Seriously considering having an affair.
Q. I'll get straight to the point. I am very seriously considering having an affair. My husband has turned into a complete dead fish in the bedroom. He used to be very excited about me, he used to love to touch me, kiss me, lick me, sleep with me. He ...
A. 8 July 2012: I agree with what everyone else has said and I think you need to seriously think about this situation before acting on any of it. I understand the need to be wanted and desired by the man you love. Having sex with someone else will not satisfy ... (read in full...)
My friend cheated on her husband, should I tell him?
Q. I have a "friend" who has admitted to me that she has cheated on her husband before they got married last Sept. Though I do enjoy her company, I'm not close with her. I was rather shocked that she would tell me something like this because my fiancee ...
A. 8 July 2012: My best advice is stay out of business that is not yours. Their relationship is not your business. Sorry to put it so bluntly, but there is no other way to say it.... (read in full...)
Everything was great until I raised the subject of feelings
Q. Dear all, I quite confused over my relationship I am currently having a LDR with a 28 year old man who I met online in December, He is currently in the military and hopes to stay in for possibly another 10 years,I am his longest girlfriend to da...
A. 7 July 2012: If you are ready to do it, I would tell him that you are interested in a long-term relationship. If he isn't interested in long-term, and he just wants you as a "friend", then I would break it off before you get more emotionally involved. It is ... (read in full...)
Would a trial separation simply extend the toxic situation?
Q. I am in a place where I am afraid to take what is likely the next step. Not sure what to do. Have been married for 10 years, no children (we can't have children and Husband is against adoption). My husband was raised in a verbally abusive ...
A. 7 July 2012: If you are afraid to a get a divorce, I would advise you to go with the separation first. This will give you the time you need to prepare yourself for your new life, if that is what you choose to do. I do not think a separation needs to be done ... (read in full...)
I have a question about birth control.
Q. Oh, someone please help me! Nobody has answered my question, not even Google. This is about birth control, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but it's the only place I feel comfortable turning to. Okay so, I got ...
A. 7 July 2012: The exact same thing happened to me when I went on birth control pills. I gained a lot of weight, I had spotting all the time, and I was miserable. I would go ahead and take the inactive pills and possibly stop taking these pills alltogether. You ... (read in full...)
Can young people be faithful?
Q. I'm in a relationship with a 19 year old. Between us everything is good. However, many of my friends, most of my family, and even casual acquaintances who are aware of her age keep giving me warnings like: "Be careful, she's young, it's not likely ...
A. 7 July 2012: I think young people can absolutely be faithful...anyone can. But I sometimes think young people can be very fickle in relationships. One day they want one thing, the next day they want something else. But then, I guess you could say that about ... (read in full...)
He's married and drinks alcohol. I'm married. His wife is jealous. It's an Emotional relationship. Does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. I'm having an emotional relationship with my co-worker who is married. His wife also suspects this and is jealous. There is nothing serious a thing to make a fuss about because i dont take things seriously,but he is very serious.He likes to hang ar...
A. 7 July 2012: I also agree with Aunt Honesty that if this was a serious relationship with this man at work, you would both be leaving your spouses and planning a future together. So far that has not happened and I would be very surprised if it did.... (read in full...)
He's married and drinks alcohol. I'm married. His wife is jealous. It's an Emotional relationship. Does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. I'm having an emotional relationship with my co-worker who is married. His wife also suspects this and is jealous. There is nothing serious a thing to make a fuss about because i dont take things seriously,but he is very serious.He likes to hang ar...
A. 7 July 2012: If you feel trapped now, the only thing you can really do is begin looking for another job. That is why sometimes people will advise against starting any kind of relationship at work. It just has consequences that sometimes you cannot foresee or ... (read in full...)
I don't know what I am to him, I need advice!
Q. Im am stuck in a relationship that I feel isnt defined by anything. Not that I want definition really though because heck even if someone is your bf they could break up with you any day or be lying to you. However with the man Im "involved" with it ...
A. 7 July 2012: Has he explained to you why he can't give you a commitment? Saying that life is chaotic is a little vague. I would ask him to be more specific because it hurts you to know that he won't commit. If he sticks by his statement that he can't make a ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same?
Q. Agony Aunts!... I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same... ??? :S Recently he has told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, and has said that we're getting closer and he's glad it's happening. But this was after a ...
A. 7 July 2012: I am also not necessarily sure that asking him point blank if he wants a relationship is the appropriate thing to do. It's obvious he wants a relationship...you're staying at his house, he takes care of you, etc. When he makes a move to get ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same?
Q. Agony Aunts!... I'm falling for my best friend but wondering if he feels the same... ??? :S Recently he has told me he loves me, he wants to be with me, and has said that we're getting closer and he's glad it's happening. But this was after a ...
A. 7 July 2012: What's going on? He likes you, you like him, chill out and see where it goes. You're already having intimate conversations with one another that you wouldn't have with anyone else. Do you really have to know to what degree you are in a ... (read in full...)
Do you think this could be more then friendship?
Q. I am 40 years old and coming out of a dead relationship. By chance during an office reorganisation I ended up sitting at a desk next to a girl that I knew a little bit but not well. She is the same age and single, divorced. We sat beside each other ...
A. 6 July 2012: I think you should definitely ask her out on a date. Women don't touch men by accident...at least I never have. I have always been very deliberate in brushing up against a man, touching a man, etc. She may be hesitant after being divorced to get ... (read in full...)
My fiance is insecure about receiving oral sex
Q. Hi, my question is regards to performing oral sex on my fiance. In most cases she does not want me to go down on her. She has assured me that she enjoys it when she does let me go down on her, just that most of the time she feels insecure about ...
A. 6 July 2012: Do you kiss her in other places all over her body? I think it is strange that she enjoys it, but yet she does not really want you to do it. I am not sure you would approve of this, but have you ever watched any videos together of men pleasuring ... (read in full...)
Is this a good idea to surprise my BF in this way, in another room, while the housewarming is in progress?
Q. My new housemate and I are having a housewarming this weekend and obviously the guy I am seeing will be there. My guy loves receiving oral sex and I love giving it but I have never done it without him first asking. I want to surprise him...
A. 6 July 2012: When you see everyone chatting and having a good time, or distracted by eating, take him off to another room, lock or barricade the door, and do it. Sounds like fun!... (read in full...)
Can someone please define what typifies a bi-sexual girl? I just don't know if I am bisexual
Q. Okay so I'm 20 years old and I'm in need of help in defining if bisexual, I've been thinking about this for a while now I'm in a 4year relationship with my bf, I've never been with a women in my life but, I get turned on mor by like women than men...
A. 6 July 2012: I am not sure. I think it is natural to be turned on by both men and women while you are watching porn. And, I think it is natural to appreciate other womens bodies. I think who you are attracted to matters the most, but perhaps someone who is ... (read in full...)
How can I finish this relationship with my employer? I want to, but don't know how to get the courage
Q. i got a job as a househelp i wanted to accumulate cash so i could continue with my studies,but things didnt turn the way i expected my boss started approaching me,because his wife has mental problems. Within a month i gave in it has been five mon...
A. 6 July 2012: I think the best thing to do is find another job and leave this one. Is that a possibility for you? If you try to end the relationship and continue working for him, he is just going to keep pursuing you.... (read in full...)
How can a gay guy feel comfortable around straight guys?
Q. I'm a gay male that acts masculine. Not everyone knows I'm gay but I'm afraid to be around other guys. I feel much better being around women. When I get around guys I feel like I don't fit in. I fill like a alien. I don't act feminine at all but ...
A. 6 July 2012: Just try to look at everyone as a human being. Even though we all have different preferences and different beliefs we are all human and we all want to be liked and accepted. Straight guys are no different. You fit in because you're a human being. ... (read in full...)
I had a one-night=stand, he said he would call and didn't. How long should I wait before I delete him as a friend?
Q. So, I had an unplanned one night stand on Sunday. I normally never do one night stands. Only did it once before. I have heard so much from friends about guys being all nice and then never calling back and that has been my experience too last time, ...
A. 6 July 2012: Yeah, you messed up by telling him what you did. Call and talk to him. Also, why in the world does Facebook status matter so much in today's world? I guess I am too old (40) to understand this. In my world, when men and women want to get ... (read in full...)
Don't want to drift apart from my straight colleague.Should I send her a letter to express my true feelings?
Q. I have started to develop feelings for a friend. This wouldnt seem so bad except i am a gay woman and she is 'straight' and has.a boyfriend. I explained to her soon into our friendship, after a few too many drinks thay i liked her and wanted t...
A. 5 July 2012: I guess I have a different perspective on life than others. I think if you don't take risks, you don't get anywhere in life. You don't have answers to questions that you need. I think you can write her a letter and tell her you would like to ... (read in full...)
How do you deal with a situation when you just can't let go of a person who has betrayed you in a very deliberate and nasty way?
Q. Advice really really needed. How would you go about with a situation when you just can't let go of a person in your life. Both you and him are still very much in love and are both hurting very much. But in the past the guy has betrayed you in a very ...
A. 5 July 2012: You just need to take small steps in a positive direction each day. There are no magic words or magical things you can do to get over someone. You need to surround yourself with friends and family and fill your days and nights with things you ... (read in full...)
Is it stupid that I feel love so early?
Q. Dear cupid I feel so weird because i feel like i'm in love with my current boyfriend. We've only been dating for three months so sometimes i feel stupid for having such strong feelings already but i cant help it. I've never been this way with...
A. 5 July 2012: It's not stupid, just take things slowly. Sometimes when you find you're in love someone, you want to start taking leaps and bounds instead of normal steps with them.... (read in full...)
I feel we have the world against us. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hi DearCupid, I apologise if this is all over the place but here goes ... The general score is that my partner and I will be moving in together come September. The trouble is, all people that are close to him are capable of doing is putting obsta...
A. 5 July 2012: All I am saying is that it seems like YOU and HE could say NO to a lot of the things going on in your lives. You don't have to allow people on your Facebook page. In fact, you don't have to have a Facebook page at all if it is causing you grief. ... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 5 July 2012: I weighed 203 lbs (I am 5'9")in high school. I am slender now. Being healthy can mean a lot of things. I once worked out 4-5 times a week for an hour a day and ate a very low-calorie diet. I was UNDER weight and was not healthy. When I look at ... (read in full...)
Is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else?
Q. Hi there. Okay, I've been texting this guy my friend is setting me up with, but the guy already has a girlfriend. I do really like him, and my question is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else. Their relationship is rocky ac...
A. 5 July 2012: Looks like a simple question has been blown clear out of proportion here. Once again, ok for you to ask him out, not ok for him to accept...unless he breaks up with the other girl. I like the person who said "you are not responsible for his ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 5 July 2012: Also...just an additional note. I would not ask him why he has the pictures on his phone. You know why. I would tell him that you saw the pictures and they upset you because you feel he doesn't think you are attractive, etc. Express your ... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to compromise for what he wants, not what We want?
Q. Hi all. Yesterday me an my boyfriend we had a fight. My problem with him is that when he want something I have to be the one who has to compromise for everything. Yesterday he was off duty at work. He was at his place. I don't know what he was doing ...
A. 5 July 2012: Have a serious talk with him and come up with some kind of arrangement where you are not interrupting sleep or preparation for work to have sex or do other things. It sounds like you both want to have sex...that's great! Now you just need to come ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 5 July 2012: I don't see this as cheating, I simply see it as bad taste when there is a child in the home and a girlfriend he is supposed to respect. Of course we all have fantasies about other people, but I think it is insulting for him to have them on his ... (read in full...)
He's moved on, I haven't, and it's eating me up.
Q. Hey all, My boyfriend and I of 2 years broke up about 2.5 months ago. He's in the Marine Corp and it really wasn't a mutual break up, nor a pleasant one. I wanted to stay in the relationship but he felt he was no good for me (not sure if that was...
A. 5 July 2012: You could not have gotten a better answer than from Dorothy Dix. Most of us have had the unfortunate experience of having to get over someone. Sometimes more than once. We know what you're going through, but you must find something to help ... (read in full...)
He's married and drinks alcohol. I'm married. His wife is jealous. It's an Emotional relationship. Does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. I'm having an emotional relationship with my co-worker who is married. His wife also suspects this and is jealous. There is nothing serious a thing to make a fuss about because i dont take things seriously,but he is very serious.He likes to hang ar...
A. 5 July 2012: Also, I forgot to add that saying his wife is "jealous" is kind of an immature perspective isn't it? His wife is probably terribly upset that her husband (not boyfriend, not lover...HUSBAND) is emotionally connected to another woman. Jealously ... (read in full...)
He's married and drinks alcohol. I'm married. His wife is jealous. It's an Emotional relationship. Does he mean it when he says he loves me?
Q. I'm having an emotional relationship with my co-worker who is married. His wife also suspects this and is jealous. There is nothing serious a thing to make a fuss about because i dont take things seriously,but he is very serious.He likes to hang ar...
A. 5 July 2012: There is something to make a fuss about or you would not be talking about how his drinking bothers you or wondering if he really loves you. An emotional affair is just as bad if not worse than a sexual affair. If you just slept with someone and ... (read in full...)
Don't want to drift apart from my straight colleague.Should I send her a letter to express my true feelings?
Q. I have started to develop feelings for a friend. This wouldnt seem so bad except i am a gay woman and she is 'straight' and has.a boyfriend. I explained to her soon into our friendship, after a few too many drinks thay i liked her and wanted t...
A. 5 July 2012: You could send her a letter...it would not hurt. She must like you if she's kissed you and texts you all the time. She could just be confused about her feelings. I would at least tell her that you have enjoyed spending time with her and texting ... (read in full...)
I fell out with a friend because he lost his values, now I'm not sure what to do about our friendship.
Q. I'm really not sure what to do for the best. I feel out with a really good friend of mine who I've always loved. I know I did the right thing but I just don't know what to do. He was always such a repsectable person with strict values, and in the ...
A. 5 July 2012: I know how you feel...I have had this same experience. My friend was someone I could depend upon, but we also had a lot of fun. I still do not know what happened, but it went from having a close personal friendship to him not even acknowledging my ... (read in full...)
Is love over exaggerated?
Q. Can LOVE really exist between 2 people? Can two people really find what they are looking for each other? Or is LOVE an idea that is over exaggerated in movies, songs and novels? Do people really find someone they can be happy with forever? Or is it ...
A. 5 July 2012: I am not sure. I thought I was in love once. It looked like love, it felt like love, it seemed to last like love for awhile, and then he stopped talking, stopped being intimate, stopped wanting to be with me, etc. I think people and the idea of ... (read in full...)
I feel we have the world against us. Am I overreacting?
Q. Hi DearCupid, I apologise if this is all over the place but here goes ... The general score is that my partner and I will be moving in together come September. The trouble is, all people that are close to him are capable of doing is putting obsta...
A. 5 July 2012: My question is...why is HE subjecting himself to all of this negativity? He is an adult and like Aunt Honesty says, is old enough to make his own decisions. Fake accounts on suspect looking sex sites? How exactly would one go about "planting" ... (read in full...)
Could this flat agreement leave me financially screwed if things don't work out for me income-wise this year?
Q. I'm currently in a comfortable lifestyle with some good savings in the bank, but I'm really worried about where my future is gonna take me in the next year. Currently I have a year contract for a funded degree at my uni, and it pays pretty well, or ...
A. 5 July 2012: Anytime you sign any kind of agreement where money is involved, you will always worry. That is a good trait to have because it shows you are conscientious and responsible. One thing that sets you apart from most others who sign agreements like ... (read in full...)
Do you think that he is prolonging this because I know she filed but he was supposed to pay her attorney. or do you think that I'm just being paranoid.
Q. hi im 24 years old and i have a 3 year old girl, i fell in love with a man that is 48. when we met at work i did not know he was married until 2 weeks after we started talking. his wife found out about the both of us and called and told me to get ...
A. 5 July 2012: I think all of this has happened very quickly and you need to be very careful about this. Personally I think you should consider postponing your engagement for awhile. Getting engaged while someone is still in the process of getting a divorce is ... (read in full...)
I could see it in her eyes she was still in love with me. And I'm still in love with her.
Q. Okay everybody, Please bare with me as I try to explain. I was with my partner for a long time. We met when we were both 21. I knew I'd met my soul mate. She was the same. We just got each other in a way that I never thought and knew was possibl...
A. 5 July 2012: I am sorry you are going through this situation. I think things are as simple as you say, so I am not sure why she is making it complicated. Either she likes you or the other guy...there isn't anything more to it. If things were more complicated ... (read in full...)
Cheating? Trust broken? But can we make this work, despite the past?
Q. My girlfriend (X) and I have been together for almost 4 years now. I like to think of myself as an open minded guy. I'm not morally opposed to having an open relationship, and at times have tried to(and sometimes succeeded) at bringing other people ...
A. 5 July 2012: Situation #1: If you wanted a serious and intimate relationship with your girlfriend, you should have been sleeping with JUST HER. For most people sex is more serious than you have treated it...it isn't just an act. It's an intimate and special ... (read in full...)
Is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else?
Q. Hi there. Okay, I've been texting this guy my friend is setting me up with, but the guy already has a girlfriend. I do really like him, and my question is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else. Their relationship is rocky ac...
A. 4 July 2012: I would also add, why is your friend trying to set you up with this guy if he already has a girlfriend?... (read in full...)
Is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else?
Q. Hi there. Okay, I've been texting this guy my friend is setting me up with, but the guy already has a girlfriend. I do really like him, and my question is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else. Their relationship is rocky ac...
A. 4 July 2012: Don't rely on what your friend says. I would talk to the guy and tell him you would like to go out with him sometime, but that you knew he was seeing someone else and didn't want to get involved in the middle of something. If he's interested he'll ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to this, or are my feelings atleast a little justified?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has recently downloaded pictures of naked women to his phone. We live together and have a child together so privacy is not the issue here, and I was not intentionally snooping on his phone. He had taken a picture of our s...
A. 4 July 2012: Your feelings are justified. He has a son and a girlfriend and should not be doing it unless he includes you and you are ok with it. Would it be ok with him if his son would grab the phone and find the pictures, or is he the type who does not care ... (read in full...)
A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??
Q. A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...
A. 13 June 2012: Someone would say that because he is superficial. If he really liked/loved you, he would like you as you are.... (read in full...)
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