, please do not "try" to date some girls unless you find a particular girl that you feel attracted to and want to be w... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly compared to everyone else around me! How do I deal with these fellings?
Q. I don't know why, but I feel so ugly compared to everyone else around me. I don't want to feel like this because it just makes me feel so depressed and my confidence feels so low. I'm not trying to seek attention, I just want to know how I can stop ...
A. 3 March 2007: You poor thing..........
You feel ugly BECAUSE you're depressed and your confidence is low - not the other way round.
What you need to do is to build your confidence and feel happier in your life.
Exercise is a great thing to do -... (read in full...)
How can I get over the fact that my bf likes breast implants!!?
Q. I'm completely turned off by my boyfriend because he likes Anna Nicole Smith's breast implants! I sent him pictures as a joke because I found them absolutely horrific, and when he wouldn't comment on them I asked him why. He finally told me he can ...
A. 3 March 2007: What people like is a matter of taste - if you HATE anchovies and he likes them, does this mean you would lose all respect for him?
So long as he loves you, and finds your body attractive, and doesn't plan on running off to fondle some fake boo... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I get on great.... until she drinks!
Q. HELP!! I have had this girlfriend for about six months now and everything is great except for when she drinks. She will always acuse me of not trusting her and when i try to defend myself and tell her i do trust her she will ask me if I'm breaking ...
A. 3 March 2007: It may be worth you instigating the conversation which tends to arise when she is drinking, at a time when she has not been drinking and can discuss it rationally.
You could ask her why she feels that you don't trust her - what aspect of your ... (read in full...)
I dont remember too much about having sex, even though I was drunk did he take advantage of me ??
Q. One night I went out with my guy friend to hang with him and his stepsister. We ended up drinking a lot. I was drunk after 3 drinks and in a strange state due to the allergy medication I had taken earlier in the day, and he was drunk due to the ...
A. 3 March 2007: I was writing my replying assuming you were a teenager, and now I looked again and saw you were in your late twenties and have rewritten this reply.
You're old enough to know that alcohol can put you in a position of danger, where you don't kn... (read in full...)
My bf's mom and older sister hate me for getting pregnant w/ my guy!! Help!
Q. I am 6 weeks pregnant, and my boyfriend's mom and older sister really hate me. They are angry at my boyfriend for getting me pregnant. ...
A. 3 March 2007: Assuming you just pressed the wrong box, and you are female, your age shows as you being in your twenties:
i.e. you are not a teenage pregnancy, too young to know better.
The feelings of your boyfriend's mother and sister are quite irrelevant... (read in full...)
I am pregnant and due any day now. I dont know who the father is-what can I do?
Q. i am pregnant and due any day now. i dont know who the dad is because i slept with one guy while on my period and then 10 days later i was with my ex-boyfriend. i told my ex it was his and he is so excited and taking responsibility. my ex has dark ...
A. 3 March 2007: I think you should tell you ex- that there is an outside chance that the baby could be the baby of the other guy and that when it is born you should do a DNA test to prove whether it is your ex-'s child or not. I think your ex- would agree.
... (read in full...)
I feel like her spare tire and like I'm losing everything. Please help.
Q. Hi again to all and thanx 4 the answers.Please read the rest of my story and give me some answer.I am really getting crazy about this thing.For those who 'missed'my previous posts it is about a woman I am in love now that was supposed to have a ...
A. 3 March 2007: This woman is damaging to you and she does not care about you.
If I were you, I would stop seeing her immediately, and avoid all situations where you might see her. Do not answer any of her telephone calls and just hang up if you inadvete... (read in full...)
I want to go out with her and I really like her but I can't have my friends finding out! What should I do?
Q. Hi...I like this girl and i know she likes me (that way) and i want to go for it with her...but i dont want the people at school and my friends to know about it....i just cant be dealing with that right now..and i dont want to ask her not to tell ...
A. 3 March 2007: I expect your friends are more concerned about their own problems and issues than to spend a lot of time thinking about YOUR life. You're not the centre of their lives.
Just live the life you want and date the girl you want to date. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to get back with him, I just want to make him jealous!
Q. A few months ago me and my boyfriend split up. Not long after it he gets a new girlfriend, I get so jealous when i see his name pop up on msn with a different name beside it!! Sometimes I think he wants me to get jealous. I want to get him back, ...
A. 3 March 2007: Take his name off your MSN and block him.
Don't do anything at all to make him jealous, just move on. He won't get jealous anyway if you try to do anything, and you'll end up looking undignified. ... (read in full...)
Still sharing a house with my ex-husband and finding it hard to cope with how he treats his new woman compared to how he treated me!
Q. My husband and I have separated but still share the family home for the time being due to financial reasons and the children. We are both seeing new people; he is seeing a very glamorous woman who seems to be the answer to his prayers sexually. We ...
A. 2 March 2007: Old relationships always have so much hurt in them, and you will of course feel bad. Only time heals.
Living with each other is really really unhelpful to healing, however.
Can't he rent a room somewhere else and you get a lodger into his ... (read in full...)
I love sex with my boyfriend but when I straddle him my hips hurt. Any advice would be appreciated.
Q. I finally got to a point where I enjoyed sex "on top". But now whenever I straddle my boyfriend, even when it's not for sex, my hips hurt if I stay there too long. Is there a stretch or something I can do to solve this? I'm only 23. I would ...
A. 2 March 2007: The Hip Adductor machines in the gym would probably help - the ones where you have to push the weights to open your legs.
Alternatively, just try some other positions / change positions frequently - you can be on top without opening your leg... (read in full...)
We broke up but he's still living with me, other women are always calling, what should I do?
Q. well i've been on the relationship with this guy for almost 7 months after 3 months that we met we decided to live together we used get along so good it was too perfect to be real then evrything changed. we broke up almost a month ago but he ...
A. 2 March 2007: I agree with Dr Pete below - although you have the option of asking him to move out.
I don't believe that ex-lovers can live in the same house as each other without a lot of pain. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex left him because she was a lesbian. He is very insecure emotionally, how do I tell him I want to come out of the closet now too???
Q. i am a woman who has been dating a man for a year. for the past 6 months i have been coming to terms with me sexuality, and have recently decided to come out of the closet. before i can do that i need to tell my boyfriend that i am a lesbian. i care ...
A. 2 March 2007: Sexuality is not as black and white as you have described.
As you have been having a relationship with him, it means that you cannot be 100% "lesbian", even if you now feel that you are more "lesbian" than "straight".
Firstly, are ... (read in full...)
If you had the chance to spend one night with Angelina Jolie... would you?
Q. I have a question that I'm dying to ask. I have a notion that almost everyone with eyes and a libido would love to have sex with Angelina Jolie. I know I would!!! Anytime. Any day. Any way. Oh yeah. So, here goes, if you had the chance to spend ...
A. 2 March 2007: No, because I am in a relationship with someone else, and she is also in a relationship with someone else.
However, if we were both single, and found ourselves staying at the same hotel, and it seemed that she was interested in spending the nigh... (read in full...)
Im worried to have him over to mine as my place is no where near as grand as his!!!
Q. I have met a guy I like and we have been out on a few dates. I have been to his place and it is really nice...elegant furniture and appliances. My place is ok but it does not compare and I am stressed out over having him come here.I have a very good ...
A. 2 March 2007: Your question is key: Why am I so fearful to have him over?
Only you know the answer to this - as the other reply says, no doubt he won't mind in the slightest, and you probably know this - so what is your concern REALLY about?
Do you have a... (read in full...)
To I stick it out or up and leave?
Q. Need to know if i must stay or go ??? I have been in a relationship for 12 years at this stage of my life i do not know what my feeling are for my boyfriend, i obviously love him because we practically grew up together, but im not sure im still in...
A. 2 March 2007: It sounds to me like your relationship has run its course.
I must congratulate you on turning your life around, running a business, having goals and aspirations, and embracing life.
Don't you want to add to that a fabulous boyfriend? If y... (read in full...)
My mum and dad argue all the time, should I move out?
Q. dear agony aunts i am currently having trouble at home. i do not know what to do as this is a long story and i will try to make it short. my mum and dad do not get along, because of me and my dad gets angry easily and says stuff to my mum like, ...
A. 2 March 2007: How awful for you.
Your parents are acting totally unacceptably. They should keep their disagreements private. They clearly have some major issues.
It must be very very difficult, but try to keep out of their way, stay in your room at ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't seem to care that she annoys me all the time, should I dump her?
Q. my girlfrend she doesnt care about things that she does that annoy me, and seems to create a set of rules for herself in the relationship that are more flexible than what i can do. recently she has started "seeing" this new guy she met and she ...
A. 2 March 2007: yes... (read in full...)
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