Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 20 July 2012: Don't buy him anything and don't communicate with him. He is using you. Don't fall for it again.... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: I think possibly what OldBag was saying is that you caved in by going out with him and letting him wine, dine, and try to romance you. She is telling you that you need to know what your real intention is. Is your intention to get back together? ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: Plus, did you sit down and talk with him about all of the issues in your past relationship, or did you just let him shower you with food, wine, and compliments? Even if a relationship is still a possibility for you, you need to sit and discuss the ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: You need to decide if he is just a diversion in your life or if you really want to be with him. Sometimes we are bored and don't want to be alone, and we allow anyone in our lives so we don't have to be alone and bored. Any guy can come back, ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 10 July 2012: I have to admit that I think both of you are now playing games. Is all you want is him to act all sad and dejected like he has done something wrong, then go back to his normal behavior? Or, do you want a real relationship? If you want a ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 30 June 2012: Good for you. I remember getting to the point where I thought my ex was lying to me all the time. He would say one thing and do the opposite, or I would observe him doing something totally different. Then would further make things up when he knew ... (read in full...)
She took the only thing my Dad left me
Q. Hey everyone I know this is not a relationship question but I need serious help from you guys. Ok 2 months ago my dad passed away and he had a car he was paying for but he didn't finish the payment, my dad's friend took custody of me and she fini...
A. 30 June 2012: I am sorry this is happening to you and I am very sorry about your dad. The death of your dad is hard enought to deal with, but now you have to deal with betrayal too. One of my friends had a similar thing happen to him. He took his step-mother ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and don't know how to handle things
Q. I'm in a tough situation. I'm seeing a married man. I've known him since I was around 14 years old, I've also been in love with him since the day we met. We had a fling back in high school. After high school, I took off and left the state. He ...
A. 30 June 2012: You are not having sex with him, but you are still "seeing" him, so he is cheating. He is stepping out on his wife. Also, you may have heard his wife yell at him, but are you naive enough to think that their relationship probems are all due to ... (read in full...)
I'm losing jobs because of the boss's jealous wife!
Q. I am 31 years old, its been my second time loosing my job cause the wife of my ex bosses get insecure of me, I didn't do anything but just loyal to my job. Now its been a month having no work and scared to apply a job that might have this situation ...
A. 29 June 2012: I am sorry this is happening to you. My boss is quite a character and is very insecure, so in some sense, I know how you are feeling. I was written up one year for talking to certain people who had been my friends for several years (also my ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 29 June 2012: You are welcome to come here anytime if you need someone to talk to. I remembere how terrible this was for me. Anytime he would contact me, it was such a temptation to want to make things work (in the back of my mind knowing that he would just do ... (read in full...)
Shattered that it could happen to me twice.
Q. I'm new here. I'm 51 and divorced. This is really for the more mature crowd. I would really like to figure out how this could have happened to me, twice now. My background is I married at 36 and my husband left me, for another woman after 16 y...
A. 29 June 2012: By the way, I like cats and I believe in God, so you have a friend in me! You might be interested to know I am helping out a stray mother cat and her 3 babies. I guess I'm one of those crazy women too!... (read in full...)
Shattered that it could happen to me twice.
Q. I'm new here. I'm 51 and divorced. This is really for the more mature crowd. I would really like to figure out how this could have happened to me, twice now. My background is I married at 36 and my husband left me, for another woman after 16 y...
A. 29 June 2012: I am sorry for the beating you have taken by some of the posters here. I do not think you want a "knight" to come and swoop you away. You sound like every other woman I know wanting to find a decent honest man to be with. I also do not think you ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 28 June 2012: You know him pretty well by now so you can probably answer that question for yourself. I know my ex would always pour on the charm when he thought I had had enough. Once he thought he was in the clear, he would go back to his old tricks again. ... (read in full...)
He has ignored me for 4 weeks, what shall I do?
Q. Hello, I have been with a man for six years now and he has left me several times, not ever actually 'ending it' but just freezin me out, ignoring messages etc. I thought that we were done with all that and the last time was a year ago now, however ...
A. 27 June 2012: Yes, you need to gather his things and donate them to the Salvation Army or Goodwill. If he wanted them, he would have been along to get them a long time ago. Do not contact him anymore. I know it hurts, but for your own well-being, you need to ... (read in full...)
I'm the listening post the girls come to for advice. Why do they forget all about me after I'm kind to them?
Q. I am the guy that girls go to when they are starting to like a guy and they tell me and ask me for advice. When they get that all figured out and start going with the guy, they forget me and leave me in the dust and act like i don't exist. after ...
A. 27 June 2012: I agree with Abella that you are being too kind and accomodating. I know you care about your friends, but sometimes we can give too much of ourselves in our attempt to help others. We can also realize that others are not as kind and as ... (read in full...)
I find boyfriend's friend hitting on me exciting!
Q. My bf is out of town for a couple months for a job. I'm working and going to school in a town where I really only know people I've met through him. Lately I've been spending time out and about with one of his friends here in town that I think is a ...
A. 27 June 2012: You are sending the message to the friend that you are available even though you have a boyfriend. I would consider how your boyfriend would feel if he knew you were doing this. Also, how would you feel if the tables were turned, you were the one ... (read in full...)
Everything I do seems to be yet another painful reminder.
Q. So here is my situation: I got dumped exactly one month ago, by my girlfriend of two years, who I dated throughout high school and into university. It was completely unexpected,I had no idea what was coming up, she simply stated that she didn't ...
A. 27 June 2012: I know how you feel, but she broke up with you and you needed to know the details. Did those details help or hurt you? Sometimes when someone breaks up with us, it is a good thing. Would you realy want to be with someone who was seeing someone ... (read in full...)
I fear she may reject me because of her feelings for her boyfriend
Q. I am in situation where I consider myself deeply infatuated with a female co-worker/friend. We've grown close over the past couple of months and hang out alone often. She has a boyfriend and she sometimes mentions her love for her boyfriend. Here ...
A. 27 June 2012: I would want to know if your workplace has a policy on co-workers dating one another first. Sometimes work relationships can cause a multitude of problems. If you make a move and she rejects you, you are going to have to continue on working ... (read in full...)
Problems! Hubby leaves me so confused. Not affectionate :( What can I do?
Q. I love coming here. I've been getting great advice. :o) So I'm back again. My hubby and I (ok mostly me) seem to be having on going issues. I really need someone to help me understand because my hubby can't (or won't). Let me say that my h...
A. 27 June 2012: Plus, I understand the long hours of driving truck and all, but I do not understand what the big deal is with a phone call or text. I can understand why he doesn't want constant texts/calls, but doesn't he want to communicate with you on a daily ... (read in full...)
Problems! Hubby leaves me so confused. Not affectionate :( What can I do?
Q. I love coming here. I've been getting great advice. :o) So I'm back again. My hubby and I (ok mostly me) seem to be having on going issues. I really need someone to help me understand because my hubby can't (or won't). Let me say that my h...
A. 27 June 2012: I do not know if you are smothering him or not because I do not know all of the dynamics of your relationship. I do know that I have been in the position of wanting more affection and intimate time with a man and he will not reciprocate. I think ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of five years has just left me and I feel like I just lost a huge part of me.
Q. Hello. My serious boyfriend of five years has just left me. Its hard to believe in true love, soul mates and fate, since I thought he was my knight in shining armor. I don't know. I feel so betrayed. He gave up. He let us die without so much of...
A. 27 June 2012: I understand how you feel. I was also with my knight-in-shinging-armor and he basically stopped communicating with me, stopped all intimacy, and then told me he thought we were just "messing around" after 9 years. That was the biggest insult. We ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and don't know how to handle things
Q. I'm in a tough situation. I'm seeing a married man. I've known him since I was around 14 years old, I've also been in love with him since the day we met. We had a fling back in high school. After high school, I took off and left the state. He ...
A. 27 June 2012: I went through this myself, so I can speak from experience. My married guy told me the exact same things yours is telling you...unhappy with wife, he's the hardworker, etc. He was very sweet, understanding, and attentive until he worked things out ... (read in full...)
Dating an older man, I don't want to stop but what's the point if it won't progress?
Q. Dear Cupid I am 21years old and I am currently dating a 33 year old man.I know that is a big age difference but age is nothing but a number right? We have been dating for almost two months and I really like him. I have never met a man like him ...
A. 27 June 2012: I can understand how you feel, but I think you already know what you need to do. If he doesn't say sweet or thoughtful things to you, he probably isn't interested. Even if there was a chance you could have a real relationship, do you want a man ... (read in full...)
Does sex really matter all that much?
Q. Hey everyone. Lots of magazines and articles talk about "sexual compatibility" and paramount on sexual pleasure with your partner. I haven't had an orgasm yet with my boyfriend (still testing things out and finding what I like), so I wonder does sex ...
A. 27 June 2012: If you haven't had an orgasm on your own, you need to and soon. You need to know what you like before you can tell someone else. Your boyfriend cannot guess at what you like and how you like to be touched. Sex is very important to a relationship. ... (read in full...)
I feel like our relationship 70/30 and I'm giving the 70%
Q. My girlfriend takes me for granted and does not commit as much to the relationship. I feel like its 70/30 and I'm giving the 70%. She is very independent and I need more time and touch from her than she gives me. I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic and ...
A. 26 June 2012: If you had the answer to that, you would be a multi-millionaire. I was in a relationship where I felt the same way. No effort was made on his part to make the relationship better in any way. I also needed more touch, more intimacy, etc...just any ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my hubby and had a baby that he doesn't know may not be his!
Q. I have been married for less than a year, and have a baby. Got married when I was expecting. I cheated on my husband with this man, before we got married. It was at a time when I was very dipresesed cos of my husband’s abusive treatment. I ...
A. 26 June 2012: In that case then, you really need to talk with your husband about this. I would want to protect my child and relationship with my husband as much as possible regardless of who the father is. I also agree that you could have the DNA test done ... (read in full...)
My mom breastfeeds my brother in public and I hate it!
Q. I hate it when my mom breastfeeds my baby brother in public. What should I do? She has done it several times. Why the hell would she wanna do it in public? She's crazy. It embarrasses the hell out of me. It's also disgusting. Is there a way I ca...
A. 26 June 2012: Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world...it is not disgusting. I can see if your mom does not cover your brother with a blanket or something how it would bother you to see her breast. I understand that. If you are that embarrassed ... (read in full...)
Why is this man affecting me so much?
Q. I got some good advice in the past so I'll give it another go. This story goes way back and it is very painful still. So, last year I fell in love with a good friend. I used to have a huge crush on his best friend (and he knew it)for a very long ...
A. 26 June 2012: I can understand why you hate him after that kind of deception, but sometimes it can be hard getting over the intense feelings you had. I think it is harder when you see the other person frequently because you do not have the opportunity to forget. ... (read in full...)
He's been talking with women on webcam when he promised he wouldn't do that anymore!
Q. So, i've had this problem of my boyfriend looking at naked women on webcams. He promised me that he wouldn't do it again because it made me feel so hurt and not good enough for him. Well, i know i shouldn't have but i snooped through his computer ...
A. 25 June 2012: I don't blame you for feeling sick. With all of the posts I've read lately on online relationships, porn, using webcams, etc, I think we have an epidemic of people who must not want real relationships anymore. You are not the only one having this ... (read in full...)
I told a guy that I loved him over the internet. Was this a bad decision?
Q. Im gona try to be as short as possible. The thing is. .i've told a guy (who s 3years older than me) that i liked very much that i loved him over the internet. Sadly he didnt feel the same way or he was pretending. Anyway what i want to know is 'was ...
A. 25 June 2012: You are feeling that way because telling a cyber-friend you love him is not a good idea. Having an online "relationship" is ok as long as you use the experience as a diversion and not something major in your life. As many aunts and uncles have ... (read in full...)
I'm being stalked at work by a customer.
Q. I work in a convenience store on the same three days every week, and have to deal with a lot of bullshit from our clientele on a regular basis. Getting harassed, talked down to and hit on by men is a regular occurrence. While this is experienced by ...
A. 25 June 2012: Tell your manager and let him/her know what is going on. Also, tell your co-worker who gave out the personal information not to give out personal information anymore. Don't go outside by yourself at night if that is an issue. A manager or someone ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my hubby and had a baby that he doesn't know may not be his!
Q. I have been married for less than a year, and have a baby. Got married when I was expecting. I cheated on my husband with this man, before we got married. It was at a time when I was very dipresesed cos of my husband’s abusive treatment. I ...
A. 25 June 2012: This situation will escalate until someone else tells your husband. It's best YOU tell him first. The only other thing you could do is get a DNA test without either of the men knowing and then decide what you want to do. However, at some point ... (read in full...)
I found out g/f had been cyber cheating for months and she thinks its no big deal
Q. Hello, I'd like to start this off first of all by saying thank you to anyone who reads and replies to this lengthy message - I'm really in need of an outside opinion here and it would mean a lot to me. I have been with my girlfriend now f...
A. 25 June 2012: Your gf is doing some very dangerous and damaging things to herself and you. Having friends online is ok, but it becomes unhealthy when these "relationships" start becoming an obsession. Just like people can get addicted to porn, I believe they ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my social anxiety with women?
Q. I find it really difficult to maintain any form of relationship with women of my age. My problems do not stem from being unable to talk to women, I can talk but I can't feel comfortable in their company. I feel anxious around them, like they are ...
A. 24 June 2012: Your behavior is telling women "I don't want to know you", so they are not going to approach you. To be honest, I am very frustrated with men like you (no offense) because I will be out taking a walk or something and smile at a man and say hi...and ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if we want the same things out of our relationship
Q. Am I being too sensitive? I've been seeing this guy for a couple of months, we're not officially boyfriend and girlfriend but we have told each other we love each other and that we won't see other people. My problem is that he never seems to m...
A. 24 June 2012: I do not think seeing you 2-3 times a week is too much. That would be about normal. I agree that if a guy likes you, he will make an effort. He won't try to avoid seeing you, although I have had my fair share of this for some reason. I don't ... (read in full...)
Is he really serious about a future together?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, I'm 24 and he's 26. A couple of years ago I told him I'd like for us to live together, but he said he wasn't ready yet and he'd reconsider the following year. That came and went, and there was no ...
A. 24 June 2012: It is really frustrating to be excited about something and your partner doesn't seem to care. If he isn't sharing your sentiments about moving in together, I would be very leary about moving in with him. You do not want to move in together and get ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 24 June 2012: I think you should ask him directly what his motives are. You may not get a satisfactory answer, but you can at least ask and see what he says. If you want a long-term relationship, make that known. I honestly think some people do not know their ... (read in full...)
What causes vaginal rash?
Q. What causes vaginal rash which pains after sweating due to walking distances like 700m but she said there is no pain after urinating. Her rash is now decreasing and there is no discharge. What are the possible causes? ...
A. 24 June 2012: Of course I forgot to mention the more serious causes like STDs. This would be a good reason to have it checked by the doctor if that is an option just to be sure.... (read in full...)
What causes vaginal rash?
Q. What causes vaginal rash which pains after sweating due to walking distances like 700m but she said there is no pain after urinating. Her rash is now decreasing and there is no discharge. What are the possible causes? ...
A. 24 June 2012: If she shaves her pubic area it could be razor burn from shaving. Some women can get by with doing this and have no rash, but others get rashes. It would make it worse if she was sweating. Sometimes women can also get a rash from a yeast ... (read in full...)
I've never met my LDR boyfriend but he wants to feel like he's got a bigger part of my life
Q. Hi,I met my boyfriend online he lives in another country we're ina LDR and we're very in love, we talk to each other for hours everyday via skype etc... and we're planing to meet next october. We totally trust each other and do our best to make...
A. 23 June 2012: Is this your first time to post on this site? It must be because if you had been reading the posts you would know that many of us find online relationships dangerous and risky. I know you think you love him, but you have never met him. How do you ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my friend's drinking and sleeping around
Q. I'm really to starting to worry about my friend as I think she is losing control. She has started to be in an open relationship with her boyfriend where she can go to bed with anyone but he's not allowed which he is ok with as he gets off from ...
A. 23 June 2012: For whatever reason, this friend is going to have to burn herself out with this type of lifestyle before she realizes how reckless she is being and stops. You could try to schedule time with her that would be healthy, but that is my only advice. I ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 23 June 2012: I don't not know why guys do this. I am not a believer of the men and women can be friends theory. Unless you're co-workers or some such thing where you don't have a lot of contact and really are just friends. But, with someone you have deeply ... (read in full...)
I find it it weird and disgusting that my mom posted an old pic on Facebook, of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler!
Q. My mom posted an old pic of her breastfeeding me while I was a toddler on facebook. What should i do? I logged in on facebook today and saw on my home page that my mom had uploaded that pic. The pic was not in her album but on some facebook pa...
A. 23 June 2012: I can understand how you feel. Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world, but at your age, it can be rather embarrassing to have a picture like that on your mom's Facebook page. I would just ask her if she could find a different ... (read in full...)
I'm embarrassed to tell my mom and my G/f that I have trichotilomania, which is an impulse control disorder. How do I bring it up?
Q. I HAVE TRICHOTILOMANIA sorry for the caps, ive just never said it before. "Trich" is repeated urges to pull hair out. It's a form of OCD. I've been pulling my eyebrows,eyelashes, chest and facial hair out for about 10yrs now, and I've always...
A. 23 June 2012: Have you been to the doctor to try to help this with therapy and medicine? My sister has this too. She still does it, but medication has helped the intensity of it. She also saved her money to get eyebrow tattoos, so that she wasn't so conscious ... (read in full...)
This break up seems different, nothing I've done in the past to get her back is working! What should I do?
Q. I have been dating the same girl since my senior year and we have now been together 5 years. We have broken up 2 serious times, once after a few months and once about 2 years ago and we both talked to other people but nothing really serious and ...
A. 22 June 2012: I would give her some space and see what happens. You are being very possessive and many people do not like it when others act that way. She is not your possession, she is a girl you like and you need to treat her as such. If you like someone, ... (read in full...)
Older female falls for young men and gets hurt every time! Do I stop, or alter how I feel about the inevitable end?
Q. i know im in trouble. i even know how i got here. i just dont know how to stop. im a girl who is an artist and i enjoy the company of artistic feeling when it comes to love; sensuality, beauty, emotional feeling and connection, spunk and spirit...
A. 22 June 2012: A youthful spirit, boyish streak, and creative type does not necessarily equate to long-term love and committment. You know that by now. If you like that type, accept the guys for what they contribute to your life and know that at some point they ... (read in full...)
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