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writes:So I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years at the end of May. For the first year it was juts us and then for the last year we had an 'open' relationship- it suited us fine and in no way impacted our break up. Our relationship simply fizzled out so we decided to go our separate waysI saw a couple of guys but nothing serious while he, more or less, had another girlfriend. When we broke up she became his 'official' girlfriend. Which leads me to my problemI actually know the girl VERY well and consider her a close friend plus we have a lot of other friends in common. They are all outraged that she is now dating my ex(they didnt know about our 'arrangement'). I've tried explaining but its made things really awkward. And the worse thing is I think its spread to me! For the past few days I've been thinking 'How dare they just get together straight away?'How do I handle this situation?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I agree with Aunt Honesty. It sounds like you broke up with your bf for a good reason, so I would not let what others say make you feel so down. I agree that if anyone brings it up, you should tell them you prefer not to talk about it. Since you were in an open relationship, it is not wrong that your friend is going with your now-ex, but I can see how it would cause you to stop and reflect a little bit. Just tell your friends you don't want to talk about it anymore and that you are over it. They will quit talking and things should go back to normal.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (8 July 2012):
 I totally understand that all of there negative comments are going to rub off on you. They do not know you had an open relationship for the last year therefore they probably all feel terrible for you because they feel your friend has pretty much just back stabbed you. Although you did have an open relationship and you where both happy with that, I do still feel that it was wrong of your friend to move in so quick. However these are the kinds of things that happen when it is an open relationship things get kind of messy. I just hope you can find some way of dealing with this and over coming it. I think you should ask your friends from now on not to mention anything to you, explain to them you want to just accept it and move on and you do not want to hear there negativity. All the best.
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