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Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
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26 December 2009: I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
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Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
Q. I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
A. 2 January 2010: Thanks for additional responses! I believe that what doesn't kill us, definitely makes us stronger!
Man! I must be really, really strong! LOL....
Thanks again
~BG~... (read in full...)
Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
Q. I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
A. 31 December 2009: Thanks for all your responses! You all had really good things to say. The bottom line, I guess is That without pain, we wouldn't appreciate the joy in life.
I will continue to appreciate the good times and try to learn from the bad times!
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Is this a good time to make amends?
Q. Hi Guys Happy New Year to everyone! My problem is that I confessed feelings I had for a female friend of mine this year, and to cut a very long story short, we haven't spoke since I did so, and basically cut each other out of each others li...
A. 31 December 2009: It doesn't hurt to try! When making amends, you can't control the response or lack of one. But you will have done your part by making the effort.
And you can always know that at least you tried.
She may be missing you too. Perhaps she has ... (read in full...)
He said he wants a divorce over my refusal to have sex without a condom...how can I prove I love him?
Q. I have been with my husband since i was 15. we have been togethor for 5 years. and married for 1 year. we have 2 children. a 3 year old and a 6 month old. we have been through alot together. after a huge fight last year we were able to patch things ...
A. 31 December 2009: My advice would be to call his bluff and agree to a divorce! He said that to hurt you (which I'm sure it did!) He is acting like an immature,irresponsible, brat!
You are being responsible, in trying to prevent another pregnancy.
You are not ... (read in full...)
B/f says I'm selfish and keeping him away from his family
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and living together for 3 years! We have a two year old boy and i am pregnant with our second!! I know our relationship has never been the best in the world or the healthiest Lately we have been ...
A. 31 December 2009: You know exactly what you want, and need to do! It is the fear of the unknown that is preventing you from taking action. That's perfectly normal. But you can do it! I was 21, with two daughters (two yrs old, and 6 months old) when I left their ... (read in full...)
Not ready to say the "L" word
Q. What do you do when he says I love you and your not ready to say it back? I have been seeing this guy, but we havent been together all that long ( I would say we have gone out about ten times). The other day, when we were talking he said he loved ...
A. 31 December 2009: Don't say it if you don't feel it! Don't feel pressured into saying it back. Just tell him you like him a lot but you're ready to say it!
And, as Caring Guy said, those three words are to be taken very seriously! ... (read in full...)
Can a relationship recover from infidelity if the cheating partner still denies it?
Q. I know that my husband cheated on me. However he denies it. I do love him and want to move past this but if he will not admit it can we move on? We have been together for 15 years. Now this just happened after he started this job about 2 years ag...
A. 31 December 2009: I'm with Caring Guy and q1605! If you are relying totally on gut-feelings, with no proof whatsoever...he just might be innocent!
That's why juries are made up of twelve people...who must decide guilt "beyond a shadow of doubt!" That's why evid... (read in full...)
My husband went to sex therpist promised to be with me,and lied!
Q. WellI caught my husband masterbating after he promised he would come to me after we went to a sex therpist, he is addicted for sure, please only decent replys, any proverbed replies will be reported. sure everyone masterbates, but a husband doesn't ...
A. 31 December 2009: It was quite difficult to fully understand what you are asking. Or, for that matter if you are asking us a question. If you have already made the decision to separate on Jan. 2, then what do you need us for? Everyone has a different opinion of ... (read in full...)
He wants me out right this minute!
Q. I am a man living in Michigan and have been seeing / living with another man for 6 months. Now he wants me out because I didn't get him a card for Christmas. It is his house and he wants me out this very second. I refused because I don't have...
A. 31 December 2009: All the previous answers make sense. If you have established residency there, but getting bills and mail at the address, you may have legal rights and at least 30 days to vacate the premises.
As suggested, check with your local housing auth... (read in full...)
Our affair..does it stand a chance to last?
Q. I have been in a relationship with a married man for 18 months we call and text daily. I am seperated from my husband he moved out 4months ago due to my affair. Last week my estranged husband confronted my lover informing him he is naming him in ...
A. 30 December 2009: It sure is a risky way to start a relationship! No one knows for sure if any relationship is going to work/last.
I can't help thinking though, if he cheated with you, will he cheat on you? Or vice-versa in this case.
Then again, you never kn... (read in full...)
What to do with a three-year online relationship punctuated by a handful of real-life meetings
Q. There's a part of me that's just shaking my head at the fact that I'm posting a question like this. I am very, very aware of the whole wishful thinking element involved. By the same token, I'm also aware of the fact that people that I click with are ...
A. 30 December 2009: It sounds to me that he has been totally upfront with you. He enjoys your company, He likes who you are, but he cannot and will not give you anymore than he already has.
You deserve more than what he can give you, no matter how exciting... (read in full...)
Is he just not confessing his whereabouts?
Q. Hi all im in a bit of a situation here any advice is taking on board.... Im 24 been with my fiance for 5 years we have 2 sons together the realationship has had its ups and downs as everyones's does. My fiance went to the shops today at like ...
A. 30 December 2009: q1605.....LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LMAO!... (read in full...)
Why does he feel anxious after awesome sex?
Q. My guy friend and i have been together for eight months we both say we agree we like our relationship how it is but lately he says he feels anxious about me after awesome sex why?...
A. 30 December 2009: Whoa! I really don't know what he means by that! You're going to have to question him.
It could mean so many things, I don't dare venture a guess. He could be crazy in love with you...and scared of facing his feelings for you....that was my f... (read in full...)
He slept with a prostitute
Q. i found out that my boyfriend of 7 years slept with a prostitute on a lads weekend. he had been to a STD clinic and i found the appointment slip. at first he tried to deny anthing and then admitted it. i asked him to leave, and he left the next day ...
A. 30 December 2009: (sigh) LazyGuy said it all, Honey! He is spot-on! You are devasted because you are alone. I know! You will survive...
Instead of focusing on your "aloneness," focus on his betrayal! You didn't deserve that after seven years together! No one ... (read in full...)
In love with my sister-in-law and afraid of losing her...
Q. i was alone with my wife's sister march of 2008. we were alone at a place where she used to live. i was and still am really in love with her, and i am pretty sure she feels the same about me. we were alone in her kitchen i froze. i could have stood ...
A. 30 December 2009: I think you may have to take this a step at a time, and the risks we all take in life!
If you are in a loveless marriage...get out of it! Talk to your wife about a divorce. That's the first step! Whether you can make things work with the sist... (read in full...)
Why does he feel anxious after awesome sex?
Q. My guy friend and i have been together for eight months we both say we agree we like our relationship how it is but lately he says he feels anxious about me after awesome sex why?...
A. 30 December 2009: I'm not sure I understand what you mean by he feels anxious about you afterwards.
Can you elaborate on it a little?
Have you questioned him?
Is he married or in a commited relationship with someone else? It could be guilt he's feeling.
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At 28, I resigned myself to a sexless relationship, but then I met someone else
Q. Six years ago I met the man I thought was my soul mate. We moved in together and started our lives. Soon after moving in we realized there was something wrong with our sex life. It was non existent. My partner has a very low sex drive, so low that ...
A. 30 December 2009: First, for my own curiousity, I'm wondering what a Domestic Partnership Certificate is. I have never heard of such a thing.
As for your problem...Sex is a huge issue! The feelings you are experiencing are real and valid! Don't minimize them. Y... (read in full...)
I think I might have destroyed our marriage!
Q. I hit my wife over her back with the plastic end of a hoover the other night. We were staying at my dads house in a single bed and had been drinking for a few hours before hand. We were in bed two hours when she ran out of space and hit me in my ...
A. 30 December 2009: You sound truly remorseful. You are taking the right steps by seeing a counseler. You could also use a anger management course!
You can't change what has already happened but you can secure the future by nipping the problem in the bud!
I h... (read in full...)
I'm sick of going to bars and nightclubs!
Q. Ok, i'm only 25 years old, but lately, i've been thinking that i'm really sick of going out to nightclubs and bars !. I get annoyed with loads of drunk guys trying to chat me up and dance with me, and one thing that happened recently got me kind of ...
A. 30 December 2009: Just be honest and let her know how you are feeling. You have the right to let your friend know what YOU would like to do for a change! Just focus on your desires and not her behavior. Don't be judgemental.
And how about making plans wi... (read in full...)
Is he just not confessing his whereabouts?
Q. Hi all im in a bit of a situation here any advice is taking on board.... Im 24 been with my fiance for 5 years we have 2 sons together the realationship has had its ups and downs as everyones's does. My fiance went to the shops today at like ...
A. 30 December 2009: Just sit tight and wait till he gets back! You have exhausted every avenue possible (and then some) If your trust in him is faltering, you might want to take a honest look at the relationship.
I remember back to the days that I had to live like... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone says this?
Q. ..what doess it mean if someone says that they dnt ever want to lose you,and they will never hurt you,and when they say" i love you with all my heart"and when they say"we have a special bond"..and when they say"they will never leave you"...
A. 29 December 2009: If you trust this person, you should take him at his word!... (read in full...)
Do I sound like a prude for not wishing strange men crawling into my bed uninvited?
Q. Hey everyone. Insight requested just to make sure I am not crazy. I am single and not in a terrible hurry to find anyone even though eventually I would love to. I have been hanging with a crowd of people for almost a year and everything was going ...
A. 29 December 2009: You did absolutely nothing wrong! It is your right to pick and choose who you have sex with! Rejecting someone you are not interested in Does Not make you a prude!
As far as saying something to the girlfriend....
I would wait, and if he ever ... (read in full...)
I don't want husband around me or to even joke about sex
Q. after having all kind of married problem an example(sex life,big deferent age 22 year's diferent,money,etc)our love turned in to a friends,un our days we don't hav sex for than 3 months, and to be honest i dont want him to touch me or even to joke ...
A. 29 December 2009: You really haven't given us enough information for us to figure out what is going on. For instance, how long have you been married? You say there is a 22 year age difference? How old are you? What are the sexual problems?
You may want to seek... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with my wife's ex-relationship... how do I let it go?
Q. I have been married for 19 years and my wife has been honest, loving and faithful. But, one of her (2) past relationships still haunts me. We were in college and she broke up with me to go out with him, then we got back together. Then she broke ...
A. 29 December 2009: You have been with your wife for 19 years? Dude! Let it go! You are spending time worrying about ancient history! Your wife loves you! You are probably spending more time thinking about him than she ever has. Any time he crosses your min... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another women on boxing day!
Q. I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...
A. 28 December 2009: I am so sorry you are having to go through this! First of all, you are probably in shock right now, and feelig very vulnerable. Step back, and take a deep breath! Focus on taking care of yourself. Take it one day at a time and give yourself time ... (read in full...)
Her brother is trying to break up our marriage...what should I do?
Q. hello....okay Well i taken leave and went home. im in the military. I went to this party and we was all drinking. i seen this girl named J. who was sitting at the table. i didnt really think much about her but i know her from a really close fre...
A. 27 December 2009: Caring guy is right, it is up to your wife to tell her brother to back off!... (read in full...)
Everything Happens For a Reason - WHY?
Q. I am a firm believer that "Everything Happens For a Reason!" The problem is that we don't know the reason! We can drive ourselves mad asking ourselves "WHY?" Why do people touch our lives and then disappear? Why is there so much pain and h...
A. 27 December 2009: Thanks for your responses! I guess the "Why" was rhetorical...I know no one can give me an explanation! Older Sister....you make a lot of good points! Thanks for the insight!... (read in full...)
How long goes it take?
Q. What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...
A. 27 December 2009: Oops! Sorry about the confusion! But the answer is the same...there is no set time. Some women never orgasm during penetration. But that's not to say that the sex can't be totally enjoyable!... (read in full...)
How long goes it take?
Q. What's the avarage time that it takes for a woman to reach orgasm?...
A. 27 December 2009: Sorry! There is no average time...we are all different! Be patient and please your lady! Put the stop watch away and enjoy it all!... (read in full...)
I am going through a divorce but I still love her!
Q. I have a problem and I need advice. I am going through a divorce and I have custody of my very young children. My wife is severly mentally ill and her mental condition has really collasped over this past year severly bad. She abused the kids so I ...
A. 27 December 2009: Oh man! My heart goes out to you! I understand! I have lived it too! For years I stayed with my abusive husband. He was mentally ill also. I raised his son as well. He also abused his son.
We try so hard to recapture what was once ther... (read in full...)
Does anybody know about narcissistic personality disorder?
Q. I'm having a hard time coping with the end of my relationship as it is so unique to anything I've been through. My ex suffered from narcissistic personality disorder. I didn't realise this until after we broke up and learning about the disorder ...
A. 26 December 2009: My ex was bi-polar, but exhibited the same behavior. He didn't cheat, he used drugs instead. He broke bones, spit in my face called me the worst names a man could call a woman, and I stayed way too long! (We were married)
The best thing I ever... (read in full...)
Sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend
Q. One of my best friends in the world and I have been sleeping together for a few years now and i am in love with him. He says i am his dream girl and wants to be with me but because of other circumstances (neither one of us drive, he has no job ...
A. 26 December 2009: The previous answers may seem a bit harsh to you, but they are right on! Why do we get into situations like this and then react like victims! I'm not judging you! I have done similar things in my lifetime...
We are magical thinkers... (read in full...)
I am in the friend zone and want to move out!
Q. Oh what am i to do? and why do i get myself in these situations? Ive been talking to a girl for a few weeks whom ive known for a while but just started to actually get to know.. i feel theres chemistry there but she has a boyfriend.. one who she ...
A. 26 December 2009: Let me tell ya...being in the "friend zone" is the best position of all! If it doesn't turn into more, you still have the advantage of being a good friend!
And the best relationships are those that start out as friendships!
Wishing you the best... (read in full...)
Do women like intelligent men?
Q. Hello, i was wondering, does women like intelligent men? I really love to become a mathematician or a physicist, i mean not the wrong social stereotype of the geek who cant socialize, i mean a guy that is fit + personality + mathematician or physi...
A. 26 December 2009: Absolutely! And the older you get the more you will realize this! Follow your dreams! You will find your woman out there...maybe in the same field you desire!
Good Luck!
XXBGXX... (read in full...)
Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...
Q. Trying to get over a very recent break-up during the holidays...we were together about 9 mo, very close and believed we loved one another..we haven't been getting along on some things and we both agreed maybe we should go speak to a third party and ...
A. 26 December 2009: My heart goes out to you! Getting over relationships is hard enough, but around the holidays it is intensified by expectations of others for you to be full of joy!
Give it some time...if you still feel as though you think things could be work... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and can't decide whether to be with the father, be with the ex, or go it alone?
Q. I am 30 years old. My live in boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me, and moved out and into his new girlfriends place in May 2009. A very good male friend of mine, split from his wife, and I let him stay with me until he could get on his feet. He ...
A. 26 December 2009: This is definitely not a decision to take lightly! I wouldn't put pressure on yourself by feeling you HAVE TO make such a decision right now! Give yourself the time to get used to the idea that you are going to have a child. Put the baby fir... (read in full...)
Should ex-wife tell "mistress" husband wants wife back?
Q. My husband left me for another woman back in 1991 and subsequently married the mistress. Afer 10 years of being divorced from each other, we reconnected and have been seeing each other since 2004. He moved from another state to be closer to me, but ...
A. 26 December 2009: I understand where you are coming from....but in my opinion...he is playing with two lives here! Both you woman are being used by this guy!
Are you sure he wants you back or does he want you to play the role of the mistress this time? Just a thou... (read in full...)
Friend having an affair, husband knows but doesn't do anything!
Q. guys can someone translate this please.. a married friend of mine is having an emotional affair with a married woman whose thier famillies are friends it is a common dilemma but the confusing part is her husband who knows what she is doing but ...
A. 26 December 2009: I don't know how people can live in a situation like this...I guess only the people in it can attempt to explain.
I know of similar circumstances with a friend of mine. She has been married to her child hood sweetheart, and has 3 children and two ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend I lied about my past?
Q. I have lied to my boyfriend about my sexual past. I did so early in our relationship out of fear of rejection and judgment, but ever since I have felt absolutely terrible. I told him I had only slept with 2 people, but the truth is that I have slept ...
A. 26 December 2009: I agree that it is no ones business who you have slept with in the past! As long as these people are long-gone from your life, there is no reason to share the information with him!
To do so, may cause him to think that maybe if you lied abou... (read in full...)
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