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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (19 June 2008):
 He if he thinks you are not good enough to be his girlfriend, then he is not good enough to have you full stop.
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reader, Kami +, writes (19 June 2008):
Action number 1: Kick him in the gutter
Action number 2: Go buy vibrator
Action number 3: Find nice man that actually wants you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): No honey he doesn't deserve you full stop!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for what you guys/girls have said. i was thinking about going the other way but when i look at it from your point of views, your right he doesn't deserve to still have sex with me. thxx!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too...
By having sex with him you are not allowing yourself time to get over him. Also what happens if he meets another girl that he may want a relationship with in the future? Where does that leave you then? He's hardly going to carry on having sex with you as well as her?
You have more dignity and self respect than to go down that route. No one deserves that no matter how much they love the other person...
Just show him that you don't need him in your life, that you are strong and can be independant on your own! Even if you dont really believe it!
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 It doesn't sound like a mutual decision if you don't want to break up, but he does.
And I'm sorry but a man who "loves you more then anything in this world" would not be breaking up with you because he can't take the pressure of having a girlfriend.
Don't sleep with him, it's only going to make things worse. Just make it a clean break and try to move on. If he loves you as much as he says he does, then he'll come back to you.
But if he doesn't... Well, you deserve better then what he's thrown at you. "I love you, but I cant' take the pressure of being with you" ? Come on!
xo
scrazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2008): no your worth more than he gives u credit for your not his to he can't just have sex u get thatas a bonus when are going out he sees u as pressure he might just say that so he can have sex with u and others so don't fall for the trick tell him u don't like the idea make him choose then you will see the real him which ever way it turns ur better than a play toy
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (17 June 2008):
 Dear poster, I had never heard about anyone saying that he loves his girl "more than anything in the world" but still sees her as "pressure" he can´t take. I believe this is simply a sugar-coated break-up. Much like Snow White's apple, this is poison.
If he breaks up with you, cut all the good things that come with having you as a girlfriend. And, find yourself someone who will stand the "pressure" and won't only want to have "the fun".
You deserve better. Just find someone else.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (17 June 2008):
 First off is it really a mutual decision if you don't want it to happen? My guess is that you're being what he wants you to be in the hope that he'll change his mind. I think you're probably considering continuing to have sex with him for the same reason. To be honest his argument doesn't make sense to me at all but I'll admit you know him better. Sex can be just sex or it can be love and hope. If sex is just sex to you then there's no reason why you shouldn't continue to have sex with him. If however you think it'll make him love you again then save yourself the heartache and make it a clean break. If you're really meant to be you'll find your way back to each other eventually.
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