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My period is behaving strangely after I started taking the pill. Is this a side effect?
Q. hey.. i was just wondering .. im a female .. and i started taking the pill .. and started my period then it stopped and now it started again .. is this just a side effect.. thanks ...
A. 22 May 2007: Yep, the pill affects everyone in different ways. Keep taking the pill until you get to your seven day break. By the second month your period should be normal but if you're still having problems go back to your doctor. Sometimes it takes a few ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I'm not over my ex and therefore loose interest after the chase?
Q. ok, basically i've finally started getting close to the guy i've liked for 18 mnths or so, only to find he's perfect a true gent but i've gone off him, i really don;t want to be one of those girls who only likes the chase. I do keep thinking bout my ...
A. 22 May 2007: Can I act on a hunch here and guess that your ex from 2.5 years ago was the first guy you were ever in love with?
I'm not sure anyone ever lives up to the very first love you experience because not only is it love, which is pretty amazing,... (read in full...)
My period was late. Was this because of the morning after pill?
Q. i had sex with my ex we used a condom although he didnt ejaculate i took the morning after pill 14 hours after the incident, 4 days later i came on even though my period was the week before, is this normal?? any advice gratefully recieved...
A. 21 May 2007: Yeah this is totally normal. The morning after pill can make your period up to a week late or even early but if it's too early or late it's a good idea to check with your local pharmacy or doctor just to be sure. I'm sure you're fine but obviously ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my girlfriend that our mutual friend doesn't like her?
Q. A mutual friend of my girlfriend and I recently told me that she doesn't like my girlfriend at all. My girlfriend always talks about how much she likes this friend and invites her out all the time. Should I tell my girlfriend? I feel like I'm lying ...
A. 21 May 2007: I wouldn't say anything. I don't understand the friend's logic of telling you she didn't like your girlfriend at all. Obviously you'd want to tell her. The thing is I think that if you tell her she'll just end up feeling bad and sad and hurt whereas ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex in a pool. Is there a chance she might be pregnant?
Q. This evening I was engaged in unprotected sex in a pool. I did not ejaculate at all, but I had done so erlier that afternoon. I showered after I ejaculated that afternoon, but I did not pee. Could any of my precum have actual sperm becuase I didnt ...
A. 21 May 2007: You can't get her the morning after pill, she has to get it for herself. It's against the law for anyone to sell it to you. As for your flushing argument where the heck did you hear that? Urine does not kill sperm.
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My friend fears she is addicted to internet porn! What strategies can she employ to stop herself when she gets the urge to view internet porn?
Q. My friend is worried that she is becoming addicted to masturbation/internet porn. She believes in only sleeping with men she loves which has been torturous for her at times since she has a very high sex drive so when there was no man she would ...
A. 21 May 2007: Viewing porn is just the same as smoking or comfort eating or drinking in overcoming. Here is three pieces of advice that we used to give people to stop smoking when I worked in a pharmacy. It might seem irrelevant but I think your friend can ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend that I'm pregnant without scaring him away?
Q. hey i just found out im pregnant this morning i took 2 tests and both came out positive im so upset nd scared of wot my parents will say but i dont even know how 2 tell him, i tried after i found out on the fone but i started crying nd hung up, how ...
A. 21 May 2007: You can't stop him from freaking out and running away. After all I'm guessing that if you could run away from this situation you would right? All you can do is tell him and ask him to help you make the decision about what to do next. He might be ... (read in full...)
I have been denied promotion 3 times for without anybody explaining why. Should I talk to the chairman?
Q. i am a civil servent. have been in service for 14 years. i ve put up my promotion for 3 times, all 3 times was not approve. again i am putting up my promotion after 7 years gap, i am afraid if i will get this time. actually, in rules we are ...
A. 21 May 2007: You're allowed to ask him why you keep getting turned down. Tell him you'd like to know so that you can work on your weakness. Don't get defensive or angry, stay calm and hopefully he'll be able to be honest with you about it.
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Should I tell my friend I suspect his gf got "accidentally pregnant" on purpose?
Q. so how do i help my best friend. he is 21 (just) and has been going out with a girl (now 27) for 10 months. though he now stays at her house every night (for last 4 months). 3 months ago he told me she does not like me as we have always been close ...
A. 21 May 2007: No, don't say anything. Your friend has the right attitude. It doesn't matter how she got pregnant now, all that matters is that in nine months there will be a baby who didn't ask to be born, but deserves united parents. If she did trick him into ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex in a pool. Is there a chance she might be pregnant?
Q. This evening I was engaged in unprotected sex in a pool. I did not ejaculate at all, but I had done so erlier that afternoon. I showered after I ejaculated that afternoon, but I did not pee. Could any of my precum have actual sperm becuase I didnt ...
A. 21 May 2007: Yes... if you have unprotected sex then it's possible to become pregnant whether you come or not. You seem to be really confused about even the basics of sex and I really advise finding a sex ed book to read up about it. Pee doesn't have any effect ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to catch an STD from not wearing underwear?
Q. This has been 2 years ago. It was at my graduation and I bought a dress without washing it, b/c the next day was my big day. I went commando without wearing underwear because if i wore my underwear the people will see the shape of my underwear ...
A. 21 May 2007: It is possible you could have caught pubic lice if the person who had the dress before you was infected. The lice can live on bed linens and in clothes for a long period of time. If you have them the main symptom is extreme itching and you can ... (read in full...)
BF and his ex have a kid, and he has cheated with her, before. I still have trouble with him still seeing her for the kid's sake.What should I do?
Q. Yes after my boyfriend of 14 months cheated on me with his ex gf who he has a child with....then she calls him and tells him that she is pregnant and that it might be his...I was enraged to see that he broke our trust...I hated both of them...he has ...
A. 19 May 2007: You shouldn't do anything. It's very noble of you to want to help him and his son and make her realise how much she's hurting everyone involved but this is your boyfriend's problem. It's his child and his battle if he wants to spend time with him. ... (read in full...)
How to cope after a very close death???
Q. Hi Everyone, AskEve here. I just wanted to let everyone know I lost my wonderful partner 2 days ago so won't be on for a bit. He was over in Switzerland on business when he passed away. (I wasn't even with him...) I loved him terribly and now...
A. 19 May 2007: Really sorry to hear this. I guess my only advice would be to do what feels right. Grief affects us all differently and we have to deal with the individual stages as they come.
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How do you french kiss? All tips welcome.
Q. how do u french kiss? i really need some tips/advice cuz its been about 4- years sence i french kissed someone and i forgot how, my boyfriend asked me if i knew how to french kiss and i said no the he said he wuz ganna french kiss me until i said i ...
A. 19 May 2007: You don't forget how to kiss, just do what comes natural.
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Is being loud during sex a good thing or a bad thing?
Q. I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time the other day, and I was a bit...loud. Couldn't help it really! Anyway after it was over, all he said was, "Wow...you were quite loud." I always thought that was supposed to be a good thing, but ...
A. 19 May 2007: Some guys find loud girls a turn on, others don't. Ask him if the noise bothers him, my guess is that as long as he's getting some he doesn't much care if you whisper or scream but I'm not him. Ask him and if you want to change then change but never ... (read in full...)
I found out that my old college love is engaged and I am heartsick! Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. I spent my Junior and most of my senior years of college dating a guy who I was going to spend the rest of my life with. My last year of school was stressful and my guy is 5yrs older than I so he was at a very different point of his life, which was ...
A. 19 May 2007: The first person you love will always seem much better than anyone else because the first time you experience how amazing love is will always be the best, none of your subsequent experiences will live up to it because you're used to the feeling.
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Is a 15 year old girl dating a 22 year old different from a 18 year old girl dating a 26 year old? Any views?
Q. Hello, I'm 19 years old and dating a 27 year old guy. We've been dating for a year, ever since I was 18 and he was 26. And everything's fine, no problems here. Recently though, my cousin came and told me that she's dating a 22 year old - and s...
A. 19 May 2007: You're not being hypocritical. For a start the situation would be a lot different if she was even 16 but she's not, she's legally still a child. Plus, doesn't it seem kind of creepy and wrong to you that an adult would *want* to date a child? I ... (read in full...)
Is 16 too young to be engaged?
Q. Is 16 too young to be engaged? I've been with my boyfriend over a period of 4 years. (I understand 12 is a young age to get with someone and for it to be on going for 4 years) and we recently got engaged. I understand 16 is a very young age to be co...
A. 19 May 2007: Okay, I'm with you. I don't think 16 is too young to be engaged although I think it's too young to be married. It worries me that you're asking because it makes me think you don't really want it, but then you say you do want it which makes me think ... (read in full...)
Having money problems and feel like I can't afford to go on my friend's birthday night out... can I??
Q. Im in a real dilemma all advise welcome!!! its my friends birthday next week and and shes arranged to go to this place up london, the problem is im having real money trouble at the moment (she knows my financial situation) ive already told her i ca...
A. 19 May 2007: Can't you just go and drink nothing or tap water all night? I'm sure your presence at the night out would really make your friend happy.
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We seperated for two months and he slept with two other people... can this be overcome?
Q. I am new to this lifestyle but after 3 years my partner and I ran into so tuff time, we sperated for 2 months, I so loved him but had serious jealousy issues, He would come to see me often while we were apart, We had gotten back togeather and I ...
A. 19 May 2007: Well technically he didn't do anything wrong. You weren't together when he slept with the other two men. Some people take comfort in affection from other people when they're feeling insecure about themselves and it sounds as if your boyfriend is one ... (read in full...)
As long as he and I are happy, isn't it right that my family stays out of our business?
Q. I am very bothered right now. I’m from an Asian background and my boyfriend is British. We have been dating for almost 2 years and we know we want to be each other’s life long partner. First ridiculous thing is my parents just started thinking that ...
A. 17 May 2007: No, absolutely not. I think you have a very mature attitude. Why should the guy pay for everything? It should be a split thing. I'm currently single but in all my relationships I split payments for stuff with the guy. A while back I was dating a guy ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong, unfair or deceitful to accept this dinner invitation? Do I need to explain how I feel to my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend has invited me to dinner with her family to celebrate her mother's birthday. Whenever I'm with her and her family I feel anxious and guilty, like I really shouldn't be there, but reassured by their kindness, interest and hospitality. ...
A. 17 May 2007: You love your girlfriend right? Then you're going for her sake rather than your own. I don't really understand where you're coming from when you say you don't feel comfortable despite them going out of their way to accomodate you but I suggest that ... (read in full...)
I feel shy around my BFs mates and he is getting annoyed with me! How can I be more confident?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend nearly 3 months and things are good i even get on with his mates quite well. Heres the problem im fine with all the guys as long as im not the only girl. However if im the only girl with like 3 guys for example i ...
A. 17 May 2007: Okay if theyre talking about people you don't know ask questions! Say who's so and so and what did they do? How do you know them? etc.
Football is a little bit more tricky because guys tend to think we girls are clueless about the game and don'... (read in full...)
My BF said he has dreams about me but wouldn't say what exactly! Does that mean they are sexual and he wants to have sex with me?
Q. hey im 16 and so is my boyfriend who i have been with for 5 months. today we were talking about our dreams and i was asking him if he had any about me ever. He said he does but he doesn't really want to tell me what some of them are. Then he said ...
A. 17 May 2007: It might mean he wants to have sex with you, it might mean he doesn't want to in real life but dreams are fine.
A few months ago I had a dream my grandmother was a witch who turned me into a frog and then tried to eat me. Do I think she really w... (read in full...)
I want to do something unique and special for my BFs birthday - any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend is turning 17 soon. I want to do something special for him. Any ideas? We've been going out for almost a year. I want to do something more that just a nice dinner out kind of thing, I'm looking for something unique. Thanks for any ...
A. 17 May 2007: Well we don't know him so tell me... what's unique about him? what are his interests and passions? If you want to private mail me this info I'll try and help you come up with something.
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My desire for sex and wetness have decreased, is it due to the birth control pills I'm now on?
Q. Hi, I've recently started taking Birth Control pills. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now, and I usually get very turned out when we have sex/foreplay. When I started taking the pill, I began losing my horniness for sex.{desire ...
A. 17 May 2007: These are both possible side effects of the pill. Next time you see your doctor tell him/her about the problems and get them to change your pill since there are certain ones that don't cause this problem. Finding the right pill for you can take some ... (read in full...)
My ex of a year ago wants to meet up again because he wants to try again - can the second time around ever work?
Q. Hello, I am feeling rather confused at the moment. My ex, who i still love even though he caused me a lot of heartache, has become very interested in me again the last couple of weeks. We have remained in contact over the last year, but he has b...
A. 17 May 2007: Things can work second time round but only if you've dealt with all your issues from the first time round and you accept that however bad you remember things as being, they were even worse when you were right in the middle of them. I don't think it ... (read in full...)
Why do people seem to be bailing on relationships so quickly these days? I just want someone to grow old with!
Q. Why do people seem to be hopping in and out of relationships these days at an increasing level of frequency? I find it really depressing. I want to find someone to grow old with, but I feel silly thinking this since most people tend to think it is ...
A. 17 May 2007: This is just my opinion and I'm in no doubt that other people will answer your post and take a completely different line with you but I think it's partly that divorce has got easier and partly that people have become more selfish and focused on ... (read in full...)
I'm only 15 but my BF wants to stop using condoms and make me pregnant!
Q. Hi there I have been speaking to my bf and he wants me 2 have sex with him without a condom. He wants my kids but I'm only 15! wot do i do?...
A. 17 May 2007: You are in no way ready for kids, emotionally, physically or mentally. Tell him this isn't on. You don't have to have kids just because he wants them. Is he older than you? Do you feel pressurised by him? It's not good to put up with letting anyone ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome feeling so nervous in having to give a presentation in front of my class?
Q. I need help on how to overcome my nervousness. This week I am doing a presentation to my English class, and I am quite scared. I don't like to speak in large groups. There are at least 25 students in the class. I'm afraid that the students will ...
A. 17 May 2007: Want to hear something weird? I was like you and then I moved abroad for a year to teach english and quite often had to give classes to groups of forty and it didn't bother me at all.... fastforward back to my final year in uni and I nearly puked ... (read in full...)
First Timer's How To Guide to Blowjobs
Q. I am more experienced on the receiving end of blowjobs then the giving end, but perhaps I can give a few pointers to those who are setting out to try this for the first time. First of all, keep in mind that fellatio (giving blowjobs) is an ...
A. 16 May 2007: Good article but just to add a postscript, remember it's possible to get a range of STDs from oral sex so if in doubt take great care!... (read in full...)
How do we avoid running out of things to talk about?
Q. Hi. I just wanted to know what the best way to keep things fresh in a long-term relationship is? I'm 17 and recently started dating and i chat with my gf for at least an hour every day. But i'm worried that, at some stage, we might run out of ...
A. 16 May 2007: Ah, keeping the spark going.... about as impossible as finding a way to make gold out of salt and water unfortunately. At some stage the spark will fade and you will have less to talk about but the intimacy that will have been built up in the ... (read in full...)
My best mate's bf snogged me and now she blames it all on me!!
Q. Hey , Well I was just walking home by myself and I saw my best mates boyfriend and we just talked for a bit and then suddenly , he just snogged me. I didn't want him to but My best mate found out and her boyfriend is blaming it all on me. My best ...
A. 16 May 2007: Unfortunately you can't make her believe you, you can only keep sticking up for yourself until she does. I don't know why but girls always come off as the boyfriend/husband stealer even if you didn't kiss him back. Of course there are some women who ... (read in full...)
I said something that came out wrong, should I try to explain it to him again?
Q. My bf of one yr has three kids from a previous relationship I haven't met them (they live a way away) but talk to him about them and try to be supportive as he only gets to see them once a month. A few nights ago he was trying to relax and kept ...
A. 16 May 2007: Yeah I think it couldn't hurt to explain yourself. Just say you can't stop kicking yourself for the way whatever it is you said came out because that wasn't how you intended it to sound at all and see what happens there. I think he'll forgive you if ... (read in full...)
He says he doesnt want a girlfriend but keeps calling round.... What does he want!?
Q. Hi all, I broke up with my bf about 7 months ago now, because he had some huge problems, he is a guy with an ex who is bipolar and had custody of his 3 kids...... he lost them back then..... so I let him alone to sort out his problems, but I was ...
A. 16 May 2007: I'm not surprised he reacted negatively to the idea of having a girlfriend like he did because his bad experience probably made him lump all women together as being as bad as each other and he took that out on you. I don't think he's over that pain ... (read in full...)
He only went and dated the random girl that contacted him on Valentines when we broke up! Were giving it another go, but should I dump him ?
Q. My previous boyfriend and I, both 22 and never married, had been dating for almost 2 years. During out realtionship, I took him to a hockey game on Valentines Day, and he got a call from a random girl. I asked him who it was, and he said it was a ...
A. 16 May 2007: I wouldn't dump him. He's been honest with you that he made a mistake and he's making a huge effort to try and correct that mistake with him. But for your relationship to work you have to be able to forgive him and trust him again and if you can't ... (read in full...)
I've been chatting online to her for four days... Should I tell I've started to fall for her!!?
Q. I was recently having a lng distance relationship which I posted about a while ago. That's ended now and I'm over this girl. I've just met someone on a flirting website and we've exchanged emails and numbers (and it's only been 4 days) but we cha...
A. 16 May 2007: Whether you should meet or not is something that you should decide when you know each other better but I totally advise not telling her you have feelings for her just yet. You've been talking for half a week. I think it'd scare her to see how ... (read in full...)
Should I continue to give her space in the hope you will come round in time ?
Q. My girlfriend and I split up 6 weeks ago after 3 1/2 years together. Over the past few weekends we have met up talked and been intimate together. I have finally got it out of her that she is still angry with me for a row that happened last august ...
A. 16 May 2007: Well she's already told you the problem here, she's upset about last year's argument. Therefore you need to deal with this before you can move on or get back together. Tell her you love her and you want her to be happy so you think you need to work ... (read in full...)
My parents were over protective when I was young, Im now 21 and dont feel I have a normal life and I'm scarred!
Q. I grew up with two very overprotective parents, who wouldn't allow me to grow up, in fear of losing their little girl forever. Whenever I tried to act my age, they would give me a hard time and I would get in trouble, even if I was doing something ...
A. 16 May 2007: We could spend our whole lives blaming our parents for the list of reasons why we're screwed up and maybe it's true that they caused most of our problems. However, you're 21 now and your parents no longer have any control over you so you have the ... (read in full...)
We tried being friends after the breakup, but suddenly hes got nasty!! I dont get why!?
Q. Thank you to any who respond here. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of months ago and we are tried the friendship route. We had occasional contact through email...not phone. A couple of nights ago he left a really nasty email being super ...
A. 16 May 2007: Being friends after a break up is a really difficult but noble thing to do. The fact is though if you look back on all your exes who are you still friends with? Your post doesn't say how old you are but I'd say if you're under 25 to bear in mind ... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me or is he like this with all other women?
Q. Hello! Somebody please help me. I started work here a year ago and I've got to know a guy really well... lets call him J. We've spent a lot of time together, lunch breaks, nights out at weekends, etc etc. He says i mean the world to him, th...
A. 16 May 2007: Well is he like that with other women? I'm sure you've seen him with other women if you've known him for a year. Of course the easiest course of action is just to ask him out. Who cares if he says no? There's a couple of seconds of awkwardness and ... (read in full...)
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