Every time we are apart I find myself wondering if he's cheating on me
Q. hey everyone, so if u havent read my past questions, i am 17 and i have a 16 year old boyfriend. we dated from august 22,2009 to may 17,2010. we broke up then because he cheated on me. . .but we got back together in december 22,2010 and we are still ...
A. 23 May 2011: You need to trust your gut on this one.
Why don't you leave him? Why are you staying with him if he's causing you unnecessary grief? Are you sure you want to keep this baby? Even if you did stay with him, you guys have gotten pregnant (it seems by... (read in full...)
I don't trust girls because I hook up with girls who are cheating on their boyfriends!
Q. hey everyone, i have a small issue..actually its a biiig issue, i dont trust girls anymore, its like i really cant see myself trustin a girl in my life, im a goodlooking guy and i consider myself to be a player, im in a long distance relation...
A. 22 May 2011: Wow. Well maybe if you weren't sleeping with them, they wouldn't be cheating? You know you're not helping the situation by banging these girls when you know they already have a partner. It takes two to tango. This is what I gather from what you've... (read in full...)
LDR--is he always out of phone credits because he's talking to someone else?
Q. Hey guys! please I really need some help!! Ok so my boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months now. I recently had to leave the country and now i am currently in America, while he's in Africa. First of all prom is coming up...and i get that he ...
A. 22 May 2011: You need to talk to him and ask him straight up what's going on. You will not come off as controlling if you're just asking about the extent of his friendship with your friend.
Do you have plans to go back to your home country any time soon?... (read in full...)
I've seen him once in three weeks, is he my boyfriend?
Q. hi there ive been seeing a guy for 3 weeks but only ive seen him once a week cause he owns his bussniss so hes busy and hes a singel dad like me am single mum. But dose it mean that hes my boyfriend?...
A. 22 May 2011: Um.. probably not your boyfriend. I would say you're "seeing" him. Have you spoken to him about where you want this relationship to go?... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship but there's someone flirting with him - should I be worried?
Q. I've recently entered into a long-distance relationship with a chap from Britain. We're both very attracted to each other, and talk almost every day (we've known each other for a year, and have recently gotten quite close). I'm saving up to go out ...
A. 22 May 2011: I guess you have to ask yourself some questions. Do you really want to be with a guy who has 4 children by two women? If this became a serious relationship, you would need to share him with his kids. And who is to say if you have a child with him, ... (read in full...)
I've been told I'm fussy, is that why I can't seem to get into dating?
Q. I need help understanding men. Recently I met a guy went on one date and realised it wasn't going to work and we weren't that compatible. So when he texts asking if I want to meet up again I say no because I'm busy and moving in a few months (which ...
A. 22 May 2011: If you don't feel the spark, you don't feel the spark. You can't force something that isn't there, and that is not being fussy. I think when it comes to finding the right person, you just have to know what you're looking for. Someone who has the ... (read in full...)
Can you still make it work when you want to live in diffrent places?
Q. this is my problem, but let's just keep it on a general level. If the relationship works in pretty much all aspects (respectful, loving, sexual, everyday life, general believes, etc) but you can't seem to agree on were to live (in my case not the ...
A. 21 May 2011: Is this a long distance relationship?
I think it might not work. If you want to spend your life with someone, there's gotta be compromise from BOTH parties. You also need to be with someone who has the same personal wants/needs that you do, othe... (read in full...)
Every time we are apart I find myself wondering if he's cheating on me
Q. hey everyone, so if u havent read my past questions, i am 17 and i have a 16 year old boyfriend. we dated from august 22,2009 to may 17,2010. we broke up then because he cheated on me. . .but we got back together in december 22,2010 and we are still ...
A. 21 May 2011: You need to sit and talk to him properly about this. If you two can't even sit together and have a conversation, how do you expect to spend the rest of your life with him, and this baby? Communication is crucial, and he's not going to know he's ... (read in full...)
Should a wife feel obligated to satisfy her husband?
Q. uhm so a question: i'm at a pretty young age. maybe i shouldn't be thinking of this yet but is it normal for a wife not to give her husband "his needs" whenever he wants it if she's not under any condition where she can't but just everyday life? ...
A. 20 May 2011: Well as long as it doesn't feel like a chore, and both parties are benefiting from it, there shouldn't be a problem.
If someone starts to with hold sex from their partner, that
could be considered as unhealthy and not the way things shoul... (read in full...)
Theres a pic of my breasts on everybodys phone
Q. ok, so i was with this one guy, lets call him bob, and i dumped him...the night that i dumped bob, i was texting an older guy, (fred)..and i sent him a picture of my tits...two days later i started dating a different guy,(george) and i'm still with ...
A. 20 May 2011: There's nothing you can do. You just have to learn not to send pictures of your tits to people you don't trust/know very well.... (read in full...)
She refused to shave after eveything I do for her...
Q. Dear fellow readers, I have found myself stuck in a very fragile situation and I am in need of some serious, thought out advice. I am 16 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and I have hit a brick wall. A few weeks ago I ask her to ...
A. 19 May 2011: You can't make her do something she doesn't want to, especially when she told you from the beginning that she wasn't into shaving her pubic hair. You even mentioned that she's feeling insecure about her body.. how do you think it makes her feel w... (read in full...)
It kills me inside every time she rejects my sexual advances...
Q. I'm having a problem as of late. I've been with my current GF for almost two years now (we are going to Amsterdam for our two year anniversary in May) but I feel all emotions have gone from my part. We are in a long distance relationship (i'm ...
A. 19 May 2011: Hey there.. I'm so sorry to hear this is happening to you. Have you tried to talk to her about this? I would try if you haven't already, as communication is key in keeping a relationship alive. You say it's been two years since you first starte... (read in full...)
I am overcome with rage and anger at other women!
Q. This problem is breaking my heart and I know that I'm risking being judged by writing this, but I don't have anyone to talk to about this! I'm originally from Spain but working in Cuernavaca, Mexico right now. I have a friend, and I had this b...
A. 19 May 2011: OP, do you see anywhere in my post where I called you selfish? No. OP, Did I call you crazy? No. Stop making things out to be what they're not. You are the one being judgemental, because you're calling all these women, WHO YOU DON'T KNOW, a wh... (read in full...)
How do I stop being so clingy?
Q. So I feel like I'm about to cry. So I know that I'm extremly clingy. And everywhere I go and tests I take to see where/what degree I'm in it seems like there's no hope for me. I don't know what to do and the reason I'm sad right now is because the ...
A. 18 May 2011: I think there might be some underlying issue as to why you feel so clingy. Is there anything else going on in your life right now, or did anything traumatic happen when you were younger?
I think you might need to see a counsellor to get help wit... (read in full...)
She wont committ, she hardly ever has sex with me and wont even tell people we are together! What can I do to get this relationship back on track?
Q. Been with my girlfriend over 4 years now. After first 2 years we split because I did something stupid, I stole from my employer. She ended it because she said I was not the man she thought I was! After 3 months we got back together, mainly...
A. 18 May 2011: You definitely need to talk to her about this if you haven't yet. There is a reason why she's pulled away from you emotionally/physically. If she flat out refuses to talk about it or try to resolve this issue, then I would just leave her. ... (read in full...)
I read her diary and found out she was bi-sexual! Should I confront her about this?
Q. I've been dating the girl of my dreams. I have been over the moon for the last 5 months because I have finally met someone who I feel real love for, and who loves me back just as much. She is gorgeous and kind and I truely have fallen head over ...
A. 18 May 2011: Well you'll never know if you don't ask her.
Personally, I think it shouldn't matter as the past is the past.
Just because someone is bisexual, it doesn't meant they have a higher likelihood of cheating. A cheater will cheat whether they lik... (read in full...)
I am overcome with rage and anger at other women!
Q. This problem is breaking my heart and I know that I'm risking being judged by writing this, but I don't have anyone to talk to about this! I'm originally from Spain but working in Cuernavaca, Mexico right now. I have a friend, and I had this b...
A. 18 May 2011: "No one else is good enough for me..."
Me, me, me. That's all I see. Sounds ridiculously childish, no?
I don't know if you realise this, but most people don't go around thinking the way that you do. You seem to be utterly consumed with je... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my hubby want to make love to me?
Q. I'm newly married for 3 months n I'm 22 and my husband is 30. I was a virgin when I married him and he is not. From what he says he's had many girlfriends and had sex with lots of people, obviously he went through that clubbing and player stage. ...
A. 17 May 2011: Wow. Why did you even marry this guy? He is super inconsiderate and insensitive.
I think he was one of those guys who had his fun in his youthful years. Banged womenm with no disregard for their feelings. Thinking he was a God because he could pr... (read in full...)
Is this a good long term method to desensitize the penis?
Q. I read somewhere that for uncircumcised/sensitive penis a remedy to desensitize it is to expose the head of the penis (or glans) for by pulling the foreskin back, for long period each day for several days (or even weeks). Say I pull my foreskin...
A. 17 May 2011: Hah yeah why would you want to de-sensitise it?
If you're hoping to last longer in bed, the only way is practice/masturbation/concentration.
But I wouldn't know, I don't have a penis...... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is not paying any attention to me!
Q. i m in committed ldr relation since 2 years. lately i have realised that the things have changed. my bf has stopped paying attention.he doesn't wish me gm, neither he texts me. At the night he calls only if i will msg him something. he...
A. 17 May 2011: I disagree with Dorothy Dix in saying that you need to see each other at least once a week.
I think at least having some form of communication, most common form being a phone call, is the best way to keep the relationship going.
I think its w... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was in bed with another girl but claims she is just a friend!
Q. I caught a girl in my bf laying on the same bed with my bf, the door was locked. My bf is now telling me that the girl was just a casual friend, what do think? ...
A. 17 May 2011: Yep, I agree with Jmtmj.
There's no reason that he should be lying on a bed with another girl once he was in a relationship, let alone lock the door.
I would feel insulted if my bd told me that, thinking I'd be so stupid as to believe him.... (read in full...)
Is it a big turn off for guys when they see girls bleeding while having sex?
Q. The other day my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time and i guess he sort of didn't know how to react when he saw me bleed. He didn't stop right away because he didn't want me to get anything wrong, but I could sense that he ...
A. 16 May 2011: Aw I'm sorry that happened to you when you were little. I went through something similar. However, this guy sounds like a jerk. He sounds very insensitive towards your feelings.
Not everyone bleeds the first time they have sex. Sometimes the hyme... (read in full...)
Is it normal that sex hurts?
Q. When im going to have sex I only want my bfs penis to go half way in it feels good for me but when he tries to go all the way in omg it hurts is that normal??? i havent gone to a doctor to ask im shy can anyone help? please thank you :)...
A. 16 May 2011: It could be possible that he hasn't completely broken your hymen.
The only way to know for sure is if you get it checked out by a doctor.... (read in full...)
Falling for the guy I am having casual sex with.....what should I do?
Q. so, there is this guy that i am sleeping with at the moment and he is amazing. we started sleeping together under the condition that our arangment is purley just sex.. so we have been spending every weekend together for a while now and i have fallen ...
A. 16 May 2011: To be honest, I think telling him that you love him/have feelings for him, will only put him in a dominant postition. If he's the type of person who doesn't really care, he'll use your feelings to his advantage and continue to string you along with ... (read in full...)
When should I just accept it is never going to happen for me?
Q. At what point should a guy who's never had a girlfriend, never kissed, held hands, or ever had anything more than a friendly hug from a girl just accept that it's never going to happen for them? Let's be realistic here, after a certain age and no ...
A. 16 May 2011: Have you got any female friends? Have you been actively pursuing anyone? Putting yourself out there?
If you wait for someone to come to you, its not going to happen. You have to actively make those connections and maintain them.
Ask your mate... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm really in love?
Q. How do I know if I'm in love or just infactuated? I've been with my boyfriend for five months ans I find myself always thinking of him. We talk every day and text multiple times a day. We were seeing each other 3 to 4 times a week but now he ...
A. 16 May 2011: InFATuation. Sorry, that gets me every time.
If you continue to keep up the contact while he is away, and still hold your feelings for him, that shows signs of love. If you miss him and always think about him, it could be love.
To be honest,... (read in full...)
How to stop crying over a guy?
Q. How to stop crying over a guy? Here a brief description of my problem. For two years I've been chatting with one guy over the Internet. First half a year I was practically obsessed with him. The thing is that he's from USA, and I'm from France....
A. 16 May 2011: Long distance relationship questions.. I feel like I've been answering a lot of these lately, maybe because I'm in one myself.
Have you guys talked about the future at all? Usually with long distance relationships, one party will need to make the... (read in full...)
Too young for me? Is it wrong to be in a relationship with him?
Q. I am 23 and am quite shy and not very good with guys, and I look young for my age and quite often getting mistaken for an 18-19 year old, but my questions is I have recently started to get to know this guy who is so lovely and so good looking but ...
A. 16 May 2011: Technically there's nothing "wrong" with it as long as you don't do anything sexual. However 17 year olds are still boys, who have yet to mature. I think you may find it a little difficult to relate to him until he grows up a bit. This is just an ... (read in full...)
Great relationship until he moved, now the distance isn't just about geography.
Q. I have been in this relationship for 3 plus years. The relationship is quite intense and we connect at a deep, soulful level. Unfortunately, A couple months ago, my partner moved cross country to seek work. He found a job and settled there. ...
A. 16 May 2011: You have to ask yourself whether or not you're prepared to do the long distance thing. You also should talk about it with him too.
Ultimately, you'd want to close the distance with either him moving back, or you moving over there to be with him... (read in full...)
How do I initiate phone sex?
Q. I'm a little embarrassed about asking this question.So I'll be direct. How do you seduce your lover to have phone sex with you? I'm shy but my man is a little bit more "experienced" than me But Im just curious and want to try it because I've neve...
A. 16 May 2011: Well first you gotta call him and then you gotta talk to him....
Haha, just kidding. To be honest, its not something you can really teach. Its something that kind of just happens.
The best way I guess is to steer the conversation ont... (read in full...)
We're met on a website and will only get to spend time together this summer!
Q. Well I have a boyfriend his name is "Dustin" and we say we love each other. Anyways he lives in FL n i live in Maryland. We met each other on a website. We skype and text all the time! This summer we are planning for us to hang when i go to FL to ...
A. 16 May 2011: Honey.. before you meet "Dustin", you have to ask yourself if you're prepared for a long distance relationship. That means only seeing each other occasionally. You also have to ask yourself whether once you meet, how you're going to see each other. ... (read in full...)
He's great... except for the making me orgasm part.
Q. Okay so I've been with my boyfriend now for a year and a couple of months and he is perfect for me... apart from him making me orgasm. Firstly we are both hard to please. I mean it literally. He rarely cums during sex and I never have. When I say...
A. 16 May 2011: Are you being selfish? No. Is he? Yes. Its disheartening when someone leaves you hanging like that. You probably love him a lot but this type of thing can lead to feelings of resentment. I would sit down and talk to him, let him know how you feel ... (read in full...)
Should I move in with a guy who cheated on me?
Q. I have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years. Recently I found out that he was having sex with other women about every month. I was not happy about that at all. Left but he is trying to keep it together. He said that he always saw me as ...
A. 16 May 2011: No, don't do it.
I am in an LDR, and if I found out that my significant other was cheating on me, I'd be gone in an instant.
People think that being in an LDR means that one or both of the people involved have free reign to cheat, but that'... (read in full...)
Wife will not have sex with me if she's sober
Q. My wife will not have sex with me unless she has several drinks in her. We have been married for over 20 years and this has been the case since the begining. When I was younger, I knew that this was kind of disfunctional and I tried to talk to her ...
A. 16 May 2011: If she is not willing to change, then you either have to live with this kind of treatment, or leave her. You don't deserve this. No one does. And also seeing as your kids are older, if you do get a divorce, it shouldn't impact them too heavily.
... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend has been acting distant!
Q. I have been in a relationship with this guy for the past 10 months. I love him more than anything and love keeps on increasing every moment. Initially, even he used to be very expressive of his love. Since we are in a long distance relation and ...
A. 15 May 2011: I an in an LDR as well, and I find that when my man becomes distant, its usually because of his insecurities. I'm not saying this is the case here, though. The only way you're going to know what's going on is if you TALK to him. Being long dista... (read in full...)
Is it a big turn off for guys when they see girls bleeding while having sex?
Q. The other day my boyfriend and I had sexual intercourse for the first time and i guess he sort of didn't know how to react when he saw me bleed. He didn't stop right away because he didn't want me to get anything wrong, but I could sense that he ...
A. 15 May 2011: Did you tell him you were a virgin before hand? It was probably a shock to him.... (read in full...)
Are the things she says hints that she really likes me?
Q. so i'm trying to get a read on this girl who i've been the best of friends with for years. she's living with and dating someone else, but i still believe there may be some hidden meaning behind the things she says to me. and let me go ahead and say ...
A. 15 May 2011: She's obviously flirting with you.. but I wouldn't take it as more than that. Be her friend if she needs/you want, but leave it at that until she is out of a relationship.
The only way you can ever possibly know whether she has feelings for you ... (read in full...)
Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???
Q. My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...
A. 15 May 2011: I think it's more of a power thing. It's not that he sees you as a daughter, but being "Daddy" means that he has power and dominance over you. Have you noticed that he likes to take control? This happened to me too, and I thought the way you d... (read in full...)
Internet love gone wrong...
Q. Hey :) Okay i really need some help x im 15 years old and well im on a couple of teenage dating websites, i only joined them at first to make some friends but i met this really lovely guy. Hes so sweet and we clicked ...
A. 13 May 2011: I back what k_c100 says. If you aren't attracted, you won't be able to have a relationship. Is there any way you'd be able to see him on webcam? Maybe talk to him via Skype? That way you guys can see each other in real time. You might find that ... (read in full...)
20 yr old female virgin
Q. I'll be 20 years old in a a few months and I'm having a hard time being ok with being a virgin. I've also never had a boyfriend. I had my first kiss last year. It took forever because I would always reject guys thinking my first kiss was gonna be ...
A. 13 May 2011: I'm turning 20 in july and I am still a virgin. I had my first kiss about a year ago. My first kiss happened randomly with someone I barely knew, but I know if I were to give my virginity away to anyone so freely, it would haunt me for a long ... (read in full...)
He acts interested, but breaks plans everytime we are suposed to hook up?
Q. I'm in my early 20's and found through dating lots of guys that most guys my own age aren't looking for relationships, but just for fun and casual dating, which is completely fine, but not for me. So I started dating men older than me, late 20's. I ...
A. 10 May 2011: I agree with Cindy. I had this happen to me. If you're friends on FB, they'll comment on your activities, suggesting to get together for coffee, or they'll txt you etc. Basically getting your hopes up but never following through.
Forget about hi... (read in full...)
We broke up because of the distance and now she has a new boyfriend, I'm worried she will fall for him and I will lose her for good!
Q. Need some help regarding long distance romance I had LDR with girl overseas - we were away from each other for 8 months and some personal issues/work came up and i coldnt return home and i told her that i could not see her, i have to stay in this ...
A. 10 May 2011: Oh dear. I had an LDR like this. We had no timeframe as to when we would finally be together. He told me he couldn't wait forever as well, and he moved to a new city and found a new girlfriend. I was heart broken. But I realised that it wo... (read in full...)
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