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writes:This guy has been trying to get my attention for the past 5 years. he finally saw me in the store and approached me. I gave him my number because I thought he was attractive. He called me that same night and we began talking. It was an instant connection or so I thought. He spent Christmas with me and all that good stuff, then I found out that he is still connected with his baby's mom. I asked him and he was honest with me. He told me that he still saw her but he didnt want to be with her and that he was there for his child He told me that he really liked me and he loved being with me but for me not to give up my other guy friends. Here's the problem, it's too late I am in too deep. He spends nights with me, but that doesn't mean anything. If she calls he talks to her in my presence. I cant help but wonder when hes not with me is he sleeping with her.What the hell am I doing!!! Should I walk away or what?
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (16 January 2010):
 Get out on that situation. as you said its already getting deep. but still you can still talk about it. so i think you still have a chance to carry your self out of the situation. get out there. its now or never..... Good luck anyway..
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (15 January 2010):
 You say you are in too deep. It'll only get murkier as it progresses. He probably is having sex with her too! It's not easy to walk away from a relationship when you care about the person, but sometimes it's the only thing to do!
If it looks like nothing is going to change, then, you have to do the changing. You make the decisions! You take control of your life and future!
I wish you all the luck in the world!
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (15 January 2010):
 I say give him a chance. If he has been honest with you up to this point, give him the benefit of the doubt.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): I dated a woman who at first told me she was divorced. Eventually she moved in with me and was planning our marriage as well as naming children we were going to have, then one day she told me she was still married and that she wanted to have sex with other men as well as with me! My point is, it just got very strange very quickly and I would not be involved with someone who was not finished with the relationship or over the pains of their breakup: Because they don't really know yet what they want until they're heart is healed.
If you really like him, talk to him and maybe suggest a bit of space until he's ready for some kind of commitment. Be happy and have Peace.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Let's just be accurate and specific here. Is he having sex with her, is that what he is implying? If he has a child, he will be involved with his baby's momma forever because of the child, he should be paying her support and he has visitation rights to the child. He has to be able to see her and talk to her about the child.He is spending the night with you and having sex without the benefit of commitment? And he is pushing you off by saying to you not to give up other guys. You two are not exclusive then.What do you do? Either ask for an exclusive commitment which is what you want, understand that he is going to take the child's mothers calls in front of you, or break up with him. Being in too deep is not an excuse for letting yourself be taken advantage of and used.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (15 January 2010):
Yes, I think you should walk away if he's still involved with her. Sounds a bit like you're being used.
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