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writes:hello everyone to be honest i don't know where to begin because i have so many problems i dont know where to starti have no education because i left school at 16 i have no job and everyone i apply to they reject me. i still don't know what i want to be when i am older and to top things off i have a huge crush on this girl who works at my local supermarket where i had a temporary job over christmas and shes got a boyfriend and i don't know hhow to get over her and basically i have thrown my life away if you have any advice please share i don't care if you think it's stupid or what just please i need as much help as possiblethank you in advance
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2010): BELIEVE me, at 16 you have NOT thrown your life away! History is behind you, in your rearview mirror. Your life is in front of you. Look forward. Not backward! So, you've made mistakes. Join the club. If you lived here I would hire you in a heartbeat! I know a 44 year old guy who got laid off, has huge debt and lost his girlfriend......all in the week of his birthday. I think I even had a role in it, much to my shame and hubris. I think I lost his friendship and for what? To impress his girlfriend and lift myself up by pushing him down? Yeah, it sucks, change is painful but it is also transformative. Get thyself into school regardless of the sacrifice. You need structure. Dropping out of school you lost a regular schedule and are just blowing in the wind feeling normless. School equals schedule equals self-confidence equals focus equals respect equals girls. Trust me. Do it. Own your future. Good luck
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reader, Katiekins86 +, writes (17 January 2010):
 the open uni let you do courses for free and often give you a grant, I did one a couple of years ago which should have cost £900 but because i was on a low income it was free and they gave me a grant of £250 to complete it. You don't say if you have GCSEs or not, but if you haven't, or your grades aren't as good as you hoped, I would definitely recommend focusing on maths and english, maybe science also (maths and English normally the most useful for employment, other education courses). Your local college should do night classes and I am sure if you rang them they could explain the fees and if you are entitled to a discount or bursary because you are currently unemployed.
I don't know what kind of stuff you are into but I would recommend doing any type of work, even if that means voluntary while you look for paid - it would be very attractive to future employers and you could gain skills you wouldn't get otherwise? If you don't have much in the way of hobbies, maybe join a gym, take up a sport or a group of some sort. Not only would you meet new people who might cheer you up and feel better about yourself but it would make you more rounded on your CV when you apply for jobs.
I am sorry if this is really patronising hope it helps. I have been where you are feeling now.
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reader, Emjo +, writes (17 January 2010):
 enrole in a course at a local college? Thats always a possibility no? Get more education, even go to uni, kill some time, maybe meet a girl there! At least you'll know she'll have some level of sense!
And money wise, i believe you live in the UK and therefore are likely to be entitlied to EMA.
There are pleanty of options, you just need to get off your arse and sort them out!
If you need any more help I'd be happy to, I'm currently in year 13 and off to uni next year so my view is probably more biased to an education front :) x
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reader, Brooklyngirl  +, writes (17 January 2010):
 You may not want to hear this but, the only solution is to go back to school. Perhaps a trade school. Something to get your life back on track.
You are young and have your whole life ahead of you! You have the opportunity to change things...DO IT!
As far as the crush...it'll pass. You will meet someone who is available and you will forget all about the other girl.
You need to change your attitude to a positive one!
Your life isn't over, it's just beginning!
Good Luck
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