Where does sexual desire come from?
Q. I am wondering about low libido! Some people say that the desire can be somewhat controlled in the brain. What do you think??? Where does that lust come from? ...
A. 12 July 2010: I think its called.. hormones :)... (read in full...)
What can I do to improve our relationship?
Q. My boyfriend seems to care less and less about our relationship for some time now.. I've broken the trust in the relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years before by lying constantly and he told me frankly that he could no longer fully trust me, or ...
A. 12 July 2010: You can't change what you've done in the past, but it can affect your future.
You need to prove to him that you have changed, and are trustworthy (that is, if you've decided to quit lying).... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is really controlling but I cant dump him because I have been with him for too long!
Q. i have been going out with my boyfriend for more than two years now and at first he was good but now he is controlling me. its that bad i cant go on the computer, msn, have facebook or even look and listen to boys on tv! i cant have boy mates or ...
A. 12 July 2010: By the sound of it, you've already admitted defeat by saying you can't dump him because you've been with him too long.
You have not been married for 15 years and have not had a family together.
He is just another boy.
You CAN dump him, it'... (read in full...)
Long distance relationships: a recipe for disaster?
Q. I read quite a lot of situations concerning long distance relationships. Some people give up their social lives for that signficant other who happens to live miles away, maybe even in another country. Their means of contact is usually internet or ...
A. 12 July 2010: I thought mine would work out.. but it didn't.
Not to say it won't for others.
It's quite saddening, I saw my entire future crash before my eyes. But you live, and you learn.
I'd say it was a good experience all up, but I wouldn't choos... (read in full...)
Depressed after finding a used condom, can I regain my trust in her and continue this relationship??
Q. Somebody please help me sort out this mess! I apologise for it being so long but there really is no other way to tell this. It involves a beautiful relationship put under intense strain by being forced into being long-distance for 6 months, and then ...
A. 6 July 2010: Oh man.. I feel like this could have easily happened to me.
I met this guy online last year who lived in canada and I was going to throw away my entire life and dream of studying music just to be with him, but I am glad I didn't.
I got a job t... (read in full...)
Is this guy a player or what?
Q. hello, its been a while now that iv been texting a guy who is 6 years older than me. when he first txt he wanted to know if im single. today i found out that he has a girlfriend and a baby boy. he always ask me out but iv refused till now. should i ...
A. 14 May 2010: Hi there.. I can see from your flag that you live in Seychelles. My mum is from the Seychelles and I've been there a number of times to visit my family. From what I've observed, the men there often don't care about their women. They are often not ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend won't give me what I want
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating over a year and 3 months and I don't get blow jobs anymore. I give everything to her but I don't get anything in return. I floss, I brush my teeth, I shave (both areas), and I am a good boyfriend. (flowers every ...
A. 3 May 2010: Talk to her about it and ask why. The worst thing you can do is keep pressuring her. It is not her fault if she does not feel like it, there must be something else going on.... (read in full...)
He's offering to fly me over to meet him but I'm afraid to do it!
Q. Hello, I'm a 20-year-old student from the UK and I'm currently nearing the end of my first year at University. For the past three years I've become close friends with a guy from the US via an online videogame that I've been playing since th...
A. 3 May 2010: If you both have webcam.. your best thing to do to test the waters is to video chat. Actual typing and IMing is a lot different to seeing someones facial expressions and eyes while you talk to them.
Take a chance, but don't put your expectat... (read in full...)
B/f says that a break will help our relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 months. Our relationship is strong and we never fight. We're definitely in love with each other. But just today, he asked to go on a break. He said he wants time to spend with his friends and not ...
A. 3 May 2010: No.. do not go on a "break". He will see this as time for himself to possibly see other people. If he wants to hang out with his friends more, he will, while still being in a relationship with you.
Things often get messy when one asks for a break.... (read in full...)
I love him but he is a stoner and I wonder if there is better for me out there
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I love him so much and the thought of him not being in my life or being with someone else breaks my heart. Our relationship is really good sometimes -meaning we get along so well and have a blast ...
A. 25 March 2010: My boyfriend is a stoner too. If you think it's the weed thats the root of the problem, have a talk to him about his smoking habits. Does he love weed more than he loves you? Would he risk losing you to it? Talk more. It seems you don't communicate ... (read in full...)
I am not interested in sex anymore, ...am I falling out of love or just bored with the same ol things.
Q. READ THIS!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE!!! okay. so. my boyfriend and i are both 20 years of age. have been dating for 3 years now, and for the past year, i have completely lost almost all of my sex drive that i used to have with him. like most relati...
A. 25 March 2010: Well its no wonder you don't want to have sex with him anymore... he doesn't sound very appealing. Sex is just as much an emotional act as it is physical, and if you first aren't feeling that emotional connection, and you aren't even remotely ... (read in full...)
My loyalty is to my deceased wife, ... so how can I stop other women hitting on me!
Q. I have four beautiful daughters who mean the world to me. They range from 13 months-8 years. I became a widower 8 months ago and my daughters and I are still dealing with the shock and grief. There isn't a second that goes by that doesn't make me ...
A. 25 March 2010: This made me sad to read. Your love for your wife is still there, and you need to tell this woman to give you space. You're not ready to date again, you may never be. The best she can be for you right now is a friend.... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to commit to me when he goes away touring with his band?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for nearly a year now, and the beginning of the year we've started to become more serious ( seeing each other the whole weekend and week, he admitted he is in love with me and is crazy about me etc) he told me he isn't seeing ...
A. 25 March 2010: I was in the same boat as you not long ago. My boyfriend is in a band and is currently touring. He had a promiscuous past before me. We had problems early on in our relationship but he was honest and we worked through it together. We are committed ... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have another abortion when my last was only in December 09?
Q. I recently went through an abortion in December of last year. The baby was my current boyfriend's. Well, I'm extremely worried that I could be pregnant again. I'm not 100% certian. I'll take a test in about a week. But I'm having similar symptoms as ...
A. 25 March 2010: If you're not using condoms, you should be on the pill. Like pinktopaz said, abortion is not a method of birth control. Please see your doctor asap.... (read in full...)
What physical attributes do you like in a man?
Q. What physical attributes (body parts) do you like in a man? Ladies, here is a question which I hope you take your time in answering. I bet you Women hear that most guys love a women's "butt" or Breasts" or even "Height"...so now its your turn....
A. 24 March 2010: I have a mouth/chin fetish. I find full lips, nice lip shape, nice teeth/smile and a strong jaw/chin to be a HUGE turn on lol. My boyfriend has the perfect mouth, I'm actually jealous of it. haha. Also I like guys with nice hands. Long lean ... (read in full...)
Too much damage done?
Q. I am 21 year old male. Always been shy and have somewhat low self esteem. I have only been with (sexual intercourse, that is) two women, one being my current girlfriend. My girlfriend has been with at least ELEVEN. As if that isn't bad enough ...
A. 18 March 2010: Well her number isn't what you should be worrying about. She has been sleeping with other men while you were together in YOUR OWN apartment. This is where the trust has been breached. I honestly think from what you've stated, that the damage has ... (read in full...)
I feel like I have lost the most important part of my life, my future with her, which was once so certain...
Q. My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up after an amazing 3 year relationship, our first real relationship for both of us. She broke up with me because she wanted to experience the world and be single now, so that she didn't have doubts about settling ...
A. 18 March 2010: I honestly hate it when people do this. She's stringing you along and she knows she'll have you there if things turn sour with her new beau. This is a selfish action in itself. She's having her cake and eating it too.
You may love her, but she ... (read in full...)
After sex pain?
Q. i just wanted to ask... when does the sore pain of "after sex" go away? The thing is that I was forced by mu bf and this soreness/burn feeling just wont go away and i was wondering maybe if there's something wrong.. maybe b/c i was a virgin? i ...
A. 18 March 2010: How long ago did this occur?
If you were forced, and you were a virgin, then it will hurt for a few days. Because you were forced, you may not have been aroused and if he was rough, that will have added to the damage. It should go away soon. If... (read in full...)
I am still sleeping with my ex, and he is happy with the way things are
Q. Ok so I need some advice – am I being a complete idiot here?? Me and my ex got together in July 2004, and we split up in March 2009. He had cheated on me a couple times early in the relationship and I forgave that, we broke up because we just ...
A. 15 March 2010: If he doesn't want you to move on or fall out of love with him, yet he doesn't want to date you, he's being extremely selfish. He is getting the best of both worlds. It seems like he may have esteem issues, like having you there is validation for ... (read in full...)
I love him because I know he can be a good person, but he is never the person I really want him to be
Q. I am 18 years old an i have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years. He comes from a terrible background and i think that is most of where his personality traits result from. He is a crude and an insulting person. He says terrible things like telling ...
A. 15 March 2010: Don't subject yourself to this treatment anymore. No one deserves that. He does not seem like relationship material, and I think he needs to work on improving himself first. You may love him, but he doesn't have to be the be all and end all. There ... (read in full...)
Do you think I am a loser because I visit prostitutes seen as I cant find love?
Q. Its been a while since i wrote on this thread but thought it was time to do so ... Ive never had a girlfriend and always feel lonely even though im in university but i live at home and dont socialise much as i havent met people i like at my ...
A. 15 March 2010: Having sex will not bring love, which I think you've realised. Maybe a holiday will be good for you, as you are shifting your focus elsewhere.
Have you tried online dating sites? There are many genuine people on the internet who are indeed l... (read in full...)
Would I be making a mistake if I broke this off?
Q. I am 30 years old and I live with my boyfriend (we are engaged to be married). The thing is that I moved to his country to be with him and I am just not happy here. I don't even think I really love him. BUT he loves me soooooo much and it kills me. ...
A. 15 March 2010: Would you rather be miserable like this for the rest of your life? Please ask yourself this. If you honestly don't love him anymore, don't stay with him, you are just leading him on and he will hurt even more once you do leave him.
Moving to anoth... (read in full...)
How can I learn to trust him?
Q. i have been with my partner for a year now, we get on so well, have a laugh, have a good love life, always telling one another we love each other... everything is perfect apart from one thing, i have really bad trust issues. before him i got hurt ...
A. 15 March 2010: Give it time. You are slowly piecing yourself back together, which is good. Just have faith that he loves you and cares for you, and would hate to see you hurt. Not all men are cheaters. Good luck x... (read in full...)
He won't leave me alone and it's getting to me
Q. I have just ended a 6 month relationship with a guy. As he began to become more involved in my life, I realised that he was aggressive (even though he never actually hit me), neurotic and a martyr. I ended up feeling suffocated and controlled in an ...
A. 15 March 2010: Keep on avoiding contact with him. It will take some time, and yes it will be hard, but ending contact was the right thing to do. ... (read in full...)
If a guy goes that far with you on a first date, what does it mean?
Q. ok, so i met this guy and we talked and flirted for about a week. then we were hanging out and he asked if he could kiss me....i said yes and we started to kiss. it was great at first but then he started touching me everywhere and he asked me to ...
A. 15 March 2010: Yeah, he wants sex. Learn to say no, because men can be very pushy when it comes to physical closeness. This will help you determine their intentions with you.... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt so much when the person you love is away from you?
Q. Dear Aunties, Why does it hurt so much when someone you love is physically apart from you? The pain seems... Irrational when one considers that one is still loved by that other person--there is just no geographical togetherness. e.g. The rippi...
A. 15 March 2010: It's because they are a part of you, and when they are not with you, you are incomplete.... (read in full...)
Does he just want to be friends? Is he just stringing me along for fun?
Q. I am currently friends with this really great guy. Every time we are together we have a great time, whether we are talking about something serious or just goofing off. Sometimes he'll compliment me on how I smell nice, or what I am wearing that day, ...
A. 15 March 2010: He seems to like you and is trying to make you jealous. If you do like him, ask him, and ask him what he's getting at. However, you said that he is getting with his ex on a regular basis. That's a big no-no in my book.... (read in full...)
What are my chances of being pregnant?
Q. Okay well.. Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex on either 3/11/10 or 3/12/10... im not on birth control or anything. we've been having unprotected sex for the past 2 years and he ALWAYS pulls out. it's never been a problem. Well we had sex at ...
A. 15 March 2010: The pull out method is very risky, and you should be having protected sex if you don't want to fall pregnant. We cannot determine the probability rate of you being pregnant. Take a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
Is he just a friend or does he like me?
Q. Well I have this really good guy friend and sometimes it gets annoying cause he is always around me. And always has to sit with me so when I joke with him but I tell him he is annoying he shuts up and I always find him looking at me. But everyone ...
A. 15 March 2010: Why are you asking us if HE likes YOU? You need to take initiative and ask him, if you want to further develop the relationship. If you see him as just a friend, tell him his behaviour is off putting and ask him to stop. Or just ignore it when he ... (read in full...)
Should cunnilingus be reserved for relationships only, or something you do with any sexual partner?
Q. My boyfriend has told me that he likes going down on a woman. And in the past has gone on all women he has been with even one noght stands! This disgusts me. I don't really like a being gone down on and any way what my boyfriend has told me turns...
A. 15 March 2010: I can side with you. I would like to think that most men don't go down on a one night stand, because it's usually a 'wham, bam, thank you ma'am' situation. It disgusts me too, to think about, as going down on a female is more of a loving thing for a ... (read in full...)
He is living with his ex and hardly has any time for me, all I want is to get him back!
Q. i have been a relationship with this man for yrs now. about a year and a half ago, his ex starting calling him again. well he began telling me he wanted to go see her again to see if he was still in love with her or not. she lived out of town then. ...
A. 15 March 2010: He shouldn't have allowed her to move in with him, especially if he was still with you! Gosh. I would never allow it. He needs to make up his mind on whether he is willing to throw away what you guys have for this ex girlfriend.... (read in full...)
How do I let go of the pain?
Q. I am torn and in need of advice. I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and was told that he had cheated on me in September of 2009. Just recently he stopped denying it and told me the truth that he did indeed cheat with his ex ...
A. 15 March 2010: So she is pregnant with his baby? Oh my.
If you are prepared to share him with his ex-gf's child and also his ex-gf, then by all means, continue this relationship. It will hurt, and you shouldn't have to pay for what he has done.
If it were me... (read in full...)
I am avoiding kissing anyone coz I don't know how to go about it!
Q. I'm 17 years old male and I don't know how to Snog I've always had chances to but I've been too embarrased and my mates wonder why I turn down girls that are really good looking. Does it just come naturally? And is it obvios that it's my first snog? ...
A. 15 March 2010: Yes, surprisingly, kissing comes naturally. It's what our lips were created to do (apart from speech.. and other things.)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants our sex life spiced up. How should I go about this?
Q. So my boyfriend has told me lately that with regards to sex we do the same thing and he wants me to mix it up and make it more exciting. He has expressed concern that I don't seem to take any initiative, which is something I have to change. My ...
A. 15 March 2010: Ask him to show you.. If he is more experienced than you, he can be your teacher. Tell him you're shy, and you don't really know what to do, and ask him what he would like. In turn, if he is a good lover, he will test things out with you and tune in ... (read in full...)
Should I call it quits over my boyfriend getting high?
Q. I've been dating this guy for a year that I knew smoked blunts(get high) when I met him. I never asked him to quit cold turkey or even quit at all. I know its hard and he has to do it for himself. I just ask out of respect for me cause Im not a ...
A. 15 March 2010: If he respects you and really loves you, he'll put you before the weed. Simple as that. Weed can make one feel unmotivated.. maybe try encouraging him.... (read in full...)
I'm unhappy with my large breasts!
Q. my boobs are way too big, i realy hate them! a friend suggested i wear two braars but it dosent work. wat do i do? i alwayz admire galz with smaller ones, they look so gud especialy in those tiny summer tops, i want that too. i cant afford a breast ...
A. 15 March 2010: Maybe you should get fitted properly. If you get fitted, you can find the right bras and actually decrease the visual size of your bust. Boobs will always look bigger if you're wearing the wrong size. I have large boobs myself and it took a long ... (read in full...)
Is mutual masturbation considered sex?
Q. Just curious about two things. Is mutual masturbation considered sex at all? That is the most I have done and I'm not sure if I count it or not. Also, is there an age at which it's considered weird to still be a virgin? I just turned 21 and I feel ...
A. 15 March 2010: No it's not considered sex, but it is a sexual act. Do not feel like a freak, there are many people your age who are the same. This generation is highly sexualised, but don't give in to any pressure that you may feel. Do what feels right to you.... (read in full...)
What color should female discharge during orgasm be?
Q. When i have sex with my boyfriend, i cum? or orgasm? or whatever it is. hhaa, but isnt mine suposed to be clear? i mean, when i do, it comes out like a whitish color. should i see the doctor? and no, its fersher not his cum, we use a condom. and its ...
A. 15 March 2010: There is no worry. That's just your own ejaculate. The same thing happens to me.... (read in full...)
Should I take the leap and move aborad with him? I am scared of being financially dependent on someone!
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years has moved back to his home country due to visa issues.Hopefully he will be back soon maybe 6 months. He has been gone since July 2009. We have been doing the whole long distance thing visits, phone calls, and emails, however, ...
A. 15 March 2010: Take a risk. The more you wait, the more you will put it off. You just have to go for it and not look back. This is life. You only have one.... (read in full...)
How do you know if you are in love?
Q. How do you know when your in love? And can you love someone that you have never seen, but always talk to? If you can, how?? How do you know?? Please help!!...
A. 15 March 2010: I love someone who I have never seen. He lives in another country, and the closest I've come to seeing him is on web cam video chat. I've talked to him almost everyday for the last 8 months. We have fallen asleep together with our laptops next to us ... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm!
Q. Hello All, I am in a new relationship and when my boyfriend and I are together we have sex on average of 3-4 times a day. I am really turned on by him even when he does something as small as rub my back and sex feels really amazing BUT, I c...
A. 15 March 2010: The female orgasm has a lot to do with state of mind. Don't focus solely on coming, just enjoy the feeling and your partner and it will happen.
Have you ever given yourself an orgasm? If you don't know how to get yourself off, you won't be able ... (read in full...)
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