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writes:My boyfreind whats to marry me, he wants to have a long engagment. Im totaly up for it and we are perfect with eachother I just wondering I dont have to tell my parents straight away do i? Reply to this Question |
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reader, Kimaxsi  +, writes (9 May 2008):
I told my mom and she had the wedding planned in less than a week I was 19 then, parent's can get a bit over-zealous. My husband and I plan on renewing our vows so we can I guess have the type of wedding we want lol Are you afraid of them steam-rolling you not letting you plan things for yourself? Afraid they won't approve or try and tell you, you are too young? Are you uncertain? Do you only wonder b/c its in the future at some unforeseen time and are just not sure of the point?
Some parents are more sensitive than others my mom would've been absolutely gutted if I hadn't told her strait away, they do want to share in the excitement be a part of your life and involved. You don't have to tell them, but I am sure they will really appreciate it if you do and if there's going to be an issue with it, the best thing is to actually involve them as much as possible, let them get time to know the boy, see you happy together, they'll be a lot more receptive if they know they haven't lost you, plus if you get married he'll be a big part of their life!
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reader, cd206  +, writes (9 May 2008):
 I'm not sure the question here is do you have to but why don't you want you? Are you worried they will disapprove of your choice or your decision? Is there any chance they could find out from someone else if you don't tell them? Do you just not want to get the hassle about being too young to know what you want?
Ultimately nobody can tell you what to do with your life and nobody can tell you you're too young to consider marriage. My brother got engaged at 17 and has been happily married for over a year now which just proves that young marriages can work out.
I don't think you should keep it a secret from your parents and you need to work out why you want to so badly?
Cat
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