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writes:I really need advice, a few years ago I met a man that was a good friend of my partner's family and I really liked him, and my partner jokingly(although he meant it) said this guy fancied me. I thought nothing of it, but I found everytime there was a family event I would look out for him. More recently I have become good friends with his mom who he is living with. So when Im there he is there too, he has on one occasion told me to go even when his mom not there and I did, he took me for a ride on his bike and has held my hand. He offers to help me with a career move im interested in and went with me to the interview and then took me for lunch. Its like there is an invisible chemistry between, im always the one that contacts him first - I really like him, how does he view me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Please think, before you think any more about this man, that he is supposed to be friends with your partner, but is making a play for you. Is he to be trusted?
Who do you want, your partner or this man? Or are you going to cheat and maybe hurt your partner?
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (21 May 2008):
 You are feeling flattered by the attention of this man and you are playing with fire which inevitably will burn you. This man is a friend of your partner's family, bit close to home don't you think?
Not sure how he views you, but he knows your partner and I'm guessing that your partner has no idea that you spend time with him.....
Would you like it if your partner had the same relationship with a close female friend of your family? Probably not! I don't think you are looking for advise but approval,you need to let your conscience be your guide here, but if you want to keep your partner I'd think seriously about the consequences of your actions and stop before it goes any further.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): I think he likes you, but you really should think about your partner. What you're doing would probably hurt him and if it went further then it would probably destroy your relationship and devistate your current partner.Unless you are unhappy in your current relatioship and want to leave it for this man, then you should stop around to his mothers then you try not to be drawn back into it as it could led to an affair. contacting him. And if you ever see him again when you go You shouldn't be going out to lunch with him and you shouldn't be letting him hold your hand as it is deceitful to your partner. If you are unhappy in your relationship then you should leave it before pursuing any new relationships.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): Sounds like he's into you too....however, are you still with your "partner"?? If so and you REALLY want to know if he's interested why don;t you leave your partner and see if he makes a move?? Or are you just out for a bit of cake on the side? Want to feel good about yourself, get a bit of a thrill but keep your partner there for when it all falls apart?? HmmmmmWhat did you think of this guy prior to being told he had a thing for you? Is that what's attracting you? Maybe he likes the idea of the risk and excitment an affair brings?? Who knows? So, if he "likes you" too is that a green light?Maybe you need to look at why you're looking for the attention of another man....you could get alot more than you bargained for if you keep going down the path you're on!! Tread carefully!
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