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writes: Ok, my situation is fairly complicated so please try to read it all and understand it. Well, me and this lad have been friends for about 18 months now and we get on really, really well. He used to text me every single day, sometimes until the early hours of the morning and he used to flirt like mad with me. Ive always really really liked him and he told me he liked me - I found this hard to believe because hes 18, Im 15 and hes good-looking and I'm really not. Anyways, we were at the point talking about getting together and what STUFF we would do with each other I actually believed I stood a chance with him. Now, hes got a girlfriend and he hasn't even aknowledged me since he got with her - he's stopped texting, not talked to me on msn and hasn't spoke to me face-to-face. I feel stupid for ever believing he truly liked me and I feel kinda rejected. Where do i stand now? How should I be when Im next around him? And why has he stopped talking with me??Thanks xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone who answered :)Him and his g/f are a good couple and she makes him happy so Im not going to try and sabotage that in any way - Im just gunna leave them be. Ill just carry on being his friend :)Thanks again!!!xx
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reader, I'llTryToHelp  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 First of all, I'm sure you're a beautiful girl and he must think so, too. You should never say bad things about yourself. We're all beautiful in our own unique way.
If all you've done for 18 months is text each other and he's made no attempt to get together in that time, I'm afraid he only views you as a friend. He said that he liked you and he really did, as a friend.
He's obviously one of those people that takes flirting very lightly and there's nothing wrong with that. Alot of people are like that and this is something you'll learn as you get older and experience more socially. Another difficult thing you'll learn is that not everyone will stay a true and honest friend. This is a very hard lesson and doesn't get easier as you get older.
Your friend has met someone else that he likes. Maybe this new girl is really jealous and has cut him off from everybody else.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 My inkling is that it was down to one of two things... either that you spent too much time talking and not enough time doing or tht he realised your age difference would be a problem. Wen you say stuff I assume we're talking sex. Maybe he wised up to it being illegal?
Never feel pressured into having sex by an older guy and if you're thinking about doiung anything make sure you're educated on the finer points of sex ed before hand.
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reader, Oceania  +, writes (3 June 2008):
 he was very cruel, he chose someone else in a really bad time, i mean it was a little bit too late to make changes. It was not fair for you and i understand how bad you must feel but you need to move on, because if he stop texting you and all that, then he must be serious with his new girlfriend. Try to forget him and if he ever wants a second chance dont give it to him. He doesnt deserve it, try to move on, enjoy being single, dont say you are not good looking :) you are, love yourself. good luck ?
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