I want to meet her for the first time, but I don't know how to tell her the pictures I have been using online are fake.....
Q. I was playing around online and I met this girl (im a lesbian) on myspace and we really hit it off, and yes she is long distance, im in texas shes in new jersey. We moved to facebook and actually started dating long distance. We've been dating for ...
A. 8 June 2011: What did she say to you?
I don't think its so simple as saying she loved you only for the pictures... you lied to her this whole time. Don't you realise that most, if not all her trust in you would be gone?
She's probably wondering, "what... (read in full...)
We havent been able to see each other for ages because he is grounded and I think he is losing interest in me.....what should I do?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for a year....we absolutely LOVED each other in the begining ..we were friends since we were 3 before we started dating, but now its been 1 month i havent seen him because he's grounded(15 more days till i can see him) ...
A. 3 June 2011: Yeah I agree with worriedbubble.. if he really loves you, the amount of time that you haven't seen him, should not make him lose interest. It should make him miss you even more.
But he is a teenager after all, and I have found that young men tend... (read in full...)
Isn't it time he told me he loved me?
Q. Dear Cupid, What would you do? Its been 6 months of dating (5 exclusively), we have a wonderful time together whether its hanging out watching movies alone or going on a lovely vacation with friends and family. I'm in my early 50's and he'...
A. 3 June 2011: I think you're right, usually if someone who is serious about you, is SHOWING you they love you, but hasn't uttered those words yet, it's because they're scared. I think somehow, it cements that and makes it almost like a verbal pact. He probably ... (read in full...)
What kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship?
Q. I know people lie. I know I tell a little lie at least every day whether it is i try not to but it happens. Now my question is what kinds of lies would you tolerate in a relationship. For example, a girl I have been seeing lies to me sometimes whe...
A. 3 June 2011: Hmmm.. well usually when people make up a lie about meeting up with you, there's something else going on.
Have you asked her why she's repeatedly lying?
When I was seeing this guy, I did lie once in order to get out of seeing him. The reason ... (read in full...)
I want to meet her for the first time, but I don't know how to tell her the pictures I have been using online are fake.....
Q. I was playing around online and I met this girl (im a lesbian) on myspace and we really hit it off, and yes she is long distance, im in texas shes in new jersey. We moved to facebook and actually started dating long distance. We've been dating for ...
A. 3 June 2011: Hi there, I was in a similar situation a long time ago when I was younger. The person I was "dating" had used fake pictures, and I was under the impression that they were the person in the pics. I actually found out myself that they were not, by ... (read in full...)
Do all virgins bleed? My boyfriend is now doubting that I'm wasnt a virgin because I didnt bleed!
Q. I am 20 and had my first sex with my boyfriend, but my boyfriend doubt that I was not a virgin just because I didnt bleed.. Do all virgins bleed??? has my virgnity gone because I used toys before I has sex with my boyfriend??...
A. 1 June 2011: No, not all virgins bleed. The hymen can be broken by many things as already mentioned, but you said you had used toys prior to losing your virginity, so that may be why.
You should show him our answers if he still doesn't believe you :)... (read in full...)
I gave up everything for him and he still says he can't trust me, what should I do?
Q. hey there... i've been having a rough time lately... i've been in a serious long distance relationship for 4 years. Even though I never cheated, he can't trust me! he said that he's had bad experiences with his last gf, and admits he has trust...
A. 1 June 2011: Hi there, I am in an LDR also, and my partner also has trust issues. He likes to pretend he's joking about it when he brings it up, but I know its not true.
I, like you, don't give my partner reason to mistrust me. In fact if anyone should b... (read in full...)
Awkward Virgin Moment
Q. So, I'm having a little problem with something that's been bothering me for a while now. I am a virgin, 18, that was dating my first and only girl last year. We got along great and connected prefectly! Then one night, her parents went out of town ...
A. 1 June 2011: Totally agree with C. Grant.
When the opportunity arises again, take it slow. Make the progression together. Maybe talk about it beforehand, discuss any insecurities or issues you think you might have and that way, you two will know why so and s... (read in full...)
Quick question on shy guy behavior.
Q. what does it mean when a shy guy asks a girl what her and another dude were talking about while he was gone. I had this shy guy I've been crushing on for forever ask me this. me and a guy friend were talking and he had his arm around me and I had my ...
A. 1 June 2011: Well it seems like he is interested in you, otherwise he wouldn't have asked about that. His shyness might be holding him back, and he's probably scared to make the first move. He might feel like he doesn't have a chance if you're hanging with ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost and don't know what to do is he acting different because his friend is there or is it because he is actually leaving me?
Q. So, my boyfriend of two and a half years is in the military and we have a long distance relationship. We had relationship problems before because we have been apart for one year and we both have trust issues. Recently, he has met a friend and I am s...
A. 1 June 2011: I don't know what his intentions are behind his actions, so I'm sorry that I can't help you there. What I can tell you, from what you've mentioned, is that he has become very insensitive towards you and your relationship together.
It may be that ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex ASAP? Or wait next till forever?
Q. Hello all, I asked a question on here a while ago about a girl that had only a tendency to date "douchebag" guys, and now she's mine 3 yay! But someone incepted (planted an idea in my head, nerd reference) me recently.. Last night me and my girlfr...
A. 1 June 2011: If you're in the 13-15 year age bracket, you're too young to be having sex.
You do realise that a result of sex is pregnancy? Another result of sex could possibly be an STI/STD. You need to be wise in regards to making this relationship sexual. ... (read in full...)
Can an abusive person change their ways?
Q. I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have 2 young children. He is an abusive person - physically, mentally, emotionally. I must have known this for years but have chosen to ignore it but today, I am accepting that I am an abused wife. I ...
A. 30 May 2011: First thing you need to do is protect your children. They need to be out of this environment where the abuse is occurring, as it is far from healthy for them to be around that constantly.
If you accept the fact that this is occurring, you need to ... (read in full...)
He wants to try oral but I don't want to
Q. I just turned 15 in February my boyfriend just turned 14 in may well im a virgin and we have been going for three weeks now. He says he wants to eat me out but the thing is I dont really want him to should I let him do it? ...
A. 29 May 2011: No. If you don't want to, then don't. Don't let him pressure you into anything either. If he becomes pushy, ask him whether he's just with you for sex, or if he actually likes you.... (read in full...)
Affection from my boyfriend?
Q. I'm currently in a LDR. I'm very attracted to my boyfriend, but there are periods where my feelings are very conflicted. I'm romantic by nature, and love to make him handmade presents, cards, and goofy online links and pictures related to his i...
A. 29 May 2011: I am in an LDR also. I used to be a lot like you. I would send e-cards and other cute things to remind him of me when I wasn't there. I even sent him a care package full of things from my country that we talked about which he didn't have other ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's hygeine keeps me from doing more than handjobs
Q. Hi this is kind of an embaressing subject and I wasnt sure where else to turn... it's less about the relationship and more about my boyfriend's hygiene... basically I always put off giving him more than a hand job because he always has a slight bit ...
A. 29 May 2011: Well you need to tell him. If he asks you to give him a blowjob or something along those lines, you tell him that it has to be clean. Keeping a pack of baby wipes on hand is convenient. You have to be able to talk to him about this though. Comm... (read in full...)
B/f in touch with alot of his exs and hooks ups. He says its nothing but I don't trust him
Q. Ok, My husband left me when our daughter was just 18 months. He was having an emotional affair from what I gather with a girl he worked with. My problem is now that I'm finding it hard to trust my new boyfriend. We have been together almost 12 ...
A. 29 May 2011: If he keeps leaving you like this, I would forget about him. He seems like a coward; he chooses run away from the problem and forget about it rather than address it properly. Its okay to keep contact with exes if the relationships ended on a frie... (read in full...)
Boyfriend talks about sex but when the opportunity arises he backs out!
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 1 year and 4 months (whos counting :P) and i am really beginning to think that i love him. the problem im having is that we are always talking about having sex, but when an opportunity comes up, he ...
A. 29 May 2011: Talk to him and ask him why. He may be insecure about penis size, might have hangups about his body. You'll never know unless you ask. Communication is key in a relationship, so you should be able to talk to him about this kind of stuff.... (read in full...)
How do I ask him for help or hint at it without seeming needy?
Q. Hello. I am currently in a LDR relationship. I have been working hard saving up to pay for the plane ticket in order to visit my boyfriend. However, even with my working, I am still short in cash and will only be able to visit him for a few da...
A. 28 May 2011: How far away is he from you? If you were to go, why would you need more money apart from the ticket? Did he not offer for you to stay with him? I'd feel more comfortable if my partner were to visit me.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend punched me in testicles, so I punched her in the hip. Now for some reason, she won't talk to me. What do I do?
Q. I need your help. I'm 15 and my girlfriend's 14. We're in the same year and basically the other day we were in my house after school just chilling, we were having one of our fun little arguments but then we started toy fighting and I floored her and ...
A. 28 May 2011: It's your fault. You said she punched you by accident, and you, out of anger, hit her hard on purpose.
You are stronger than she is. You hit her with the intention to cause her pain.
There's a reason why you don't hit your girlfriend.
I... (read in full...)
Was I fine to leave to do other things after she took over 5 minutes more than she said she would?
Q. Hey, just wanted to clear my mind about something which happened last week. I went clubbing for the first time in the city last Friday (I've gone clubbing in my local town before, but I generally just have a drink and talk to friends there as...
A. 27 May 2011: Well.. back in my days of hook ups, if a guy left as soon as I went to the bathroom, or went to say hello to someone, I'd know he's only in it for the pussy. I guess it is sometimes a way of testing the man (not necessarily though, I didn't do it ... (read in full...)
Do you think he is using me?
Q. Hi I'm a 23 yr old woman iv been with my boyfriend for almost 3months he never calls me unless I ring him,he hardly texts too. Three weeks ago I tried ringin him contiously as he did not pick up my calls and rhe next mornin he dumped me. When I m...
A. 27 May 2011: I think its better for you to not have this baby.
you don't know this guy. please use protection next time you have sex with someone you barely know, or go on birth control.... (read in full...)
How do I get his ex out of my head before it ruins our relationship??
Q. Hi Cupid, Ive been going with my boyfriend for just over a month now and already we've fallen for each other and we're very happy. However, I'm really struggling to get his ex out of my head! I know im being silly, but I was going through his comp...
A. 26 May 2011: I don't think you should be snooping around, especially so early into the relationship. Has he done anything to you apart from keep pictures and talk to his ex that should concern you?
It's not illegal to keep pictures of a previous loved one.. th... (read in full...)
How do I stop my girlfriend from leaving me?
Q. My girlfriend of three years has presented me with the idea that she is unsure about our relationship. We live together and she is everything to me. I told her that the feeling is not mutual. I still love her dearly. She is my first thought in the ...
A. 26 May 2011: Have you TALKED to her and asked her whats wrong? What brought about this thought? If there's no communication then how do you expect to keep this relationship alive?
If she has already said why she feels this way, then it might be somethin... (read in full...)
I'm not happy single but I don't trust women!
Q. This isn't really relationship advise i'm seeking, more advice in general. and has spurred from relationships. I was in a relationship for two and a half years. i was absolutely obsessed with her. but now i realise she wasn't good for me, she undo...
A. 26 May 2011: No, you're not mental.
I would recommend not sleeping with people if you're not in an official relationship with them. I noticed you said you slept with the person, and then everything turned to shit. Sex does that when it's not the right time or ... (read in full...)
My husband treats me with no respect!
Q. i have been with my husband for 3 years. i think we married too soon after meeting. hewas the most amazing caring considerate person. would always think of me and look after me and i inturn did the same for him. however while i have not changed ..he ...
A. 26 May 2011: He's not gonna change. Like you said, he's unwilling to co-operate with you, so it doesn't sound like he wants to go to marital counselling or anything like that.
You do everything for him and he loves it. It sounds like you're his slave! Y... (read in full...)
Fiance cannot stop bringing up old lovers!
Q. My fiance can not stop bringing up my past lovers and Its ruining our sex life, as well as our relationship. I am 27 years old and have been with 38 men, and I'll admit, thats a lot. I have much regret for my bad choices in lovers, and wish I ...
A. 25 May 2011: The only real way for him to over come this is to see a psychologist/therapist.
These kinds of things are not just soothed by quiet words. He needs to stop bringing it up. He needs to realise that when he does bring it up, it makes you feel cra... (read in full...)
Should I pursue a relationship with a bisexual girl?
Q. I am in a bit of a dilemma, and was wondering if you guys could help me. There's this girl who I think is so pretty, and she has all the qualities I am looking for in a girl. However, she likes both guys AND girls. I don't know whether or not I ...
A. 25 May 2011: Why wouldn't you? Why would her being bi-sexual make any difference? Do you think she'd cheat on you with a girl or something?... (read in full...)
My husband cheated on me while travelling
Q. Hi, I'd just managed to make my huaband of 15 years confess he cheated on me almost everytime he went on a business trip; almost 6 times a year. The hardest thing about this truth is that we had a solmen promise from day one to be honest to each ...
A. 25 May 2011: I agree with SweetSmoochy. Cheating is never acceptable behaviour. My policy on this is: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. This was a complete lack of respect on his part. He thought you were stupid enough to believe hi... (read in full...)
My wife has gotten so fat, I can barely have sex with her!
Q. When I married my wife she was smoking hot. I would say an LA "8". Everywhere we went cars honked at her, I couldn't take a piss w/o a guy taking my barstool and taking his shot. Even women hit on her So we got married. As the years ticked by ...
A. 25 May 2011: How about you both team up to try and lose weight/get fit TOGETHER? That way she doesn't feel like it's a battle she has to fight on her own. You two ARE married. This is a partnership, not a one man show. You should be there for her through ... (read in full...)
Am I moving too fast in this relationship?
Q. well, i saw this girl for the first time in the mall. shes 16 and i'm 17 years old. then i made eye contact with her. the next day, on a tuesday i saw her in the train so we talked and i got her phone number. then we started texting each other. on ...
A. 25 May 2011: Woaaaah. Slow down man. It's the beginning of the relationship, and you're fussing over her like crazy. She's obviously making up excuses not to see you because you're being so clingy. Just relax. Don't call her for a bit... and then when y... (read in full...)
How will I know she will want me to kiss her?
Q. im going to a party at the weekend and the girl i like is going. it seems like she likes me as well as we both flirt and she starts it off. i think that we may kiss or snog at this party. the thing is i haven't kissed a girl properly in my l...
A. 25 May 2011: lol... if you plan it, its going to be super awkward. Just read her body language, you'll be able to tell if she wants you. If she touches your arm or makes a lot of eye contact, just being very flirt then that's a good signal. If she's looking ... (read in full...)
Met a girl online, but she has a boyfriend! Should I just stop contact?
Q. I've met some girl online we get along really well, Always talking (alot) Very open and honest, Play games together and even watch movies together..Problem is she has a bf :/ She knows how i feel and i beleive she likes me but i dont know anymor...
A. 25 May 2011: If she didn't have a boyfriend, what would you do? Does she live in the same country as you? LDRs can be difficult. I would say if she's in a relationship, don't be pushy with her. Just be her friend for now.... (read in full...)
What do I do about the abusive part of my relationship?
Q. My boyfriend hits me and gets in my face all of them time and he will not let me do anything at all, what do i do about the abuse part of my relationship?...
A. 25 May 2011: You leave the relationship, tell your family what has happened and get them to report it to the police!... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but why can't he show me his love?
Q. Question: Does he really love me? i'm so confused, i cant talk to him about this as he wont talk about things, he gets angry, My partner says he loves me very much,we have been together on and off for 3 yrs but lived together 19 mths . W...
A. 25 May 2011: I'm sorry this is happening to you. Everyone wants affection. You're answering your own questions here, though. He is telling you all these things, all these words to make you feel better, but he is not SHOWING you. The best way to read some... (read in full...)
Why can't he commit to just me?
Q. I am 18 years of age, and for three years I have been inlove with one particular male. We have been close from the day we have met. And I have always stood by him and been loyal. Although the relationship has been on and off for the past three years ...
A. 25 May 2011: I agree with CaringGuy's post. He knows you're in love with him and that you'll always be there, so he uses you when he has no one else. You need to realise this sooner or later. You sound like a lovely girl, so you deserve much better treatmen... (read in full...)
I told him he could sleep with other girls while he was away, but it's killing me. Should I try to make it work when he gets back?
Q. I am writing this because I feel like I need an outside perspective on my situation. I have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now, I am 16, he is 19. In January, he left for China to teach for his gap year. Obviously this was going to be hard...
A. 24 May 2011: Long distance blues, oh how I know the feeling! I am in a long distance relationship, and I can relate to you a lot. Him leaving you hanging after saying he was gonna call, wanting to talk to him and then him blowing you off for something else w... (read in full...)
How do I talk to him about our relationship going too fast?
Q. I’m not very religious. But my last boyfriend of a little less than 2years was very religious. Because of that, we didn’t have sex. We broke up just under 2 months ago. I’m seeing a guy that I go to college with. His name is Martin and he is not a ...
A. 23 May 2011: No, you're not over reacting. And he is doing it intentionally.
Have you spoken to him and told him what you've told us? Does he know that you haven't had sex in a while? You need to speak to him so he knows where you stand, otherwise he's goi... (read in full...)
Retro-active Jealousy With A Difference
Q. I know that this topic has been covered but not from my situation so I would genuinely appreciate any help. I had a healthy sex life up until 27. about 12 partners, lot's of fun, innocent enough sex. Nothing out of left field as it where. I woul...
A. 23 May 2011: You are right, you did make it worse by requesting all this information from her.
If you've read things on this website regarding retroactive jealousy, you'll know its in her past and you can't change what has happened. She is with you now, and... (read in full...)
My lover said its none of my business if she's cheating on me!
Q. Have been dating my lover for the past 11mnths and i discovered about 2 weeks ago that she is having afair with another guy. I accused her for this yesterday night and she said it is non of my business if she is cheating on me then she slapped me. ...
A. 23 May 2011: By lover do you mean girlfriend, or just a fuck buddy? If it's a monogamous relationship (GF/BF), then it is your business. If it's not, then she is free to sleep with anyone she likes as there is no commitment.... (read in full...)
Why do guys get handsy in a bar when a girl is JUST talking to them!?
Q. I don't understand why when i'm at a bar and a guy approaches me he seems nice, funny and pretty respectful at first. But then he'll start getting handsy whilst we're talking, such as putting his hand on my waist or bum and it's like they do it ...
A. 23 May 2011: Yeah. They're just doing it to see if you're DTF or not.... (read in full...)
Every time we are apart I find myself wondering if he's cheating on me
Q. hey everyone, so if u havent read my past questions, i am 17 and i have a 16 year old boyfriend. we dated from august 22,2009 to may 17,2010. we broke up then because he cheated on me. . .but we got back together in december 22,2010 and we are still ...
A. 23 May 2011: You need to trust your gut on this one.
Why don't you leave him? Why are you staying with him if he's causing you unnecessary grief? Are you sure you want to keep this baby? Even if you did stay with him, you guys have gotten pregnant (it seems by... (read in full...)
I don't trust girls because I hook up with girls who are cheating on their boyfriends!
Q. hey everyone, i have a small issue..actually its a biiig issue, i dont trust girls anymore, its like i really cant see myself trustin a girl in my life, im a goodlooking guy and i consider myself to be a player, im in a long distance relation...
A. 22 May 2011: Wow. Well maybe if you weren't sleeping with them, they wouldn't be cheating? You know you're not helping the situation by banging these girls when you know they already have a partner. It takes two to tango. This is what I gather from what you've... (read in full...)
Every time we are apart I find myself wondering if he's cheating on me
Q. hey everyone, so if u havent read my past questions, i am 17 and i have a 16 year old boyfriend. we dated from august 22,2009 to may 17,2010. we broke up then because he cheated on me. . .but we got back together in december 22,2010 and we are still ...
A. 21 May 2011: You need to sit and talk to him properly about this. If you two can't even sit together and have a conversation, how do you expect to spend the rest of your life with him, and this baby? Communication is crucial, and he's not going to know he's ... (read in full...)
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