My boss stopped flirting and started masturbating!
Q. I have a problem with my boss. He is nearly 60 good looking, and very friendly. I got divorced 2 years ago and he was incredibly supportive allowing me time off when I needed it etc... In fact I always found him a brilliant and very caring man. He ...
A. 12 July 2012: That is why a lot of people have said you shouldn't have flirted back. When things go wrong between two people who are working together, especially in your case with a boss and underling, you have a very uncomfortable and awkward situation. There ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 10 July 2012: Sometimes there is not a nice way to say something, it just comes out as the facts. I am glad you did not take it that we were trying to hurt you. We are just trying to help you see your situation more clearly. I know it is not always pleasant ... (read in full...)
How do I make this awful feeling go away?
Q. I have been dating a man for about 6 months, we were friends for 6 months before that. He lived with a woman for 15-17 years before we meet, (they broke up 1 year before we started dating) At some point they became engaged. I do not know much ...
A. 10 July 2012: Aside of that, I disagree that you should bring it up in light conversation and say that you are there for him. Being in a mature relationship means that you are going to address issues in an open and honest way. Not bring it up in light ... (read in full...)
How do I make this awful feeling go away?
Q. I have been dating a man for about 6 months, we were friends for 6 months before that. He lived with a woman for 15-17 years before we meet, (they broke up 1 year before we started dating) At some point they became engaged. I do not know much ...
A. 10 July 2012: You have every right to ask those questions, and if he is serious about the proposal, he will answer them. It is not prying or being insecure. It is wanting simple answers to simple questions that he should be willing to discuss with you. If he ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's into me or is he just looking for 'friends with benefits'?
Q. I have been dating this guy for last couple months. Sometimes we have seen each other, few times a week and sometimes once a week. We have even spent few nights with each other. So 1st time when we spent night together, we started making out and ...
A. 9 July 2012: BTW, you do not sound confused. You are raising questions because your instincts are telling you this is not right. It isn't right. He should find a way to communicate with you. I agree he doesn't have to return your phone call right away, but ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's into me or is he just looking for 'friends with benefits'?
Q. I have been dating this guy for last couple months. Sometimes we have seen each other, few times a week and sometimes once a week. We have even spent few nights with each other. So 1st time when we spent night together, we started making out and ...
A. 9 July 2012: I agree with Cerberus here...he seems stand-offish to me and that is not a good way to start a relationship. People who want to be together communicate in one way or another. How they communicate is not really the issue. Personally speaking, I ... (read in full...)
Will I be bailed on again?
Q. Well I'm in quite a situation, well firstly there is this girl who is a friend of mine. I'm in college and she is a senior at her high-school that she attends. Well she had a bf who broke up with her about a month ago. And me and her always talked ...
A. 9 July 2012: The girl just broke up with her bf a month ago. She is probably still hurt and confused, but that does not excuse her behavior with you. If she did not want to go out, she should have told you instead of playing games. Not only was that ... (read in full...)
I'm confused about a guy abroad...
Q. i have known this guy who is a year younger than me through an online chat site. He's not in the same country as me but we've talked and all for more than a couple of years now. Ive been in a relationship with someone from my own country during this ...
A. 9 July 2012: You do not know this man, you have not observed him in real life, you do not know his habits, his behaviors, or whether he is honest and trustworthy. All you know is what he has told you online. Why would you possibly believe someone loves you ... (read in full...)
Just started dating a guy and was intimate with him? Could this damper the development of a possible relationship?
Q. I'm pretty sure that I already know what a bunch of you are about to say...but I have a quick question regarding bringing intimacy early on into a developing/dating/relationship. Do you guys think that it will make or break the current situation ...
A. 9 July 2012: I don't think it could damper a possible relationship, but you are moving pretty quickly. You have not really taken much time to get to know one another, so you may eventually find that you are not as compatible as once thought. Or, you could find ... (read in full...)
How can I get over this and enjoy sex with my boyfriend again?
Q. I've been happily with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now, he's sweet, funny, and cares about me more than anything. I would never do anything to betray or hurt him. But a little while ago, I received an invite by an old friend to hang out. I've ...
A. 9 July 2012: Unfortunately, this situation is your own fault as you already have a boyfriend and agreed to see another guy who you knew had an obsession with you. You don't agree to see other men for any reason if you have a boyfriend. Along with that, men and ... (read in full...)
I told her about my past and it's affecting our relationship.
Q. I told my girlfriend about me having sex in the past and it really seems to have affected us but i keep telling her i cant change my past but she doesnt seem to be changing how angry she is at me. shes also saying that its not going to affect us and ...
A. 9 July 2012: Actually, I don't think you did anything wrong. I would want to know my partner's sexual history to protect my sexual health. I would sit with her and tell her exactly what you have told us. That you are sorry about this, you are sorry if you ... (read in full...)
Should I stay with Rebecca?
Q. Right okay i have been dating my girlfriend rebecca now for 9 months and yeah i love her but we are always arguing about stupid things and a boy called lewis has been texting her who's in the army and they used to love each other but never told each ...
A. 9 July 2012: She has told you about Lewis and what is happening with all of it. She has been honest and even was respectful enough to ask you if she could go meet him. If you do not want her to text Lewis and meet up with him, you should be honest and tell her ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to tame a guy who acts like player?
Q. Is it possible to tame a guy who acts like player? I like this guy but he pretty much treats girls like s***, just using them to hook up after he's drinking.(Before I get the lecture, he's actually a very nice person otherwise and I know a lot of ...
A. 9 July 2012: I am not sure if it is possible to tame a player. The real question is...are you willing to risk your sanity and emotional and physical well-being to try to tame him? There are all kinds of reasons people do what they do. He could very well be ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to give my blowjobs again?
Q. Dear Cupid... I am 26 years old and I have been with my girlfriend or should I now say "fiancée" for almost 2 years and a half now. I can remember back when we started "hanging out", there was so much passion (to say the least) in the bedroom. ...
A. 9 July 2012: It is possible that the depression and lack of being a productive citizen outside of home is effecting her self-esteem in all areas of life. I would not be quick to judge her on this single issue. Depression is a huge issue and can take a toll on ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm putting in all the effort in our relationship... how can I get him to step up?
Q. I met my boyfriend at university and this is the first summer that we're apart. I am always trying to talk to him, asking how he is, initiating the conversations and he never gives me anything back. So I left it and thought I'd let him talk...
A. 9 July 2012: It sounds to me like you see the relationship as being more serious than he does. When a guy does not communicate with you/contact you, chances are that he does not care. I have only come to that conclusion because I have dealt with this type of ... (read in full...)
I want to fall in love with him but I'm scared...
Q. ok so i've been with my boyfriend 7 weeks and been seeing him for 10 weeks in total. we've agreed to go slow (emotionally) as we have both been hurt in the past and we dont wanna rush things. But I fall very easily (normally) but this time I haven'...
A. 9 July 2012: Anytime you have a friendship or relationship with someone, there is a chance you are going to be hurt. That is just the nature of dealing with other people. I know exactly how you feel, but if you like this guy, I would continue to see him and ... (read in full...)
Would it be odd to want to be "friends with benefits" with my ex?
Q. Would it be odd to want to be "friends with benefits" with my ex? Back when we were dating I asked him if it was okay for us to become "friends with Benefits" if we were ever to break up and he said yes. It's a been a few months now since our break ...
A. 9 July 2012: In my experience it is very rare for two people to have a fwb relationship. You can say you are not emotionally involved, but someone almost always gets emotionally involved. If this is something that he really wanted, I would venture to guess ... (read in full...)
Does this relationship sound unworkable?
Q. Our relationship is a bit unusual. We met, became friends, got closer, spent every day and night together for a couple of weeks, then became lovers who quickly felt they loved each other. He quit his job and his whole rural lifestyle to mov...
A. 9 July 2012: In any relationship you are going to have different likes/dislikes when it comes to friends and other things. The thing that concerns me about the differences in your relationship is that there are things that are unhealthy, dangerous, and ... (read in full...)
The things he wants me to do for him sexually really bother me!
Q. hi, i really do need a professional help.it bothers me when my boyfriend ask me to do the things that he want, such as in his sexual need.he wanted me to show my body or teasing someone while he is masterbating.is this normal? or is ...
A. 9 July 2012: If it bothers you and you don't like it, then you need to discuss this with him. If he is not open to discussing it with you, I would question whether he really cares about you and whether you should be having sex with him in the first place. ... (read in full...)
Is he using me for sex? Or could there be something there?
Q. There is this Guy we hung out a few times. The first time we hung out he would say things like he has never dated a girl of my ethnicity but he would if it was me because I'm cute. He was flirting with me the whole night. and the next day at school ...
A. 9 July 2012: If you have only been together a couple of times and he is putting the moves on you without your consent, then he is just using you for sex. Typically you actually date someone and get to know them rather than just "hanging out" before you get ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to get out of my relationship?
Q. Am I wrong for wanting to get out of my relationship? .... We were together 3 years. He abused me emotionally and physically. Everytime i tried to leave he'd manipulate me into giving him anther chance. This time I didn't let him though he tried ...
A. 9 July 2012: Yes, I agree with the other advice that you need to block his texts, calls, emails if you can. Even if the communication gets through from him, you must stop communicating with him. Everytime you communicate back to him, he knows he still has you ... (read in full...)
When does sex feel great?
Q. I have slept with 5 people, all except for one were one night stands. During my long term relationship I don’t ever remember thinking sex was amazing, my ex was selfish towards his needs. Now that I have been single for 2 and a half years, I have ...
A. 9 July 2012: I think sex is great when you are having it with someone you love. That may be why one night stands were not good for you. If you're with someone you love, you are more likely to let your inhibitions down. You want to pleasure the other person as ... (read in full...)
I was fine with her dating my ex until my friends piled on about it
Q. So I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years at the end of May. For the first year it was juts us and then for the last year we had an 'open' relationship- it suited us fine and in no way impacted our break up. Our relationship simply fizzled out so ...
A. 9 July 2012: I agree with Aunt Honesty. It sounds like you broke up with your bf for a good reason, so I would not let what others say make you feel so down. I agree that if anyone brings it up, you should tell them you prefer not to talk about it. Since you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in three days
Q. Dear Cupid My bf usually never calls. i am the one who always initiates the call. lately he is often hanging up the call saying he is busy when i call him. I got pissed off and told him i wont call him anymore unless he calls me, Its been ...
A. 9 July 2012: I agree with all of the other posts...I've been through this and it's a pain. Start taking steps that will help you get away from him. Honestly, he is not worth your time. I know it is hard to read these words, but speaking from experience, he ... (read in full...)
Despite making myself very clear he insists on pursuing me
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a difficult situation so if anyone has any advice or comments, it would be greatly appreciated! Just last year I moved back to my home town to attend college, and I got in touch with an old childhood friend. He and I...
A. 9 July 2012: Besides, if he is that great and a cool person to be around, why not give him a chance? You're just not attracted to him? ... (read in full...)
Despite making myself very clear he insists on pursuing me
Q. Hi everyone, I am in a bit of a difficult situation so if anyone has any advice or comments, it would be greatly appreciated! Just last year I moved back to my home town to attend college, and I got in touch with an old childhood friend. He and I...
A. 9 July 2012: Despite popular opinion, men and women usually cannot be "friends". The reason is due to what you are dealing with right now. One person always has stronger feelings than the other. If you were acquaintances, worked together, and did not do ... (read in full...)
Besides condoms are there any other precautions we can take to avoid pregnancy?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I would really like to take my relationship to the next level and have sex with him. I am not on any form of birth control, we have a condom. but is that enough? I'm scared something...
A. 9 July 2012: I agree with C. Grant...along with the condom, you could use the contraceptive foam. I have used both together and never had any issues. You can find the foam at the drug store probably right alongside the condoms.... (read in full...)
Am I being pessimistic or paranoid?
Q. Hi everyone.. I think its a bit ridiculous question but I can't help to stop this thought :( I have boyfriend of 3 years and our relationship is quite great. He's really a caring man, mature and understands me. I know he really loves me deeply....
A. 9 July 2012: I do not think you are being pessimistic or paranoid, I think you are being realistic for your situation. Unfortunately there are no guarantees when it comes to love, but it does sound like your man wants to plan a future with you. He is preparing ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my boyfriend that I got drunk and kissed another guy?
Q. Me and my best friend (girl) went away camping for the weekend. On saturday we met some guys who took our numbers and invited us over to their camp site for the evening, so we got there and just hung out. They offered us beers and I took one, then ...
A. 9 July 2012: I don't know. If your boyfriend was out camping and got invited by a bunch of girls to visit their camp site and then kissed one while he was there, would you want to know? It is better to risk telling your boyfriend because if you don't, somehow ... (read in full...)
My best friend and I have admitted to being attracted to one another
Q. One of my best friends and I admitted an attraction to each other one night, we are both girls and her dad is completely homophobic. She led me on to think she wanted a relationship and we kissed. she broke it off 2 days later at school. about ...
A. 9 July 2012: Knowing what you know about her, that her dad is very homophobic, I do not see how she could lead you on with wanting a relationship. If she listens to her parents, she is probably quite worried that her dad will find out about the two of you and ... (read in full...)
Does he want more than just friend with benefits?
Q. Hi. I've found myself in a kind of FWB situation with a man, originally who was just my 'online friend' for over 2 years. We did not end up meeting until early this year. We grew quite close over this time and arranged to meet. We spoke for a...
A. 9 July 2012: I had a guy do this exact same thing to me and it annoyed me to no end. Told me he did not want a relationship, then proceeded to call and email all the time sharing downright intimate things with me. Even started sexting me, but maintained that ... (read in full...)
What can a 33 year old man possibly see in a 66 year old woman?
Q. I am a healthy, attractive 66 year old female who is being ardently courted by a very handsome 33 year old male. That is a big age gap! What can this man possibly see in me?...
A. 9 July 2012: It is a big age gap, but you likely have the maturity of mind and spirit that this particular gentleman may need. That, or he is a gold-digger, but you have mentioned nothing about being filthy rich, so I assume it is the former. I think age ... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my long-term abusive ex girlfriend and prospective new girlfriend who seems perfect as of now. What do I do?
Q. Hi All, I dated my ex-girlfriend for almost 5 years. Our relationship was a tumultuous one at the best of times, with a lot of petty fighting and breakups. We were definitely known as a temperamental couple. Over the past year, the severi...
A. 8 July 2012: Your ex-girlfriend sounds like an emotional and physical drain. I am sure she is a nice girl, but after the history you have had, I would venture to guess that your break-up was necessary. I know you are upset about the pain you are causing your ... (read in full...)
My friend is making my life a misery ...
Q. My best friend is driving me crazy, I can't deal with her everyday drama anymore. I've been her best friend for about 7 years now we're 21 years old, I have never hurt her feelings or said anything mean to her, I've always been there for her, always ...
A. 8 July 2012: It sounds like she has an obsessive-compulsive disorder and is taking it out on you. I would tell her as calmly as you can that you care about her, but cannot be there for her every minute of everyday. Then, I would tell her how she has made you ... (read in full...)
My boss stopped flirting and started masturbating!
Q. I have a problem with my boss. He is nearly 60 good looking, and very friendly. I got divorced 2 years ago and he was incredibly supportive allowing me time off when I needed it etc... In fact I always found him a brilliant and very caring man. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: Also, I would not talk to him and tell him you are sorry if he got the wrong impression. The point is, both of you have already engaged in unprofessional behavior. No further talking about anything of a personal nature...only professional. If he ... (read in full...)
My boss stopped flirting and started masturbating!
Q. I have a problem with my boss. He is nearly 60 good looking, and very friendly. I got divorced 2 years ago and he was incredibly supportive allowing me time off when I needed it etc... In fact I always found him a brilliant and very caring man. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: Abella says it all very well. Do not flirt with this man anymore, keep your distance, and be completely professional. I would also document any meetings or encounters (in office, in the hall, or otherwise), what he says, what you say, etc. If he ... (read in full...)
I led him on and then said no, now how to face him in cold light of day!
Q. I am worried that I may have hurt someone by getting their hopes up. I have been single now for 18 months after ending a 7 year relationship and I am happy being single but lately I have been missing a bit of male company, the problem is that I not ...
A. 8 July 2012: I don't think you should feel too badly over this. I would communicate with him that you have come out of a 7 year relationship and not sure you want to be involved with anyone yet. Also that you didn't want your relationship to be just sex ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty much a walking hormone and masturbate daily! Is it normal?
Q. I'm 19 this year, never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, never had sex, nothing. And most of you will understand that at this age, I'm pretty much a walking hormone. I'm gonna be honest and say that I'm horny 70-80% of the time and have a lot of ...
A. 8 July 2012: I think you are normal and I am glad you are not going out and having sex with multiple partners to satisfy your needs. I have always been more passionate than the men I have been with and have had to maturbate to help me along. With the ... (read in full...)
I want the old exciting, flirty me back!
Q. Why is this happening to me? Is it normal? So I loved my ex bf so much. and I always thought he felt the same cause of the way he'd talk about me to his friends and family. He was so sweet and lovely he told me he loved me and I felt...
A. 8 July 2012: I think it is normal to do this after a serious break-up and it is ok. You really cared about this guy and you were hurt deeply by the betrayal and the break-up. There is no rule saying when you have to date again, if ever. It sounds like you ... (read in full...)
I found his latest sext offensive!
Q. Hi, me and my LDR boyfriend have recently started sexting which I started (weve been together 7 months and started having sex after 4). I recently received a text saying how(this has been edited) he "can't wait to p***d a vi****** into you and hear ...
A. 8 July 2012: I would not tell him anything as it could discourage him from expressing himself in the future. He will wonder if everything he says to you is offensive and may hold back. I would simply turn the conversation around to what you would like him to ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex outside an exclusive relationship
Q. I met someone from online a few weeks ago..we spoke and texted a week before that as well. I was fine with him signing onto the dating site until recently..we basically have been out 5 times. I already met his father, roommate, cousin. We spent the ...
A. 8 July 2012: I am not sure if I read this correctly, but here is what I am reading. You like this guy and have been out with him a few times. You don't know if it is serious yet, but you are treating like it is serious because you don't want him checking his ... (read in full...)
"Just stop looking blah blah" somebody please tell me how that works!
Q. I've heard this over and over again... That the reason I can't find a girlfriend is because I'm looking for one, and that as soon as I stop looking, I'll suddenly end up in a relationship. "Happens when you least expect it," "I found my partner when ...
A. 8 July 2012: Honestly, I think what most people mean is that they gave up looking out of frustration and then met someone wonderful! But, I would prefer to think it means to just be yourself, have fun, have a passionate attitude about your life, and someone ... (read in full...)
I invited him back into my life but now I want him out. How will I break the news to him?
Q. Dear Cupid, So I made the mistake of taking this guy back . Even though he was a real creep while we were dating. His friends were always more important than me, he never arranged to spend time with me, took hits on my self esteem, very rarely let ...
A. 8 July 2012: I agree with one of the anonymous writers here. Send him one last text telling him you made a mistake. Do not answer any phone calls, texts, or emails. Block his number and make sure he cannot access any of your social networking sites (if you ... (read in full...)
Seriously considering having an affair.
Q. I'll get straight to the point. I am very seriously considering having an affair. My husband has turned into a complete dead fish in the bedroom. He used to be very excited about me, he used to love to touch me, kiss me, lick me, sleep with me. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: I agree with what everyone else has said and I think you need to seriously think about this situation before acting on any of it. I understand the need to be wanted and desired by the man you love. Having sex with someone else will not satisfy ... (read in full...)
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