I'm getting fed up with my boyfriend.
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. It's always the same pattern, and I am getting fed up. He has Bipolar Disorder. I know he can't help that, but I have been with him for almost three years, and things aren't going anywhere. ...
A. 9 June 2014: Ugh. Time to drop him. You're no therapist, and no diagnosis justifies verbal and emotional abuse. Get out while you can.... (read in full...)
Yes, another question about men and their porn!!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for four years. Yes, I knew since the start of our relationship that he masturbated to images of hot chicks on the internet. Then, I didn't care in the least. Why? The sex we had was awesome. He wanted me ...
A. 9 June 2014: Here's a logical question:
Why would he use the words "No, he said he will leave me eventually if I am unable to let go of the past and continue to punish him for what he has done. " if this stuff isn't TH PAST??
If it's still going on, it's n... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend I lost a baby? He went back to his ex
Q. What should I do? My best friend of right years became single and we always had feelings for each other so we decided to try it out. We had a fantastic month of dating, we were happy. And then his ex talked him into trying again. I realize...
A. 8 June 2014: If you think that what we said to you is "bashing" you, then you need to grow thicker skin. You don't get a word we've said to you. Why don't we dispense with the "you should be ashamed" and the "making me out to be a monster" melodrama. I don't ... (read in full...)
I'm getting fed up with my boyfriend.
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. It's always the same pattern, and I am getting fed up. He has Bipolar Disorder. I know he can't help that, but I have been with him for almost three years, and things aren't going anywhere. ...
A. 8 June 2014: Again, what does that have to do with you?? He doesn't take care of himself, and he doesn't have the money to keep the house with food? I'm guessing that his house isn't the only place you two ever go, and that he goes to yours as well? Does he ... (read in full...)
Yes, another question about men and their porn!!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for four years. Yes, I knew since the start of our relationship that he masturbated to images of hot chicks on the internet. Then, I didn't care in the least. Why? The sex we had was awesome. He wanted me ...
A. 8 June 2014: He is a porn addict, and yes, he hasn't upheld his side of the bargain. But it's one he can't win if he doesn't get help for this addiction. That's like telling a meth addict simply not to do it anymore, or a heroin addict to stop shooting up. ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in not thinking of her as much of a friend?
Q. I texted a friend / neighbor and didn't 'sign it.' She replied 'Who is this?' which told me that she doesn't have me on her phone contacts. She texts a lot so I don't think it's that she doesn't know how to use her phone, but it's possible ...
A. 8 June 2014: So you each are married??
Yes, if she borrows your van and doesn't replace gas, then don't let her borrow it again without asking for the replacing of gas.
Otherwise, she could be acting a bit aloof with her husband nearby in case he's the je... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend and a crush
Q. Hi reader. I'm in a situation that I would like to ask advice about. I will keep it simple. I have a girlfriend. Been together for 1.5 years. I also have a major crush with another girl at work. I don't know what to do. The crush won't go I have ...
A. 8 June 2014: I'll likewise keep it simple.
How would you feel if your girlfriend harbored a crush on another man? You'd want her to choose, right?
Well, that's where you are now. You either stay with your girlfriend, or you leave her and go out with your... (read in full...)
Yes, another question about men and their porn!!!!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for four years. Yes, I knew since the start of our relationship that he masturbated to images of hot chicks on the internet. Then, I didn't care in the least. Why? The sex we had was awesome. He wanted me ...
A. 8 June 2014: Seriously, he said that if you didn't accept his porn addiction and the lack of sex between you, he'd leave you??
I'd call his bluff on that one and throw him out. The guy has a serious porn addiction, and it has nothing to do with you. It's lik... (read in full...)
I'm getting fed up with my boyfriend.
Q. Should I end my relationship with my boyfriend?. It's always the same pattern, and I am getting fed up. He has Bipolar Disorder. I know he can't help that, but I have been with him for almost three years, and things aren't going anywhere. ...
A. 8 June 2014: Who cares what he has. Are you his therapist? He *can* help himself, even with that. He can help by managing it closely under a doctor's care. If he were to murder someone in a manic rage, he'd still have to answer for it, and if he were to harm ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me & I don't know why
Q. I have been getting to know this guy and we have gotten close but not really in a full relationship, more like friends taking it slow. I do want more and had hoped for this in the future. Because he is getting over a break up I am not pushing ...
A. 7 June 2014: The guy sounds like a flakeazoid. He's not over his ex, so he's emotionally unavailable. He's using you to prop up his ego.
And don't phones work in this century? Why not call him and talk voice to voice? Oh, and use an apostrophe when des... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend I lost a baby? He went back to his ex
Q. What should I do? My best friend of right years became single and we always had feelings for each other so we decided to try it out. We had a fantastic month of dating, we were happy. And then his ex talked him into trying again. I realize...
A. 7 June 2014: Yeah, I agree with Cerberus. What kind of logic would have you NOT tell him you were pregnant and then TELL him when you lose the pregnancy? That makes no sense to me whatsoever. You don't tell a guy you're pregnant to keep him. You tell him to ... (read in full...)
Am I justified in not thinking of her as much of a friend?
Q. I texted a friend / neighbor and didn't 'sign it.' She replied 'Who is this?' which told me that she doesn't have me on her phone contacts. She texts a lot so I don't think it's that she doesn't know how to use her phone, but it's possible ...
A. 7 June 2014: Are you worried that you like her more than she likes you? It's a valid concern, but like Cerberus said, the question over texting shouldn't be the only evidence you use for this.
Why would not recognizing your phone number be considered "lazy"? ... (read in full...)
Should I consider breaking up, or am I worrying about nothing?
Q. I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend for a year. We've had overall a really good relationship, but now I've been having some doubts about whether we're right for each other. I'm posting this question to seek an outside perspective - are these ...
A. 7 June 2014: First of all, your post is a breath of fresh air. For you to analyze the state of your relationship with this level of maturity is amazing, and you're showing that you've left high school and the lower standards of partner choosing behind. You're ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with my friend before we got together as a couple and it bothers me
Q. I have been seeing this guy since November time, at first we just slept together and then in January we started seeing eachother. We made it official in April. Before me he was casually sleeping with my friend but had no feelings for her, on Boxing ...
A. 7 June 2014: Okay, that guy is gross. When someone is sleeping with someone, unless it's agreed upon that you're a no-strings friend with benefits, it's trashy for a guy to date you, sleep with you, and then sleep with someone else. The SEX part infers ... (read in full...)
He didn't call when he said he would and his phone was off ...
Q. Soo my boyfriend is on Holliday with his friends. We have a really good relationship and hasnt done anything in the past to make me doubt him at all, its my own insecurities. I have ben abused with past boyfriends and cheated on a lot. He does is ...
A. 7 June 2014: You think I'm trying to assign FAULT to you?? Quite the contrary. Would you accuse a doctor or an auto mechanic of blaming you for an illness or faulty brakes? No, you wouldn't.
I see what I see. If you have a lot of respect for him, then you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got drunk and his friends called his ex to come get him, not me!
Q. I'm so angry right now that I feel like I could burst! My boyfriend of 10 months spent the night at his ex wife's house after a drunken night out with pals, and even though I believe him when he says nothing happened, mainly because when he is THAT ...
A. 6 June 2014: Hmmm. He sounds like a real catch. I need to answer your question with a question:
Why are you with a drunkard with ex-wife baggage? Seems to me that at your age, your prospects, and your good eligibility, you could drop him and find someone ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is asking me to go to lunch with him to see his ex perfect girlfriend and I am freaking out!
Q. My boyfriend of 1 year is going for lunch with one of his exs. I know 2 of his ex-girlfriends, as they are part of our social cicle. One of them is just an acquaintance, the other is actual a good friend os us both, and we go out several times. N...
A. 6 June 2014: First things first. Calm down and breathe. Don't ever let yourself feel the least bit inferior to a single person in the world. What difference does it make what she looks like? If he leaves you for her, then he's a shit that you're better off ... (read in full...)
He didn't call when he said he would and his phone was off ...
Q. Soo my boyfriend is on Holliday with his friends. We have a really good relationship and hasnt done anything in the past to make me doubt him at all, its my own insecurities. I have ben abused with past boyfriends and cheated on a lot. He does is ...
A. 6 June 2014: Listen...
Whenever I read a post on here from someone talking about how their past partners (plural) are abusive or cheaters or both, that *is* something to examine. You had abusive cheaters in the past, and you chose a player this time. When th... (read in full...)
He didn't call when he said he would and his phone was off ...
Q. Soo my boyfriend is on Holliday with his friends. We have a really good relationship and hasnt done anything in the past to make me doubt him at all, its my own insecurities. I have ben abused with past boyfriends and cheated on a lot. He does is ...
A. 6 June 2014: I think you need to lighten up on him. Making him check in on his holiday like a criminal reporting to his parole officer is unreasonable, especially if his lack of calling you once is what makes you so crazy. You can not make him pay for the way ... (read in full...)
Should the bestman go to wedding if his girlfriend is banned?
Q. should my boyfriend who is bestman go to his bestfriend wedding ? i am his girlfriend of 20months i had an unforeseen fallout with the bride tobe and now she and her groom have banded me from the wedding. it was a petty disagrement about a party ...
A. 2 June 2014: I'll answer this question with a question:
Do you love your boyfriend??
This is one of those moments in your life where being right may cost too much. It's true, you may be right. It's true that you may feel that your boyfriend should... (read in full...)
In laws don't respect me or like me
Q. my girlfriend and i have been in a relationship for two years now. Last month we welcomed our baby boy on earth. I am 23 years and am doing my second simester at college.my main problem is that my ''inlaws'' and the whole of my girlfriends family ...
A. 1 June 2014: Culture is an issue here. They will see you this way until you marry her. As long as you don't, they will see you as someone who plowed their daughter and left her in hardship.
Focus on your future, and marry her, and take time. Your actions ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years is getting annoyed, irritated or angry with me almost all the time!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is getting annoyed or irritated or angry with me almost all the time. I am not even sure what i do that set him off, its like i tip-toe around him all the time, its like i am on probation and he is evaluating me. ...
A. 1 June 2014: Yep, I agree. There are many guys who induce a breakup, but can't do it himself, so he makes the conditions such that his partner does the tough deed herself.
I'm curious, though. Has he always been this way, or is the name calling and the eggs... (read in full...)
Co-worker found out I have a crush on him
Q. So I have a little problem. For about 6/7 months, I have had a crush on a co-worker, and now he knows. So it was my birthday today, and we were all at work. I was given a card from all my co-workers and waited until the end of the day to read it....
A. 1 June 2014: As an aside, I do believe that this is the shortest answer I have ever seen WiseOwle make. That's actually disappointing to me, because I enjoy reading his long posts very much.
Actually, you are unlucky that he'll be seeing you. Unless you're m... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my erections when I'm with her in person!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with an amazing and extremely attractive woman. We have spent a number of weeks together in person now in the real world, and I would definitely say we understand each other very well and are very comfortable with ...
A. 30 May 2014: OH! I almost forgot...yes, it's her first time, but be very gentle. Go slow. Bring protection and lots of lubricant. However anxious you are, she will be moreso.... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my erections when I'm with her in person!
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with an amazing and extremely attractive woman. We have spent a number of weeks together in person now in the real world, and I would definitely say we understand each other very well and are very comfortable with ...
A. 30 May 2014: I have very good news for you.
You have classic performance anxiety, which is common but not spoken about. I'm also not making any claims you didn't clarify in your post, but I don't know your masturbatory habits, nor do I know your porn appetite... (read in full...)
She came across sexual and experienced, but she's a virgin?
Q. I'm confused at what the girl i'm dating told me yesterday, I don't judge her for it and never would but it doesn't make sense judging by her actions and the things she says that she is. She's very affectionate and feely with me, she'll roam her ...
A. 26 May 2014: Our culture is very highly sexualized, and she may be a virgin, but there are a lot of things that are sexual that don't involve intercourse.
She may just be a sexualized person, which isn't at odds with being a virgin. Virgin doesn't necessar... (read in full...)
Our friendship was stunted by a comment I made and now I need to know how to handle this, as we work together!
Q. Ok so my situation is this. Im a married man and although I haven't always been happy in my marriage ive always wanted to make it work. Well I had or have this situation going on at work with a coworker or once thought of friend going on. So basi...
A. 24 May 2014: You are screwing up your marriage and being disloyal to your wife. What the hell are you thinking?? First of all, you have no business discussing the problems of your marriage to female co-workers, especially if you're developing feelings for ... (read in full...)
My friend ditched me when I was going to the hospital. Why did she get angry?
Q. A friend of mine recently got very angry with me, without me understanding why. I was wondering if you could help me with this. I had become quite sick, and wasn't getting any better. I was talking to my friend that Saturday, and she asked me how...
A. 24 May 2014: You know...
I read this at first and was scratching my head along with everyone else, and when I read your follow up, I think I might have figured out what happened. Mind you, this is my theory based on the info I see in front of me in the post... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for shaving my head even though my gf prefers it long?
Q. Hey everyone, I'm a young guy with an extremely noticeable receding hairline. I'm cool with shaving my head, I think it's comfortable and looks alright on me..but my gf hates! She makes me grow my hair out and it looks ridiculous. Am I wrong for ...
A. 24 May 2014: It's one thing to express an opinion about your partner's choice in haircuts or other fashion choices, but it's another to humiliate, shame, or put them down just because you don't like how it looks.
She has crossed the line from expressi... (read in full...)
What do I do when I don't feel him? I don't want to fake it, and I don't want to stop.
Q. I've recently started having sex with a guy I've been dating for a few months. We kiss well and make out well. The passion is definitely there. However, there are times, when he is inside me, I can't feel him. Yet, there are times I do feel him. Why ...
A. 24 May 2014: Surprisingly, you are in the majority when it comes to stimulation by intercourse. Most women cannot or do not have an orgasm through the act of intercourse itself. There are many factors which are into play, including the size and shape of the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too truthful!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. We both Graduated from college; where I met him. He's trying to start up his legal justice career and I'm on the same path for child and youth studies. We've lived together for about a year ...
A. 24 May 2014: I want to say this *right* off:
It's hysterical that your boyfriend calls himself "too truthful", because that in itself is one big fat steaming pile of bullshit lies. Your boyfriend is as big of a liar as any player out there. His saying h... (read in full...)
Any rocker girl band love song ideas?
Q. I need help with a small problem. My boyfriend and I have a cute little thing going where we tell each other to look up cute love songs and then add them to a playlist we have on Grooveshark. He has to look up songs by guy bands and I have to look ...
A. 22 May 2014: This one's easy! But before I give my recommendations, you know that the only reason guy rock bands have more love songs is that there are many more guy bands. It's the laws of relativity.
Paramore jumped right into my mind when I read your po... (read in full...)
I don't know if she's gay; I don't even know if I'm gay
Q. hey, so lately I have been having these strong feelings for my friend Caitlin whom I don't no is gay or not, Infact I'm not sure that I'm even gay. All I do know is that every time I'm near her all I want to do is kiss her and hold her close and ...
A. 22 May 2014: Love is love. You have feelings for Caitlin. You don't need a label to feel attraction. She could have been your first attraction towards another woman, and you are of the age where things are all new and amazing.
As for how she feels about yo... (read in full...)
Second thoughts about lending my son money
Q. My son had been saving for a new car, in the past I have paid for his cars and spent a lot of money on them for him since he passed his test about 7 years ago. This time he has been saving for his own but we saw a very nice car and I did say I will ...
A. 22 May 2014: Yeah, I wouldn't have lent it to him either.
Well, protect yourself and do this all in writing. Get yourself on the car's title as first lienholder, AND write up the terms of payback in writing. That way, if he screws around, you have legal ri... (read in full...)
I don't want to meet his daughter until we have discussed our relationship's future!
Q. I'm in a relationship with a man I've been with for about a year and a half. We are happy and very much in love. However, there is a catch. He has a young daughter. He and I have talked and I have met her a couple times with other friends of his. ...
A. 21 May 2014: NO divorce?!? I was more right than I thought.
You're totally and completely being yanked around, and given that you're in school and he's in no place to even discuss your future much less has the desire for a timeline, you are definite... (read in full...)
My child's Grandmother is trying to take my son!
Q. My son's biological father, we'll call him "Cord", his mother "Jackie" is trying to get visitation with my son. Cord is deceased, he got drunk on Father's day, never called to see my son or ever acknowledged that my son was his, and he fell off of a ...
A. 21 May 2014: Wow. I read Wyoming's statutes on grandparent visitation rights, and that is quite interesting to say the least. I was about to tell you to get a lawyer and research the criminal records of all who live with her to prove that the conditions are ... (read in full...)
I don't want to meet his daughter until we have discussed our relationship's future!
Q. I'm in a relationship with a man I've been with for about a year and a half. We are happy and very much in love. However, there is a catch. He has a young daughter. He and I have talked and I have met her a couple times with other friends of his. ...
A. 21 May 2014: Like WiseOwle, I too sense a veiled ultimatum, though it has to be the most cleverly and intelligently veiled ultimatum I have ever read on DearCupid.
I think you already know where this is headed, and I think you already know the answer to this ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time processing the sudden break up. What are ways that I can cope?
Q. 2 weeks ago I found out that my significant other had several profiles made on those seedy sex websites you click on by accident while watching porn. I stumbled upon it really not wanting to find it. His youtube channels username is some how linked ...
A. 21 May 2014: Actually, I don't think he betrayed you. I read through your post twice to make sure I didn't miss anything. All of his internet sex activity took place before you two were together. It sucks that the internet is forever, but he wasn't on these ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my neighbour I had sex with his wife
Q. The other night I was having beers with a few mates, on my back deck .Being a single male there is always people at my house they come and go as they please pretty relax and social atmosphere My neighbour came over with a drink as her husband ...
A. 20 May 2014: You said this:
"I have know idea what to do and I don't want to break up a marriage?"
*She* broke it up and you went to the slaughter willingly, not once but twice. She pulled a trick so old that it's Biblical, with the whole "my husband is a... (read in full...)
Some of the things she confides turn me on?
Q. For a while now my best-friend, call her Cee has been in a relationship with this guy, who's also mostly my friend too. I's been going on for two years, and it was the most ridiculous relationship ever, and Cee was complaining about him constant...
A. 18 May 2014: You're not a freak. All of us have our private fantasies. No, you can't talk to anyone about it, nor should you. Enjoy them as your private secret. Sexual discussions, like erotic books or sexual movies, tend to turn many people on, and it's ... (read in full...)
How come my ex never feels sorry?
Q. My ex and I were long distance. He's a social butterfly and he's loud and I know how he acts around people. I know he couldn't put up with the loneliness if I wasn't there with him, so I used to ask him to let me know if he had feelings for someone ...
A. 18 May 2014: There's no such thing as a nice breakup. Even the most amicable, the most friendly, the most noble of reasons still hurts like hell.
I can tell in this one post why he thought you were clingy. You needed constant reassurance. You wanted t... (read in full...)
Does this mean it's over?
Q. My boyfriend (of 2 years) and I had an argument last week. The argument was mainly because i started noticing that my boyfriend has been ignoring me lately, reading my texts and not responding, he even ignored me for a whole day. Throughout our ...
A. 18 May 2014: This is the part when you drop him. Threatening to "bring you down"?? Umm, you're too old to choose toxic guys anymore. The wrong guy now can ruin your future, so since he's made it clear that in the 2 years you've been with him, he's taken no ... (read in full...)
Found out I was pregnant after we broke up
Q. I have a lot to deal with right now. Some days I'm fine just going about my day, then everything comes back to me and i feel overwhelmed and depressed again. I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my ex's baby. We broke up before i even knew i was pregnant. I...
A. 18 May 2014: It's pretty far along in the pregnancy, so are you going to keep it and raise it? At 4 1/2 months in, you're starting to show, and you need to consider your child's needs now even over your own fears. You are worried about being "another ... (read in full...)
He wanted to bottle me up?
Q. Today was the last day with one of our college tutors and so we planned to go out for pizza at one of the local bars after class. I said I'd maybe join a little later, if I didn't have too much work. I did, but came when everyone except or tutor had ...
A. 17 May 2014: Oh that's the whole "You're so cute I could just eat you alive" or "She's so sweet she gave me a toothache" kind of banality that shows maybe a light crush veiled by humor. Remember that your tutor passed the message, so it may have been slightly ... (read in full...)
I've become very uncomfortable with this "friendship"
Q. So I have this guy friend... I don't even know whether to call him a friend because we don't really interact outside when we bump into each other at a mutual friend's house or something. One random night, about 1.5-2 years ago, we talked late into...
A. 17 May 2014: This guy is *not* your friend. Copping feels, invading your privacy by rifling through your phone for naked pictures, and groping you while you're trying to get your phone back is really creepy behavior, and if it's unwanted and unsolicited, it's ... (read in full...)
Moving back home has changed the relationship with my Mother
Q. Hi, I apologise for what might be an essay-length post in advance. In 2011 I left home to attend university and spent two years living away. Without overemphasising its importance too much, this was an enjoyable and changing experience for m...
A. 16 May 2014: Yeah, there's a lot at play here. When I moved out, suffice it to say that the last 6 months I lived there was very volatile, because I was the first child to move out and my mom didn't take it very well. She would do the same thing - fly into ... (read in full...)
I want to stay friends with 'the other woman' but she says she hates me
Q. I am a separated male who still is friendly with my wife, we have 2 beautiful teenage girls and we remain very close after 6 years of separation. We still share family vacations and days out as a family and even the bed 1 - 2 times a month. I live...
A. 15 May 2014: You're MARRIED! You may be living in different places, but unless you're in an open relationship with your wife and can be open with her that you're seeing and sleeping with other people, then you're cheating.
You want a life catered to you, wit... (read in full...)
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