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| | cd206's profile:Hi, my name is Cat and I'm 22 years old. I live in various cities in the UK since the city where I study and where my family live are different. I'm currently just out of a relationship and enjoying the single life for a while. I don't know that I am qualified to help people but I'd like to try. I've had a lot of experiences in my life and despite being quite young I'm always helping my friends with their problems. I'd like the chance to help all of you too. Feel free to private message me anytime.If you do however, please include some details of your problem as I answer a lot here and can't always remember specific problems. With big hugs, Cat xx |
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I found my brother and my best mate kissing...am I over reacting??
Q. this may sound stupid but its really bothering me, my siblings and i have always been protective of each other. my elder brother has been abroad for seven years he came back 2weeks ago. recently at some family party i found him and my best friend ...
A. 23 June 2008: Yes you're overreacting but it's natural. Your best friend and your brother are probably among the most important people in your life right now, probably your sole support network. Them getting together inevitably changes the dynamic and you have to ... (read in full...)
He's breaking up with me so...is it okay to still have sex with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to break up on a mutual decision even though I dont want to but he doesn't want the pressure of having a girlfriend. We still love each other more than anything in the world though. Is is alright if we still have sex? ...
A. 17 June 2008: First off is it really a mutual decision if you don't want it to happen? My guess is that you're being what he wants you to be in the hope that he'll change his mind. I think you're probably considering continuing to have sex with him for the same ... (read in full...)
I want to take our relationship to the next level, but I don't want to ruin it by being too intimate too soon
Q. I've recently started dating a new guy that I'm really into. We've only known eachother about 2 weeks, but I haven't been this excited about a guy since my first crush. I can tell that we're both very attracted to each other (physically, ...
A. 15 June 2008: You've got a really sensible attitude about this so well done for that.
There is no right or wrong answer as to how soon you should have sex. Some couples are ready on their first date, others take a bit longer. It's important to just go with the... (read in full...)
Advice on clamidia, please.
Q. I split up with my partner about 6 months ago and we have started meeting up again and having sex. he found out that he had clamidia, so we both got antibiotics for it. however we had sex whilst still on the antibiotics with a condom and it split 2 ...
A. 15 June 2008: Speak to your local pharmacist. Different antibiotics act in different ways. Some start working within 24 hours, others need a full week to work, so you'll need to take further advice from a pharmacist or GUM doctor.
Cat... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my size. Is it still puppy fat?
Q. Hi there, this is more of a health question. I am 12 years old and 13 next year, and I am worried about my size (*hears all the people reading this sigh because this is written at least 50 times a week*) I know i am not fat, but i also know that i...
A. 15 June 2008: At 12 you still have a lot of growing to do. What used to happen with me was that I would pile on the weight and then grow a couple of inches then pile on a bit more and grow a bit more. By the time I was fourteen I stopped growing and I was a ... (read in full...)
Now he's in a relationship and I'm so confused!
Q. Ok, my situation is fairly complicated so please try to read it all and understand it. Well, me and this lad have been friends for about 18 months now and we get on really, really well. He used to text me every single day, sometimes until the early ...
A. 3 June 2008: My inkling is that it was down to one of two things... either that you spent too much time talking and not enough time doing or tht he realised your age difference would be a problem. Wen you say stuff I assume we're talking sex. Maybe he wised up ... (read in full...)
It feels like he's cheated on me and the baby we lost. Is this relationship worth saving?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have just got back together after we broke up for about a year after i lost our baby, which really ripped us apart. We tried to stay together but we just couldn't. My mum even paid for us to go to spain for 2 weeks to try save ...
A. 23 May 2008: Sometimes, when something as tragic as the death of a child happens, the last person you can talk to about it is the very person you should be talking to. Should your boyfriend have gone running off to another girl to talk about the loss of your ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant the day you finish your period?
Q. can you get pregnant the day you come off your period.?...
A. 19 May 2008: You can get pregnant on every single day of your cycle although it's more likely some days than others. The last day of your period is unlikely but not impossible.... (read in full...)
Am I gay?
Q. can somebody help me please? im a lad and i think im turning gay because my girlfriend doesnt turn me on. but my friend (boy)when i see him i want to rip his clothes of i am always having sexual dreams and thought about him can somebody give me ...
A. 17 May 2008: Don't struggle to define yourself as straight or gay. You might be either one and at fifteen it's natural to be confused. Just be a person for a little while and try not to pigeonhole yourself as one or the other. It doesn't matter whether you're ... (read in full...)
How to tell the people I babysit for how I feel?
Q. I babysit for a little boy for really nice people. I love the kid, and my family has known this family for years. My sisters babysat him from when he was a baby until he was 3 or 4 years old. The problem is his parents always call me last minute, ...
A. 17 May 2008: I don't think talking to the parents is a good move. There are plenty of people who would just put up with a list of complaints like that. That's the problem with being a babysitter, there are always plenty of people to take the gig away from you if ... (read in full...)
Tiredness is ruining my life, please help.
Q. Hello, My question is about being tired. I am 19 and for as long as i can remember i have been tired. And i dont just mean a little bit, i am ALWAYS tired and it seriously affects my life. Half the time i dont have the energy to go out with my f...
A. 17 May 2008: Persist with the blood tests. I am quite seriously anaemic and a normal red blood cell ferritin count is anything between 20 and 60. I had three tests that put my ferritin level around 40 and then the last one I had put it at 2.... I think there is ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have sex with him and I don't know what to say!
Q. I recently just turned 16 and I really like this boy in my year. He is not the nicest looking but he is very nice to me and always complimenting me. I have liked him for a while and now he has asked me to have sex with him. I don't know what to say ...
A. 14 May 2008: My gut instinct is that you shouldn't. If this guy likes you why not get into a relationship and build up some mutual trust and respect befroe taking the plunge. You're so young and believe me, you have your whole life to have sex. It's always an ... (read in full...)
I blew him off due to family commitments and now I haven't heard from him. What shall I do?
Q. I exchanged numbers with a guy at a party, and then we spoke over the phone everyday for about a week, making plans to meet up. He asked a few times to meet although I blew him off due to family commitments and now I have'nt heard off him. What ...
A. 9 May 2008: My hunch is that you made it seem like too much effort by refusing every time he tried to make plans. I think you can still save it. Maybe ask him out somewhere. He might play hard to get for a while but if he really likes you he'll come round ... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell my parents right away about our marriage plans?
Q. My boyfreind whats to marry me, he wants to have a long engagment. Im totaly up for it and we are perfect with eachother I just wondering I dont have to tell my parents straight away do i? ...
A. 9 May 2008: I'm not sure the question here is do you have to but why don't you want you? Are you worried they will disapprove of your choice or your decision? Is there any chance they could find out from someone else if you don't tell them? Do you just not want ... (read in full...)
Constant stomach pain, Could it be serious?
Q. Hi! I'm concerned about a stomach pain i've had for about 3 weeks! It's similar to period pain but not as low down, and the pain started as 'the time of the month' was approaching. Anyway they finished over a week ago and still... i'm havin ...
A. 26 April 2008: Does it feel like period pain exactly? My friend had this and it turned out to be an ovarian cyst which is not usually serious and can be treated using medicine or keyhole surgery. The best thing would be to speak to your doctor. While it's unlikely ... (read in full...)
I want to go abroad and teach for a short period, has anyone done this or know how I go about it?
Q. Bit of a break from relationship worries... I want to go abroad and teach - one of those trips where you go to China or Argentinia and teach English. I don't want to have to pay for the trip - I will go as a volunteer, but a friend said you...
A. 26 April 2008: I did this although I only went as far as Spain. The British Council is an established company that can match you up with a placement. They will pay you to teach abroad. This varies from country to country but is more than enough to live on. You do ... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend keep naked photos on his phone of a girl he possibly cheated on me with? Did I do well in secretly deleting them?
Q. Hi, Ive got a bit of a worry on my hands. Ive now been with my boyfriend for 9 months, after the first few months, or during i should say, he was very on/off with me and he hurt me a lot as he never really made any time for me during the week, but ...
A. 21 April 2008: I guess that the problem is deleting the pics means he doesn't have them anymore but now they're etched onto your memory.
What is comes down to is something very simple. Do you trust this guy to be faithful to you from now on? It's an importan... (read in full...)
Is it harmful to swallow a man's discharge?
Q. can we swalow man's discharge. does it harm?...
A. 12 April 2008: No, on the contrary it is full of so much protein it's actually very good for you.
CD... (read in full...)
My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?
Q. hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...
A. 3 April 2008: I don't know why your mum has double standards about you dating a 17yr old and your sister doing it but I think you could cause a lot (maybe too much) trouble by telling your mum about your sister. Maybe try using the experience of your years to ... (read in full...)
Why would he say he loves me and not call me for about a week?
Q. I called one of my guy friends and we spoke on the phone for 1 or 2 hours and after the conversation he call's me and not say anything and hangs up he kept doing that 4 times. He did it for the 5th time and not say a word so I decided not to hang up ...
A. 29 March 2008: Because he's embarassed. He laid his heart on the line and you as good as rejected him. He's probably feeling embarassed and sad you told him he was wrong and doesn't know what to say to you. If your response to him was shock and you do actually ... (read in full...)
Am I being used or does he really like me??
Q. well am 16 and recently guys have started noticing me. I've had 4 boyfriends in the last 6 months or so but theres always been one thats special to me..hes 17 and has a kid but the problem is am still a virgin..we've messed around alot and since we ...
A. 29 March 2008: I think your gut feeling about this guy and your fear he's messing you about are probably right here but who am I to say? I don't know the guy. What I would say (and this is very generalised) is that a guy who already has a kid at 17 could be ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him anyway or should I just keep him as my gay best friend?
Q. Okay I fancy my best friend for ages...but the other day he confided in me that he was gay. And now I dont know what to do, should I tell him I like him anyway or should I just keep him as my gay best friend?...
A. 26 March 2008: I don't really know what telling him would achieve except to make your friendship awkward. Keep him as a friend. Gay men are much better than straight men as friends, trust me on that one.
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I'm ready to have sex but he wants to wait until he's older! What should I do?
Q. Hey, me and my BF have nown each other for about 1 year and 1 month we have been going out for about 6 months and we love each other sooo much... now just to get to the ponit i've felt ready with him for about 2 months and he's only just f...
A. 26 March 2008: You don't really have a choice as to what you should do. If one person is not ready the other person has to wait til they are. Girls are more mature than boys and are often ready for this kind of thing a bit sooner. Why not spend some time learning ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend see her BF is not worth it? I don't want to see her get hurt.
Q. my best friend has been with her boyfriend for 1 year and they have been through quite a lot of emotional stuff which was very serious. my friend's parents don't really let her have her independence and are not keen on her boyfriend. he doesn't make...
A. 26 March 2008: I think if you get too involved in her relationship she will start to blame you for the things that go wrong even though they would be nothing to do with you. The only thing we can do when our friends are in destruction mode is to be there for them ... (read in full...)
I've been emotionally cheated on, is it possible to move on?
Q. Anyone out there ever been emotionally cheated on? Is it possible to move on. I work with my husband and the girl and have to see them on a regular basis. I found out he had been secretly flirting with her, and they even had a secret handshake. He ...
A. 22 March 2008: Yes. Ask yourself if you can honestly say there is no other guy in your life that you occassionally innocently flirt with, because to me, it doesn't sound like your guy has done anything wrong here. Flirting is different to out and out cheating and ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks I should ask him out but I'm too fat and ugly for him to ever like me. What should I do?
Q. hi this is quite long sorry well i am 12 and in year 7 at school and there is this boy in my tutor we talk and laugh together and i really fancy him and want to go out with him, but i am to fat and ugly that he will never go out with me also my ...
A. 21 March 2008: What's worse? Looking like an idiot or continuing to feel hopeless? Little tip for you... and I swear, it's something that I only recently mastered and definitely couldn't do at 12.... when you ask a guy out believe he is going to say yes because if ... (read in full...)
My father is an alcoholic. How do I get him to stop?
Q. im 16 years old im pregnant and my dad is an alcoholic. I want him to stop coz he is tearing the family apart and he keaps promising but ends up breaking them. What can i do please help. ...
A. 4 March 2008: You can't stop him drinking. I don't know if you've ever had an addiction but breaking it is incredibly difficult and sometimes, even when u want to stop its not tht easy. What u can do is ask ur dad to get help off AA or a similar organisation. For ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem? He says men don't masturbate about the woman they love??...
A. 19 February 2008: I don't think its a problem. Masturbation is about fantasy and your current partner is about reality. Sometimes these two can mix but usually it's best to keep them secret. I wouldn't worry about this in the least bit as long as he's still having a ... (read in full...)
Any ideas how I can help her stop doubting herself??
Q. hi, my girlfriend really wants to be a model, and i think she could do it, and oeveryone in my school tinks she does to, some people thought she already was. So we were goign to go to london and go to some agencies, but she keeps doubting herself,...
A. 18 February 2008: Modelling is not a career for someone with any self confidence issues. If she is in any doubt about how good she is then she's not ready for this career yet. Concentrate on making sure she knows how beautiful she is and that she eats sensibly and ... (read in full...)
I gave him the green light to touch me, but he didnt. Whats wrong?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month. He's very affectionate and likes to hold me, cuddle me and caress me. We've not slept together yet but I've slept in his bed with him and the other night we were both really turned on. I had ...
A. 16 February 2008: Do you know how experienced he is? Maybe, when it comes down to it, he has no idea wht to do when given the permission to go there. As a one off I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just see what happens next. Also, there's nothing wrong with putting ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and had the first love come back to you after you initiated break up not knowing what you had?
Q. Hi. I'm just curious on this one. My first love and I had a basicallly perfect relationship, but I broke it off not knowing what I had. He soon rebounded and has been with her ever since (almost 3 years.) Odds are they will be marrying soon, but ...
A. 14 February 2008: I am in a nearly identical situation except he broke it off with me and is the one who is flirting dangerously with me now whilst engaged to someone else. When he flirts he makes me feel so alive in a way I never have since we broke up but I know ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my boyfriend thousands of miles away. But it is a big step. What should I do?
Q. I am in a really difficult situation and don't know what to do next or how to handle it. I am 35 and have seen a guy for a year now but only friends know as my family relationships (parents and sister) have been very up and down and I have grown ...
A. 3 February 2008: My personal feelings is that it's a very big step to take to emigrate to be with someone. It'll probably work out if you're meant to be but it will be hard because for the longest time you'll only have each other and itll take a while for you to ... (read in full...)
Can I go on and off the Pill, and still be safe?
Q. Ok, I have a problem!! I am in a long distances relationship. and I only get 2 see him like every 2 or 3 weeks maybe longer! We don't have sex every time we see each other, but most of the time we do! We use condoms EVERY TIME! But, I wanna go on ...
A. 30 January 2008: No you can't. If you don't take the pill regularly it won't work and the first time you take it, it can take up to a month to start working properly.
The pill is amazing in lots of different ways but it can also have side effects that are differen... (read in full...)
First love...Does it ever end?
Q. Hi, I want to know if your feelings ever truely fade for your first love or do we hold those feelings for the rest of our lives!! I know the saying that you never forget your first love! My situation is that, I went out with a boy when I was 16...
A. 30 January 2008: No, I don't think we ever truly get over our first love. The first person to love you makes you feel so special and powerful and if you happen to love them back then you're twice blessed. Because it's the first time for you feeling those emotions ... (read in full...)
Went on vacation, met a guy, had sex,like him alot,we email, should I pursue this?
Q. I went abroad on a mini-vacation for a few days and met a guy. We clicked, but I was afraid to develop feelings for him, so I started to act aloof. That made him act the same way. I think he couldn't really understand the sudden change in my ...
A. 30 January 2008: Im not saying that holiday romances never work out, just that its suddenly a lot different when you're suddenly thrown back into real life... ie you don't have 24 hours a day to spend with someone, you have to factor in the real life issues of jobs ... (read in full...)
We both are too shy to become more physical. Please help.
Q. hello my gf and i have been going out for six months now...we both want to hug and kiss and have physical contact but we r both to shy any advice on this. ive been looking at other questions like this but they dont have the answers i ...
A. 29 January 2008: Trust me, the hardest part of any first relationship is stretching your arm out and putting it round her. U could do it the way dorky guys do it in the movies or you could just go for it. She's your girlfriend and I bet she wants the contact too. ... (read in full...)
An on line test said I have severe depression. What can I do?
Q. hi i took one of those tests online to say whether i had depression or not. i have been feeling really bad for about 2 years or so. it suddenly got really bad. the test online, which came from a very reliable online doctors site, said i had majo...
A. 29 January 2008: My experience of these diagnose yourself websites is that you have a pretty good idea of what you think is wrong with you before you enter your first answer. This isn't me saying you want to be depressed but I wouldn't be surprised if you want ... (read in full...)
Am I jealous of my friend?
Q. well i was wondering if im jealous of my friend? you see me and her have the same classes together last year and this year.shes a alright looking i think.anyways this year a lot of boys like her.i dont know why? but she have big boobs.i mean lar...
A. 28 January 2008: I wouldn't term it as jealousy, that seems a bit extreme. Maybe wistfulness, meaning you wish you had what she did... but really I think it's the guy thing you're jealous about more than her boobs. It's common at all ages to have friends who get ... (read in full...)
Whats going on through his head?
Q. Hey i have to talk to someone or im either going to cry or scream or do something stupid. Argh so here goes. First off Im going to tell u the story of how 4 and a half months of my life get flushed down the toilet in a single weekend, my ...
A. 28 January 2008: Regarding your follow up. Please stop trying to work out what you did wrong because you haven't done anything. It's all too easy when we get dumped to blame ourselves but we shouldn't. Perhaps you did do something to make him end the relationship ... (read in full...)
Shocked and hurt that he suggested, I clear off my huge debt!
Q. I have been with my partner for a year and just recently we bought a home together. I came to the relationship with £7000 debt on my credit card and he agreed that this should go on our mortgage as the interest rate was cheaper. We were talking abou ...
A. 27 January 2008: Let me ask you this.... when you added the debt to your mortgage did you feel this huge release of pressure from the debt first and then an urge to spend spend spend soon after. I guess tht while we all have small debts, £7000 is pretty extreme. Now ... (read in full...)
Whats going on through his head?
Q. Hey i have to talk to someone or im either going to cry or scream or do something stupid. Argh so here goes. First off Im going to tell u the story of how 4 and a half months of my life get flushed down the toilet in a single weekend, my ...
A. 27 January 2008: No... don't you dare think it's you. This is all him being too gutless to talk to you and that's not on. Demand an explanation. Don't be softly softly about it. You deserve to know what suddenly changed even if it doesn't lead to you getting back ... (read in full...)
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