Could this hot banker like me and be making subtle moves on me?
Q. There is an amazing woman who is my personal banker and every time I go in to see her about my account (1x weekly but much more this past week)she is constantly twirling her hair, eyes flutter back and forth to my eyes but the question i really ...
A. 7 June 2012: Why not ask her out and find out?? She probably thinks you like HER with as much time as you spend at the bank playing fingersy with her.... (read in full...)
Guy with girlfriend keeps trying to string me along!!! I am nobody's puppet!!
Q. HELP!!!! This guy friend has a girlfriend. BUT he keeps trying to string me along!!! I told him I have feelings for him. He told me he has a girlfriend. So that should be the end of it, right? NO!!!! He just keeps giving me hope and then he...
A. 7 June 2012: Don't laugh, but this guy is a vampire.
Not in the traditional sense, or even in the Twilight sense. Instead of sucking blood from you, he's sucking your dignity and attentions from you. What he is feeding is his ego.
He knows you like h... (read in full...)
I walked out of the room, came back and my friend was having sex with the guy that I like!
Q. so there was this boy who liked me and i felt the same way but we never really acted on it.so recently i invited him over to my place and we ended up sleeping together.so later my bestfriend came over and we were just chilling when i went to get ...
A. 7 June 2012: I agree about the guy being just as much to blame here, but technically, he wasn't a boyfriend. From your phrasing, it sounds like you and he just liked each other, so you bypassed dating and getting to know each other and went straight for the ... (read in full...)
To what extent are secrets OK in a relationship?
Q. To what extent are secrets ok in a relationship? Let me explain. I've been with my bf for 10 months. We're both in our early 30s and both relatively good-looking, meaning each of us often get the attention of the opposite sex. He's very sociable, ...
A. 7 June 2012: I think the issue isn't the keeping of a secret. It's the loyalty factor involved. He may be trying to avoid arguments with you if you've been onto him for his interaction with women.
As for that, I'd just tell him to talk to anyone he wants as... (read in full...)
How often do you have sex with your partner?
Q. how often do you have sex with your partner? looking for answers from people who are in: 1) Long distance relationships (hardly see eachother) 2) close proximity (see eachother most days or w/e's) 3 and live in relationships (living tog...
A. 7 June 2012: Are you asking about intercourse only, or are we including everything sexual in the tally?
I'm married almost 14 years...we don't have any flow charts or anything but I'd guess give or take 2-3 times per week for straight up sex. Sometime... (read in full...)
Disgusted by my fiancee's past relationship
Q. Hello, I'm due to marry my fiancee in December, I love her so much and she's perfect for me. I'm 36 so am no spring chicken, and have had past relationships that never worked out so I know what an awful lot I have to lose if I blow this one. ...
A. 7 June 2012: First of all, I totally understand that you're having a hard time dealing with her past and choices. You're one of many who come on here either jealous over their GF's past relationships (even the fact that she had them in the first place!) or ... (read in full...)
I finally managed to get out of an unhappy relationship, so why am I missing him so much? Should I call him?
Q. Yesterday, I broke up with my boyfriend. After 2.5 years I just had enough. He never kissed, hugged me, asked about my day. He never made an effort to talk to me. I had fallen out of love. I admit for the first 2 years I did everything he asked ...
A. 6 June 2012: No. You broke up. Don't talk to him anymore. He was unfaithful to you and physically abusive. You do NOT want him to fight for you. You do NOT want him in your life. You did a HEALTHY thing by leaving him. Stop talking to his mom too.
Yes, ... (read in full...)
We had sex after 3 weeks and there was hardly any semen! Does that mean my boyfriend is having sex with someone else?
Q. I have a sex question that I should probably know by now but don't - so here goes: My boyfriend and I had a huge fight . We went 3 weeks without having sex and finally we did. I expected him to orgasm right away but he didn't. When he finally ...
A. 6 June 2012: I'm agreeing with the others. I think he's been having his love affair with Rosy Palm and her Five Clingy Friends.... (read in full...)
All my boyfriend seems to want is sex
Q. I've ended my unhappy marriage of 20 years. Then I met this man 19 years older than me. He gives me all the attention I've craved for years. We live in separate houses. He's helpful in my house. But he always wants sex when I'm with him. Even if ...
A. 5 June 2012: Your feelings are already telling you correctly what you should do. If you aren't wanting to always have sex with him and he's pushing you and breaking you down until you give in every time, then he doesn't respect you. If you've told him how you ... (read in full...)
How can I keep it a secret if I get involved with a married man?
Q. I posted a question earlier about a relationship with an older man who is married with children. I thought he was flirting with me and it turns out he was. We met to talk about the project we're both involved in and he drove me home (again!). I...
A. 5 June 2012: So, your first conversation regarding his attraction to you ends up with you with your clothes half off giving him a blowjob?? Geeze...how romantic. NOT.
If your response to this is "This is going to happen like it or not", then by all means, g... (read in full...)
I left my ex, and now I regret it. How can I win her back?
Q. I have been single for the last couple of years now and my ex girlfriend from 7 years ago is now also single again (we are godparents to our friends children and are both best friends with the couple, that's how I know). Our relationship lasted ...
A. 4 June 2012: She refused to take you back for two reasons:
1. You bailed when times got tough. You had things against you, got fed up and took off, leaving her holding the bag. When you left, you moved home and she was responsible for paying bills and ever... (read in full...)
My boyfriend texts and calls random women, but denies it and gets defensive when caught!
Q. A few months ago, while using my boyfriends phone to make a call I noticed an unregistered, unfamiliar area code number dialed late at night. Later, when I asked my boyfriend about it he said he didn't know what I was talking about and denied it. ...
A. 4 June 2012: I totally agree with SVC, especially with the last sentence which is fantastic. What the hell are you waiting for, a neon light display? If you saw women's texts and naked women that are NOT stock photos of porn stars, then it's already done. No ... (read in full...)
I cheated, admitted straight away. Weeks later after no contact he wants to know details, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and i were together 6 months. I had issues with not getting enough affection/attention and could take criticism well so tried to actively work on this. He had issues always needing to be right whether it was a trivial matter or not. ...
A. 4 June 2012: Nope. You're split up. You're done with him. Do not reply.
As for you, I would almost bet anything that you'll go against advice and reply anyways, making your love life even messier than it is. You should have been done with your ex, not ... (read in full...)
Twenty years old and never had a boyfriend! What am I doing wrong?
Q. HELP!!!!! I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend. Long story short I have been asked out once before but I turned him down. Now a year and half later I feel regretful. I try to act like being single and for this long doesn't bother me but it does. I feel ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hold on...hold on here! I'm the monkey wrench in your whole self-induced shame spiral. :)
You're beautiful, and your lack of experience is a huge turn-ON to many men out there. Turning down a guy is never wrong if you weren't feeling a connecti... (read in full...)
He ended things then told me 'I love you' for the first time
Q. Hi guys, So basically, I've been seeing this guy for some 6 months. It started out casual and then became serious (more for him than me) but I genuinely like(d) him. Basically, yesterday we were talking about how excited we were to see each ...
A. 3 June 2012: The guy sounds like a bit of a flake. He's getting drunk, calling you his angel, and then flaking out because of an "emotional" reason, only to have him delete you and your friends from his network without so much as a discussion?
He sounds f... (read in full...)
7 months and he wont call me his girlfriend =[
Q. Hi guys. I am having a problem right now and I would love for someone to help me. I met a guy in my city 7 months ago and we started communicating everyday and this has lasted 7 months. He lived 4 hours away before so meeting made it hard but rece...
A. 3 June 2012: Normally, after 7 months, a relationship should be defined, especially if there's sex in it. So it's understandable that you're taking issue with the lack of definition.
However, this relationship has been long distance until just recently... (read in full...)
Don't most men like to touch their girlfriend's boobs?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to like touching his girlfriend's boobs? I mean, in most relationships, is it normal? Cause my girlfriend apparently don't think so, and she forbade me from touching them after awhile. I used to touch them like once a week, ...
A. 3 June 2012: Do you just walk around groping them at odd times?? If so, that's not cool. Women don't go from zero to grope like men do. If you're walking into a room and groping her for the hell of it, of course she's going to stop you.
You shouldn'... (read in full...)
Marriage of 20 years--I'm tired of looking the other way..I WANT OUT!
Q. Help... In 2 weeks I celebrate my 20th wedding anniversary. but after dealing with the fact that my "loving" husband cheated on me with a prostitute i want out. He also contacted old girl friend on computer and flirts all the time with other ...
A. 3 June 2012: Two priceless words: Spousal Support.
Before saying ONE WORD to him about how you are feeling and are wanting out, get a full, and I mean FULL idea of what your marital assets and liabilities are. All bank accounts, retirement pensions, 401(k)'s... (read in full...)
How do I re-establish things after I messed up and groped my best-friend?
Q. I have a bestfriend, I have had feelings for her before and sometimes here and there. I felt as if it was some sort of thing telling me, "Oh she's the one" I had a friend tell me i might just be physically attracted to her which i am as well. A...
A. 3 June 2012: You GROPED her??
Groping is skeevy. If I ever got felt up by someone without permission, I'd have a really hard time associating with them in the future, and I would have stopped it immediately. "Never said no" isn't the same as a "yes". You hav... (read in full...)
Boyfriend would rather look at porn pictures than pictures of me
Q. Would this bother anyone else? It feels like my boyfriend didn't want pictures of me to use when i wasn't there because he prefers the porn models. I know he wouldn't ask me for pictures because he's too nice, but i'm concerned why he wouldn't ask ...
A. 2 June 2012: It's similar to the reason why most guys don't want to date women who are prostitutes or porn stars, yet seek their "services" when the need arises.
He doesn't want to see you as a sleazy porn star with sleazy images. He doesn't want anyone e... (read in full...)
The Friend with benefits that won't go away
Q. So I have a guy friend that I have known for about 3 years. For the first 2 years we were basically best friends. Spent several hours out of the day with each other, talked on the phone every free minute we had, and eventually became sexually ...
A. 2 June 2012: I'm desperately hoping that your age isn't really 13-15, and you've not been in a sexual relationship when you were possibly 11 as this is bad. Also, how old is this guy?? I'm going to tell you two things about Friends with Benefits: 1... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated - What should I do?
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for 14 months and I've just found out that when he went to south africa in november for a month he kissed some girl who was friends with the family he was living with. I found out because he asked me to print so...
A. 1 June 2012: I fully agree with CaringGuy here. You're already moving, and it's time for a whole new start.
You're right. His actions aren't of a guy who stupidly lost control and kissed another girl. He's been lying to her and carefully hiding her from you... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that I'm pregnant at 14?
Q. I'm 14 yrs old. Me and my bf had sex awhile ago and I just found out im pregnant. A couple ppl know and he knows. I need help on how to tell my mom. Im scared that if I do then she will never trust me ever again and kick me out the house and never ...
A. 1 June 2012: Yeah, she's going to freak out. That's extremely natural, and the news is going to rock her world as much as it's rocking yours. However, unless she's been an abusive monster all of your life and hasn't shown a shred of love towards you, she's not ... (read in full...)
In Love Yet Trapped in Cyber
Q. Hello, I am a happily married man who truly loves his wife. That being said, something happened a few years ago that has left me in upheaval ever since. My mother suddenly died of a massive heart attack leaving my life in the throws of gr...
A. 31 May 2012: First of all, I'm really sorry for you loss. There is a bond between mother and son that defines the word "home". It's a type of security in an uncertain world. You've been hit by the loss of something so profound that shakes the foundation of ... (read in full...)
Should I be Jelous of my Girlfriends clients ?
Q. My Girlfriend of 1yr is a cute and attractive Asian woman and is in a field of work that is 95% Male dominated. She is in business for her self and meets male clients/business owners on a regular bases. Most of the time she meets during day time...
A. 29 May 2012: Meeting male clients for a business dinner is one thing. It happens, and in a sales or representative-oriented environment, it happens. However, there are boundaries. Dinner and a movie is a date, not a business arrangement.
It sounds like she... (read in full...)
I already have a partner but have a friend who wants a friends with benefits relationship with me
Q. Hi everyone. i need some help. I am a mother of two, in a great relationship with a guy i adore. we have been together 8 years, and the kids are from a previous relationship. so heres where my problem begins, we have a mutual friend and recent...
A. 29 May 2012: You can cheat on your fiance, and it's just as wrong as cheating on your husband, so I don't understand the reason why you had to make that distinction "He's not a husband, just a fiance".
Would you like your fiance to cheat on you? How would yo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex wife is creeping back into his life despite living with her boyfriend and he wont divorce her....
Q. I wrote a couple months back...and need advice. I have been with my boyfriend for ten months. He is still married...he has been seperate from his wife for 2 and a half years...she has been living with her boyfriend for 2 and a half years... Me and ...
A. 29 May 2012: He is a married man. He's not going to leave his wife. She isn't an ex-wife. She's his wife. Any past and future investment you can make will not have a return.
As long as he is still married, you being okay or not with his spending time wit... (read in full...)
How to deal with boyfriend getting another woman pregnant
Q. I have a boyfriend, we have been dating off an on about 5 years.Serious about an year and a half. I just found out a few months ago the he got some other woman pregnant.He didnt know she was prgnant till after the baby was 9 months old.So now she is ...
A. 29 May 2012: I agree with janniepeg on this one. Though I would suggest that you not count on his child making him more mature. He's had three years with the child with no signs of maturity in regards to your relationship. Only that he's been successfully ... (read in full...)
I Really like a guy who doesn't know I exist, what do I do?
Q. Really like a guy who doesn't know I exist, what do I do? There's this YouTube personality that I really like. Now before you think I'm crazy let me say I'll be attending college in his area. I'd already picked this school before I even started ...
A. 29 May 2012: Have you made a Youtube video reply to any of his videos yet? That would certainly get his attention, unless he has 60 million subscribers.
Make a video reply introducing yourself, and keep it light! He'll get notified that someone's made a v... (read in full...)
I had sex with this girl, but I have a girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. I was camping with a bunch of people and one of the guys brought his girlfriend and her friend. Her friend was cute and very flirty. I have a girlfriend we've been together a couple months. Every time me and my girlfriend have sex I don't cum which ...
A. 29 May 2012: If you try and hide this, never tell her, vow to "never cheat again", then there will never be a day in your life that you could ever aspire to be a better person, because every day you're with her is a betrayal to her now.
You're depresse... (read in full...)
My b/f can't make me orgasm but I don't want to feel like I have to educate him
Q. I have no problem making myself climax when I masturbate and i've had plenty of orgasms thru oral sex with previous bfs but, for some reason, my current bf just can't make me cum. It's frustating although i don't make it a big deal as I know he's ...
A. 29 May 2012: First of all, you should never get into comparisons with past BF's or his GF's. Every person is different.
That being said, it's hard to work with someone who thinks they know what women want. It's okay to tell him what works and what doesn't,... (read in full...)
My younger brother is a bully how should I handle him
Q. dear aunts/uncles im having some problems with my younger brother. Firstly i dnt live with him, thank goodness because he is so moody! he has always been a moody person, angry irritable and really rude! when i visit he is off with me and bites my ...
A. 29 May 2012: The biggest problem isn't your brother, though, he *is* a huge problem. The biggest problem is your parents' endorsement of how he treats you and acts.
Maverick has good advice. If you're an adult and live away from home, why do you have to ... (read in full...)
Everything goes great -- until the condom comes out
Q. Hi there. I'm writing this today because I'm experiencing an issue that (apparently, judging by numerous Google searches) many young guys face. I've been dating a wonderful girl for over 8 months now, and it is a committed and loving relationship ...
A. 29 May 2012: Women don't have the kind of refractory period that men do. We recover quicker if we've cooled off at all! Some of us go in multiples, one after the other! Many women will have one beforehand and then one during or maybe just before. In fact, ... (read in full...)
Everything goes great -- until the condom comes out
Q. Hi there. I'm writing this today because I'm experiencing an issue that (apparently, judging by numerous Google searches) many young guys face. I've been dating a wonderful girl for over 8 months now, and it is a committed and loving relationship ...
A. 28 May 2012: Yep, you have great advice coming from chigirl and celtic_tiger. I'd suggest doing all of what they're talking about.
My advice adds to theirs in addressing your performance anxiety. You put too much emphasis on penis/vagina intercourse in lovep... (read in full...)
My mistress asked me to 'make love' to her. What does this mean?
Q. I am single and I have been having an affair with a married woman for about 6 months now. She is very sexually adventurous, encouraging me to take her any way I want her. Sometimes we dress up and do roleplay. We just thoroughly enjoy sex with eac...
A. 28 May 2012: First of all, really?? You're wasting your life with a married woman. This isn't a relationship.
Second of all, have you ever heard the term "girlfriend experience"? She is asking for the female equivalent, aka the "boyfriend experien... (read in full...)
I told my husband I want to end the marriage and now he's acting all pitiful
Q. After being married for 12 years I've told my husband I can take it no more and I want out. He's been cheating which I found out and even after that I've put up for 3 years. We have 2 kids and I have been telling him since a year that I am not happy ...
A. 26 May 2012: The presence of a lawyer doesn't threaten the peace of a divorce. In fact, getting a lawyer from the start is your best shot at peace.
Needless to say, of course he's trying to guilt you into staying. However, cheating is not a "mistake... (read in full...)
Is it common for an uninterested married man to get hit on in a bar?
Q. OMG I am married and I got hit on at a bar today. It felt awful plus I had to chug a really expensive, very very good beer! This has never happened to me before but I don't go to bars very much. Is this common, to hit on guys that are wearing...
A. 26 May 2012: Yeah, I've gotten hit on with my wedding ring on too. People tend to ignore or "not see" the ring and simply hit on others. Other people solicit interest from a married person for the ego boost that interest from a "taken" person brings them.
... (read in full...)
Casual relationship with friend/roommate has become more for me but I don't know how to tell her
Q. I'm in a situation that I am very confused and emotionally frustrated about. At the beginning of the year I moved in to an apartment with one of my best friends (who is female). For awhile things were going as a normal roommate situation would... ...
A. 26 May 2012: Boy, you missed a golden opportunity in the conversation you had with her when she stated that your communication with another girl got her jealous. That was a wide open invitation to tell her how you feel.
Luckily for you, the door is still op... (read in full...)
I don't know the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal one
Q. This is a sex problem and I really don't want to be graphic but I need help all the same. I hope the moderators won't censor my question. I don't know the difference between a clitoral orgasm and a vaginal one. Whenever I've had orgasms from sex...
A. 26 May 2012: 1. You are totally NOT abnormal! There are, sadly, way too many women who have never experienced orgasm on any scale through any means. You can reach it, which is awesome! I wonder, if I were to guess, I'd bet that you have been able to orgasm ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get it right the first time?
Q. I am seventeen and a few months into my first real relationship. Everything about it seems more perfect than even the most sticky-sweet fairy tale could possibly imagine but it terrifies me to think of it being really serious because it seems ...
A. 26 May 2012: Of course it's possible. I'm my husband's first girlfriend. He never even kissed another girl before he met me. We're still married at 13 years and have been together 19 years and neither of us regret it one bit!... (read in full...)
How can I show my boyfriend I really love him with out having sex ?
Q. how can i show my boyfriend i really love him with out having sex with him i am planning to be with him for a very long time any ideas tips it would realy help!...
A. 26 May 2012: Is your age accurate, and you're 13-15 years old??
I will say this to you, that if this boyfriend is after you for sex and keeps pushing the subject even after you've told him you're not ready, and he's actually told you that it's a way to show ... (read in full...)
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