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I don't believe in God or the bible (at all) and my family disapproves... sometimes I feel like pretending!
Q. Hello Everyone, My problem is a rather delicate one. I come from a family that is generally very close and we love eachother very much. My problem is that I do not believe in their God(they are Jahovas Witness). In fact I do not believe in any f...
A. 7 June 2007: I think it's great to have belief and principles. It's just that when it's about something as controversial as religion it's sometimes better to keep quiet than hurt people for whom religion is a huge part of their lives. I'm not an expert on ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years refuses to attend an important event with me. I have been there for him, in the past...shouldn't he do the same for me?
Q. My boyfriend of almost three years refuses to attend a wedding in my hometown with me. His excuse is that he doesn't want to spend his weekend with a bunch of people he doesn't know. This, to me, spells trouble. The wedding is of my oldest friend ...
A. 7 June 2007: Technically he should but he by no means has to. I would say it's fair that he should do it for you if you've done all the things you say you've done for him. However, before breaking up with him try using your feminine wiles to get him to go with ... (read in full...)
Should I contact this old friend from my childhood or do you think he'll reject me again?
Q. hi, i have recently found this guy that i really liked from when i was about 7 and we sort of grew up together, i was always quite shy and he knew i liked him when we were about thirteen but said that he only liked me as a friend. i am now twenty ...
A. 6 June 2007: You say you've grown up a lot. That means you've quite likely changed too. As has he. Maybe you'll get in touch and realise you don't like the grown up him, or maybe he'll realise he likes the grown up you. What I would say is that if you choose to ... (read in full...)
Am I silly for liking a guy who is older than me?
Q. i don't if i am being silly for liking a guy who is older than me? here it is there is a guy at work he is 22, i thought he was good looking since the day i meant him we talked sometimes as i work in a canteen (the workers do 12 hour shifts and ...
A. 6 June 2007: You're not silly at all. I remember being 16 and feeling that guys my own age were so immature and wishing an older guy would pay attention to me. Thing is though, it can be tricky in terms of other people accepting the relationship and the legal ... (read in full...)
Can intercourse bring on breakthrough bleeding when on the pill?
Q. Can intercourse bring on breakthrough bleeding when on the pill? The last time I had sex with my boyfriend, I bled. I had just started on a birth control pill, and I was wondering if it was breakthrough bleeding that was brought on by ...
A. 6 June 2007: If it wasn't rough sex it was probably just the hormonal effects of a new pill. Some of them can cause you to bleed non stop for a month before your cycle settles down, others cause random days of spotting or full on bleeding. Some don't affect you ... (read in full...)
I'm very close to my guy friend, but now he's got a gf! I feel as though I've been replaced!!
Q. Hey, well I've been really close with this guy for 3 years now. I can't ever get to like anyone else that much cause it's him I like. We are still close, but i dont see him that much as he lives a few hours drive away. Now he's got a GF and thin...
A. 6 June 2007: Unfortunately things change whether you want them to or not. And change isn't negative. It's a positive thing that he has someone in his life that makes him happy. Maybe it even frees up some of your time so you can find a special someone. And ... (read in full...)
Could taking the morning after pill have made my period late?
Q. Right i am really worried i might be pregnant!! I lost my virginity 2 weeks before i was due for my period.I took the morning after pill But after having sex i bled for a week. Does this mean i come on my period? I never come on when i was due and ...
A. 4 June 2007: It could be. I think the morning after pill can be responsible for your period being up to 10 days late. It's hard to tell whether your bleed was from a period, your hymen breaking or rough sex or even the hormonal changes brought about by taking ... (read in full...)
I want to get a mohawk (im a girl) but im afraid of what people will say.
Q. hi. I want to get a mohawk (im a girl) but im afraid of what people will say. i dont want to be bald all the way on the sides just short kind of. can someone help me find pictures or somthing so i can get an idea of what i want. ...
A. 1 June 2007: Try looking at pictures of Naima who won cycle 4 of america's next top model. She had a really cool mohawk but still had hair.
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How can I get rid of this "pouch" on my tummy?
Q. Hey agony aunts, I'm just wondering a few things, 1) I have this little i guess you could call it a "pouch" lol on my tummy, i'm actually quite a skinny person, but my stomach is a little chubby :( How do I get rid of that, just by running/situps? 2...
A. 1 June 2007: You don't say how old you are in the post but given what else you've just said... if your age is somewhere between 15 and 18 your metabolism is probably slowing down or you've stopped growing and you can't get away with eating as much as you used to ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of this "pouch" on my tummy?
Q. Hey agony aunts, I'm just wondering a few things, 1) I have this little i guess you could call it a "pouch" lol on my tummy, i'm actually quite a skinny person, but my stomach is a little chubby :( How do I get rid of that, just by running/situps? 2...
A. 31 May 2007: Okay, first with the tummy thing. Try sucking your tummy in and then pinching the pouch.... can you still pick more than just skin? It's always hard to tell from an internet post whether people actually have a tummy or if you just have a normal ... (read in full...)
Ever since returning from France, my life has totally sucked. What can I do??
Q. this thing called life....kinda sucks when not in europe so recently i have come back from one of the greatest experiences of my life. i spent 4 full months in france studying abroad and although i hated it at first, i soon after found i loved...
A. 31 May 2007: I lived abroad last year and the things that struck me when I got back was that I didn't feel like I fit in at home anymore. Would you say that's true of you too? It's hard to be in a place you don;t feel you belong to. It's also erally hard to ... (read in full...)
I am so dry down there. I had chlamydia a while back..would an STD affect this?
Q. I get so dry! im 17 and have been sexually active for less than a year. In the beginning i got sooo wet, i mean with hardly any forplay. Now i dont get wet AT ALL. I got chlamidea a few months ago and i treated it... im currently not in a ...
A. 31 May 2007: An STD can affect your discharge levels but they usually get fairly back to normal once you've treated it. The other noter might be right about it being psychological or maybe it's not cured. Might be worth running it past your doctor to be sure.
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My period is late, do you think I could be pregnant?
Q. I haven't had my period. I usually get it on the 5th. I've never had a normal period until i started taking the pill. I slipped 1 or 2 days but still used condoms. it is now the 30th and still haven't got them my period yet. I have spotted and I am ...
A. 31 May 2007: If you've had sex it's possible you're pregnant, be it protected or unprotected. It's REALLY important not to forget to take the pill, even if you are using condoms, since it upsets your body's hormonal balance and can take more than a couple of ... (read in full...)
Is college fun, is it too much work, or what?
Q. I want as many opinions as I can get so anyone who has something to say, even if it's just a little comment, please respond. I'm just wondering what people think of college. I will be graduating soon and I want to keep in contact with some of my ...
A. 31 May 2007: College is amazing! It is hard work but that's not all there is to it! You need to start with the attitude that it will be fantastic and be completely open to making new friends. This isn't disrespectful to the old ones. The first few weeks are the ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and he's very well endowed. Will it hurt to have sex?
Q. I'm wondering... I am a virgin and I have a partner which is really big in size, he's well above average. Will it hurt me more than if he was smaller ? I'm kinda scared....
A. 31 May 2007: It depends, when you say big do you mean long or thick? Long isn't a major problem, although if you're feeling pain it might mean he's banging against your cervix, in which case he should slow down and not thrust so deep. If he's thick just make ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said sex hurt him, is this normal?
Q. My guy and I recently had sex after a few months because we were in different parts of the country. He said that it hurt him, he felt good but also pain. Is this normal ? I am worried for him. I was on top of him just for the record here. We did ...
A. 31 May 2007: It could be one of two things. Does he mean it hurt as in a good way? Like orgasms kind of hurt in an almost amazing way if that makes any sense? Or does he mean actual physical pain? My boyfriend had this problem when we first started having sex ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are going to have sex for the first time this weekend.
Q. Me and my gf have been together for 7 months have have decided that on saturday night when i stop over that we will have sex for the first time, we are both virgins btw. We are incredibly close as we have been best friends for many years, have have ...
A. 31 May 2007: Okay, first thing is a big congrats on getting some condoms. That's an excellent show of respect and maturity to have sex.
As far as where to have sex, I would stick to the bed for the first few times just until you get a bit confident with it.... (read in full...)
Could it be that I am still a virgin at my age because of possibly low testosterone(male sex hormone)levels?
Q. NB: Please reply to THIS question; ignore the previous one- it was accidentally posted prematurely! I am a 27 year old male student, at University (a late starter), in the UK. My problem is that, at the age of 27 years, I have never had any se...
A. 30 May 2007: I'm guessing that you're asking this question after seeing the channel 4 documentary last week? I was actually kind of surprised by it since it had never occurred to me before that low testosterone levels could be responsible for lack of experience. ... (read in full...)
How long after intercourse is it most accurate to use a pregnancy test?
Q. How long after intercourse is it most accurate to use a pregnancy test? and if abortion is an option... how long do u have to decide before it is too late?...
A. 28 May 2007: Hi, the pregnancy test question depends on when in your cycle you have sex and what brand test you use. Some are effective within three days of unprotected sex and with others you need to wait until your period is late. It usually explains which of ... (read in full...)
One year of resumes rejections in my country have helped to develop in me a sense of personal and professional insecurity Is this abnormal?
Q. I don't know why I'm posting this. I guess I just want emotional support. I was kind of O.K. whith my one year old unemployment status. I have a Master's Degree and were I live this evidently overqualifies you for most jobs. Nobody in my country ...
A. 28 May 2007: The way I see it your best option would be to take a rubbish job in your country and then build up enough money to be able to live by yourself in America. If it's what you want then it's up to you to make it happen. It might mean having to do ... (read in full...)
He's gay but is giving me all the signs that he fancies me.
Q. I work closely with a man who is gay but recently he has been flirting with me so much that i dont know whether im coming or going. He stares into my eyes for longer than normal, looks at my mouth when i speak and just says and does things body ...
A. 28 May 2007: I don't think you're imagining it but I don't think he fancies you either. In my experience gay men are terrible flirts with men, women whoever! They don't have the same physical boundaries that there would be between you and a straight man, because ... (read in full...)
A confusing love triangle! What's a girl to do?
Q. hi everyone i like this boy in my class but his best friend likes me it is a bit of a love triangle but i dont like his best friend but now his best friend does not like me no more and i have no idea why and he doesnt know i like his best friend how ...
A. 27 May 2007: Okay, let's break this down. You like a guy, his best friend did like you but doesn't anymore and you want to ask said best friend why yes? Truth is it doesn't matter why best friend guy doesn't like you anymore. Crushes are so transient at your ... (read in full...)
My ex is seeing someone else! Why do I feel so gutted?
Q. I split up with my lover a while back because we had issues that couldn't be resolved,we were together 3 years and it was me who decided to end it.Anyway i found out that he has been seeing someone else and for some reason i felt gutted and very ...
A. 27 May 2007: You don't love him anymore, you just don't want anyone else to love him. It;s a perfectly natural reaction to have that will pass in time and is part of the natural grieving process at the end of the relationship.
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My hair is falling out in clumps! What is happening to me?
Q. I'm scared, im 19 and my hair's falling out. I have been under some emotional stress lately but that part of my life has some what calmed down but my hair just seems to be falling out more and more. Whenever I touch my hair it comes away in my hand ...
A. 27 May 2007: You've answered it in your own question.... stress. It's notorious for making your hair fall out. There are some medical and herbal remedies you can take that are designed to help and your first step should be your doctor. If they're unhelpful visit ... (read in full...)
He goes to uni in 3 months! Should we break up and should I just move on?
Q. Me and a boy went out 2 years ago, and became very serious, but called it off because my mum wasn't well and I needed time away from everything. He totally understood, but we lost contact soon afterwards, because I was so down and depressed. ...
A. 27 May 2007: My experience from watching my own friends is that most of them can't handle the pressure of the long distance/open relationship while the other one is in uni. I think you'd be pretty much guaranteed to be hurt if you pinned all your hopes on him ... (read in full...)
Am I bad for feeling that my Dad may think my bf is weird?
Q. Ok, say me and my boyfriend were out in the living room talking to my dad. I kept thinking "what if my dad thinks my boyfriend is weird" because i do call my boyfriend weird alot and he agrees. Anyways, i am not looking for reassuarance. Am i a...
A. 26 May 2007: I don't think it's OCD, I think you're just overthinking something that really isn't that a big deal because really, it doesn't matter what your dad thinks of your boyfriend and vice versa since it's you two who's dating and as long as you love each ... (read in full...)
I like her and we play sports together. She's not as good as the rest of us...so do I make it easy for her or not?
Q. Hi. I play sport with a few mates, but one of them isn't that good compared to the rest of us. I like one of them as more of a friend, yet she isn't as good as the rest of us. She finds it hard when she plays with us, and its clear she gets a...
A. 26 May 2007: Yep, it depends if you can make it look natural like you're just playing badly or if she'll see straight through you and feel angry that you're patronising her. It's a fine line and really depends on how well you act etc. Maybe a better way to show ... (read in full...)
My dad has ear cancer...I've never heard of this! Can it be treated?
Q. Please someone help me. I'm 16 so I don't really understand much about it anyway but a healthcare person came round my house today to see my dad because he's unwell and suffers from epilepsy but he checked my dads ears too and said he may have a f...
A. 26 May 2007: Hi chick, sorry to hear about your Dad. I've only heard of ear cancer once before and that person went on to make a full recovery. What is possible about it is that it's a very slow growing type of cancer so its less likely to have spread than other ... (read in full...)
What can I do to show him that I miss him during the weekdays?
Q. I met my boyfriend in Uni and we have been dating for a couple of months. The term ended about a month ago and he moved back home for the summer. He lives about an hour and a half away and comes to visit me on the weekends because I don't own a car. ...
A. 26 May 2007: I don't think gestures have to be big to mean something. Often the smallest gesture can have the most meaning. Send him an occassional text message during the day to tell him you're thinking about him. Or maybe when he comes down at the weekend ask ... (read in full...)
I called my bf while I was on holiday and he told me to"f**k off!" Should I go back to him or not?
Q. I am visitng my family for 3 weeks, and away from my boyfriend of 4 years. I have called him today on his cellphone and he was getting ready to visit his dad at the hospital and was in a hurry. While talking to me, he said that "im bugging his ...
A. 26 May 2007: That depends, sounds like what he said mightve been an emotional reaction to stress, particularly if his dad is really ill and he wanted to go see him but he felt you were being demanding by wanting to talk on the phone. Does this sound possible? ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend and she loves me... what's the next step?
Q. i love my girlfriend and i know she loves me, how do i take it to the next level. marriage is a choice but i dont want to scare her off and i just want to take a romantic step to show i care and love her...
A. 25 May 2007: Do you live together? That's a pretty big commitment that in my opinion should always be made before marriage. If you've already done this why not do something personal to show her how you feel. This will have to depend on both of your shared ... (read in full...)
Are we doing the right thing in trying to save this marriage?
Q. I have recently decided to get back together with my husband which whom i have kids with i love him vey much but we have had such a rocky marriage it has always been on and off. I feel like its me thats putting all effort in i get very moody when he ...
A. 25 May 2007: Yes I think so. You owe it to your kids. After all, they didn't ask to be born into a marriage that wouldn't work. Talk about your issues with him going out. If you bottle them all up inside then you're bound to be cross and get paranoid etc. ... (read in full...)
My ex is still really angry at me for taking her virginity, when we were both 24...
Q. Hi. My ex is still really angry at me for taking her virginity, when we were both 24. We had been together for about 5 years before having sex for the first time, she had expained she wanted to wait until she was married before having sex. I had ...
A. 24 May 2007: It's not really anger at you, it's anger at herself for letting her principles slip away so easily. After all, if you wait until you're 24 to lose your virginity then she's probably kicking herself she couldn't hang on a bit longer. Sounds like ... (read in full...)
I'm 18, virgin, and furious!
Q. Hi, I'm quite a pathetic case really. I'm 18 and still a virgin. Being a bloke its not something that i've admitted - I even spun my best mates off with bullshit stories about how i got layed. I hate myself for it. I don't understand why t...
A. 24 May 2007: Oh my god, reading this was a bit like reading my own life story from a different perspective. At your age I was a virgin as was my best male friend and he asked me if we could have sex just to relieve the social pressures but to be honest from what ... (read in full...)
I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 24 May 2007: I don't know whether he ever loved you or loves you still but really that's immaterial now and it's a good idea to push it out of your head. A clean break will do you the world of good!
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He and this girl mate are taking a holiday together...I trust him but I don't trust her! What should I do?
Q. Ok, well I've been cheated on in 2 of my previous 3 relationships and the third told me straight out that it was all a lie and that he never loved me. I have a bf now but he's planning to go on holiday with his best guys mate and best girl mate. I ...
A. 23 May 2007: Really if you trust your boyfriend absolutely then it shouldn't matter whether you trust this girl. It takes two to cheat and if you're sure your boyfriend won't then you have nothing to worry about.
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I left my troubled relationship..for him! Now he has left me for a pregnant ex gf! What can I do?
Q. I fell in love with someone while i was in a troubled relationship.I decided to end the troubled relationship so i could go and start a new one with this guy i fell in love with and he was thrilled and said he was in love with me too. After a month ...
A. 23 May 2007: Accept that he's doing the right thing. That baby didn't ask to be born to screwed up parents who couldn't stay together but it deserves to have the chance to grow up in a two parent family. Even if he did come back to you, his baby and to a certain ... (read in full...)
I find it rather disturbing to hear that my gf dated and had sex with her Dad's best friend (42) when she just 16! How should I deal with this?
Q. Hi, you speak of age gaps btw 18 - 21 so forth, what about 16 and 42? My gf once dated her dad best mate (her dad doesnt know) he was like a guardian to his 4 daughters all of simular age, n he disided to sleep with her lots. I find this ...
A. 23 May 2007: Okay, first thing is that I'm really pleased to hear you're grossed out by the way she was treated rather than the way she acted because really, at 16, we're kids and however much we want to pretend to be adults the fact is that she was young and ... (read in full...)
The test came out negative, but I have a lot of pregnancy symptoms! What should I do?
Q. ive taken a test to tell me if im pregnant or not and it says that im not but im gaining weight and i am peeing alot and im tired alot and i just got over my "priod" but it was very very light what should i do ...
A. 22 May 2007: It is possible to be pregnant and have a pregnancy test come out negative. It's also possible to get so worked up by the possibility of being pregnant that you start to imagine symptoms or see things that aren't there. The best advice I could give ... (read in full...)
My hands go numb when he sucks my nipples?
Q. My boyfriend loves to suck on my nipples. I quite enoy it too but whenever he does my hands start to go numb. The longer this goes on the further up my wrists it does. I am just running my hands up and down his back and through his hair. Nothing out ...
A. 22 May 2007: Do you mean like tingly numb? When he sucks your nipples you should be coming incredibly turned on. I don't know if you're at this stage yet but do you react in the same way when you orgasm? All the endorphins flying around your body do make you ... (read in full...)
My period is behaving strangely after I started taking the pill. Is this a side effect?
Q. hey.. i was just wondering .. im a female .. and i started taking the pill .. and started my period then it stopped and now it started again .. is this just a side effect.. thanks ...
A. 22 May 2007: Yep, the pill affects everyone in different ways. Keep taking the pill until you get to your seven day break. By the second month your period should be normal but if you're still having problems go back to your doctor. Sometimes it takes a few ... (read in full...)
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