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writes:Would it be odd to want to be "friends with benefits" with my ex? Back when we were dating I asked him if it was okay for us to become "friends with Benefits" if we were ever to break up and he said yes. It's a been a few months now since our break up and we rarely talk to each other. I miss being intimate with someone, I really don't want to be in an emotional relationship. But am i being ridiculous? In some ways I do miss him but I know that I don't want to be with him because well ... he changed and became someone I don't love anymore and I know that.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 You will end up getting attached and being hurt, especially if he finds another girl.
Don't be so desperate that you will just give yourself to someone just because you are lonely chick.
Wait and find someone who respects you. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2012): And being friends with benefits with your ex you claim not to like or want to be with would be the answer to your problem and make you happy? I think its a ridiculous idea you're right.
The idea of splitting up from someone because it wasn't working out, is to move forward in life not backwards.
Ultimately its your decision, but if you don't mind people judging, criticising and slagging you off behind your back, and feeling guilty, regretful and downright disgusted with yourself if it all goes wrong and you realise it wasn't the perfect bed of roses that you imagined it to be, then go ahead.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 I did a FWB with an ex once... it worked for us... we never really took a break just realized the relationship was not going to work and moved from trying to be bf/gf to seeing each other on thursday nights for dinner and sex (and then eventually just sex)
I even spent the night and left in the mornings for work from his place... but it was nothing more or less
we just kind of faded away from each other eventually.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (9 July 2012):
 In my experience it is very rare for two people to have a fwb relationship. You can say you are not emotionally involved, but someone almost always gets emotionally involved. If this is something that he really wanted, I would venture to guess that he would have been breaking down your door by now. I guess you can call him up and inquire if he wants to have sex, but I'd be very careful with this type of relationship. They almost always end with hard feelings or worse. Sex is a bonding experience. I believe some people COULD have a fwb relationship without emotions, but I don't know of anyone who has tried it and been successful.
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