My girlfriend doesn't seem to care that she annoys me all the time, should I dump her?
Q. my girlfrend she doesnt care about things that she does that annoy me, and seems to create a set of rules for herself in the relationship that are more flexible than what i can do. recently she has started "seeing" this new guy she met and she ...
A. 2 March 2007: yes... (read in full...)
My live in boyfriend wants to look at nude females online.
Q. My live in boyfriend wants to look at nude females online. He even prints the ones he likes. The problem is, When he does I get physicaly ill. Actually to the point of vomiting. What can I do to accept him doing this even though I don't approve of ...
A. 2 March 2007: It is rather over the top to be physically sick because of something which your boyfriend does which you don't like.
On the one hand, it is probably appropriate for him to be a little more discreet about this activity.
On the other hand, ... (read in full...)
I feel very guilty for everything but I want to be happy too.
Q. I am 36 years old. I've been married to Bob for 3 years. We've been together for 6 years. We have had problems for awhile. He is 57. We have only had sex 1 time since we've been married. In November I found Mike on my high school alumni website. We ...
A. 2 March 2007: Your only problem seems to be that you had a hard time adjusting to moving 300 miles away.
Well of course you did - moving is a big, stressful thing. But five weeks isn't really giving it very long, is it? Can't you go again and give it longe... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend proposed to me?
Q. has my bf just proposed to me? he told me he's coming to see me in 18 days time and he wants me to have a idea of a engagment ring i want coz he gonna buy which ever one i want. we have been discussing marriage alot and he knows ill say yes....
A. 2 March 2007: It sounds like you have a very healthy relationship - discussing marriage openly and setting forth each of your views. He knows that you want to get married to him, and you know that he wants to get married to you. Congratulations.
The issue of... (read in full...)
My friend went on so much about how good her boyfriend was in bed. Now him and I have a very flirtatious relationship and she's mad!!
Q. My best friend is always boasting about how great her boyfriend is in bed. She is always telling how he is, how strong, how long he can last, the things he does with every body part etc. Now I can’t stop lusting after her boyfriend! I want to sleep ...
A. 2 March 2007: Your friend was wrong to talk so inappropriately about her boyfriend with you, and if, as you suspect, she did it to boast and make you feel bad, what kind of a friend is she? Why are you friends with this person?
Walk away from your friend, ... (read in full...)
Its hard long distance and now shes not making any effort!!!!
Q. Where do I begin. Im a 20 year old male and I've been dating my gf (19) for almost 2 years, we're in a long distance relationship, our relationship is solid when we're together. She goes to a university 4 hours drive from here, and we only get to ...
A. 2 March 2007: I really feel for you.
I'm afraid it sounds like she is giving you a very clear message that it is over. If she wants to contact you, she will.
You could just send her a letter to say that you love her, you don't understand what ... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt know what he wants out of life or what path to take.. do I just sit and wait till he decides!!?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been living together for nearly 2 years now and have been talking, about our future and the possibility of getting married when we're ready. Everything seemed fine at first, but recently he's had an aggressive tone with me ...
A. 2 March 2007: There is little practical difference on a day to day basis between living together unmarried and living together married - so it's strange that he thinks being married will somehow hinder his career.
As there is little practical differen... (read in full...)
Im pregnant and a I'm not turning him on, he knows it will hurt me when we have sex, so instead he masturbates all the time, im now feeling very low!!
Q. My boyfriend likes to masturbate, he says it doesn't have any emotional ties (I'm pregnate I tend to cramp up) he says that he doesn't really get turned on when we have sex because he knows it is just going to hurt me...anyways I have a huge problem ...
A. 2 March 2007: I don't imagine it would hurt you to receive some physical intimacy like a massage or even oral sex? Why don't you ask him to do that?
And I don't imagine it would hurt you to give him manual or oral stimulation either, so why don't you make... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just dumped me as I have a big nose!! Im now scared to date again!!!
Q. my boyfriend just dumped me becase i have a big nose. im scared now to go back out into the world and find another man incase he doesnt like my big nose. what shall i do signed bignose...
A. 2 March 2007: Well your nose didn't suddenly become big after you started dating him, did it? You were dating so the nose cannot be the issue.
He probably just said that because he couldn't face telling you what the real reason is, which, by the way, may... (read in full...)
He says he's confused and doesnt know what he wants anymore, its breaking my heart!!!
Q. My partner and I have been together 11 years and have a 5 year old together,he has been very confusing towards me lately(He was married before and his wife had an affair causing them to split up,i met him 2 years later,There is an age gap but that ...
A. 2 March 2007: To work through this together, you could :-
* See a marriage guidance counsellor together.
* Read Harville Hendrix's Getting the Love you want, and use some of the exercises to share what is important to each of you and to stimulate conver... (read in full...)
I suffer with BO and afraid that some deodarants cause cancer... Any advice how else to smell nice all the time ??
Q. Hi guys i just wanted to know what skin care or hair care i can use to smell nice all the time. I like to keep clean and groomed, but the only problem is i sweat a lot in my underarms so i have to use deos a lot. But now i have also heard that deos ...
A. 2 March 2007: 1. Cancer concern
I think the concern re cancer is not about deodorant but anti-perspirant - deodorant just adds smell, anti-perspirant blocks your pores so you can't perspire.
The thought is that if it blocks pores under your arms, then ... (read in full...)
She's only using him so should I let the new guy know shes dating know exactly whats shes like ??
Q. Hi, I hope you would be able help me with this, I separated from the partner of two years, never had a chance to talk things over proper, as she never gave me chance. I thought we had something special between us, but soon I realize how wron...
A. 2 March 2007: Do you think I should try to talk to her, even though she is avoiding me? A: No, she has moved on and you don't think much of her anyway, just move on.
Do you think I should let this new guy know what sort of person she is? A: No, it's non... (read in full...)
His sex drive is really high, mine is really low! How can I raise my game?
Q. Help! my boyfriends sex drive is really high and mine is really low. its not like i find him unattractive or i don't enjoy the sex, i just don't feel like doing anything in the first place. has anyone any tips on how to raise my sex drive? ...
A. 2 March 2007: If you enjoy the sex once it is happening, then at least you know if you make an effort, you will enjoy it.
It's a bit like going to the gym - you enjoy it when you get there, but you don't feel like going. As you may know, the way to make you... (read in full...)
How do I know if my hymen is broken??
Q. Heya, Im 12 and have already had periods. I started in year 7 and im perfectly used to them. But sometimes, my period comes when im planning to go swimming..im fine with the idea of tampons..but i dont think my hymen is broken!! Im scared that if ...
A. 2 March 2007: Tampons should be fine for you to use, whatever the status of your hymen, and you are not going to break anything with a tampon or hurt yourself.
Buy some tampons in the smallest size, slender or mini, and read the instructions very carefull... (read in full...)
Does being fingered mean you're not a virgin anymore?
Q. Being fingured numerous times, does that mean a virginty has been taken?...
A. 2 March 2007: It depends upon how and why you want to define "virginity".
It certainly means that you are not completely innocent in the sexual activities department.
It also means that you have not actually had sexual intercourse, and for most people, whe... (read in full...)
I've decided to leave my husband... but how do I find the strength to actually do it?
Q. I have decided in my mind that I need to leave my husband. I am seeing a psychologist that feels this would be the best thing for me as well, being that my heart and love is not with him. The problem is I am scared, and worried about him. I told ...
A. 2 March 2007: Well it does sound like you are sure, like it has just gone on for too long, and that you don't have feelings for him anymore. One thing to think about when you have another relationship is speaking up earlier to express your needs, not expecting ... (read in full...)
I don't think I have a clitoris (or if I do, it's in the wrong place!)
Q. I'm a 19 y/o female and a virgin. My new boyfriend is as well. we were both a little naive about sex and started doing some research. I've discovered something strange and unerving. I don't think i have a clitorus, and if i do it's on the wrong ...
A. 2 March 2007: It seems extremely unlikely.
Are you sure you know what you're looking for and where to look? Have a look at http://www.the-clitoris.com/f_html/qa_1/qa1_4.htm
Have you used a mirror to look for it?
Do you masterbate / have sexual... (read in full...)
How do you make out with someone?
Q. How do you make out with someone? I have a new boyfriend and i want to get off with him, but where in his mouth do i put my tongue and does it matter if im on my period, when i have sex? Please help. xx...
A. 1 March 2007: If you've not kissed a boy yet (we used to call it French Kissing when I was growing up) then you are NOT READY for sex, and questions about sex during periods are premature.
I kissed a boy "properly" for the first time when I was 13 and had ... (read in full...)
My bf live so far away. I am upset, what can we do?
Q. Dear cupid, I am upset all the time because me and my boyfriend live so far away. We are going to see each other easter and we was thinking about having sex for the first time. I dont know what to do....
A. 1 March 2007: You're only a teenager - did your boyfriend's parents move away? Or has your relationship always been long distance?
If the latter, then it sounds like the relationship is not making you happy - crying all the time at your age is not good - y... (read in full...)
What is the best way to remove unwanted hair?
Q. this is kinda weird but im eighteen and me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months and its a joint decision of ours to take our relationship to the next level. but i want everything to be perfect and wanna know what is the best way to ...
A. 1 March 2007: You don't need to remove hair to make sex perfect. Leave it on. You're used to it and you'll feel weird and very exposed without it.
Anyway, women look fabulous with the normal pubic hair that grows there and the fashion for shaving it off i... (read in full...)
Why at the age of 40 am I behaving like a lovesick teen?
Q. Why am I obsessing over a guy with whom I know a relationship would never work? Rick and I have been friends for many years, we are both part of a large group of friends who regularly meet up for nights out. Around 4 years ago I was dropping a b...
A. 1 March 2007: I agree too. Being great friends, hanging out together, and kissing and cuddling IS A RELATIONSHIP.
It's just maybe not been said, it's maybe not aimed at marriage, it doesn't involve sex, and so on.
You guys are not young, so talk about it... (read in full...)
Why was I so emotional about the whole thing?
Q. helloooo im 16 and me and my bf have been together for 2 months now. we are both leaving school this year to go to college. we were discussing what colleges we are both going to and we found that we are going to different ones! :( for some reaso...
A. 1 March 2007: Don't worry about it.
Who knows why? Maybe you've got PMS. Maybe you're just scared about the relationship and how it's going. Maybe you're scared about going to college. Maybe loads of other things that you can deal with when you're older an... (read in full...)
Why do I keep looking for ways to spice up sex with others?
Q. I get so bored of sex with one person so fast. After a year of a relationship, I either get with someone else or, if I stay, I constantly look for things to spice it up.I'm quite insecure so most of them are bad ideas but I need them to keep me ...
A. 1 March 2007: Totally agree with AskEve.
Sometimes women have sex with men because it makes them feel desired - they don't care who the man is as long as it is a new man regularly, they just have the need for being desired, because they feel unworthy and unlo... (read in full...)
Erm... I hoovered up my sister's hamster by mistake!!!! Do I get her another one without saying or do I come clean?
Q. ok now this may sound funny to some people (my friends have found it hilarious!!) but i feel so guilty! My sister turned 11 the other day and for her birthday my parents bought her a little hamster which she called Splodge (dont ask me why). ...
A. 1 March 2007: Depends how good you are at lying and how upset your sister will be.
You could pretend to know nothing about where the hamster went, and suggest he ran away?
You could tell the truth and offer to buy a new one.
How on earth did you ... (read in full...)
I get a nasty rash everytime I shave my pubic area! Help!
Q. Everytime I shave my pubic area I come out in a rash that looks really horrible. I don't want to wax, I want to shave but is there anything I can do that will stop me coming out in a rash? Such as a cream or a certain razor? Only whenever I go on ...
A. 1 March 2007: Don't shave! You'll look fabulous, the way nature intended! Much more sexy that way. Who wants to look like a little girl down there?... (read in full...)
What can I get my boyfriend for his 16th birthday?
Q. I've use this site for lots advice with love situations and queries so i may aswell ask my favourite people who give me the best advice. Im 16 and its my boyfriends birthday on the 4th of march and i dnt have a clue what to get him..plus hes really ...
A. 1 March 2007: Why don't you ask him what he wants?... (read in full...)
How can I last longer than 30 seconds before I orgasm?
Q. is there any way to make you last longer before an orgasm? cause when my guy goes down on me and i last like 30 seconds, its a little embarrassing ya know, any advice would be great!...
A. 1 March 2007: That's fabulous! You should enjoy it, dear.
Have a little rest if you need one, often just a minute will do, and then start again with some other activity!
Unlike men, we don't require reloading - the second orgasm is usually better a... (read in full...)
We're going to have sex, how can I keep my boyfriend calm?
Q. me and my bf have been talking about having sex he is a virgin and i am not we planned to either do it when we go away for a weekend in may is we both feel comfortable or in july after my prom. i and very nervous as i want to make it special for ...
A. 1 March 2007: If you have been tested for STDs and he is a virgin and you are on the pill, then I think you'd be okay without a condom.
The best thing you can do is to avoid making it into a really big thing - the fact that you have two dates in your mind sug... (read in full...)
We're going to have sex, how can I keep my boyfriend calm?
Q. me and my bf have been talking about having sex he is a virgin and i am not we planned to either do it when we go away for a weekend in may is we both feel comfortable or in july after my prom. i and very nervous as i want to make it special for ...
A. 1 March 2007: If you have been tested for STDs and he is a virgin and you are on the pill, then I think you'd be okay without a condom.
The best thing you can do is to avoid making it into a really big thing - the fact that you have two dates in your mind sug... (read in full...)
I am Christian and am having feelings for this other man. I keep calling myself a bitch and a whore for feeling this way. How can I stop these feelings?
Q. I've been married to my husband for about 10 months and together with him for about 5 years. I'm a housewife, he is a great guy. He is a faithful, loving and caring person. He works hard for me. We are both Christians. As a Christian, I know that it ...
A. 1 March 2007: You have not actually done anything wrong, so hating yourself and calling yourself a bitch and a whore is making you feel bad and is actually not helpful to the situation. Stop it. Instead, try consoling yourself with things like: there there, it's ... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity? Am I bi-sexual? I'm so confused!
Q. Should I lose my Virginity? Am I Bisexual? I don’t know what I want. My whole life I have found it difficult to socialize. I don’t mix well with new people, and would prefer being home alone than being at a party. This has created an empt...
A. 1 March 2007: You say that for the last 3 years you have been attracted to guys. You also are attracted to a particular guy. You do not say that you have been attracted to any girls - instead, you feel you should probably have a girlfriend or lose your ... (read in full...)
I am gay and love my partner very much, he wants to come out the closet but is worried as his mother would tell him to pack his bags.
Q. I am a gay guy (23) and I am in a relationship with the most perfect guy (22) I am just worried about him because I know he hurts. See I am out to my parents and everyone is very happy for us. But he is not out to his parents yet. He does want to ...
A. 1 March 2007: Your friend doesn't have a problem - his mother has a problem.
He should tell her - the worst thing that can happen is that she carries out her threat, asks him to leave and never speaks to him again. But he would survive just fine, from a p... (read in full...)
I'm a gay woman. How do I meet other straight-acting-gay-chicks?
Q. I am a woman who primarily enjoys the company of women (e.g., I'm gay). However, I often find that I am not typically attracted to "gay" women. Usually, I am always into women who identify as "straight" or who have "bi-tendencies." It's difficult to ...
A. 1 March 2007: Join a lesbian social group which does not revolve around drinking or bars, like rambling, dancing (country and western, or ballroom dancing), or a book group, or a running or other sports group. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone think its possible to fall for someone they've never met?
Q. Does anyone think its possible to fall for someone they've never met? I've read a lot about this man on his profiles and other things and head alot about him and although I don't love him, I think about him constantly and just wondered what people ...
A. 1 March 2007: You can fall for someone you've never met - but in your case, you've just read his profiles.
What you have fallen for is your own imaginary person - very easy to fall for such a perfect ideal!!!!
... (read in full...)
Am I with the right person?
Q. I'm 14 and I'm in a relationship with someone a bit older than me. I love him very much and would be lost without him, but I can't help but feel really nervous and a bit awkward around him. I don't know what to do about it. Has anyone got any ...
A. 1 March 2007: As you are so young, the chance of this person being your soulmate for life is small. So it is worrying if you feel you would be lost without him - you wouldn't, you'd be just fine.
So it sounds like you should spend a bit of time by yourself... (read in full...)
How do people really get over someone they have loved in the past?
Q. I'm 24 and dating my bf for almost 2 yrs now. We get along really well and I know we are a good match. He is also my first boyfriend ever. On the other hand, my boyfriend (25) has been through a divorce but had only slept with his ex-wife. My ...
A. 1 March 2007: People usually get over previous relationships by learning what went wrong with them, and seeking to avoid making the same mistakes again.
However, there are always good aspects to previous relationships and he will want to do those good thi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend text me after coming back from 2 weeks abroad saying he was dying to see me again. 5 days have now passed and I haven't heard anything from him
Q. Hi There, I like a guy and I thought this guy liked me. I am 26, he is 24. Things were going quite well and we were seeing each other a couple of times a week he text me quite a lot in between too. He went away recently to see family for ...
A. 1 March 2007: Something like this happened to me once - I had just starting dating this girl and she went away for 5 days, and called me the first 3 days saying how much she was missing me.
Then nothing.
Then, on the date she returned, did not call. ... (read in full...)
Would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female.
Q. open question would you kiss a girl or man who does oral sex in her/his past? a question for male and female....
A. 1 March 2007: I wouldn't want to go out with someone that had not had oral sex in their past (as it would probably indicate that they didn't like it) and I only kiss people I go out with, ergo, I would not kiss someone who had not had oral sex. ... (read in full...)
I've really been trying to spice up our sex life, but my husband thinks we're "too old"!
Q. Ive been married now for about, going on 7 years now and our love life, I have to say, sucks! I was wondering if there is anything I can do to spice things up a bit? My husband is a pretty modern, or simple man and can be a little boring when it ...
A. 4 June 2006: Whilst the symptoms of the problem are that you are not having much sex, it is unclear what the cause it - your husband says he worries about everything all the time.
What is he worrying about? Why is he worrying about it? What is he planning... (read in full...)
My sisters half my age and pregnant
Q. hi i am lou age 26 and my little sister age 13 is very out going and she is settled with her boyfriend as she says. the other day i was looking after her while her mum was out and i went in her room to ask her what she wanted for her tea and she was ...
A. 4 June 2006: You are 26 and your little sister is only 13, a child. Take her aside and say "what was that you hid when I went into your room". If she doesn't answer say "was it a pregnancy test, because that's what it looked like". Her face should give away ... (read in full...)
My friend is dancing with death
Q. I need some advice about my friend, as I'm worried about her. She's 19 years old and a lot more immature and naive than me. She gets easily taken advantage of by men that want to use her and I'm worried she's going to end up pregnant or even worse, ...
A. 4 June 2006: Well you can talk to her about it or buy her a book or something - maybe go with her to the doctor to get the pill at least, if she is too shy to tell a bloke to wear a condom, maybe buy her some condomns to keep about her person.
At the end ... (read in full...)
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