New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login244945 questions, 1084256 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap
*d206 agony aunt

*d206

United Kingdom  (Female   XML/RSS

Like what she writes?
... Add *d206 to your favourite agony aunts

Want to get in touch?
... Send *d206 a private message

*d206's Ratings
Excellent60%
Average17%
Poor23%
*d206's profile:

Hi, my name is Cat and I'm 22 years old. I live in various cities in the UK since the city where I study and where my family live are different. I'm currently just out of a relationship and enjoying the single life for a while. I don't know that I am qualified to help people but I'd like to try. I've had a lot of experiences in my life and despite being quite young I'm always helping my friends with their problems. I'd like the chance to help all of you too. Feel free to private message me anytime.If you do however, please include some details of your problem as I answer a lot here and can't always remember specific problems. With big hugs, Cat xx

< Prev1234567891011Next > [42 pages, 1654 answers]

My younger sister (14) has sex with her BF which my mother doesn't know, should I tell her?

Q.   hi, this isnt really advice im after but something i just cannot get my head around?!!!!!!!! my sister is 13 years old she will be 14 in august. she has been goin out with this 17 year old guy now for about 3 to 4 months and i know she is havi...

A.   3 April 2008: I don't know why your mum has double standards about you dating a 17yr old and your sister doing it but I think you could cause a lot (maybe too much) trouble by telling your mum about your sister. Maybe try using the experience of your years to ... (read in full...)

Why would he say he loves me and not call me for about a week?

Q.   I called one of my guy friends and we spoke on the phone for 1 or 2 hours and after the conversation he call's me and not say anything and hangs up he kept doing that 4 times. He did it for the 5th time and not say a word so I decided not to hang up ...

A.   29 March 2008: Because he's embarassed. He laid his heart on the line and you as good as rejected him. He's probably feeling embarassed and sad you told him he was wrong and doesn't know what to say to you. If your response to him was shock and you do actually ... (read in full...)

Am I being used or does he really like me??

Q.   well am 16 and recently guys have started noticing me. I've had 4 boyfriends in the last 6 months or so but theres always been one thats special to me..hes 17 and has a kid but the problem is am still a virgin..we've messed around alot and since we ...

A.   29 March 2008: I think your gut feeling about this guy and your fear he's messing you about are probably right here but who am I to say? I don't know the guy. What I would say (and this is very generalised) is that a guy who already has a kid at 17 could be ... (read in full...)

I'm ready to have sex but he wants to wait until he's older! What should I do?

Q.   Hey, me and my BF have nown each other for about 1 year and 1 month we have been going out for about 6 months and we love each other sooo much... now just to get to the ponit i've felt ready with him for about 2 months and he's only just f...

A.   26 March 2008: You don't really have a choice as to what you should do. If one person is not ready the other person has to wait til they are. Girls are more mature than boys and are often ready for this kind of thing a bit sooner. Why not spend some time learning ... (read in full...)

How can I help my friend see her BF is not worth it? I don't want to see her get hurt.

Q.   my best friend has been with her boyfriend for 1 year and they have been through quite a lot of emotional stuff which was very serious. my friend's parents don't really let her have her independence and are not keen on her boyfriend. he doesn't make...

A.   26 March 2008: I think if you get too involved in her relationship she will start to blame you for the things that go wrong even though they would be nothing to do with you. The only thing we can do when our friends are in destruction mode is to be there for them ... (read in full...)

I've been emotionally cheated on, is it possible to move on?

Q.   Anyone out there ever been emotionally cheated on? Is it possible to move on. I work with my husband and the girl and have to see them on a regular basis. I found out he had been secretly flirting with her, and they even had a secret handshake. He ...

A.   22 March 2008: Yes. Ask yourself if you can honestly say there is no other guy in your life that you occassionally innocently flirt with, because to me, it doesn't sound like your guy has done anything wrong here. Flirting is different to out and out cheating and ... (read in full...)

My friend thinks I should ask him out but I'm too fat and ugly for him to ever like me. What should I do?

Q.   hi this is quite long sorry well i am 12 and in year 7 at school and there is this boy in my tutor we talk and laugh together and i really fancy him and want to go out with him, but i am to fat and ugly that he will never go out with me also my ...

A.   21 March 2008: What's worse? Looking like an idiot or continuing to feel hopeless? Little tip for you... and I swear, it's something that I only recently mastered and definitely couldn't do at 12.... when you ask a guy out believe he is going to say yes because if ... (read in full...)

My father is an alcoholic. How do I get him to stop?

Q.   im 16 years old im pregnant and my dad is an alcoholic. I want him to stop coz he is tearing the family apart and he keaps promising but ends up breaking them. What can i do please help. ...

A.   4 March 2008: You can't stop him drinking. I don't know if you've ever had an addiction but breaking it is incredibly difficult and sometimes, even when u want to stop its not tht easy. What u can do is ask ur dad to get help off AA or a similar organisation. For ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem?

Q.   My boyfriend doesn't think of me when he masturbates, is this a problem? He says men don't masturbate about the woman they love??...

A.   19 February 2008: I don't think its a problem. Masturbation is about fantasy and your current partner is about reality. Sometimes these two can mix but usually it's best to keep them secret. I wouldn't worry about this in the least bit as long as he's still having a ... (read in full...)

Any ideas how I can help her stop doubting herself??

Q.   hi, my girlfriend really wants to be a model, and i think she could do it, and oeveryone in my school tinks she does to, some people thought she already was. So we were goign to go to london and go to some agencies, but she keeps doubting herself,...

A.   18 February 2008: Modelling is not a career for someone with any self confidence issues. If she is in any doubt about how good she is then she's not ready for this career yet. Concentrate on making sure she knows how beautiful she is and that she eats sensibly and ... (read in full...)

I gave him the green light to touch me, but he didnt. Whats wrong?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a month. He's very affectionate and likes to hold me, cuddle me and caress me. We've not slept together yet but I've slept in his bed with him and the other night we were both really turned on. I had ...

A.   16 February 2008: Do you know how experienced he is? Maybe, when it comes down to it, he has no idea wht to do when given the permission to go there. As a one off I wouldn't worry too much about it. Just see what happens next. Also, there's nothing wrong with putting ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation and had the first love come back to you after you initiated break up not knowing what you had?

Q.   Hi. I'm just curious on this one. My first love and I had a basicallly perfect relationship, but I broke it off not knowing what I had. He soon rebounded and has been with her ever since (almost 3 years.) Odds are they will be marrying soon, but ...

A.   14 February 2008: I am in a nearly identical situation except he broke it off with me and is the one who is flirting dangerously with me now whilst engaged to someone else. When he flirts he makes me feel so alive in a way I never have since we broke up but I know ... (read in full...)

I want to be with my boyfriend thousands of miles away. But it is a big step. What should I do?

Q.   I am in a really difficult situation and don't know what to do next or how to handle it. I am 35 and have seen a guy for a year now but only friends know as my family relationships (parents and sister) have been very up and down and I have grown ...

A.   3 February 2008: My personal feelings is that it's a very big step to take to emigrate to be with someone. It'll probably work out if you're meant to be but it will be hard because for the longest time you'll only have each other and itll take a while for you to ... (read in full...)

Can I go on and off the Pill, and still be safe?

Q.   Ok, I have a problem!! I am in a long distances relationship. and I only get 2 see him like every 2 or 3 weeks maybe longer! We don't have sex every time we see each other, but most of the time we do! We use condoms EVERY TIME! But, I wanna go on ...

A.   30 January 2008: No you can't. If you don't take the pill regularly it won't work and the first time you take it, it can take up to a month to start working properly. The pill is amazing in lots of different ways but it can also have side effects that are differen... (read in full...)

First love...Does it ever end?

Q.   Hi, I want to know if your feelings ever truely fade for your first love or do we hold those feelings for the rest of our lives!! I know the saying that you never forget your first love! My situation is that, I went out with a boy when I was 16...

A.   30 January 2008: No, I don't think we ever truly get over our first love. The first person to love you makes you feel so special and powerful and if you happen to love them back then you're twice blessed. Because it's the first time for you feeling those emotions ... (read in full...)

Went on vacation, met a guy, had sex,like him alot,we email, should I pursue this?

Q.   I went abroad on a mini-vacation for a few days and met a guy. We clicked, but I was afraid to develop feelings for him, so I started to act aloof. That made him act the same way. I think he couldn't really understand the sudden change in my ...

A.   30 January 2008: Im not saying that holiday romances never work out, just that its suddenly a lot different when you're suddenly thrown back into real life... ie you don't have 24 hours a day to spend with someone, you have to factor in the real life issues of jobs ... (read in full...)

We both are too shy to become more physical. Please help.

Q.   hello my gf and i have been going out for six months now...we both want to hug and kiss and have physical contact but we r both to shy any advice on this. ive been looking at other questions like this but they dont have the answers i ...

A.   29 January 2008: Trust me, the hardest part of any first relationship is stretching your arm out and putting it round her. U could do it the way dorky guys do it in the movies or you could just go for it. She's your girlfriend and I bet she wants the contact too. ... (read in full...)

An on line test said I have severe depression. What can I do?

Q.   hi i took one of those tests online to say whether i had depression or not. i have been feeling really bad for about 2 years or so. it suddenly got really bad. the test online, which came from a very reliable online doctors site, said i had majo...

A.   29 January 2008: My experience of these diagnose yourself websites is that you have a pretty good idea of what you think is wrong with you before you enter your first answer. This isn't me saying you want to be depressed but I wouldn't be surprised if you want ... (read in full...)

Am I jealous of my friend?

Q.   well i was wondering if im jealous of my friend? you see me and her have the same classes together last year and this year.shes a alright looking i think.anyways this year a lot of boys like her.i dont know why? but she have big boobs.i mean lar...

A.   28 January 2008: I wouldn't term it as jealousy, that seems a bit extreme. Maybe wistfulness, meaning you wish you had what she did... but really I think it's the guy thing you're jealous about more than her boobs. It's common at all ages to have friends who get ... (read in full...)

Whats going on through his head?

Q.   Hey i have to talk to someone or im either going to cry or scream or do something stupid. Argh so here goes. First off Im going to tell u the story of how 4 and a half months of my life get flushed down the toilet in a single weekend, my ...

A.   28 January 2008: Regarding your follow up. Please stop trying to work out what you did wrong because you haven't done anything. It's all too easy when we get dumped to blame ourselves but we shouldn't. Perhaps you did do something to make him end the relationship ... (read in full...)

Shocked and hurt that he suggested, I clear off my huge debt!

Q.   I have been with my partner for a year and just recently we bought a home together. I came to the relationship with £7000 debt on my credit card and he agreed that this should go on our mortgage as the interest rate was cheaper. We were talking abou ...

A.   27 January 2008: Let me ask you this.... when you added the debt to your mortgage did you feel this huge release of pressure from the debt first and then an urge to spend spend spend soon after. I guess tht while we all have small debts, £7000 is pretty extreme. Now ... (read in full...)

Whats going on through his head?

Q.   Hey i have to talk to someone or im either going to cry or scream or do something stupid. Argh so here goes. First off Im going to tell u the story of how 4 and a half months of my life get flushed down the toilet in a single weekend, my ...

A.   27 January 2008: No... don't you dare think it's you. This is all him being too gutless to talk to you and that's not on. Demand an explanation. Don't be softly softly about it. You deserve to know what suddenly changed even if it doesn't lead to you getting back ... (read in full...)

What should I do for the best.

Q.   Hi, I have been with my partner Julie for seven years and we have a son aged five. We have been very happy for most of the times but the last 6 weeks have been hell. Julie started drinking heavily just before xmas. Her attitude towards h...

A.   27 January 2008: Can you think of a reason why the drinking started? ie- can you get her help to overcome that issue so tht the drinking stops? Or does the drinking seem to be random? I would talk to her when she's sober about why she suddenly feels the need to ... (read in full...)

Boy troubled, sex involved...:(

Q.   I was going out with this boy for about a year... it was great but ended we never did get that close, sexually wise, only a bit of foreplay.. Since weve broken up ( about a year later ) we cant keep our hands of eachother.. We know theres somethin...

A.   27 January 2008: Okay... I'm trying to find a way to say this without sounding patronising but look at the facts.... He broke up with you and has another girlfriend. You both have sex and you love him. If he loved you why is he still with his girlfriend? It seems... (read in full...)

I do not have a driver's license yet, thus feel a bit embarassed. Is this a huge deal?

Q.   Im almost 30yr old. And Im terrified of driving. So therefore I still haven't obtained my drivers license. Now is this a huge deal breaker for men ??? I don't lie about it but at the same time Im a little ashamed at times so I don't bring it up ti...

A.   24 January 2008: I feel for you since I'm terrified of it as well. I took lessons and that just made it worse for me but I haven't met a guy yet who thinks less of me for it. Think about it, the way oil is running out driving will become obsolete in our lifetime ... (read in full...)

Does he tell her he's ending it because she's got BO?

Q.   My friend has just started seeing a girl. Nothing much has happened yet but the couple times they've got close, she has spelt of BO. He says it's a total turn-off and is going to end it but doesn't know if he should tell her the truth of why. ...

A.   17 January 2008: No, I don't think he should tell her. How hurtful would you find it if someone dumped you for something like that? I mean, I totally understand your friend's reasoning. I think I'd find it hard to be with a smelly guy too but surely at your age ... (read in full...)

She dumped me out of the blue after I tried to finger her...do you think there is any hope for the future??

Q.   My Girlfriend dumped me on Monday, after a month, she said that she didn't feel the same way as when we started dating, it just completely came out of nowhere and I was devastated. I was sure that we would last longer than that and i thought ...

A.   14 January 2008: Try to put yourself in her position. You're starting to realise your relationship isn't working for you anymore but the other person doesn't see it. You're waiting it out to see if your feelings will change but then something happens, something ... (read in full...)

Should we meet on neutral ground or should I just walk away??

Q.   My boyfriend of a year broke up with me a week ago. I feel 50/50 about it. Relief because we had been living together and it wasn't working, I feel happier back at home with my family. Sad because he was lovely to me, and I miss him, and it's har...

A.   14 January 2008: A little regret at the end of any relationship is to be expected.\If you didn't feel anything it would be tantamount to admitting that he never meant anything to you when he clearly did but the danger at the end of the relationship is we immediately ... (read in full...)

I have some questions about the pill....can anybody help??

Q.   I have a couple of questions about the pill, what are the side effects of taking the pill? What does it prevent and stop and how can i get it? If you ran out how do u get more does it cost to buy them?? ...

A.   14 January 2008: Hi, Side effects of the pill can vary from person to person and from pill to pill. When I was your age I didn't realise there are about 10 different types of pill and different ones affect different people in different ways. Some make some peo... (read in full...)

Is it best to pass your driving test before having a baby?

Q.   hi there, as you know i asked previously that i would like to have a baby with my new boyfriend and i am considering it as we are getting our own house and ive got my driving test at the end of the month and my boyfiend earns alot as he works two ...

A.   8 January 2008: The only thing that worries m about your post is that ure moving in with your boyfriend. Living with someone can be hugely stressful and very different to just seeing someone. I say give it a year of living together first just to check you're meant ... (read in full...)

My husband wants me to sleep with a male prostitute to get pregnant!

Q.   I'm 24, my husband's 26, and we've been married for 3 years now. We have a good lifestyle and our sex life is good. My husband is a very nice person, well-liked and popular and doesn't get jealous when I'm with other guys or on girls' nights ou...

A.   6 January 2008: I don't think it's unreasonable to tell him you don't want kids this way. It seems totally bizarre that he doesn't want to be the biological father to his children and I wonder if there's something he might know that you don't... like maybe he ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to be afraid of smelling 'down there'?

Q.   this is a really embarassing question...but i am a virgin and have not gone that far with a guy. i'm starting to talk to a guy that i really like and lately we have gotten closer. i know eventually we will fool around or have sex, but i'm nervous. i ...

A.   3 January 2008: I think as long as you bathe or shower regularly and wash down there well and are having no weird discharge that you don't have anything at all to worry about. I remember worrying about that too, especially when he was *down there* but it doesn't ... (read in full...)

How do I avoid being branded a homosexual stalker?

Q.   im in love with my best friend, i dont want to talk to him about it, i'm scared incase i loose a friend and be branded a stalker or somthing he's 16 and so am i, the confusing thing about it is he kissed me a few weeks ago and from then he's acted ...

A.   3 January 2008: You're at an age where so few people are sure about their sexuality and it's great that you know you're bisexual. It sounds to me as if your friend is confused and unable to admit he may, or may not, have homosexual leanings. It's not unusual to ... (read in full...)

It feels like my boobs have grown. Could I be pregnant?

Q.   Well me and my fiance have been trying to get pregnant for 7 months. From September the longest Finish to start again for my period has been 25 days, it's been 34 days since my last period ended. This is so confusing and frustrating! I have ha...

A.   3 January 2008: At the age you are it's not unusual for periods to still be quite irregular and unexpected. Your growing boobs might mean you're pregnant or it might just be a consequence of putting on a little weight over christmas. The only way to be sure of a ... (read in full...)

If you've just finished, but he says he loves you, is having sex with him the right thing to do?

Q.   If you were seeing some one for quite a while and total in love but still a virgin and really thought he was the one to do it with... however you have just recently finished because of certain circumstances but he told you he still loved you... is ...

A.   3 January 2008: I guess it would depend completely on the circumstances. Were they completely outside both of your controls (ie parents forced you to break up?) If either of you were in any way responsible for the end of the relationship then don't have sex with ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for 'doggy fashion' to hurt like this?

Q.   Me and my bf have been together for over a year now, and have recently started having sex. Don't get me wrong, I love it. But I've began to have a problem. He wants doggy all the time... He has this way of making sure we do it, and I try to move ...

A.   3 January 2008: Not at all.Doggy style allows for deeper penetration which is great for him but not so great for you, especially if he is above average size and banging repeatedly against your cervix. Talk to him. If you're mature enough to be having sex you also ... (read in full...)

How can I get my girlfriend to settle down about her diet issues??

Q.   im 14, so is my girlfriend. she is 5 foot tall. and she way's about 115 pound's. she is thin. but she think's she is heavy. i tell her all the time that she is not. and it makes no difference to me how heavy she is. but she wont stop. she is...

A.   3 January 2008: You could try telling her that the way diet pills work is by giving her chronic diarrhoea or you could tell her you wouldn't fancy her if she was any skinnier, that you find her perfect the way she is. All teenaged girls go through this at some ... (read in full...)

How can I get over my Christmas grief??

Q.   Hiya, I'll understand when you read this is you just tell me to grow up and get over it but i really need some help. Around November my dog that i'd had since i was 6 got quite ill and we didn't know what was wrong with her and in December she wen...

A.   22 December 2007: I do understand. The first anniversary without anyone who was important to you is so difficult, even without the added poignancy of them having passed away so close before or after christmas. My grandfather died just before christmas some years ago ... (read in full...)

Does chlamydia remain in your system even after treatment, being contagious?

Q.   If you get infected once by chylamadia and get treated for it, does it always remain in your system which makes it possible to infect others.......

A.   16 December 2007: No, it doesn't. The only thing to remember when taking antibiotics for chlamydia is to make sure your partner is taking them too, otherwise he or she could just reinfect you as soon as you're cured. CD... (read in full...)

Can virgins pass on STD's?

Q.   Okay so I'm going to ask the same question that I asked last time about 3-4 weeks ago becuase I really don't think I gave enough detail and no one really gave me an answer I was looking for. So, my question was can a virgin pass on STD's? Becaus...

A.   16 December 2007: When people say STDs can lie dormant in your system they are talking about the herpes simplex virus that causes cold sores, shingles and genital herpes. If you have never had a cold sore of shingles then you're not infected with the herpes simplex ... (read in full...)

How long after coming off the pill does it generally take before getting pregnant?

Q.   Hi everyone... My boyf and I are trying for a baby and I came off the pill in July of this year. How long after coming off the pill does it generally take before getting pregnant? ...

A.   10 December 2007: It can take up to six months for your body to fully adjust to coming off the pill and you can expect it to take a full year to get pregnant after that so I don't think you need to be worrying quite yet. CD... (read in full...)

*d206's friends

These are mutual friends, so *d206 has added them and they have added *d206!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.156253799999945!