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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend wont tell his parents we are dating! We have been dating for 5 months.My boyfriends parents hate me. let me explain about it. About 2 years ago we were engaged to be married. i was going through alot. I had joined the military and was in training. Under a lot of stress and got really scarred. So i was stupid and broke everything off! He was a mess for months. So his parents see me as th girl who hurt their baby. which i was. i am so sorry!!! but can't go back and change it. He later joined the miltary when he was home on leave he asked my parents to have me call him if i wanted to talk to him and gave me the number. So i called him cause i still had feelings for him. He wanted to take me to dinner. After dinner we went back to my place talked for a while and he stayed a little longer than planned. spent several more days with him before he had to go back. I have gone to see him. trust me it isnt cheap and i dont make that much.He is coming home for the holidays and he was suppose to tell his parents so we can all have dinner together. but a few days ago when i asked him what day should i plan it for he is like we arent going to do it. when i asked why he was like they dont know about you!!! (his brother does though) he says that they dont think he should be dating right now and he doesnt think it would be the best idea to tell him now! He is very close to them and his mom is like his hero!! What should i do? should i be worried? Should i tell him he has to or i will break up with him or should i just let him do it in his own time? I know i hurt him before but I am sure this time. but dont know if he is!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2008): I don't know... in my experience a guy doesn't love you the same if his parents don't. So be careful.
And there's nothing to feel guilty about.. you weren't ready to get married... you're still young, so sue you... Forgive yourself for being scared.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 This is kinda similar to my situation except my guy hurt me and when we got back together I was terrified to tell my parents cos I knew they hated him but to be honest I was surprised. Theyre not overly friendly to him but they can see he makes me happy and thats enough for them. In the end all any parent wants is for their child to be happy. That said, I think you need to give your boyfriend time to tell his parents when he is ready. They will be ok with it because they will know how much he loves you. Just bear with him a bit longer
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