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Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
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26 December 2009: I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
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My girlfriend lost a bottle of her favourite perfume while in a club with me last night... And she wants ME to replace it! What should I do?
Q. Last night in a club with my friends, I got separated from the group. I decided to text my girlfriend to find out where she was. When I couldn't find her from her directions I told her where she could find me. When she got there she waved to me, and ...
A. 7 February 2010: This girl is unbelievably inconsiderate! Sorry, I know she's your girlfriend and you care for her, but really? She wanted you to get into a fight with this guy? You absolutely did the right thing! To start something with this guy would have been ... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: LonelyTwo: Absolutely on the money!
heed: your numbers are incorrect! Maybe you have been hanging out with the wrong woman! There is a whole world of us liberated women out there!
I really do think, not only your wife, but you as well,... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: an after thought! I must go along with the other ladies who don't feel that they are doing "their wifely duties!"
It is playtime! Love-making time! Sex is truly an act of love if two people are on the same page! ... (read in full...)
I think there is a huge problem of woman simply spreading there legs and thinking that is all that is required of them.
Q. For the first 10 years of marriage my wife hasn't been sexual at all. She new absolutly nothing at all about sex and could care less about learning anything new. Of course she couldn't have an orgasm. She did do her wifely duties and would spread ...
A. 30 January 2010: I think, due to her inexperience in the beginning, it was up to you to guide her, and teach her, and above all please her!!
She is not going to wake up one morning and suddenly become a porn star, with all you see in the movies.
I always a... (read in full...)
Why are guys insecure when they know a girl has been with a larger penis?
Q. The other night my boyfriend and I were talking about sex and he brought up his size, which I said was perfect. He then asked how he fits in size wise with past boyfriends I have been with and if I had been with larger than him. Of course he c...
A. 30 January 2010: It would be like him saying, my last girlfriend had bigger boobs...but yours are perfect. You would consentrate on the fact that hers were bigger, wouldn't you?
I try never to discuss size with men. They are insecure about it...and want to thin... (read in full...)
My girlfriend lost a bottle of her favourite perfume while in a club with me last night... And she wants ME to replace it! What should I do?
Q. Last night in a club with my friends, I got separated from the group. I decided to text my girlfriend to find out where she was. When I couldn't find her from her directions I told her where she could find me. When she got there she waved to me, and ...
A. 30 January 2010: You're girlfriend is very demanding! How could she blame you or hold you responsible for that???
I would never have the nerve to even suggest that! ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this man is playing with me or not
Q. I was in a store, around early November when I noticed this guy promoting something or another. He was vocal, to say the least, and just sooo funny. I couldn’t help but chuckle! He caught me while I was picking flowers and just stared straight at ...
A. 30 January 2010: I don't get it. What was insulting? All I see from your post is that the man is interested...
I would have more trust in a man I met at a store, than one I met at a club or bar!
Let it play out...see if he makes a move.
and by the way, I think... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should trust him
Q. I am packing up stuff into boxes at the moment to move house with my boyfriend and I came across his leaving card from his most recent employer - it was signed by loads of people. I was looking at the card laughing at some of the comments when I ...
A. 30 January 2010: You may want to get to know him better before moving in with him. What does your gut tell you? Do you think you can trust him?
His explainations sound pretty flimsy, he might be a player.
It is possible that he wants you to feel as the ... (read in full...)
Is true love and romance dead
Q. is true love and romance dead ? is it just becoming a myth a dream that can only exist in ones head ? humans are so horrible to each other its truly disgusting.. this world has become so dark it truly makes you think why are you still here! then ...
A. 30 January 2010: I have felt as you do, at times in my life. And you are right, the world has changed, and there is a lot of pain and suffering all around us.
I have found that we can't take that on our shoulders. We have to take action to make our lives bett... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's younger sister caught me in an awkward situation, what should I do?
Q. my girlfriends sister came to visit us on the weekend, she is younger and was playing on the wii so my girlfriend went out for a bit to visit a friend. I was bored so went to bedroom to read for a bit and then I started getting horny and decide...
A. 25 January 2010: Tell her, if you think it would be worse coming from the sister. ... (read in full...)
How do I move on from everything that has happened? I'm 32 and feel like I have nothing!
Q. Please help, I know that your think I am a fool after reading this and I know I am, at 32 I shouldn’t have wasted my life, I now have nothing, but I really need advice. Please. I am so sorry it is so long. Ok, so met guy, fall for each other...
A. 22 January 2010: He wasn't "the one chance!" I know you feel that way now, but with time you will get over him. Your affair with him has been a rollercoaster ride; you deserve much more out of life.
Focus on improving your life! Start with little things to pamp... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I have to ditch my best friend
Q. My best friend and me have been through a few rough patches including some really rough ones. we have spent the past year or so patching things up. We have gone through a lot and known each other for years. My partner is now telling me that ...
A. 17 January 2010: I'm sorry you're so upset, but I understand completely. I understand the position you are in also.
I still stand by my statement that It is unfair of him to make demands on you!
As Caring Guy pointed out, these are his insecurities, the He needs... (read in full...)
Nothing is going right for me, no education, job or girl
Q. hello everyone to be honest i don't know where to begin because i have so many problems i dont know where to start i have no education because i left school at 16 i have no job and everyone i apply to they reject me. i still don't know wh...
A. 17 January 2010: You may not want to hear this but, the only solution is to go back to school. Perhaps a trade school. Something to get your life back on track.
You are young and have your whole life ahead of you! You have the opportunity to change thin... (read in full...)
He messed with my head telling me he wanted to get back together when he didn't, did I do the right thing telling him to f*** off?
Q. After a month of NC with my ex boyfriend, he text me telling me he misses me, that he loves me and he would do anything to get me back. I didn't reply, but on Friday after thinking about it for a long time sent him a text telling him I loved him ...
A. 17 January 2010: Yes! Absolutely the right thing! No one has the right to play with your head like that!... (read in full...)
We married on a whim and now I regret it
Q. On 2008, I dated a girl who I thought was the perfect woman for me. Somebody who can be a great wife and good mother for my children. I propose to her in four months. After leaving together for a month, we got married. Then, everything changed. She ...
A. 17 January 2010: It pays to get to know someone really well before plunging into marriage! But by now, I'm not telling you something you don't already know.
We can't tell you what you should or shouldn't do...that is for you to decide.
But what I can tell you is t... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I have to ditch my best friend
Q. My best friend and me have been through a few rough patches including some really rough ones. we have spent the past year or so patching things up. We have gone through a lot and known each other for years. My partner is now telling me that ...
A. 17 January 2010: Is this friend an "ex?" Did you have a relationship with him? I know for me, if someone told me I HAD to do something, I would reevaluate the relationship! It is unfair for him to make demands on you.
Weigh the two relationships and decide whic... (read in full...)
Growing attachment to my best friend's girlfriend.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a really horrible situation. I am very much in like with my best friend's GF. She's not the hottest girl I've ever seen or anything. Shoot, in my book she's a 6/10. Yes, I'm horrible I rate looks. I do my best to stay away fro...
A. 17 January 2010: Although I'm not crazy about Anonymous males quote, "Bros before hoes," I have to agree with the concept.
Leave them alone!
Use the feelings you are having, to learn things about yourself! Maybe looks aren't the most important thing, afterall... (read in full...)
Gambling problem and he lies about it!
Q. my fiance is having a gambling problem and i know everytime he does go and then he tells me he went to see a client or went for a drive , and now a dont even know if he does love me when tells me he does , i dont believe a word that comes out off ...
A. 17 January 2010: Gambling, can be an addiction, just like drugs, sex, alcohol, or food disorders.
If he won't admit and accept that he has a problem, there is nothing you can do to "fix it."
An addict has no consciense. Lying is their survival mechanis... (read in full...)
Relationship confusion, bigtime!
Q. Ok, i have been seeing this guy for about three months now and its been great up until i met his children last week...well let me make it clear first that i am bi and a guy...so when i met them everything was good at first and a few minutes later my ...
A. 17 January 2010: Give him time to process all the variables. He has a lot to consider. You didn't mention how old his children are.
You may have to accept the fact that he will have to keep the two relationships separate and not include you in his childrens live... (read in full...)
Why did I cause her to be in such a state of shock ?
Q. I went out with a girl for two years, one i worked with. I found out by chance she had been seeing someone else at work, I walked it hurt, remained as best i could with dignity. This was two years ago. I always found it difficult to interact with ...
A. 17 January 2010: Guilt and fear, maybe even remorse are what came to mind when I read your post.
It's difficult knowing how to act when running into an ex.
It sounds to me that you may still have feelings for her.
It's up to you how you deal with that.
If f... (read in full...)
I feel I am being pulled into a relationship I'm not ready for yet
Q. I'm 25 and I've been dating this girl who is 22 for about 2 months now and everything has been fine. However, recently she brought her five year old daughter to live with her which changes the dynamic of our relationship considerably. Originall...
A. 17 January 2010: I think it is very important that you talk to her about your feelings! Communication is key to a healthy relationship, and she needs to know where you stand!
Explain to her that you are not breaking up with her, but you need to take things slow... (read in full...)
Everything was good, how did it go wrong?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a couple of months and we have the same likes in almost everything we like the same football team, we are both compatable in sex we like the same music and even the same candy if i wasent wrong i thought we are ...
A. 17 January 2010: Apparently, the fear of him losing you is too great. He now doesn't trust you. He is judging you by your past history, which isn't fair but common.
Your description of your early relationship is exactly how my guy and I are. We even joke arou... (read in full...)
In love with depressed friend.
Q. Hi, looking for advice. My best friend suffers from depression, and has very poor self esteam. I have however, fallen for him. Ive found it in me to tell him how i feel and he says he cant feel that. It was a crushing blow and one I really f...
A. 17 January 2010: I know this isn't what you want to hear, and I'm sorry, but
you are better off not getting involved with him in a romantic way. You would be setting yourself up for much more hurt. I was married to a clinically depressed man for 16 years. It was ... (read in full...)
What music to heal my pain?
Q. Ok so my girlfriend who i was crazy about and so in love with has recently finished with me to be with another guy. This all happened a bit out of the blue and has shaken me bad. we were together 3 years. Can anyone recommend any songs that I can...
A. 16 January 2010: If you are wanting to get over her...you should be going in the other direction! No Sappy love songs! Nothing to make you cry in your beer!
Good old Rock & Roll. The faster and louder the better! Songs that will make you feel happy and want... (read in full...)
Is this twitching normal???
Q. Is it normal for the area around your vagina and labia to "twitch" every ten or so seconds after coming close to orgasm? I only started masturbating a few years ago and have never orgasmed before. I come relatively close (or so I assume) but my body ...
A. 16 January 2010: Perfectly normal....just keep trying! You'll get there!... (read in full...)
Help needed!!! Dazed and confused...
Q. one night my wife and her best girl friend were having drinks. i had a camera and coaxed them into kissing and a little boob feeling with each other. i honestly thought i would be told to smarten up and stop, but next thing i knew they were making ...
A. 16 January 2010: The evils of alcohol! We all make poor choices when drinking! Believe me there are several I wish I can undo!
Your wife the choice to continue after you left to go hunting! She did that of her free will. As CaringGuy said, she is blaming you ... (read in full...)
Hypocritical boyfriend.
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a long time now and when we first started dating i made big life changes for him; i gave up smoking tobacco and weed, i changed friend groups, i started eating etc. for the simple reason that he wanted me to. now, ...
A. 16 January 2010: I totally agree with Caringguy! I think as women, we are always more willing to change things our guys don't like! You are to be congratulated for your life changes....don't let him drag you back down! Good Luck! ~BG~... (read in full...)
Is she a woman or a man??? HELP!!!!
Q. I'm totally confused and I just hope somebody can help me make the right decision. I met this girl at work about three months ago. It was her first week in her new job and we got talking on our break. We hit it off straight away. After a few weeks I ...
A. 16 January 2010: Well...she a work in progress! She still has her male parts so...she's just not complete. If you do care for her, then the rest can be worked out at a later date! It in no way does this make you gay! Stop worrying about it. You fell for her... (read in full...)
She never climaxes... and I can't understand why!
Q. so ive been seeing this girl and well shes 11 years younger, im 30, come on, do the math its quite simple! ok so we rock out together and have many things in common but i can spend hours and hours yes much oral then penetration and yet she never ...
A. 16 January 2010: I was 41 years old, and had been married 3 times before I actually had an orgasm! It's frustrating for her too! She needs to experiment by herself to figure out exactly what makes her climax. Buy her some toys, and let her explore on her own.... (read in full...)
HE asked for a one night stand does this mean he likes me or not?
Q. this guy in mii class asked me to have a one night stand with him...oh n i aint in skool...so does this mean he likes me? that he wanted to start a conversation? or was he just a perv? n he never texted me/messaged me since i said no... but i really ...
A. 16 January 2010: He would've asked you out if he liked you! He wants to use you for sex! Don't let him!
Don't be fooled into thinking this will lead to something more serious!
Don't start your life off allowing yourself to be disrespected and used by men (boy... (read in full...)
Should I even try to fix this broken marriage?
Q. This is a re-write from an anonymous question I asked on January 11th. I am so lost. I need more help. My husband shown me a question and responses that he has placed on here too. But I don't want to share my question or feelings with him right n...
A. 15 January 2010: If he's going to counseling and trying to be a better person, I think you should give him the opportunity to do so.
We can't help having addictive personalities. He dealt with alcoholism 17 years ago, this is another addiction he needs to deal... (read in full...)
How can I break them up so that I can get him back?
Q. hi, i was married to the love of my life. he left about 7 months ago, and i am still in love with him. he is living with my EX BEST FRIEND, they have been together since sept.20... how can i break them up, so i can get him back??? ...
A. 15 January 2010: You can't, and you shouldn't! They betrayed you! Why on earth would you want to go back to someone that treated you so cruely???
They deserve eachother and you should move on to someone you can trust and who loves you!... (read in full...)
What good is a marriage separation, living apart?
Q. My husband walked out three months ago and we are "separated". We've only been married under two years, and it has always been rocky. What is a separation supposed to mean? Is this something that helps? I don't see it that way, I see it that my ...
A. 15 January 2010: The purpose of a legal separation is to give the parties time to work things out. It's for couples who aren't sure it they want to divorce.
If there is no negotiation or communication, then maybe you should file for divorce. It's your deci... (read in full...)
What the hell am I doing???
Q. This guy has been trying to get my attention for the past 5 years. he finally saw me in the store and approached me. I gave him my number because I thought he was attractive. He called me that same night and we began talking. It was an instant ...
A. 15 January 2010: You say you are in too deep. It'll only get murkier as it progresses. He probably is having sex with her too! It's not easy to walk away from a relationship when you care about the person, but sometimes it's the only thing to do!
If it look... (read in full...)
Colour of manhood...
Q. I am brown in color. My penis is of almost my skin color. My wife tells that a guy's manhood's color should be pretty dark/black and mine is different. is this a fact?...
A. 15 January 2010: Your wife is wrong! You are perfectly normal! Infact, you're color-coordinated! That's not a bad thing!... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself wanting to play with barbie dolls?
Q. hi. I need some help. I'm an 18 year old girl who stopped playing with barbie toys two days ago. I know it sounds a bit crazy. Anyways, sometimes I feel like I want to play with them again. I really miss playing with them but I know I have to grow ...
A. 15 January 2010: Don't Worry about it so much...let your inner child have fun! You have plenty of time for the hassles and stress of the adult world soon enough!
Eventually, something (or someone) will come along and distract you from you "toys!" In the mean... (read in full...)
I am depressed with or without him... what is this?
Q. My ex and I recently saw each other and acted like we were back together. But after the meeting I realized he had changed a lot... for the worse. So I started ignoring him and the more I ignore, the more he persists. I decided to tell him straight ...
A. 15 January 2010: Rythmamdblues nailed it! You are grieving the loss...whether it is a death, or the death of a relationship, grieving is a process. There are stages to grieving, and you have to go through them all. Feel what you are feeling, and when you are ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting 6 years to find someone like him but worried about his employment
Q. I am divorced for six years and although I have dated a little, haven't found the right guy. I have recently met a wonderful man, who is really decent and honest and treats me very well and I know he really cares about me and vice versa. The ...
A. 12 January 2010: I can understand your position. It's an unfortunate situation.
I can only tell you what I would do. If I really loved him and wanted to be with him, I would hang in there a while and see how it goes. The job market is bad all over and so many... (read in full...)
His comments made me wonder "Is he just not that into you?
Q. I recently started dating a man who is 11 years older than me, we have known each other for a few years and been friends ever since. He was in a relationship until about 3 months ago and although it was always obvious that we found each other ...
A. 12 January 2010: The way I see it, he is really falling for you, and he's scared. His feelings for you are overwhelming him.
I think he was expecting a more casual relationship...but this is developing into more than he bargained for.
If you care for him, and... (read in full...)
"If you love something set it free"?
Q. You know they say 'if you love someone set them free, if they come back they're yours, if they dont, they never were' or something to a similar effect... what if you let someone go and they come back, and then they leave again? :-( X x ...
A. 12 January 2010: Set him free again....and next time he comes back tell him to get lost!
As long as he knows you're standing by, waiting...he will come and go as he pleases. He doesn't have to stick around, because he knows, you will take him back when ever he feel... (read in full...)
He never told me until now that he has a 6 year old!
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and I thoughtwe had a pretty solid relationship. Over the christmas period we didnt see much of each other as we both work in retail and were working silly hours. We managed to find time before ...
A. 11 January 2010: He was probably afraid of losing you in the beginning...and then because he waited, he knew you would want to know why.
It took him this long to muster up the courage. Whatever the reason, you now know.
He may not be in his life right now, but... (read in full...)
I smell trouble from my mum's boyfriend!
Q. My mother's boyfriend came back to live with us after a couple years (yes, years) of taking care of his sick mother. Today, my mother had already left for work, and it was just me and him in the house. He came down for breakfast and sat uncomfor...
A. 11 January 2010: I agree with CaringGuy!
Although your mom is probably in denial and doesn't want to believe it, you have put the thought in her head. She will be keeping an eye on him now. She will watch him carefully around you.
And by all means, if it ha... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of calling off the wedding! I'm tired of his moods!
Q. Hello We are getting married this July and been together 15mths. We have a house together. Things have always been turbulent in our relationship. When we met he got made redundant and had to get a job on less money miles away so he has to get...
A. 9 January 2010: If he suffers from depression, it isn't going to just go away! The mood swings are common. Is he taking medication? That can help control the outbursts. You're right, he's an angry man, who needs help. You can't help him though...he need... (read in full...)
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