I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 15 August 2012: Wow! Thank you so much for that update. This is fantastic, and you are handling this spectacularly. I'm glad you're filling the void his absence brought by getting more work and looking at bettering yourself.
All of my good thoughts and best... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 26 July 2012: You think that the only 18-21 year old women who haven't had sex are obese and lack personal hygiene? Good lord! I think you might have just pissed off half of the female aunts on here! You couldn't be farther from the truth. In fact, the most ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing? He cheated, and he asked me to tell him when I do forgive him?
Q. I found out today that my boyfriend of two years has been skyping another girl, calling her 'sexy', 'love', 'cutie', all things that he calls me, telling her she's 20 times hotter than me, that he'll think of her when he's in bed with me, etc. ...
A. 26 July 2012: I also agree with k_c. Why bother going through the effort of "watching him like a hawk"? You deserve a guy you don't have to watch or wonder if he's throwing you under the bus on Skype.
His response, that he "gets lonely" is really telling ... (read in full...)
We agreed we would only watch porn together, but now I've found loads of porn sites on his computer and phone! How do I confront him about this?
Q. I have been in a few relationships where my boyfriends would watch porn. I had a very hard time with it at first because I felt that I wasn't good enough so they had to look elsewhere... I now have done more research and understand it more - so ...
A. 26 July 2012: Something about this whole thing doesn't sit well with me. You're either for porn or against porn. This whole "He can only watch it when I'm with him or I'm home" thing is a bit controlling.
This says to me that you want to be in control ... (read in full...)
Is it too much fir me to want my wife to wear a little make-up?
Q. I really need advice.I have been maried for 18 years.my question is we have one dissagrement I would really like it if my wife would wear a little mascara, eye shadow and lipstick.Not everyday just like three or four times a year.l love her she is ...
A. 26 July 2012: Hmm...I have an idea.
If you're wanting her to glitz up a couple times a year, this is the perfect opportunity to take her out on a high-brow night on the town. You know, the limo, the fancy clothes, the expensive restaurant and cocktail lounge, ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be with someone who has someone else?
Q. Hi Pals,I want you to help me on this issues. I have a computer training school. I have many students both male and female that are learning computer. There was a girl in my school. The first day I set my eyes on her, I feel something deep for her. ...
A. 25 July 2012: She's with someone else, and has told you over and over that she's not interested in being in a relationship with you. She has someone else. She's been trying to be nice, even telling you "How would you like it if your girlfriend were to cheat on ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain sexual experience even though I won't be dating them?
Q. Recently I was having a chat with a friend and the subject of my virginity came up. He ask why I still choose to keep it because girls our age aren't anymore. He got me thinking that when I do find a girlfriend that she would have slept with many ...
A. 25 July 2012: You're 18-21. There are a lot of women in that age group who haven't slept with guys. Your friend is not right.
Is it okay to experiment with women to gain experience? Sure, as long as you don't lie to them about using them. If you can find... (read in full...)
I'm wondering how my married lover can lead a double life!
Q. This question is directed more towards the experts in the field of infidelity because I'm really curious as to how she can live with herself. What gets me is how some of her peers and co-workers perceive her to be this classy upstanding woman...
A. 25 July 2012: I'm not assuming that you're the one she's cheating with or on, because I'm hoping that you're only the outside observer in this.
You're seeing an object lesson in deception. A sociopath, a brilliant actress, the Baroness in the G.I. Joe cartoon,... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend, but I get the feeling he's into me.
Q. I met up with an old friend, who has a new house and a new girlfriend, yet he invites me over every week in the evening when his gf is not there. Is he into me? Okay, the above was basically the cliff notes version. Here's a more elaborate descri...
A. 25 July 2012: He's totally grooming you. Like Cerberus said, the old "dissatisfaction with girlfriend" and the sob story is the oldest trick in the book to get an otherwise virtuous girl to cheat with him, because seriously, would you want to sleep with him if ... (read in full...)
Is there a way for my girlfriend to masturbate without stickling her finger in her vagina?
Q. Dear Cupid, So recently, my gf keeps asking me how to masturbate. Me and my gf are very open to each other she always asks me for advice. But I don't know what should I say to her. She said that she's afraid to stick her finger in there. I said th...
A. 24 July 2012: I wish she was the one who was on here asking this question.
Probably one of the most inefficient and non-effective ways for a woman to masturbate is to stick a finger in her vagina. The vagina itself doesn't have many nerve endings of its own.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sent me horribly abusive text messages but now claims he does not remember any of this!
Q. My boyfriend recently called me fat on a voicemail message when he was out and I was out but seperatley he said answer your phone u fat b*****d on text me calling me an wh*re and never to bother him again. He said he cannot remember any of this but ...
A. 24 July 2012: Yeah, I think spending the rest of your life with him is probably not going to happen. This guy is a disturbed individual if he's texting and calling you and not even remembering that he's subjecting you to horrible verbal and emotional abuse.
... (read in full...)
I slept with a friend but I have a feeling she fancies my housemate!
Q. I slept with a friend the night before last and am not sure what to do. We have been hanging out for the last 6 months and there has always been something there but I've really liked her personality and feel very close to her but because she is is ...
A. 24 July 2012: You know, if you bring this back to the basics, if you like her, then ask her out. Forget that you slept with her in a drunken haze and consider the natural first step towards approaching a girl you're interested in.
Doesn't matter if you thin... (read in full...)
I got pregnant and had an abortion and the guy accused me of forcing myself on him and said that I had got pregnant on purpose. I'm crushed..
Q. I am 25 years old I know that I don't have the greatest self esteem, and I've never had a boyfriend ever. All of my friends have had someone who is willing to be in a relationship with them and call them their girlfriend. I have never had that, no ...
A. 24 July 2012: This guy you found is a spineless nematode. You do not want him. You do not need him. An amoeba has more spine on him than this guy.
He said this stuff to you because he could get away with it. Most women would have laughed him out of any soci... (read in full...)
He leaves, I pay, he comes back, I say "hey" she yells I am not being supportive!
Q. I babysat for a friend for 6 months because her baby's father left her. So I only charged her $70 per week so she didn't have to worry about finding a babysitter and can get financially stable. She then got back with her baby's father within 2 ...
A. 23 July 2012: Yeah, I know you made your offer because you were supporting her to LEAVE him. You *have* been a supportive friend, but I know you weren't giving of your time and resources only to have her waffle back and forth like this.
You're also being a... (read in full...)
Could you girls explain to me the feelings behind a crush on a celebrity and the feelings you have for your bf?
Q. Im curious to know what the difference is between your celebrity crushes and the feeling you have for your boyfriend. I know everyone is attracted to other people, but to what extent? I mean, you'll gush over whomever the actor may be, be it orlan...
A. 20 July 2012: A celebrity crush is more like an admiration for an "ideal". It's different from feelings for your boyfriend because you know that you'd never actually date the celebrity. The celebrity is like the 4 carat diamond ring in the locked case, or the ... (read in full...)
My Girl friend is way to jealous.
Q. have been dating my girl friend and living with her for for 7 months at first she was really cool then out of no where she started getting jealous over everyone I talked to even my male friends its like she's not happy if i don't spend my every ...
A. 20 July 2012: I think you should ask her to leave.
I think Aunty BimBim is right on, but I think you already did the first steps of her advice. You *have* already talked to her about this over and over, and I think now is the time to back up what you already ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm drowning in despair over this and I need help!
Q. I am at a lost here. The man I have been dating for 8 months died suddenly this past Saturday and yesterday I found out he already had a girlfriend for "a little over a year". His best friend told me, because he was afraid of the drama that may ...
A. 20 July 2012: First of all, I'm really sorry for your loss.
You lost a man you loved in more than one way. If you have family and friends you can lean on, they will help you. You can mourn, and you need to mourn. Just because he lived a double life doe... (read in full...)
Girlfriend WANTS to perform oral on me. However, I DON'T want it!
Q. Hi. As the title suggests, my girlfriend does want to perform oral sex on me. She keeps asking, every, single, time that I'm alone with her. I tell her, "No. I'm not ready for that. I am, however, ready for intercourse.", and she tells me she doe...
A. 20 July 2012: You should cut back on the porn videos, because that's not a true representation of really good oral sex! When I was young and was trying to learn how to give REALLY good oral sex, I confess that I watched some porn. BIG mistake. I ended up ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 20 July 2012: Man, I've been on here for two years, and I've never ever seen a question on here that's evoked the kind of emotional response that yours has. I literally thought about this one off and on today, and if I had met you in real life, I would have been ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 19 July 2012: You did the right thing by telling them, and I know it wasn't easy. His reaction was very telling. He doesn't care if you go take care of yourself sexually, and his opinion is all that matters here, which brings us to an even more crucial issue:
... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I'm definitely with Anonymous123 on this one big time. I reread your initial post in the new light of your followup post, and you've been really dumped on by that family. He should be at his mom's, and his brothers and sisters should be his ... (read in full...)
I'm cheating on my disabled fiance who can never have sex after an accident but I feel so horrible!
Q. Hi, I have been browsing the internet for a solution to my problem but do not seem to be coming up with any. Where do I begin?. Here goes. My Fiance who I have been dating since I was 14 years old, now both in our mid to late 20s was involved...
A. 18 July 2012: I would feel differently about this if he were already your husband, but he's not, and you haven't made a vow to be a live-in nurse for him. The fact that you had to go behind his back to sleep with some random Craigslist ad underscores that you're ... (read in full...)
My g/f was a prom queen. I think I'm jealous of her. Is that what it is I"m feeling?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a while and all is great. She was prom queen at her school so you can imagine how i felt when we started dating. She is 21 and i am 26. Before we met, she was with a jackass for about 4 years, they broke up, she ...
A. 17 July 2012: Actually, what you said right at the start reveals what's happening with you now:
"She was prom queen at her school so you can imagine how i felt when we started dating."
What you're feeling is straight-up extreme insecurity. You can't shake ... (read in full...)
I'm getting sick of him still getting angry at his ex. Should I continue to endure this uproar on his part?
Q. In a relationship 5 months both of us are one year out of a marriage, both still going through a split of property etc... My problem is that we ask each other for advice and we give each other advice, but he doesnt use it and just keeps getting ...
A. 17 July 2012: I agree with Abella. They say that hate is love set on fire, and divorce is marriage set on fire. Either way, he's still keeping her in his life, and the fact that her reactions and actions are more important to him than yours are means that she ... (read in full...)
My first lesbian relationship. Am I missing something, because now she does not seem as interested?
Q. I got involved with a female/lesbian. It has only been 2 weeks and we just spent our first weekend together and we had intimacy. This happened just last weekend, and now I kind of feel that things are a little different between us; maybe it's jus...
A. 17 July 2012: Whoa...slow down here! If you were just together this past weekend, and it's Monday, give it some time! Take it easy, and don't get obsessive, clingy, anxious, or overanalytical.
You must understand, there is more happening inside you than jus... (read in full...)
I can't get over my jealous feelings about his texting with his female best friend!
Q. So today, I read my bf's text messages (he let me) between him and his girl best friend. They haven't talked for a few days, but I'm bothered. Keep in mind that he's not the person to really text, and when he does, it's short and to the point. ...
A. 17 July 2012: Hmm...so far, nothing you've described shows that anything wrong or inappropriate has happened between them, and I have to give him credit for showing you the texts when he didn't have to.
It's okay for him to have a female friend IF they're ... (read in full...)
I found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way.
Q. Found out today the guy I'm seeing has twins on the way. Its a shock. I like him a lot but I feel like running and fast. He already has two! I have no kids and though I love them I have no desire to have them now or to be a stepmom honestly. I know ...
A. 17 July 2012: You are absolutely without a doubt NOT a coward for not wanting to deal with this, and you're not a coward for walking away.
If he has twins on the way, that means that either you and he are a new relationship, or he cheated on you. By the way ... (read in full...)
How do I make him break up with me instead?
Q. My love life is crazy now. I met a guy and i really like him and he loves me but we have a long distance relationship and i think i have gotten over him i promised him i would not break his heart. How do i make him break up with me instead?...
A. 16 July 2012: Good grief. You can't fool us. You're not trying to get him to break up with you to avoid hurting him. You're trying to avoid looking like the bad guy. That's selfish and cowardly, like jinxx said.
If you actually care about how he feels, t... (read in full...)
My husband insulted me in front of his friend
Q. Dear all, my husband fought with me in front of his friend and insulted me by tellin me that he will hit me and I should shut up...I couldn't believe that he could say such thing in front of his friend...what would any of u do if u were in my ...
A. 16 July 2012: Let me get this straight. What was the fight over, and why did it have to be done in front of his friend?
Also, has he ever actually hit you?
I would worry less about it being in front of his friend and more about the fact that what he did... (read in full...)
One night stand cheat on my girlfriend of 3 yrs,..Should I tell her or live with guilt?
Q. Ive been with my gf for 3 years now and our relationship has been the greatest thing in my life. Weve been though a hell of alot with each other and theres nothing i wouldnt do for her. Weve talked immensely about not cheating on each other bc we ...
A. 16 July 2012: I agree with jinxx on this one.
Wouldn't you want to know if your girlfriend slept with a friend of yours? Wouldn't you want to know before you married her and had kids with her or bought a house with her or took out a life insurance policy a... (read in full...)
I doubted him so I tested him and now he says I didn't trust him so we have nothing!
Q. dear cupids.i am grl of 18 nd in a relationship wid a guy whom i love wholeheartedly.he loves me too.i hav a minor doubts on him considering his relation wid other grls.therfore,its been 2 weeks past , i have a loyality test on him nd he passed it ...
A. 16 July 2012: What was the loyalty test and why did you do it?
The problem with trying to win him back is that the reason why you gave him this "loyalty test" still exists. You didn't trust him, and that won't change even if you get him back.
At this... (read in full...)
He constantly thinks I am cheating on him, this makes me feel insecure!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. We have an amazing relationship except our insecurities. I think he truthfully feels I am cheating on him and I am not. I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and I thought the ...
A. 15 July 2012: So far, you have accommodated his insecurities, and that's where you've gone wrong. You are acting as a guilty person, and it hasn't mollified his obsessiveness.
First of all, you are not married, and he shouldn't have access to your stuff ca... (read in full...)
How to tell him I'd like to stay in touch without sounding creepy?
Q. So the other night me and my friend hung out with a few guys we had just met, and we were really hitting it off. In fact, I was really into this one guy, and we kissed quite a bit over the night. I had had a few drinks, but he was totally clean. And ...
A. 14 July 2012: CALL him. Don't text him. CALL him. When you call him, tell him "Hey, it's *insert your name here* from the other night. Hope I caught you at a good time! I really enjoyed getting to know you the other night at the party, and was wondering if ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend want to have sex with me because he got turned on by the other girl?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years. He is really good about not staring at women, or at least when I am with him. But the other night when he came in from work he was flirting around with me and he said something about picking out some sexy ...
A. 14 July 2012: You have a bigger issue than simply him noticing another girl.
If I read your follow-up correctly, your current boyfriend lied to you about keeping in contact with his ex, and he tried to hide it by putting a guy's name on the cell to throw yo... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 13 July 2012: Yeah, Cindy brings up a fantastic point. Don't let the stuff become an excuse to carry on the drama with him. If you don't, or can't get your stuff from him, get away anyways. The point is to get away, and he'll use it to manipulate you like he's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me a year and a half ago, and I don't feel like being with another guy. What is wrong with me!
Q. What is wrong with me? I don't understand:( please help? So there's this cute guy that likes me. He texts me a lot and he writes back straightaway but I take a few days to reply. We have great convo but I feel so numb I'm not excited a...
A. 13 July 2012: You're not over your ex. Sure, you may not be pining for him or missing him and you don't want your ex back into your life, but the breakup and your ex's actions still affect you. Hence, you're not over him.
I agree that you're ready when you... (read in full...)
Would you stay in a sexless marriage?
Q. Would you stay with your husband, if he would go impotent, and it would not have medical cause? And on the top of. That, he would lose his affection too, so, basically the marriage becomes sexless? ...
A. 13 July 2012: If my husband became impotent, and I didn't know the cause and he didn't either, of course I'd stay with him! If it's psychological and distressed him, I'd stay. If we simply didn't know the medical cause, I'd stay!
I'd never leave my husband ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend want to have sex with me because he got turned on by the other girl?
Q. I have been with this guy for 3 years. He is really good about not staring at women, or at least when I am with him. But the other night when he came in from work he was flirting around with me and he said something about picking out some sexy ...
A. 13 July 2012: Have you ever seen a commercial for a restaurant, and they showed food so mouth-watering and delicious that you had a physical response to it? A few years back, there was a Brita water commercial that actually made me so thirsty after I watched it, ... (read in full...)
What can we do to prove to my boyfriend's parents that we aren't just another high school relationship and that we have a real future?
Q. Okay, so I am 19 and my boyfriend just 20 last week. We have been together since we were 16 and have been through so much together. Last year he, and his family, moved 1,200 miles away and we made the choice to break up. His parents, who claimed ...
A. 13 July 2012: Hold on for a second.
I read your post twice, and it sounds like he's no longer your boyfriend, but is now your EX-boyfriend since you both made the decision to break up due to the fact that he's now 1600 miles away.
I'm going to respectfully ... (read in full...)
The man I'm with love with said ,"I care about you more than you know". Does that mean he loves me too? If yes then why doesn't he just say that?
Q. Help please Aunts, I am having trouble trying to understand what this man i'm in love with is trying to say to me. He knows how much i care about him very much,and he has said he cares about me.but we had a little tiff and i challenged him a...
A. 13 July 2012: He's not ready to tell you he loves you, and never assume that he means that he does if he hasn't said it.
I'd stop all harping with him to say it. To many guys, saying "I love you" is a step of commitment and a declaration of taking a relation... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 13 July 2012: You left your stuff there and now you want it?
This one is easy. You're in the US, so go to your courthouse and file a civil lawsuit in conciliation court, which is low cost and doesn't really even need a lawyer.
The court will then order ... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 13 July 2012: This guy's gross. Why are you even with him?
I'm guessing it's because you've been together for 10 years, and comfort zones are hard to break out of unless your frustration level exceeds the rut you're in.
So he jerks off all the time? Yep. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mention of my recent weight gain has lowered my self esteem. I need some advice!
Q. Recently a close family friend died and ive put on a little weight because of it. My boyfriend mention the other day that i had put on a few and when i asked him if it bothered him he swore it didnt but i think it bothers him even if he wont admit ...
A. 12 July 2012: He wouldn't have mentioned it if it didn't bother him. Personally, I think he's an insensitive jackass for doing that to you after you just had a tragedy, but you do realize that if being around him makes you feel bad about yourself, you can show ... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 12 July 2012: I'd say that his problem isn't that he's passive aggressive. The problem is that he's selfish and lazy in bed.
When you give him pleasure, does he ask for it, or do you just give it to him? If he's asking for it, tell him that you're first, a... (read in full...)
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