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I know this is a silly question... but should I break up with him?
Q. should i break up with him ? first,i don't trust him like i used to.secound,i don't feel that he actually understands me like he used. third, we fight alot. fourth, i don't feel that he listens to me .fifth, i don't feel that he cares about me !!!ya ...
A. 12 May 2007: There will always be regrets whether you break up on good or bad terms with someone. Life will be rubbish for a little while after breakig up and it will make you wonder whether you did the right thing, but if you know in your heart of hearts that ... (read in full...)
We will be getting married in Aug. but we have a slight problem he continues to converse with his ex!!!
Q. What do you think i should do? We have been together for 3 1/2 yrs. We will be getting married in Aug. but we have a slight problem he continues to converse with his ex. Should we be getting married?...
A. 12 May 2007: Do you love him and do you want to be married to him? If the answer to both these questions is yes then you should marry him. You've been together for 3 and a half years. He's friends with his ex, nothing more nothing less. If he wanted to marry his ... (read in full...)
DO you think I should just wait it out, perhaps I still have a chance with him? Or should I just forget it?
Q. I really like this guy, and when he found out he said he liked me too. Thing is he kept me hanging for ages, and I had no clue where I stood with him. Turns out he also liked one of my best friends, and she happened to like him back. Nothing ...
A. 12 May 2007: I think you forget him. However perfect and wonderful this gy is, what's he's basically said is that h doesn't want you but he'd like you to hang around in case he ever does. If he throws you random shows of affection you'll be more likely to be ... (read in full...)
What is REAL love???
Q. how do i know if he loves me?...
A. 12 May 2007: Simple answer- you won't. All through your life you'll have to rely on trusting that he loves you rather than seeing the actual evidence. Words are easy and anyone can say they love you but it takes real effort to prove it. Be less obsessed on being ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my Ex even after 20 years?
Q. Why can't I get over my Ex even after 20 years ? 20 years I met this wonderfull girl. We went out with each other for 2 years. She was my "soul mate". I was 16 and she was nearly 15 when her parents caught us having sex. We were forced to split ...
A. 12 May 2007: And you never will love anyone quite like you loved her. She was your first love and that makes her special in a way that no other woman can be. But you've gone along different paths for too long. It's likely you have nothing in common anymore and ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have sex with my guy friend and will he still look at me the same?
Q. Is it okay to have sex with my guy friend and will he still look at me the same?...
A. 12 May 2007: It's okay to have sex with him if that's what you want but I think you need to accept he'll see you as a sex buddy rather than as a human being if you do. You shouldn't be sleeping with anyone you can't talk to about the aftermath anyway. Why not ... (read in full...)
I think the age difference of 18 yrs is taking its toll on us, but what if I dont find someone to love me like he does!?
Q. I've been with by boyfiend for 2 years. We have an 18 year age gap, I'm almost 22. Recently I've been wondering whether I'm really up to this because of the age. He acts silly all the time so it's like going out with a child sometimes but he's ...
A. 11 May 2007: You could live your life based on what ifs but it's not advisable. Making a decision is scary and empowering all at the same time but it's so worth it if you're not 100% happy with your current situation.
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Is she hinting that she likes me, or just being friendly ?
Q. Hey Guys, Well this is jus a general queation I think, I'm friends with a girl called R, she is everything I want in a girl and were both single, we connect on every level just perfectly, we have loads in common, text each other day talk...
A. 11 May 2007: I think she's hinting she likes you but you know there's only one way to find out right? Ask her!
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Just found he cheated when we were dating.. but do cheaters change after marriage?
Q. My husband cheated on me (more than once) while dating me 2 1/2 yrs. I married him not knowing he had cheated during that time. Do you believe cheaters really can change and only cheat during dating but not cheat after marrying the person?...
A. 11 May 2007: Some people always cheat, some people change their ways when they get married, other people never cheat before they get married and then get hooked on it. There are no guarantees with marriage. 2/3 end well 1/3 ends badly. I would say that the most ... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to remain less then happy for my daughters sake even though I would prefer to be with my ex anyway!?
Q. Here we go...the ex wants to come back! There was alot of good and bad between us, but so far its been almost 2 yrs and my feelings for him still have not faded. Maybe its because my current bf just doesn't make me feel like he did, good or bad. ...
A. 11 May 2007: If your current relationship isn't working then you're right to consider ending it but I would strongly advise talking to your daughter and her father before making the move. Surely if your ex wants to be with you so much he would consider moving to ... (read in full...)
My BF is a virgin how can I help him along sexually by giving him a Blow Job ?
Q. Hiya all well i really do need help here the last time me and my bf tried to have sex (he still a v so it would have been his first time but am not) he was up and everything but he couldn't keep up as he was so nervous well here my question i wanna ...
A. 11 May 2007: Give him a blow job but don't let him come, bring him to the brink and then stop and repeat as many times as you can get away with. This will probably make him so sexually frustrated that he needs a release and should stay solid for the main event ... (read in full...)
Do people think of past sexual experiences when with a different partner?
Q. Do people think of past sexual experiences when with a different partner? im worried my girlfriend thinks about ex's in that way. should i tell her?...
A. 11 May 2007: If you ask her that she's going to think you think about other people when you have sex and it's going to cause an argument. I strongly advise that you don't ask her unless she happens to scream out someone elses name during sex,
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What are the risks of being "fingered" by your boyfriend?
Q. hey there i'm 13 years old and i was wondering if it's okay for a girl my age to let her boyfriend finger bang her? because my boyfriend does it but i'm comfortable with him doing that. also what are the risks of being finger banged?...
A. 11 May 2007: Okay, the physical risks are that you could get a sexual transmitted disease such as genital warts or herpes both of which are treatable but incurable The mental side effects are more dangerous. You will probably feel pressured into sleeping with ... (read in full...)
What are the risks of being "fingered" by your boyfriend?
Q. hey there i'm 13 years old and i was wondering if it's okay for a girl my age to let her boyfriend finger bang her? because my boyfriend does it but i'm comfortable with him doing that. also what are the risks of being finger banged?...
A. 11 May 2007: Okay, the physical risks are that you could get a sexual transmitted disease such as genital warts or herpes both of which are treatable but incurable The mental side effects are more dangerous. You will probably feel pressured into sleeping with ... (read in full...)
We hugged all of the first night. but the second she wasn't so eager. can anyone tell me what this means and how I can get her to like me?
Q. I have just got out of a bad relationship and am lookiing for love. I have fallen for this beautiful girl. She is funny and has a great personality. She likes me too, but only as a friend. I told her I liked her because I couldn't keep it in ...
A. 11 May 2007: I'm guessing the first night she was actually keen but by the second night she'd had a chance to speak to her friend who had told her she wasnt comfortable with you two dating. Girls your age will almost always stick with their friends above love ... (read in full...)
Who can help me here regarding breast sizes?
Q. Is it true that with breast sizes the "32,34,36,38" is just the back width measurement and the "a,b,c,d" is the breast size or .. someone explain it to me please ...
A. 11 May 2007: Okay, get a tape measure and measure around your back under your breasts. If you get an even number add four and if you get an odd number add 5 (inches) Then measure around your breasts at the widest point. If the difference between the two ... (read in full...)
I'm really struggling to start and maintain converstaions with people
Q. I'm really struggling to start and maintain converstaions with people, has any one got any tips for this I would really be grateful?...
A. 11 May 2007: It only takes a hi to start a conversation. Think about something you can say to start a convo if you're worried, something casual like it's such a nice day or I love your jeans etc. Maintaining a conversation is a two person job but if you're very ... (read in full...)
I'm moving but she wants me to stay "single" for her!
Q. I have gotten involved with a girl from work. At first we were just friends, but last week she was hinting that it was something more. Yesterday she told me flat out that she really liked me ever since we started working together. I know it's not ...
A. 11 May 2007: It's very noble of you not wanting to hurt her by telling the truth but you're likely to hurt her much more in the long term by not being straight with her. You don't need to tell her you're not interested in a nasty way... just tell her you think ... (read in full...)
Fidelity and marriage
Q. Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
A. 10 May 2007: Well done, this is a fantastic article, so true!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't keep his hands off me in public. Is this normal?
Q. ok this may sound silly, but my boyfriend is obsessed with my boobs! everywhere we are he has his hand up my top. he even does this in public now. The other day we were sitting watching TV with my parents and he had his arm round me and was there ...
A. 10 May 2007: It's a little abnormal. The situation in front of your parents had me cringing down the internet to you. Some people are more comfortable than others with public displays of affection. Personally I think there is a time and a place and I get a ... (read in full...)
Her ex wants her back! She's confused...how do I handle this?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a few months now. Her ex has recently got back in touch and says he wants her back. Shes still with me at the moment, but is confused, and I'm scared shes gonna go back to him. How can we over-come this? ...
A. 10 May 2007: You need to give her the space and time to make the decision. Tell her you love her very much but that you need her to make this decision for both your sakes and then back off. There's always a danger she won't pick you but if you act like a ... (read in full...)
I've got loads of horrid stretch marks. How did they come and how can I get rid of them?
Q. I've got loads of horrid stretch marks. How did they come and how can I get rid of them? they're on most parts of my body like my arms and legs and i can't wear sleeve-less t-shirts because they will show :( it's really embarassing! please tell me...
A. 10 May 2007: You can't get rid of stretch marks. Once you've got them they're here to stay. However, they do fade over time from ugly red marks to faint silver lines. This will happen quicker if you moisturise the skin or rub olive oil into them regularly. ... (read in full...)
We have tried 2 have sex more than 8 times and it's still extremely painful.
Q. I'm 18 and I lost my virginity to my boyfriend on March 10th. It was painful but as time went on it got easier. Since then, we have tried 2 have sex more than 8 times and it's still extremely painful. Most times he can't even get half way in ...
A. 10 May 2007: Sometimes when you're trying too hard to feel relaxed you're actually more tense than you know and having read your post it strikes me that it may be your problem. You think you're relaxed, maybe you are, but maybe you want to be relaxed so much ... (read in full...)
She wanted me to choke her during sex as she said it heightened her orgasm!!!!
Q. i am not bragging here but i do consider myself to know a bit about sex but a week ago i met a women who asked me to start choking her during sex this is... well very weird to me but i did it, anyway afterwards she said it hightens people's orgasm. ...
A. 10 May 2007: It is said to work, from the people who survive attempting it. The important thing to remember is that people have died through this particular sex game and it is really dangerous. Personally I have never felt the need to practise this so don't know ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what male sperm tastes like when he comes during oral and can it do harm of swallowed?
Q. Can anyone tell me what male sperm tastes like when he comes during oral and can it do harm of swallowed?...
A. 10 May 2007: Hiya, the flavour of semen is a bit impossible to describe but it's salty and has a kind of gooey consistency and no, it can't do any harm to swallow it. On the contrary it is an excellent source of protein.
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I'm in love with my best friend - should I tell her before she leaves the country for good or just enjoy our time together?
Q. In love with my best friend... Should I stop seeing her? I went out with a close friend for a while and eventually she dumped me and broke my heart. We stayed friends, though it was really hard for me. She's currently got a boyfriend of 7 m...
A. 9 May 2007: I don't think that telling her how you feel would achieve anything. She'd still have a boyfriend and she'd still be leaving the country, probably feeling bad about breaking your heart because she can't return your feelings for her.
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My marriage is in trouble being of his lying, other females and his running away when he doesn't like something!
Q. I don't know what to do with my marriage. We have been together for almost 5 yrs 2 of them married. We have 2 kids together and everytime he gets mad he leaves. Whether it's for a week or a month he leaves us with NOTHING. He works and I stay at ...
A. 9 May 2007: Sounds like you have three kids instead of two and I'm sure you don't need this. His childish behaviour and spoilt brat act of leaving if he doesn't get his own way has got to change. It's immature and it sets a bad example to your children. You ... (read in full...)
He's only 17, going to get engaged with his GF, but I am falling in love with him!
Q. We'll call him *Dave* He's going to get engaged to his girlfriend but I think she's more interested in the ring. He's only 17 but he's really devoted to her. I've had past relationships which have been abusive and very unbareable as one ex boy...
A. 9 May 2007: We all suffer from unrequited love at some point in our lives but it always feels like the pain is very personal. What makes your case different from most is the fact that he's getting married... maybe this will never happen, at 17 it's totally ... (read in full...)
My BF of 6 years wants me to move out of our house to give him a break but I just can't!
Q. help my partner of 6 years has had enough of me. We both own the house, but he wants me to move out for awhile to give us/him a break, and see how we feel. I don't want to move out. I am 45yrs old and before i met my partner owned my own little h...
A. 9 May 2007: Why do you have to move out and not him?
Presumably your house has more than one bedroom. Tell him you'll give him his space but you're not leaving the house that belongs to both of you. If he has a problem with that then he can move out but sinc... (read in full...)
How do I get past all the damage my alcoholic husband has caused?
Q. How do I get past all the damage he's caused? My husband is an alcoholic and we've had some major issues in the past. For the past 2 years he gets real mean and aggressive when he drinks a lot. I have left him several times and each time I come ...
A. 8 May 2007: Only you have the power to change this situation. That may seem harsh when you're not the person with the problem but it's true. Right now he's in a place where he's too messed up to help you or himself and he needs to admit he has a problem before ... (read in full...)
My confidence is really low and I'm a size 18 (UK), do guys really want a girl this size?
Q. I like this guy alot but my confidence is really low, I'm a size 18(uk) and im quite tall so its kinda spread out but do guys really want this especially when they're like 18? any thoughts? ...
A. 8 May 2007: Look around when you're next out in town and count the number of girls bigger than you walking round with guys hanging off their every word. I'm no guy but I've learnt that confidence is the key. You can be the most beautiful girl in the world and ... (read in full...)
I know I'm not going to live up to my parents expectations with my school grades - how do I talk to them?
Q. I'm leaving school in a week and im really scared....my mum and step dad expect A's and B's in my GCSE's and i know im not getting them and i dont wana let them down!...i need 2 talk to them but im worried! i also am nearly 16 and never allowed out ...
A. 8 May 2007: Okay, you can't change what will be much now but you can show your parents that you're trying. You need to put everything else on hold until the exams are over and study your ass off! If they see you making a huge effort towards your exams then they ... (read in full...)
How do I tell mom I need to make my own choices
Q. I want my ex back!! My mom doesnt think hes the guy for me. I love him with all I have and he's got so much to offer and I want to spend the rest of my life with him. She has always been involved in my relationships and I dont know how to tell her ...
A. 7 May 2007: Keep it straightforward. Tell her you really appreciate her opinion but that you need to give it another try with this guy because if you don't you think you'll regret it forever.
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My bf wants to wait until I'm 18, but I want sex now!
Q. hi there im a 17 year old female and i have a boyfriend who is 32 years old we love each other very much and my parents know about our relationship and adore him. we have been seeing each other for 6 months the only problem is i really want to have ...
A. 7 May 2007: Yes its legally okay but he probably just wants to feel like you're a fully consenting adult when you have sex. You're not termed an adult until you're 18 in the UK so in my opinion thats what he's worried about. Think about it a different way- if ... (read in full...)
Will he mind that I'm actually not as toned as he thinks?
Q. ok im 20 and last when i was out in a club, i met a really nice guy who asked for my number and said he would call me this week to take me out. Problem is ... i was wearing stomach-holding-in pants so i looked really toned. im scared to meet him now ...
A. 7 May 2007: So go out on a date with him minus the holding in pants and see how it goes. Remember that looks attract us to a person but personality is what holds us on and since it's only a first date it's not like he's going to be seeing you naked anyway so go ... (read in full...)
I really like this girl but I am confused as to how she feels about me.
Q. i really like this girl i am 23 she is 21. i don't know how she feels about me. when we talk there seems to be nervous silence. also she says something then a couple of days later she says i imagined it. but i still want to admit my feelings for her ...
A. 7 May 2007: Well you're not 12 anymore, you're both mature adults. I think that means your friendship should be able to cope with you telling the truth, whether she wants a relationship or not. If you don't ask you don't get after all.
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She's leaving to do volunteer work and I'm devasted about it.
Q. I have a bit of a problem at the moment that I'm not sure now to handle. I've been with my GF for several months now, and I think the world of her. We hit it off straight away, and things have been going as well as I could have wished for in the ...
A. 7 May 2007: You're right, this is a difficult one. Ultimately Copenhagen is probably a huge opportunity for her and you shouldn't stand in the way of that. On the other hand if you don't make your feelings known to her then she might think you don't care and ... (read in full...)
For 2 weeks out of every month my wife is a nightmare!
Q. I need help. I will keep this short. I love my wife very much. Things finacially are great. For 2 weeks out of the month she is just great. I mean we have a blast, taking trips, going out she is awesome (the old friend I grew up with). Then one day ...
A. 6 May 2007: Do you think it could be a bad case of PMT? (ie do her symptoms coincide with her period?) Some women do suffer very badly with their periods and the mental symptoms that follow them and there is a lot that can be done to help, like avoiding certain ... (read in full...)
I'm 25-she's 18 and I like her! Am I creepy for wanting to date someone much younger?
Q. Hello My name is Trent and I'm 25 years old. I have a good friend named Emily who is 18 years old, and this problem is about her. We met two years ago when I was 23 and she was 16. We were both working at the same pizza place and became frie...
A. 6 May 2007: No, you're not being creepy. I think the fact that she's 18 rather than 17 is really vital here because it means you're now both adults and can make your own decisions about things. Just be aware that she has different pressures in her life right ... (read in full...)
we want a baby but I can't 'come' inside her! What can I do?
Q. me (19) an my wife (18) got married nearly a year ago and about 6 months ago we started tryin for a baby, theres is a slight problem thoguh, i cant come inside her, its realy frustrating, i love her so so so much and i dont want us to end up ...
A. 6 May 2007: Okay, when you're masturbating can you come then? If yes have you thought that it's perhaps a psychological thing about making babies? Maybe deep down you're not quite ready to be having babies and feel a bit pushed into it by her? Or maybe you ... (read in full...)
She kissed another guy! Should I go back to her?
Q. hey my girlfreind who i was going out with for 7 months recently cheated on me(she kissed another bloke). my family dont think i should go back to her but i think she is the love of my life. she has appologised a number of times.its been 1 week ...
A. 6 May 2007: What's your instinct? Do you still want to be with her? You're both young and when you're young you make more mistakes than you might otherwise. It really is down to you rather than your family's thoughts since you will have to live with the regret ... (read in full...)
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