Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 20 July 2012: Don't buy him anything and don't communicate with him. He is using you. Don't fall for it again.... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: I think possibly what OldBag was saying is that you caved in by going out with him and letting him wine, dine, and try to romance you. She is telling you that you need to know what your real intention is. Is your intention to get back together? ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: Plus, did you sit down and talk with him about all of the issues in your past relationship, or did you just let him shower you with food, wine, and compliments? Even if a relationship is still a possibility for you, you need to sit and discuss the ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: You need to decide if he is just a diversion in your life or if you really want to be with him. Sometimes we are bored and don't want to be alone, and we allow anyone in our lives so we don't have to be alone and bored. Any guy can come back, ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 10 July 2012: I have to admit that I think both of you are now playing games. Is all you want is him to act all sad and dejected like he has done something wrong, then go back to his normal behavior? Or, do you want a real relationship? If you want a ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 5 July 2012: Also...just an additional note. I would not ask him why he has the pictures on his phone. You know why. I would tell him that you saw the pictures and they upset you because you feel he doesn't think you are attractive, etc. Express your ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 5 July 2012: I don't see this as cheating, I simply see it as bad taste when there is a child in the home and a girlfriend he is supposed to respect. Of course we all have fantasies about other people, but I think it is insulting for him to have them on his ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 4 July 2012: Your feelings are justified. He has a son and a girlfriend and should not be doing it unless he includes you and you are ok with it. Would it be ok with him if his son would grab the phone and find the pictures, or is he the type who does not care ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do about my wife anymore, we don't have sex yet I cant mention it to her, and she blames me for everything that has gone wrong in her life!
Q. I'm a 43 yr old male. I came home from work last Friday night and was suprise by my wife of 15 yrs.she was in the bathroom, with only a robe, exposing herself to me. this has very seldom happened in our marriage. as any husband still in love with ...
A. 4 July 2012: I am like the other writer, I do not know all of the dynamics of your relationship, but I was like you in my last relationship. I was never quite sure what happened because one day we were having sex and being intimate and the next day and about 2 ... (read in full...)
Should I Reconcile With My Emotionally Abusive EX?
Q. I really need advice as I've backed myself into a corner. I recently broke up with my boyfriend after I realized he'd been emotionally abusing me, lying to me, cheated (via email and asking for a girls number at a bar) and one time pushing me ...
A. 4 July 2012: My experience with this type of man is that they use charm and persuasion to get them where they need to be, then they revert to using their old tricks. I was with a man like this and it was a cycle of emotional abuse that made me think I was going ... (read in full...)
Do I chose Love or a Career?
Q. Hello Agony Friends... As the title suggests, i'm hitting a period in my life where i need to define my priorities. My boyfriend and I are together since 3 years now: we complete each other on a mental and physical level and see marriage,...
A. 4 July 2012: What are your boyfriend's plans for the future? Do they include you? Do they include good paying jobs for both of you? The reason I ask is because you seem to have plans and dreams, but you do not mention how he sees the future. What does he ... (read in full...)
Pain in my stomach when I orgasm?
Q. I am a bit worried, when I orgasm I get a pain in the right side of my stomach. This is causing me distress. I started masturbating alot, I once did it 8 times in a row I know it's bad, it just makes me feel better(yes i am a woman) what could it ...
A. 4 July 2012: It could just be from your uterus contracting so much. Sometimes a climax and orgasm can be hard and intense. If it is actual pain that does not go away, I would see a doctor. If it is similar to a muscle ache or cramp...it is probably just how ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend and I can't agree on vacation plans!
Q. im in a ldr situation. my boyfriend and i plan to have vacation together. but theres an arguing thing about me and him like i want to go to beach but he knows it that i want to go there but he always asking me if i really want to go and why i like ...
A. 4 July 2012: Couldn't you find someplace cheaper to stay instead of a beach house, or help him pay for half of it? I think it's kind of unreasonable for him to be the only one paying for the accomodations. Even if you were married and both had jobs, you would ... (read in full...)
My former fiance wants to try again, but slowly
Q. I recently started talking to my ex-fiance (we broke up 2 years ago). Everything in my life was going fine till my sister calls me and tell me she (my ex-fiance) wants to talk to me again and misses me and has feelings for me and all that.. I still ...
A. 4 July 2012: This is kind of strange for her to contact you and then make ultimatums about your behavior. I would definitely talk with her about what she means by her statements and go from there. Aside of that, it is very hard to make things work with someone ... (read in full...)
Have I Fallen Out Of Love With Him?
Q. I need some opinions and advice. I was with my man for 3 years, I fell pregnant within 9 months of meeting him, our son is now 15 months. I really did love my partner and never felt that way before, but this last year all I ever do is break up with ...
A. 4 July 2012: Do you do the same things you did before the baby was born? Does he help with the baby? I am wondering why all-of-a-sudden he repulses you so much. Do you think you were really in love with him before or was he just someone to have fun with? I ... (read in full...)
Why the cycle of warm and cold?
Q. When I was in high school, there was a girl I like. She smiles at me and gets angry whenever I talk to another girl. Even if I dont talk to another girl, she is still mean (1 week mean and ignoring me and 1-2 days give me a smile, and then ...
A. 4 July 2012: Well...I am not sure if hitting someone really hard on the shoulder is considered flirting or not. I am quite a bit older than you, and if I was flirting, I might touch someone, but not necessarily smack than on the shoulder. Maybe this girl is a ... (read in full...)
My Adult Sons Are Disrespectful And Verbally Abusive. I Could Really Use Some Advise.
Q. I'm 45 with 2 "boys" aged 20 and 22. Both are finished A-Level and College. The oldest works part time 12-16 hours a week mostly in the in the evenings and other than going to football and the gym spends his time either in bed or in front...
A. 3 July 2012: Everyone has a few grammar mistakes, so don't worry about it. If we didn't make mistakes we wouldn't be human. Actually, it sounds like you have this pretty much figured out. If you can, I would start making plans to leave and get yourself an ... (read in full...)
Why the cycle of warm and cold?
Q. When I was in high school, there was a girl I like. She smiles at me and gets angry whenever I talk to another girl. Even if I dont talk to another girl, she is still mean (1 week mean and ignoring me and 1-2 days give me a smile, and then ...
A. 3 July 2012: Please do not read too much into peoples' random actions. They could have been talking about someone else entirely. As far as backstabbing...why would you concern yourself about that? You're a guy in his 20's...go get the girl you want and stop ... (read in full...)
Why would he do all of this to me yet still continue with the relationship? Am I the one to blame?
Q. i meet my partner 6 yrs ago, he was my friends brother, she told me he liked me and did not seem to have a problem with dating him, that was until i did date him. Everyone seem to all of a sudden be on my back, why i dont know, first of my partner ...
A. 3 July 2012: Like the others said, your husband is abusive and controlling. You observe reality, so why are you letting him twist it? You know what the truth, so stick to it. Do not allow him to twist the truth. In my experience, men like this do not change. ... (read in full...)
Why would he do all of this to me yet still continue with the relationship? Am I the one to blame?
Q. i meet my partner 6 yrs ago, he was my friends brother, she told me he liked me and did not seem to have a problem with dating him, that was until i did date him. Everyone seem to all of a sudden be on my back, why i dont know, first of my partner ...
A. 3 July 2012: Like the others said, your husband is abusive and controlling. You observe reality, so why are you letting him twist it? You know what the truth, so stick to it. Do not allow him to twist the truth. In my experience, men like this do not change. ... (read in full...)
How to stop being lovey dovey?
Q. Hi guys, so here's the deal: My boyfriend hates when I'm... "gay" with him. Ok first off I'm a girl, and the word "gay" is how he describes it. I tell him I love him and I hug him lots and kiss him lots and want him all to myself sometimes- I'm just ...
A. 3 July 2012: If he doesn't like being affectionate and you do...you need to find yourself a new man. I have been in this situation and it will only get worse. Being affectionate is not "gay" either. It what people do when they like/love one another. I would ... (read in full...)
Why the cycle of warm and cold?
Q. When I was in high school, there was a girl I like. She smiles at me and gets angry whenever I talk to another girl. Even if I dont talk to another girl, she is still mean (1 week mean and ignoring me and 1-2 days give me a smile, and then ...
A. 3 July 2012: Does not sound like she is interested. If she was interested she would be warm and accomodating, not cold and mean. I would ignore her for awhile. You don't want to have to work this hard just beginning a relationship.... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy passionate kisses after marriage?
Q. I've been married for 10 years and when we were dating my husband would kiss me passionately and frequently. Then after the wedding I have spent the last 10 years letting him know it is a part of foreplay that gets me into the mood and that I need ...
A. 3 July 2012: I don't reallly have an answer for you as I had the same issue. My ex was passionate for awhile, then completely turned on me. I was always the one who sent suggestive messages to him, called and talked dirty to him, tried new things in the ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with someone who thinks everything is fine. How do I do that?
Q. I'm onl with my guy for 3 months and I'm already considering breaking up. He does not respect me, emotionally abuses me, says hurtful things that are destructive to my self-image, controls the things I do or what I wear. But how should I break it to ...
A. 3 July 2012: You have only been with him for 3 months. Just say it. You don't owe him any other explanations especially if he is emotionally abusive. In fact, if he is emotionally abusive and controlling, I would text it or email it. You don't want to be ... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 3 July 2012: Also, since you asked, the best way to overcome this is to move forward WITHOUT this guy so that you and your son can live a positive and passionate life. You do what the rest of us do...first you leave, then you take steps to make your life more ... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 3 July 2012: This is what emotional abuse does to a person. It makes you question your own thoughts and feelings. It makes you wonder if you are being too hard on the guy. Please do not do this to yourself. You came here to ask advice for a reason. Please ... (read in full...)
What does a houswife do?
Q. I am 41 and have been a housewife my entire married life which started at 16. I have no job skills, no money and the economy is so bad that I can't find a job anywhere. There is no sex, touching of any kind or closeness in my marriage and there ...
A. 3 July 2012: I think if you get yourself out there and start meeting people, you will make your circle of friends bigger and that could help inspire or encourage you. Sometimes just meeting the right people at the right time can really help you get an idea off ... (read in full...)
What does a houswife do?
Q. I am 41 and have been a housewife my entire married life which started at 16. I have no job skills, no money and the economy is so bad that I can't find a job anywhere. There is no sex, touching of any kind or closeness in my marriage and there ...
A. 2 July 2012: Do you sew, bake, or do anything for which there might be a demand? I have seen a couple of signs where people have advertized their sewing skills. You could start your own baking business if you like to bake or start babysitting. Those jobs may ... (read in full...)
Can't bear the arguing anymore!
Q. Hello, I've wrote a bit in here about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are still arguing about the same things, the lack of sex due to him not keeping an erection, about him being lazy, me feeling that he seems to look at our relationship...
A. 2 July 2012: If he ditches you or breaks plans with you to go with someone else (anyone else), then I would be upset. You have a right to voice your opinion about that and if he doesn't try to help the situation, you have the choice to spend some time apart.... (read in full...)
I have been having an emotional affair
Q. Mine is related to an emotional affair. I am married andI work 4 hours from home. I have an apartment i maintain 4 days a week. There is a woam I work with, and I am her boss. I am deeply attracted to her. We have gone to lunch, have gone out for ...
A. 2 July 2012: It simply doesn't matter if it was loneliness or not. You fell in love with her. I am not faulting you for that. The same thing happened to me with someone at work...it was an emotional affair. The thing is, no matter how intensely you feel, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to make it obvious that I'm not that glamourous
Q. Hi everyone, as anyone ever been in a relationship with someone where they knew the person didn't find them as physically attractive as other people and felt like you were being wasted on them? My boyfriend seems to make it obvious that I'm not that ...
A. 2 July 2012: Your boyfriend sounds very immature. I would thank him for his comments and tell him "Perhaps you would like to find someone who is more glamorous then" and not speak to him for a few days. If he loved you, he wouldn't be emphasizing this ... (read in full...)
Could taking Plan B cause my period to be this late?
Q. Ok so to begin with, Im kind of paranoid about everything all the time and I worry about being a day late for my normally 28 day cycle. I took plan b after a mishap on June 5th. (He did not finish inside me but I was still worried). My last period ...
A. 2 July 2012: I don't know much about Plan B either, but I am guessing it is some type of hormone or alters your hormones to prevent the pregnancy. Taking a drug like that could alter your cycle a bit. When I was on birth control pills, my periods were always ... (read in full...)
Not actually LDR. But what would work better? Moving in together? Or staying together but not living together ?
Q. Another crazy question for you cupids out there Is it better to move in with partners or live seperate? I ask this because i have been in 8 month relationship, we live in same city but it feels more like long distance relationship, se...
A. 2 July 2012: I think you each have to have your own interests in a relationship so that this doesn't happen. No one likes spending every minute of every day together. That would get boring really quickly. I think you are probably thinking too much about it. ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? I’ve had two boyfriends and both have left me.
Q. I am a 27 years old woman who had had two boyfriends: my first boyfriend cheated on me, we were children (15 at the time) but it still hurt so bad I didn’t get a boyfriend for 3 years after that. The second one is a little more complicated. Two ...
A. 2 July 2012: You are being too hard on yourself. These two don't even really count. First, when you're a teenager, you are trying to find out who you are and who everyone else is at the same time. Secondly, you had a boyfriend break up with you because you ... (read in full...)
Not actually LDR. But what would work better? Moving in together? Or staying together but not living together ?
Q. Another crazy question for you cupids out there Is it better to move in with partners or live seperate? I ask this because i have been in 8 month relationship, we live in same city but it feels more like long distance relationship, se...
A. 2 July 2012: Do not move in with someone if you are not ready. I know this may upset your girlfriend, but do not do it if you are having doubts. I agree with Abella...I think you need to take stock of what you really want out of this relationship. Is it going ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date a man with kids. Am I expecting too much?
Q. So I have a son who is 16 months old. And for some reason I don't think dating a man with a kid is an option. I find that men with kids tend to have a lot of baggage; child support, baby mom drama, and no money.. I simply don't want a guy who is ...
A. 2 July 2012: This is funny because I know plenty of single guys with their own cars who are "established" who are broke too. Not to mention complete jerks. Why don't you look at men as individuals instead of seeing them all as shallow, broke, and down-and-out? ... (read in full...)
Can't bear the arguing anymore!
Q. Hello, I've wrote a bit in here about my relationship with my boyfriend. We are still arguing about the same things, the lack of sex due to him not keeping an erection, about him being lazy, me feeling that he seems to look at our relationship...
A. 2 July 2012: It sounds like the two of you need a break from one another. If the two of you have talked about him not being able to maintain an erection, and he will not see a doctor, I am not sure what you can do. You can't make other people do things they ... (read in full...)
After 2 years of dating my b/f decides to move closer to his kids/ex wife. I'm devastated
Q. I was single and not dating for 3 years after the breakup of a 6 year relationship and I had this weird sense that I would never be with anyone again. So I tried to put myself out there a bit more with activities and so on and I didn't even meet ...
A. 1 July 2012: I understand you must be upset as you had a certain idea of what your future would look like, but honestly, I think you may be blowing this out of proportion. Doesn't your guy still want to be with you? Wouldn't you also be included in this move? ... (read in full...)
Should I just stay friends with him?
Q. Recently iv'e been getting closer to this guy. We're always flirting and laughing and his friends keep telling me that he likes me. I like him too and really want our friendship to develop, but he had this thing going on with my best friend about a ...
A. 1 July 2012: You want your "friendship" to develop or you want a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with him? I don't see any problem having a friendship with him, but you talk like you want something more. My question is...why? You just said he cheated on ... (read in full...)
We've been dating 3 months and now she's pregnant. So now I feel it's all falling apart so. Will this work?
Q. We got back from a holiday to interstate yesterday and the past few days she had been feeling sick - we put it down to something she ate or the heat but i got her a test to put my mind at rest. She did 2 in the airport in the morning and they came ...
A. 1 July 2012: If you like to be spontaneous then the thing to do is wear a condom AND be on the pill, so your girlfriend does not get pregnant. The pill is not 100% effective, but by now you already know this. It's only falling apart if that is how you see it. ... (read in full...)
He told me in front of his friends he could do better than me and that our relationship is over.
Q. I need some advice. I am aware I need to leave this relationship but I need input on how and whether it's really something I should do. I hae a 2 1/2 year old son who considers my boyfriend his "dad" bc he's been there since he was 2 weeks old. Last ...
A. 1 July 2012: This is an abusive relationship to you and your son and you need to leave as soon as possible for your own safety. I am sorry your son sees this guy as a father figure because he is a VERY poor example of one. You do not want your son growing up ... (read in full...)
Did she lie, or has she cancelled previous plans?
Q. So recently i have been dating this girl online and we have been talking for about 3 months know and we plan to meet in a couple of weeks but i soon recently asked her what she will be doing fourth of july and she said nothing probably working, but ...
A. 1 July 2012: First, it's on online friendship of 3 months. She does not have to tell you all of her personal information, what she intends to do, and where she intends to go. In fact, as a single woman who has only known you online for a short period of time, ... (read in full...)
In my LDR we Text and I phone. But he has Never phoned me. Can we make this work? He's in the Military
Q. Hi, Do you think that in 6 months my boyfriend has never actually rung me up? We text daily and I've called him a few times but even if he misses my calls he will text back? I've asked him and he said his just always texted and doesn't really...
A. 1 July 2012: If you like him, I don't think it matters if he phones or texts. He may like texting because he may not always have the opportunity to be alone to speak privately with you. With texting, he doesn't have to share the conversation with those around ... (read in full...)
My LDR says he does not love me but has feelings for me. Is that enough and is it OK?
Q. Hi, Do you think its OK that your LDR boyfriend whom you see every other week still doesn't love you but has feelings for you? We met online and have been dating for 6 months? I'm the longest girlfriend his ever had and his 28 years...
A. 1 July 2012: It depends if it is ok with you. On one hand I think that it might be too early for someone in a LDR to proclaim love for someone else. Six months living apart and only seeing one another every other week, you are missing out on a lot of time ... (read in full...)
I have been having an emotional affair
Q. Mine is related to an emotional affair. I am married andI work 4 hours from home. I have an apartment i maintain 4 days a week. There is a woam I work with, and I am her boss. I am deeply attracted to her. We have gone to lunch, have gone out for ...
A. 1 July 2012: I have been in this situation and it is hard one. Although, the man was married and I was single. This is basically what we did. We emailed one another and occassionally went out to dinner with a small group. After some time, he decided he was ... (read in full...)
How do I let her know what I think of him without appearing to be the home wrecker?
Q. So i have a question and a problem and because I'm so close to the problem i cant see the bigger picture or solution. one of my friends who became my best friend because we both have kids which are 6days apart we both have partners also tho her...
A. 30 June 2012: Put an end to communicating with her boyfriend immediately. Why would you return his messages with the rude and disrespectful things he says to you? I would not talk to my best friend's boyfriend period. I agree with Cerberus that you should not ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but I know he loves me deeply ...
Q. I don't understand. I fell in love with a man 6 years younger than me. He said he was in love with me. Everyone said we seemed happy together - and yet he started to treat me like I was 2nd best and when I asked if he wanted a future with me - he ...
A. 30 June 2012: I have beent here also. It is very difficult to be friends with someone you have seen romantically. I do not know why people even say this because it usually does not work. What happens is that you remain friends, then everytime you see each ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 30 June 2012: Good for you. I remember getting to the point where I thought my ex was lying to me all the time. He would say one thing and do the opposite, or I would observe him doing something totally different. Then would further make things up when he knew ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 29 June 2012: You are welcome to come here anytime if you need someone to talk to. I remembere how terrible this was for me. Anytime he would contact me, it was such a temptation to want to make things work (in the back of my mind knowing that he would just do ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 28 June 2012: You know him pretty well by now so you can probably answer that question for yourself. I know my ex would always pour on the charm when he thought I had had enough. Once he thought he was in the clear, he would go back to his old tricks again. ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 24 June 2012: I think you should ask him directly what his motives are. You may not get a satisfactory answer, but you can at least ask and see what he says. If you want a long-term relationship, make that known. I honestly think some people do not know their ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 23 June 2012: I don't not know why guys do this. I am not a believer of the men and women can be friends theory. Unless you're co-workers or some such thing where you don't have a lot of contact and really are just friends. But, with someone you have deeply ... (read in full...)
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