Does the contraceptive jab protect from STI's, does it hurt and should I tell my mum I'm having sex?
Q. i have asked my mum to book me an appointment and she has...the appointment was for me to get the contraception impact done. I am having in up in my arm on thursday, but my mum asked why i wanted it :\ i said to her that i cant handle having periods ...
A. 23 November 2011: Well this isn't going to protect you from getting an STI, sorry to break it to you. The only way to prevent, like person12345 says, are condoms and abstinence.
Your mom also probably knows you're having sex if you want to go on birth control.... (read in full...)
Could he tell that I had had sex with someone else the day before?
Q. ls it possible for a guy to feel that you had sex with someone else? l had sex with my guyfriend at a party and a day later my boyfriend showed up and we had sex. afterwards he said nothing and ignored me the whole night, in the morning we tried ...
A. 22 November 2011: You should probably let him know that you cheated on him, first off. Truth is always the best policy.
The next thing you should do is apologise profusely and see whether or not he forgives you.... (read in full...)
Was sex with my new boyfriend awkward because I just got out of such a long relationship? Or do we just not have that kind of connection?
Q. I just got out of a 2 year relationship to a guy that I was actually engaged to. I was very unhappy with the relationship and he was more concerned about his happiness than mine. I couldn't take it anymore so I left. I'm in a new relationship and ...
A. 22 November 2011: Is there a reason you jumped into the new relationship so quickly, and also had sex so quickly with this new guy? Of course it probably won't feel right if you're trying to forget about your ex or trying to push out bad memories. If there's no ... (read in full...)
I met someone online but everyone is always concerned for my safety!
Q. I think it's terrible how a minority of wicked people can forever tarnish something which could be used for the good. I met the love of my life (and I'm not using those words lightly) online in August 2010. It wasn't a dating site, just one for ...
A. 20 November 2011: I met my boyfriend online, not on a dating site. We were friends for a year before we started to develop deep feelings for each other.
He came here in July and stayed with me for 3 months.
I honestly don't care if people don't like the fact th... (read in full...)
Now that we are official she won't do "special" things to me!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with this woman (on and off) for almost 3 years. At first, the sex was ridiculous (we weren't official at first, just friends with benefits.) But now, since we've officially decided to be in a committed rel...
A. 15 November 2011: If I am into someone, I will try my best to please them.
If I love someone, I will do anything I can to keep them happy. Because that's my favourite thing, to know that I make my boyfriend smile each day and that he's happy and we both do every... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend compares me to his ex girlfriends
Q. I feel weird about my bfs exes. My bf was my first and I was his fifth and some days I don't think about it, but when I do it makes me very uncomfortable and sad. I worry he compares me and wishes I do stuff like his exs. He particularly finds fi...
A. 15 November 2011: My boyfriend was my first and I was his 5th also.
I don't really give it much thought. I know for a fact that I meant the most, and that I'm his first true love which trumps all the other girls.
If your boyfriend is doing something to you... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed in my behaviour since joining this club
Q. I am in my final year at college and decided to join a club this year. I joined the sailing club and went to socials each week since September. The first trip just came around this weekend. I have a lovely long term boyfriend who I am 100% commit...
A. 15 November 2011: I don't think you need to stop going to the club, I just think you need to not drink so much when you go on these social outings. That way you're more in control of your actions. If something does happen, you don't have the excuse of alcohol being ... (read in full...)
I didn't bleeed when I lost my virginity this weekend. Did we do something wrong?
Q. dear cupid, i lost my virginity this weekend. i will admit it hurt a lot for me, we did it for the second time (same night) and it was better the second time. however, i was quite disappointed because i dont think my cherry popped as there was no ...
A. 15 November 2011: Have you misunderstood something? Yes. Not every girl bleeds when she loses her virginity.... (read in full...)
I cancelled plans to visit my long distance boyfriend. Now he says he doesn't love me.
Q. I was supposed to go visit my LDR boyfriend but didn't because of stresses in my home life and lack of funds (he said he would've helped with money, but then I wouldn't have any). Now he says he doesn't love me anymore! I've told him that I ...
A. 15 November 2011: I'm sorry but I have to disagree with the aunts saying LDRs do not work. LDRs don't work when either one or both of the people in the relationship are not 100% committed to making it work.
I live over 7000 miles away from my partner, since De... (read in full...)
He said I "owe" him sex!!! Should I feel bad?
Q. On another note, I broke up with my ex-boyfriend last week after him controlling me for over 2 years. A week before I had began getting closer to my guy friend but I hadn't noticed it 'till I broke up with my boyfriend. It's been a week since my ...
A. 11 November 2011: You're still talking to him? Girl, cut all contact! You have no need to be talking to him, and you shouldn't be his friend either!
He owes you an apology.... (read in full...)
I hate my girlfriend's new haircut
Q. My girlfriend got a new hairdo the other week and I hate it, but I don't have the guts to tell her. When she said she was going for a haircut I thought she meant just a light trim like she always had but little did I know she would be coming home ...
A. 11 November 2011: I think you should be honest about it. Tell her the truth. But man, seriously, its only hair. Don't you love her deeper than her outwardly appearance?... (read in full...)
I cheated to find out if I really love my girlfriend
Q. Ok, this is a pretty big problem. Me and my gf have been together for 7 months now. Well the 7th Month was the shittiest ever. We had no sex what so ever and she was totally strange the whole time. We can only see eachother on the weekends because ...
A. 11 November 2011: I'm sorry but I just don't agree with the notion of sleeping with someone else to see if you still love your partner. If you have to even doubt your love for them for a second, you might as well just cut your losses now, instead of dragging her ... (read in full...)
Peer pressure about sex/virginity
Q. Heya! I was just wondering about some help for peer pressure. Basically I'm almost 18, but I'm still a virgin when all of my friends are not. I'm getting a bit sick of every conversation I have with my friends having something to do with sex as it ...
A. 11 November 2011: Hi there! I only lost my virginity to my boyfriend of almost a year, in july, just after my 20th birthday.
So please don't feel alone. I have been in your shoes. It's not easy. But the main thing you need to do is stay strong!! Don't listen t... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she's only been with 2 men, but I don't believe her. Am I right?
Q. I dont know what to do. I have been with my girlfriend for the last 5 years, but I cant trust her. I am 25 and she is 24. She has told me that she has had two boyfriends before me who she had sex with, but I have heard that she has had more. I think ...
A. 9 November 2011: No, you haven't done the right thing.
Cause for all the problems is her and what she has done? What is it she has done exactly? What has she done TO YOU??
Why are you punishing her like this? All she has done is love you, and yet you feel the... (read in full...)
Why does he need to be so ANGRY at me/? I just wish he would go slow and gentle
Q. Hello there I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years (A VERY on and off relationship mainly him breaking up with me every year for a month or couple of weeks). We have a good relationship other than the sex thing which we haven't done yet. We done...
A. 8 November 2011: You made the right choice.
But do you really want to be with someone who is going to pressure you into making decisions which you're unsure about? Honestly, you deserve so much more than that.
He says if you loved him you would have made ... (read in full...)
He said sex feels weird and he thinks its because I had a baby!
Q. this morning my boyfriend told me he doesnt really feel much when we have sex, he hardly holds an erection as it is but when its hard its like a rock.. he told me the penetration feels weird and i dont think thats a good thing? hes never been able ...
A. 7 November 2011: Maybe he should loosen his grip on his penis when he masturbates. He might be over-stimulating himself resulting in less sensitivity.
You have also had a baby too. I can suggest looking up kegel excercises online. They help to tighten your mus... (read in full...)
Ex says I should have sex with him because I owe him my virginity since he waited for me
Q. Me and my now ex-boyfriend just broke up because of me not being in love with him anymore. Although we're broken up, he's telling me to have sex with him so we can both loose our virginities and then he'll move on. He says if we do have sex, he'll ...
A. 7 November 2011: If you have to think, even just for a second to question yourself, you know the answer is 'no'.... (read in full...)
I cheated to find out if I really love my girlfriend
Q. Ok, this is a pretty big problem. Me and my gf have been together for 7 months now. Well the 7th Month was the shittiest ever. We had no sex what so ever and she was totally strange the whole time. We can only see eachother on the weekends because ...
A. 7 November 2011: What? Did I just read that correctly?
Sorry to be harsh but this is ridiculous.
You cheated to see if you loved her? Are you going to cheat on her every single time things turn sour, just to see if you still love her??? This is how cheaters ... (read in full...)
Need help with online dating.
Q. Has anyone got experience of on line dating? I have met 3,but they have all been less than truthful. Professional was unemployed. Had 1 child was really 4. Single turned out to be in a relationship who enjoyed the thrill. Does it ever get better?...
A. 7 November 2011: I met my boyfriend online, however not on a dating site. He lives in the USA and I live in Australia. We were friends for 1.5 years before he came to visit me in July for 3 months. He's coming here to live hopefully by the end of the year.
Onlin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend didn't talk to me at his birthday-party! Did I overreact?
Q. It was my boyfriend's birthday and he invited a lot of friends to his house. The problem is he stopped to chat with everyone but me and that got me really upset. He often looked at me to see if I was doing ok, but I kinda missed him and started ...
A. 7 November 2011: You did not over react.
My long-distance boyfriend once did the same. On his first visit here, we went out together as a couple for the first time. He is a very social person and was so excited to be in my town so he was speaking to everyone... (read in full...)
Why does he need to be so ANGRY at me/? I just wish he would go slow and gentle
Q. Hello there I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 years (A VERY on and off relationship mainly him breaking up with me every year for a month or couple of weeks). We have a good relationship other than the sex thing which we haven't done yet. We done...
A. 5 November 2011: There is such thing as not being ready. If you even have to ask yourself that question, you're not ready, because you'll know in your heart and in your mind that you want this person to be your first.
Do you love him? Can you see yourself living w... (read in full...)
Shouldn't I feel something (anything!) on the first date?
Q. I'm trying to forget this man I fell hard for and get into a committed relationship. It's hard but I'm trying. I went on a date and though the man was nice, cute boyish face, and we had a lot in common-I didn't feel anything. I hoped and hoped he ...
A. 5 November 2011: You can't just make feelings go away or make them appear.
If you're trying to forget someone, yes, it is going to take a while for you to feel something for someone else.
It's up to you whether you want to see the guy again, but if you don't... (read in full...)
Does my casual 26 year old occasional sex buddy need to know? I'm getting divorced. The 26 year old didn't want me to get pregnant, but now I am.
Q. I am 33 almost 34 with 3 children and getting divorced. I have been casually seeing a guy I met on the internet for the past 3-4 months, he's 26. We both work a lot so only meet up every few weeks and text in between. It's not a relation...
A. 5 November 2011: He has the right to know about your pregnancy.
You need to tell him and talk to him about what you guys are going to do.
Ultimately, it is your decision as you are going to be carrying the child and will probably end up taking care of it.... (read in full...)
We have a love hate relationship, what should my next move be?
Q. My boyfriend comes out with nasty comments when we argue, by saying things such as " you're the bane of my life " and sometimes i ask if he is cheating on me ( i say it out of anger ) and he says " no, but i wish i was ". He calls me a b***h ...
A. 5 November 2011: I suggest you re-consider where this relationship is heading. If someone loves you and cares for you, as they should if they are your boyfriend, they won't call you names and ignore you and only speak to you when it's convenient for them.
You a... (read in full...)
How do I tell my lesbian girlfriend to take it easy on me during sex without telling her I was a virgin before her?
Q. Girlfriend is on a quest to sexually open me up. She doesn't like to use lube although she can be real rough during sex. I really really love her and she says she loves me....we've been together two years n being intimate for a yr and a half. We ...
A. 4 November 2011: If you two are in a sexual relationship, you should be able to talk to her about these kinds of things.
You need to let her know that its not working for you. You need to also let her know that she was your first. I think you two need to sit down... (read in full...)
Does anyone regret having sex too young and not waiting until marriage?
Q. I'm just wondering had anyone regretting having sex too young, or not waiting till marriage as ive been in a steady relationship now for over a year and a half but havent had sex... me and my boyfriend are happy about this but im wondering about ...
A. 1 November 2011: I just lost my virginity a few months ago to my boyfriend of almost a year. I'm 20 years old. He is my first love, and hoepfully my last.... (read in full...)
In Turmoil. How can I resolve my Commitment issues? my girlfriend has given up on me :(
Q. Hi Folks, Commitment issues of my own have caused my girlfriend to give up :(! I'm after some advice, not sure if anyone can help, but basically the story goes like this: My girlfriend and I were together for 3 1/2 years. We had a long ...
A. 1 November 2011: What type of occupation do you have? Are you more rooted in your hometown than she is to hers? Do you have lots of family in your town? Basically, just weight out who would be better off moving. If it is you, then do it. Yes, it may take time to ... (read in full...)
Can this happen? My Sex drive is gone, and I'm only 20 years old
Q. I have lost my sex drive completely. I have an amazing fiance of four years, and we never have sex anymore, b/c I don't want too. I'm only 20 years old, and I don't care for it. As of right this very moment, i don't care if i EVER have sex again. At ...
A. 1 November 2011: Are you on any form of birth control? This can affect your sex drive.
Are you still attracted to him at all? Do you think about sex with other people and get turned on?
You could try seeing your doctor, because it could be an issue with your ... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 31 October 2011: Did you tell him you know about the emails and that you knew he was in the hotel? There's no really denying that as that is solid proof.... (read in full...)
True or false? Are girls attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging?
Q. I have this question about dating in general: I have heard from my guy friends and even read this on a girl's profile on a online dating site, that Girls are attracted to guys who are mysterious and who are mentally challenging. Otherwise if yo...
A. 30 October 2011: No, I like a guy who is honest with his words and actions.
I don't want someone trying to mentally challenge me every single day. I want someone who is on the same page as me, someone on my wavelength.
I want a nice guy who knows how to be ... (read in full...)
My periods are still irregular, any advice?
Q. Hi. I'm 13 and I'm on my third period. The first two were relatively light and I could use the Always pads with the three or four absorbency drop thingys. But now, on my third, it's been sooooo heavy and the Always pads with the four drops get full...
A. 30 October 2011: I'm 20 years old now and got my period just before I turned 13, and it took me about 2 years until my periods became regular, as in every 28 days. I still get times where its heavier than others, and I attribute that to my dietary changes.
If yo... (read in full...)
My man will cheat on me tomorrow...What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend is going to cheat on me tomorrow. What do i do? We are in a LDR. He came to see me last week. We went to a party together but sat apart because there were limited seats. I noticed a girl flirting with him but did not say anything ...
A. 30 October 2011: A psychic? You know they're just telling you what you want to hear, right???
I hope you confront your boyfriend about his behaviour. If he's in a committed and loving relationship with you, he shouldn't be paying for a lady to visit him, unless t... (read in full...)
After what has happened do I have the right to be mad?!?
Q. one night, my bf and i went out with another couple which the girl is my bff. and after bar we all expiremented a lil bit, we all never done this before. the first night was way akward, it was spose to be just me and my bff while the guys watched, ...
A. 28 October 2011: Oh wow. That is horrible. How insensitive and inconsiderate. I would get a new boyfriend and a new best friend. Alcohol is no excuse either, but your best friend was sober?? Geez. Find new company asap.... (read in full...)
Ladies: How important are a man's looks in a relationship?
Q. Hello. This is not a "problem" as such, but i have a question for the ladies.... TRUTHFULLY, how important are a mans looks in a relationship? I ask this for 2 reasons. Firstly women always say that its personality, kindness, empathy, sense o...
A. 24 October 2011: Personally, I have to be attracted to someone if I want to be romantically involved with them. However, my idea of attractive is going to be different from say, my next door neighbour.
I'll give you an example. My significant other and I were fri... (read in full...)
How Much Time is Too Much Time Apart?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about two months now. The first three weeks were smooth sailing, but ever since then our relationship has been rocky. We only get to see each other once a week, usually on the weekend, and problems arise because when we're ...
A. 23 October 2011: You two should really sit down and have a good heart to heart talk about your feelings and what you want out of the relationship. I think it would be good to maybe set some boundaries as to what you both feel is appropriate behaviour. He's worried ... (read in full...)
Should I date this liar?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a freshman and he's a junior. He's had sex with 3 girls I know of and I'm a virgin, he promises he won't hurt me or pressure me into sex. He's lied to me once about how many girls he's had sex with. When I talk to him in person i...
A. 23 October 2011: Don't get caught up just because he's the only boy to have ever given you butterflies. Unless you want to be involved in the alcohol/drug scene too, I'd suggest to not go there.... (read in full...)
Should I keep dating my LD b/f or go with my crush?
Q. i been with my boyfriend for 7 months, the only problem with this relationship is that its long distance and i only seen him 1 time in the relationship. now i just recently started to branch out talking again to my first crush (im 16 i loved this ...
A. 23 October 2011: Well if you're already looking around for other people, you should consider breaking it off with your LD boyfriend. I'm sure he'd rather not be dragged along for the bumpy ride. You need to be true to yourself and to your feelings. If you loved your ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to feel this way? sometimes it feels like a FWB, yet when with him the sex is amazing.
Q. Sometimes my boyfriend feels more like a friend with benefits or something. I love him to pieces, I trust him completely, he understands me better than anyone; in short, he's the best mate I could ever wish for. But thinking of the fact that we're ...
A. 25 September 2011: I disagree with chigirl that there needs to be love. The primarily friends part with the added sexual dimensions I think is how most relationships start out. Love takes time to grow so it isn't going to be there from the outset.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants our LDR to be an open relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating about three months when our relationship became long distance due to circumstances beyound our control. It's been three months since I had to move, and we've only been able to see each other once since then. ...
A. 16 September 2011: No... an open relationship has to be agreed upon by both parties. If he isn't happy about that then you should tell him to not bother any longer. If he loves you, he should be able to keep his dick in his pants.
Sorry to be harsh, but I am in an... (read in full...)
She slept with my friend on the day we met
Q. Hi...This is my first post here.. I'm a 21 year old male and I met the girl of my dreams 1 month ago.. However, there are complications. I met her at a ''party'' at my friends house where she was the only girl... I chatted with her for a while ...
A. 15 September 2011: Wait... you said you saw her go into the showers, and she told you she did not sleep with him. Did anyone else actually witness it happening or did your friend tell you that they did? Because it seems like you're just assuming that she did and ... (read in full...)
I'm falling for her, but she has an LDR with a guy in basic
Q. Okay, so I'm a senior in high school, and I'm starting to fall in love with this girl who's also the same age. I'm pickin' up some good vibes coming my way from her, but nothing definite. However, she has a boyfriend - two years older than her and ...
A. 15 September 2011: Also I'm sure she wouldn't appreciate your advances considering you know the situation she's in, and are going to try and go for it anyway. Her boyfriend probably means the world to her.
... (read in full...)
I'm falling for her, but she has an LDR with a guy in basic
Q. Okay, so I'm a senior in high school, and I'm starting to fall in love with this girl who's also the same age. I'm pickin' up some good vibes coming my way from her, but nothing definite. However, she has a boyfriend - two years older than her and ...
A. 15 September 2011: No, you shouldn't go for it. Why? Because she's in a relationship. Doesn't matter whether its long distance or not, she is unavailable.
... (read in full...)
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