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I seem to date guys for a week or so then get bored. Why does this keep happening?
Q. In the past month or so I have gotten in a routine of dating guys for only a week. This is my fourth boyfriend in the past two months. They weren't meant for me but I really like the guy I'm with now. The only problem is it's been a week and I ...
A. 1 May 2007: There's nothing wrong with this, you're just not ready to commit or not meeting the right guys yet. This will correct itself as you get older.
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Is there any other way of finding out if he likes me than just asking him?
Q. I really like this guy who is a year younger than me, one of my friends(not close but still a friend) likes him too but doesn't know i also like him and my best friend previously liked him but thinks it's great that i like him as she is totally over ...
A. 1 May 2007: Well there are long and involved patterns of speech that might take you until you're 30 to find out if he likes you or not. Best and quickest bet is to ask him. If he says he doesn't feel the same the worst thing will be a few seconds of ... (read in full...)
What on earth did my dream mean???
Q. HELP! I had a dream that I was in the mall with my ex, and I kissed her! I honestly have no feelings for her whatsoever, and I have been seeing my current girlfriend for almost a year! What the heck did that dream mean?...
A. 1 May 2007: Probably about the same as it meant when I had a dream my grandmother was a witch and wanted to eat me in a soup.... dreams rarely mean anything. You say you have no feelings for her so maybe it was a flashback or something reminded you of her. I ... (read in full...)
How can I make it up with her father?
Q. I have recently had a massive break up with my girlfriend which has resorted in violence, We have both seen that there is a way through this and are willing to try but we dont know how to repair the damage that I have caused with her father, which ...
A. 1 May 2007: You can't regain someone's trust in a moment. It takes a lot of hard work and gestures that show you've changed. Remember that words are easy. He won't be convinced if the best you can do is tell him that it won't happen again. You need to spend ... (read in full...)
He threw a couple of cushions at me and now my friends are saying he is violent and I should leave him.
Q. Hi...... This weekend my boyfriend of over 1 year and me fell out. I know this happens all the time but we're currently buying a house together (i know it sounds soon but i've known him a lot longer) which is very stressful. His previous re...
A. 1 May 2007: Well.... I think that both of you knew that throwing cushions wouldn't properly hurt you but I guess I'd be worried about the way in which he did it. You say he was angry at the time. Were they thrown in a violent way or just a frustrated way? Your ... (read in full...)
I don't want my mum to be alone.........
Q. You may all think Im mad or that my Mum is but here goes, I'll explain a little before I tell you the problem. My Mum's been through tough times for example violent partners and Alcohol and Drug abuse. Maybe she thought that that was her only esc...
A. 1 May 2007: Your mum has had a lot of problems and naturally you worry about her but our parents have us, we don't have them. It might sound like a selfish attitude from someone who doesn't understand how hard your situation is and that's true, if I tried to ... (read in full...)
I love him so dearly that I can't do without him, but he is proposing to marry the mother of his 7 year old child!
Q. I have a lover that is about 28 years old. I love him so dearly that I can't do without him. We have been dating for 2 years now. The problem is that he has a son of 7 who lives with the mother and he is proposing to marry her. Please help me. I ...
A. 30 April 2007: Me and India always seem to agree when it comes to giving advice and as usual she is spot on. It's hard but he's doing the right thing for himself and for his son. You will find someone in time who is completely focused on you and it will be ... (read in full...)
I thought my friend felt the same way so I took the plunge, now I feel stupid! Has this happend to anyone else ?
Q. ever told a friend how u feel thinking they feel the same way (as they said they had) just for them to suddenly say they just want to be friends for no obvious reason? i feel so stupid and cant think what ive done. has this happened to anyo...
A. 30 April 2007: Remember how you felt before you said anything, how agonising it was not to know how she felt. At least now you do. In a way it's worse because there's little hope b ut it's better than the endless wondering.
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I don't know how to approach trying to get her interested in me again.
Q. there is this girl that i went out with for about 18 months about 2 years ago. she broke up with me and i havn't stopped being in love with her since. i'm not sure if i have a chance with her but i asked her to the school prom and she said yes. I ...
A. 30 April 2007: If she said no once it's likely she'll say no again but the only way to know is to ask.
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I don't know how to approach trying to get her interested in me again.
Q. there is this girl that i went out with for about 18 months about 2 years ago. she broke up with me and i havn't stopped being in love with her since. i'm not sure if i have a chance with her but i asked her to the school prom and she said yes. I ...
A. 30 April 2007: Hm my suggestion would be... on prom night tell her you miss being together this way and gauge her reaction. My guess is she wouldn't be going to prom with you if she didn't have some feelings but if she says me too then you have it confirmed and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like him too?
Q. ok im really confused about my feelins. a friend recently told me he fancied me. i was unsure at first if i felt the same but then the more i spoke 2 him the more i realized i did like him and i told him i liked him back. But then the otha ni...
A. 30 April 2007: Don't do anything until you've made a clear cut decision. You're right that it isn't okay to start messing with his feelings. Personally (and this is just one person's opinion) I think you've done the right thing. It's a bad move to get involved ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and pregnant and don't really know what to do for the best.
Q. hi agony aunts and uncles. im in a bit of bother and dont know how to handle the situation :S i am pregnant, i know your probably either thinking oh god another teenage slag up duff at 14 how stupid sort of thing but thats to be expected. i have ...
A. 30 April 2007: You can only legally move out of home before you're 16 with your parents permission so you need to tell them you're moving out. They're blatantly going to find out you're pregnant everntually too so you might as well tell them and deal with the ... (read in full...)
We are both taking precautions but he is still so scared in case I get pregnant.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and we have sex 5 to 6 times a week sometimes more. We most always use a condom and I am on birth control, but he is so scared that he is going to get me pregnant. What can I do to make him see that ...
A. 30 April 2007: Condoms are 99% effective, the pill is 99% effective. That means that your chance of getting pregnant is 1 in 9801. You can't get much safer than that!
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My first cousin and I are in love, is this so wrong?
Q. About two months ago I admitted my feelings toward a first cousin (after a few drinks, son of my aunt, we are both 42). He confirmed that he felt the same way. we have since been talking and admitted that we have both felt like this for as long as ...
A. 30 April 2007: There's nothing legally or morally wrong about dating your cousin. My major concern would be if you were to split up because you're family and would have to continue seeing each other at family social events etc but if you're prepared for that then ... (read in full...)
Can I have an abortion without my mum knowing?
Q. hi i'm 14 and 15 in 1 month and i think i'm late, but i'm not sure because i keep forgeting when my last one was and i think i'm pregnant but i just split up with my boyfriend, my mum only found out 2 day that i wasn't a virgin but she doeasn't know ...
A. 30 April 2007: Yes, you can have an abortion without your mum finding out. Make an appointment with your doctor who can do a test and refer you to pre abortion counselling.
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At times I get scared my bf has gone off me--how do I deal with my insecurities?
Q. i have shown insecurities to my boyfriend,i dont think he is cheating or anything like that,but i some times get scared he has gone off me or isnt coming round anymore.he says i'm being silly and stop worrying.how can i show i am over this,as i dont ...
A. 30 April 2007: It's not surprising you're insecure about relationships ending after two marriages failing. I think everyone gets a little insecure about relationships and there's no magic quick fix. The most important thing to remember is that insecurity could ... (read in full...)
Do you believe it is possible to be 'just' friends with your ex without any feelings of jealousy when either of you move on?
Q. OK, here are a few questions for you all about ex's. 1. Do you believe it is possible to be 'just' friends with your ex without any feelings of jealousy when either of you move > 2. Should you both just make a complete fresh start from ea...
A. 30 April 2007: 1. Over the years I have managed to stay friends with only one of my exes, so I would say it's possible but difficult. I occassionally get jealous when he's with someone if I'm single but its got easier as time goes on. At first I would cry from ... (read in full...)
Girls, is it okay to be in love with someone but have a soft spot for his friend?
Q. hi i wonder if you guys or girls can help with this question. i have asked questions about this before. Basically, i am living with my partner of 3 years, we have a big group of friends who my partner ha been friends with for year and they are now ...
A. 30 April 2007: I think maybe he feels a bit like you've led him on by flirting with him when you were with his friend. Maybe he thought that if he stayed close to you that you might change your mind and be with him. Obviously you're in love with your fiance and ... (read in full...)
Is it love when you fight all the time and want to get back at your bf?
Q. hi im 16 in june and ive been dating this guy for almost 6 years but he is 22 in june and we have been fighting alot for the last 2 years i dont know if im in love with him.... when we fight i always hurt my self or get really upset and do anything ...
A. 30 April 2007: In my experience if it's love you don't need to question it, you just know. I wasn't sure if I was in love with the guy I dated when I was 16 but a few years later I knew it was love. Sounds like your relationship is quite difficult and that might ... (read in full...)
Living together 2 yrs and I want to get engaged, not to marry yet, but for him to show his commitment to me, is pushing him a good idea ?
Q. im 25 years old me and my boyfriend have been dating 3 years and living together for 2 of those years. Im currently in school to be a Physicians assistant because this is a masters program I still have quite a few years to go. The problem I'm having ...
A. 30 April 2007: I don't see any point in giving him an ultimatum. Pushing him could end up badly for you and you said yourself all you want to know is if there will be a commitment some day. You can just as easily find this out by asking him about the future... ... (read in full...)
My bf still talks to the guy who I feel betrayed by and I dont like it!!
Q. My friend found out I kissed another guy 4 years ago while I was dating my current boyfriend, he confronted me and then said he wouldn't tell him. However he did in the worst way, and my boyfriend broke up with me. Since then we have gotten back ...
A. 30 April 2007: I don't know that there is anything you can do except accept it. Your boyfriend feels he can trust this guy to tell him the truth and maybe feels he owes him one for telling him the truth that one time. It's fine if you don't want to be friends with ... (read in full...)
Im only 16, but he thinks I'm 18, hes 23 would I stand a chance with him ?
Q. Im a mature 16 yr old girl. i regularly go in my local pub with my friends as they are all 18 or over. over the last yr i have met a guy who is 23. the thing is i look older so i told him i am 18. he is a really nice guy and i think im falling for ...
A. 30 April 2007: Your biggest problem with this guy isn't your age, it's the fact that you lied to him about your age. Try telling him the truth and see if he's still interested. That's your test.
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Im worried my GF may have stopped taking the pill as she wants children!! Im only 17!! What should I do ?
Q. hi im 17, nearly 18 and i've been seeing this girl since we were 13, she is the same age as me. recently she has been dropping hints about children. We have been having sex since we were 13, i have always used a condom until she was 16 wen she ...
A. 30 April 2007: You have to tell her and this is why.... you might not want to break up but neither do you want children. If she isn't taking your pill in order to trap you into having kids then she obviously is only thinking of herself and doesn't love you as much ... (read in full...)
Just discovered hes been looking at child pornography!!!!!! I dont know what to do!!?
Q. i need some help. two days ago i found out my b/f has been looking up porn pictures of young girls on sites and downloading pictures (between the ages of about 8-13). i feel soo angry. i dont know what to do, we've talked about it and he apologised. ...
A. 30 April 2007: I'm sorry, but waterloo sunset is right. If you don't feel comfortable shopping your boyfriend however, please ring an advice line and explain the problem to them and see if there are any other issues. People who watch child porn have a serious ... (read in full...)
We used to have sex twice a day and miss it now we dont, what can I do to get it back!?
Q. I am 21 and my husband is 23, we have two kids and a wonderful marriage BUT..... We barely have sex anymore. We used to do it up to 2 times a day. Now he says he is tried and no in the mood. I know he isn't cheating so what do I do to help him get ...
A. 30 April 2007: It's natural that as the relationship goes on you'll have sex less. Also, the kids are quite likely wearing you both out so that he doesn't feel like it when you finally get to bed. Can someone else look after your kids one night so you can have the ... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant whilst on her period ?
Q. I know this might sound gross to some, but I still need to ask. Is it possible for a girl to become pregnant while menstruating? Also, is it wrong to have sex during a menstruation period if you wear a condom? My girlfriend is horniest during ...
A. 30 April 2007: It's not dangerous to have sex during a girl's period. Like you said, the main issue is that most guys just don't like it. However, a girl can get pregnant at any stage during her cycle so keep it safe.
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Seeing each other for a few weeks... about 6 times, does this mean we are officially dating ?
Q. I've been "seeing" a guy for a few weeks (seen each other 6 times, which amounts 1-2 times a week). We're both in our late 20s. We speak virtually every night on the phone. The problem is this: while I feel like we have a great time when we are...
A. 30 April 2007: Haha I miss being twelve when you could just turn around and say "So, are we going out then?" Those days were so much less complicated. My guess is that if things feel awkward when you're saying goodbye then there's something there. Feel the way ... (read in full...)
We argued and he didn't come after me! Should I forgive him, or just let it go?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and I've always been there by his side through the good and bad. We had an argument at one of his friends houses, something we could have worked out like we always do, but he walked away from me and ...
A. 29 April 2007: He didn't come after you but you didn't turn back and go to him either. You were both equally in the wrong. It shouldn't always have to be him making the first move. He's confirmed he loves you and cares for you but you don't believe it and it seems ... (read in full...)
Is it worth continuing to see him even although he's 22 and I'm 16? I REALLY like this guy.
Q. I am 16, my boyfriend is 22. his ex is having his baby in a months time, and my parents know this.. we started seeing each other only 3 months ago, he is getting a lot of crap from people about my age and a lot of drama is caused.. the situatio...
A. 29 April 2007: I think it's natural for your dad to be worried, not so much because of his age but more because his life is so complicated. Are you prepared for the effects this baby is going to have on his life? His first responsibility will always be to the baby ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but don't know if I could manage on my own financially.
Q. i want to leave my husband but im so afraid i wont be able to cope on my own.we own a buisness together and live at the place of work, we moved away from my family ,so i feel even more isolated, which means if i leave i wont have a job or a place to ...
A. 29 April 2007: It sounds as if your husband is trying to blackmail you to stay by saying there will be no money. If you own half the business then half of the money belongs to you and even if he has to sell the business to give you your share then he is legally ... (read in full...)
My friend wants to make me choose, it's either the guy I like or my friend, what do I do?
Q. hi all, i reali like this lad i go to schol wiv (yr 11 IN THE UK) we get on reali well nd love spendin time together but my best friend hates him and she says tht if i go out wiv him she will stop bein my mate and hate me forever i dont no what to ...
A. 29 April 2007: Have you asked your friend why she hates this guy? It seems to me that it'll be one of two reasons.... either that she's jealous that you have a boyfriend and she doesn't or that she knows something about your boyfriend that she can't tell you ... (read in full...)
I love my guy very much but his family is coming between us.
Q. Been with my bloke for 5 years. Engaged for 4 1/2 years. Problem is his family. They are always after money from him - they do it behind my back - and he gives into them everytime. They normally only want him or get in touch when they want something ...
A. 29 April 2007: I understand both sides of your situation. On one hand you're worried that you're going to carry on like this forever and it's going to end up being your joint money rather than his being given to his family. However, I think maybe the fact that ... (read in full...)
Lonely and sad after my split with hubby. Any advice on trying to make a full life for myself again?
Q. Hi, Im 32 and have been split up with my husband 9 months today, im having good days and bad, today is bad as Im feeling so sad and lonely and I cant imagine ever being truly happy again. I havent eaten properly for months and I feel like im fading ...
A. 29 April 2007: The salsa is a great idea for trying to get your life back. Finding yourself single must be such a shock after years of marriage and in time you'll feel ready to get out there and meet people again, although it might still be too soon for you. ... (read in full...)
He won't leave his gf and baby for me! But he wants to be with me..what can we do?
Q. im 19 and fallen in love with a 28 year old man he works behind the bar at my local pub, we exchanged numbers i later found out he had a girlfriend and she was pregnant, but carried on textin and then started meeting he split with his girlfirend as ...
A. 29 April 2007: Move on. He's been a total git to his girlfriend but he's doing the right thing now by being there for the baby. Whether he loves his girlfriend or not he has responsibilities to his child now and owes it to the kid to grow up in a two parent family ... (read in full...)
If he's no longer my bf, then is doing things with him sexually..a wrong thing to do?
Q. My ex bf and I broke up about a year ago because he was moving to a state up north and I live in the South. We really loved each other and now he goes to school in the south (still not in my state tho) and we have met once since to hang out. We ...
A. 29 April 2007: It's not morally wrong to sleep with each other when you've broken up. It comes down to a question of choice. Do you think you can separate your feelings for him enough to be able to have sex but not expect to get back together? Personally I ... (read in full...)
I have a straight friend who has a girlfriend but I'm curiously attracted to him but he's not interested. Help!!!!
Q. i have a straight friend who has a girlfriend but every time i visit him at home when his girlfriend is out i tend to talk male sex and i feel that i'm curously attracted to him and would like to kiss him but he's not interested. help! ...
A. 29 April 2007: It's a case of unrequited love. He's not interested, you are. This might sound harsh but you only have one option and that's to accept it and get over it.
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Do you think i should tell this boy that i love him or just keep it to myself?
Q. Do you think i should tell this boy that i love him or just keep it to myself? my close friends know, and my parents have guessed. he's involved with someone who is also very close to me. although i don't intend to try and break up them (and i doub...
A. 28 April 2007: I don't think you should tell him if he's with someone else. It'll only confuse him and jeopardise a relationship which likely makes him very happy. If you were both single I'd tell you to tell him asap but if you were to tell him it'd be a selfish ... (read in full...)
I have recently been introduced to my Brother's drinking mate, he is 27 and gorgeous. I really like him but I don't have the confidence to tell him how I feel.
Q. I have recently been introduced to my Brother's drinking mate, he is 27 and gorgeous. I really like him but I don't have the confidence to tell him how I feel. We get on really well and we always flirt and he always gives me a kiss on the cheek wh...
A. 28 April 2007: The way I see it you can spend your whole life wondering whether he likes you as more than a friend or you can ask him. The second way is less trouble!
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As I was leaving his place, he said "I will walk you home if you make it worth my while". Now he's real off with me! Any advice?
Q. Im 13 and the lad I like is 16. Weve known eachother a year now. We are really close and gotten into each other alot but it doesn't lead anywhere else.A few days ago i went to his and we got close kissing etc... just as I was about to leave he said ...
A. 28 April 2007: To be 100% honest it sounds like he only wants you for one thing.
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I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish.
Q. I live in Spain and cannot speak alot of Spanish. Theres this really cute Spanish guy i like, but i cant get him to notice me. Its really hard to talk to him as i cannot speak the language very well. Last time i talked to him i looked like ...
A. 28 April 2007: Creo que eres alucinante (cray-oh kay er-es alooseenantay) I think you're awesome
Dame un muerdo (da may oon mwertho) Give me a snog
Those two should start you off on your journey towards learning spanish :)
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My bf's insecurity issues have rubbed off on me! Advice appreciated!
Q. Hi im currently in a relationship with my boyfriend of nearly 2years. I need advice on some insecurity issues. We both have issues hes just as worse as i am that it's kind of rubbed off on me. I cant stand watching hip hop music videos because i get ...
A. 28 April 2007: Okay... my advice. There's not enough room in any relationship for two people who are insecure. They inevitably fall apart for truly stupid reasons and it would be a shame to see that happen to you. When you're watching a video you're watching what ... (read in full...)
As I was leaving his place, he said "I will walk you home if you make it worth my while". Now he's real off with me! Any advice?
Q. Im 13 and the lad I like is 16. Weve known eachother a year now. We are really close and gotten into each other alot but it doesn't lead anywhere else.A few days ago i went to his and we got close kissing etc... just as I was about to leave he said ...
A. 28 April 2007: I think that, as a matter of courtesy he should walk you home anyway, especially if you're leaving his when it's dark. However this isn't compulsory and it doesn't make him a bad boyfriend if he doesn't, just inconsiderate. He's trying to blackmail ... (read in full...)
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