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writes:My boyfriend dumped me for another girl a few weeks ago. He stopped talking to me for a while, then he sends me random messages like asking what a good dare is for truth or dare, or if I got my book back or whatever.Then a few days ago he sent me a picture of him with just boxers on, and asked me if I wanted to send him one back!He doesn't want me anymore, he wants her.. why can't he just leave me alone so I can get over him??? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): I hope that ignoring him will work better for you than it has for me cause the more you ignore him the more he'll want to be around you to get your attention. You HAVE to be strong and walk away when he approaches you. Stay focused on your goal and perhaps you'll succeed; you'll definitely get empowered each time you stay in control. Now I'm focusing on a new male friend at work with no strings attached, and he's helping me move on from this other jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionreading your answers i guess i should clarify,
we've gone out 3 times. he cheated on me the first time, i dumped him the second time and he dumped me for the other girl this time.
honestly i actually think the new girl is a B*TCH and kind of... "gets around"..
ive tried ignoring him but he brings up things that are hard to ignore. he told me he tried to kill himself and stuff, and it drives me crazy cuz im almost sure its not true.
but thanks for your answers, i no longer want anything to do with him so ill keep ignoring him :)
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reader, cd206  +, writes (26 October 2008):
 Stop texting him back. I went out with a guy like that who wouldn't let me go even though he was with someone else. Sticking to not texting him back was impossible for the longest time but in the end I was glad I did it. You can't go on like this and you know it. You have the power to end this. Why not start right now
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): Do you know the other girl's number? He is being really unfair to both of you and seems to want it all. No one deserves to be cheated on. I would send the boxer shorts message to his current girlfriend if you have her number and get him into trouble.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (26 October 2008):
 It sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, and now that you aren't there, he wants you back, or is trying to prove a point that he can get you back? No matter how you look at it, he's playing games. I really like qcumbr1's idea, or you can change your cell phone number. Don't respond sweetie, just ignore him. He isn't worth your time.
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reader, Lizz +, writes (26 October 2008):
 I've heard this one before. What he's attempting to do is make himself feel better. It's his conscience getting to him. He feels like a jerk for dumping you and he's trying to create the illusion that you two are still friends in order to ease his own guilt.
Take my advice and tell him you are NOT his friend. When he sends you messages or tries to contact you in any other way ignore them.
Also realize that it's your reactions to his actions that tells him what he can get away with. Maybe the answer to your question is because you haven't told him to leave you alone yet.
Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): he wants you just incase he cant have her, or so im assuming. Hes keeping you close so if things dont work out with her, he always has you. It sounds really bad and i dont think hes consciously doing it, but thats what it is. I would cut all communication off with him. He doesnt sound like a good guy to begin with since he can dump you for another chick and think you guys can still talk..dont get me wrong, you can talk to him..but wait a while until your over the guy..and the only way you can do that is by not talking to him..ive done this with all the guys ive dated and it really does work..you just got to stick to it. If he asks you why your not talking to him just tell him that you want to getover him and the only way you can is by not talking to you..so if you could help by not sending me texts that would be great..or say something along those lines.
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