Is it bad to feel jealous of the excitement of a new relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 6 months, we both love and respect each other, I want to spend all my time with him and I know he feels the same way. However, recently my best friend from university met someone on holiday. I lived with her ...
A. 3 October 2011: Did you say that your friend and this new guy of hers have only been together for 2 weeks? Something seems kinda off. Two weeks and they're already publicly writing "I love you" messages all over Facebook, and huge "xxxxxx's" and calling each ... (read in full...)
How to get over prostitute guilt, and should I confess in future relationships?
Q. I started going to strip clubs a year ago with friends who were into it, and towards the end of the year, got into drinking and then going to prostitutes. I went three times, before I couldn't bear the guilt anymore. Since then I have been for ...
A. 3 October 2011: If you've had an extensive STD test and have been cleared from the possibility of any STD's, then there's no reason to tell a potential girlfriend about your brothel adventures. If she asks you about past sexual experience, just say you did do some ... (read in full...)
She's the girl of my dreams but she wants space.
Q. Hello, I have been in a fairly good relationship for almost 5 years now, I love my girlfriend so much but she doesn't seem to appreciate it, lately things have started to go downhill, its been over 5 weeks since we have been intimate, we have had no ...
A. 3 October 2011: Unfortunately, Deema's right. A "break" is pretty much a "breakup". She wants to break up, but the "break" part is usually to soften the blow.
You're 18-21? If she's the same age, and the two of you have been together for 5 years, then you both... (read in full...)
When sexually stimulated I lose total control of my body!
Q. I was just wondering if my situation is normal, weird, or what ... anytime I get sexually stimulated (be it by myself or my bf) I literally lose control of my body; I can't stay still even if I wanted to. I buck, twitch, tremble, my legs cramp, i...
A. 3 October 2011: That's what is supposed to happen!
Sex is all about losing control. Many women can't have an orgasm because they can't lose control and let themselves go. You have learned. Don't worry about how you look, because I'm quite sure that to your boy... (read in full...)
Boyfriend finished oral sex rather than stopping so we could have sex!
Q. last night i gave my boyfriend a blowjob thinking that it was just a starting way for us to have an intimate moment that very same time. but then i was surprised that instead of him getting into the mood, he just blew it all by himself and nothing ...
A. 3 October 2011: Well then. Why didn't he go down on you after he finished?
What this means is that he lacked the self-control to stop. Sounds like what you were doing to him was so good he didn't want it to stop, and then...well...you know the rest.
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Is it because of age factor or something else? Please help me
Q. i fell in love with a girl, who was just 15-year-old when i was 22. It has been more than 1 year having this relationship. She is about to be 17 in october 22 and i have been 24 lately. She loves me alot. She claims to love me more than all the ...
A. 2 October 2011: WHAT??????
You challenge her to come in front of you so that you can KILL her?? What the hell is wrong with you???
This has nothing whatsoever to do with her age difference, and more to do with how horrible as a person you are.
You call... (read in full...)
I'm always anxious... and I miss my ex!
Q. I am always anxious and i miss you ex. I am 21 and I've been in a serious relationship since i was 16. We were amazing together. Of course we had our ups and downs but mostly things were great, until last year. Things went all downhill and we fough...
A. 2 October 2011: I must ask you, and you don't have to answer in print here, but did you lose your virginity to him? Was he your first?
If the answer is yes, a lot of what you're feeling is that bonding chemical that happens many times when women first lost the... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me out of the blue
Q. I'm 33 and have been in a fabulous relationship of 6 months with my boyfriend. He speed up things since we met by introducing me to his friends and family very quickly, inviting me to go with him to a wedding 3 weeks after our first kiss, making ...
A. 1 October 2011: Yeah, this sounds like a bit of mental illness. You "rode the high" with him, and it's evidenced by the incredible speedup of milestones. Wanting children? Stopping condoms? Talking about love and marriage and children in very few months?
... (read in full...)
I used to be bullied and vowed to never do the same but these two classmates are making it really hard!
Q. I have 2 classmates that annoy me to no end. I'm not the only one who feels this way; they're basically outcasts to the class. Now, I used to be bullied when I was in highschool. Not the usual stuff everyone deals with some time in their lives, but ...
A. 1 October 2011: You are no longer in high school. You're in the university. You have one goal -- to make your grades and choose your career path. The petty gossipping and bullying and stuff should have ended with high school.
If any student is making it hard ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me I need to be more independent.
Q. me and my bf were talking about how wish i can be away form my parents,i had had enough with them he told me that i should make more friends because it's kinda weird if i'm with him most of time... my instinct felt weird when he said this so i a...
A. 1 October 2011: You might not believe this, but in this case, I think he was actually trying to be helpful to you.
You were driving the conversation talking about wanting to be free of your parents. He was trying to offer up a solution to help you become f... (read in full...)
This girl asked that my best friend stop hanging around so much
Q. So I don't really know what to do, now. I really like her and I genuinely think she's sweet and cute and all, but there's this nagging feeling always in the back of my mind. She hasn't had a good history with boys, because all the guys in her crow...
A. 1 October 2011: Actually, you are an intelligent guy. I think you're absolutely right in that she wants the boyfriend experience, but wants to shape and change you into her ideal.
Don't let her separate you from your best friend. Girls will come and go, but ... (read in full...)
Who had cheater's behavior? Him or me?
Q. im rlly feeling bad ... i just broke up with my boyfriend ..i loved him to death but i think he cheated ... our relation was within distance ...and one day we were talking on msn and i told him im going out with friends ..he agreed and he asked me ...
A. 1 October 2011: Tell me you didn't break up with him on MSN messenger??
Personally, I don't think either one of you showed "cheater behavior". Just because it's late and he's a little less enthusiastic and quick about answering emails does not make him a cheate... (read in full...)
My husband blames fertility issues on me being over weight! Couldn't it just as well be HIM that is the problem?
Q. Hello all, I have been with my man for 5 years, married for almost three. We havent been actively trying to have a baby but we havent not been trying either. For years I thought my husband had issues downstairs, and I found out I have fertilit...
A. 30 September 2011: Good grief. Unless your husband has a medical degree as an OB/GYN, he has no idea whatsoever why you're having problems conceiving. He's overweight and blaming you? What a laugh and a half.
It's disconcerting that you only see him every tw... (read in full...)
I can't get hard when we try to have sex for the fourth time in a night. Should I be worried?
Q. me and my girlfriend have been together about a month now and we have had sex multible times and it was amazing. ive never had a problem getting hard for her even after having sex with her to go again. but my question is after the 3rd time of ...
A. 30 September 2011: REFRACTORY PERIOD. This means that you can't just go 24/7 without your body needing to rest and recharge. That means 8 hours of sleep and a good breakfast, Studly.
This girl thinking she's not good enough for you because you only went three ti... (read in full...)
Is he lying or cheating?
Q. We've been together 1 year. I have access to his Facebook account and it looks fairly ok (one thing from January had me a little spooked). I checked out another "social site" and his profile said "Looking for a Relationship" (among other things ...
A. 30 September 2011: I am not so fast as to say that he should be trusted.
If all of your friends are saying that you're the first girl that he hasn't cheated on, and he's still checking his other social site once a month, that's enough reason to stay on your guard, e... (read in full...)
We're desperate for some 'alone time' to take things to the next level
Q. Okay. To clarify- we're both legal and certain that we want to take our relationship to 'the next level', so please don't judge me -_- Basically, I live with my parents and sister, and he lives with his mom and sister. They never seem to be out o...
A. 30 September 2011: First of all, there's nothing to judge! No one's cheating on someone else, and you both are of age and consenting! So knock yourselves out!
I get to give you the standard lecture though! Be safe!! Condoms are a must, and if you haven't started ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring me and I feel miserable, please help me!
Q. We met on a dating website 7 months ago and have been meeting and chatting in a regular basis but never more than that. Few weeks ago he was very sweet, more than usual, and I thought things were getting better. Then he disappeared from the chat, I ...
A. 30 September 2011: I'm unclear. Have you met him in person, or have you only been "meeting" him in chat rooms online? Have you never met him in person??
It's really ridiculously easy to be any sort of person you want on the internet. It sounds a lot like he has a... (read in full...)
Is wife dropping hints that she wants a threesome?
Q. My wife has REALLY enjoyed when I use a dildo on her while giving her oral, about a month ago, I was doing that, and then just using the dildo on her. She said, you like watching that don't you? Are you imagining another guy doing me? I said yes! ...
A. 30 September 2011: Fantasies are fun! Role playing with the dildo is fun too!
But boy are you risking a lot if you bring another guy into the relationship, even for a threesome. Women are very susceptible to developing feelings for the guys they're sleeping... (read in full...)
Could I really just be a late bloomer?
Q. Okay, I'm honestly starting to believe I'm a late bloomer. Both my dad and my brother are both hairy guys. I'm 19 and my navel hair is just starting to kick in. Everybody keeps saying, "Oh some guys don't grow hair on their bodies." Bullshit, Both ...
A. 30 September 2011: Your friends are right. Remember, it's not just from your father that you inherit hair patterns on your head and body. Your mom's DNA has a say as well, which is why some of the siblings get their mom's eye color and others the dad's.
Just ... (read in full...)
Trust issues between bf and I, don't know why he still doesn't trust me, and don't feel I have any reason to trust him.
Q. Hi, so I'm in a going on two years relationship, we live together and we are both serious. Problem is, in the beginning of our relationship, he did some stupid things and lost my trust. He lied a lot in past relationships and is trying to stop ...
A. 30 September 2011: Huh. So let's get this straight. He still is in contact with the ex to the point of flirty text messages that you discovered?
Not only that, but he is secretly webcamming you without your knowledge? His ex is also a computer hacker and you're g... (read in full...)
His parents hate me
Q. Ok, so i lied to my boyfriend and he forgave me but his parents absolutely hate me. They used to like me but when i lied to my boyfriend, it made them hate me. Then me and my boyfriend got in a fight yesterday and he texted me and said goodbye and ...
A. 30 September 2011: What did you lie to your boyfriend about??
If I'm guessing correctly, he and his parents are close. This means that if you lie to him or hurt him, he confides in his parents (I'm guessing mostly his mom), and they become very protecti... (read in full...)
If men want their women to look like porn stars, why don't us women care that our men don't look like porn stars??
Q. I'm 25, and I'm here to discuss pornography and men. Some but not all men complain their women don't look like porn stars/models etc. but how come women don't do the opposite and ask for 6-packs/chiselled bodies / big penises etc? Or if they do,...
A. 30 September 2011: I totally get the meaning of your question, but I've just gotta say...UGH. Male porn stars look utterly NASTY. No way would I ever want a guy who looked like one of them. Many times, they're significantly less easy on the eye than their plastic ... (read in full...)
She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!
Q. I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...
A. 29 September 2011: Hmm...that's a bit different. She must realize that penetration, however slight, is enough to end the state of virginity. Any law regarding sex crimes always adds the part "penetration, however slight, is enough to complete the act".
When ... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for 2 and a half years for my boyfriend to talk to me! Is he worth it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 years and a month. (Since I was 12, and now I'm 17.) After 2 and a half years together, he moved across the US from me. Before he left, everything in our relationship was GREAT! He was the perfect ...
A. 29 September 2011: Seriously? If you two haven't been talking for 2 years, nd he has some sort of very good reason for not talking to you, then he's not your boyfriend. You two are not going out now.
With the internet, phone, and texting, he has every tool in ... (read in full...)
She saved herself for marriage, but we went too far! She's been crying for days!
Q. I was an arse. I've been with this woman for a year and she has been saving herself for marriage. Last week, she asked me to let her experience only a bit of myself and I impulsively took her. She hasn't stopped crying for days. She says she lov...
A. 28 September 2011: Well, as stupid as she was for even asking for something like that in the first place, am I understanding that she only wanted to feel what you felt like near her privates, and you not only entered her and broke her hymen without her consent, but ... (read in full...)
We flirt all the time, then he goes silent on facebook. Does it mean anything?
Q. So I work with this guy and we flirt all the time and are friends on facebook. So I sent him message saying it would be nice to know him better but he never responded, however he is rarely on facebook what does it mean any suggestions?...
A. 28 September 2011: Do you flirt via FB message or only in public on the wall?
I know that Facebook just switched their email policy so that they don't email you for everything, so it's possible that he hasn't seen your message yet.
You know, you work with hi... (read in full...)
I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!
Q. Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...
A. 28 September 2011: If you were in the presence of your girlfriend, would you visibly ogle another woman, slowly looking up and down her and lingering on her breasts and other parts?? Would you comment on their "fuckability" and given your crotch an appreciative ... (read in full...)
It's been a week now. I don't know how to proceed with her. Should I tell her '' No''? or say more?
Q. So I have this friend I have known for two years now. Several months after meeting she confessed that she liked me as "more than a friend", thought I was sexy, smart, wonderful and said she wanted to date me. I was very flattered but am not ...
A. 28 September 2011: Yeah, that was awkward, bordering on creepy.
How you proceed depends on how close of friends you two are. If you two are close, you need to inform her, gently but firmly, that what she did can never ever happen again, and that if she can't ha... (read in full...)
I have been talking to a guy for 11 months and he has gone out and had sex with someone else. I feel betrayed
Q. Hello i met this man on dating site we talked for 11 months, i saw him through webcam, i talked to his family through the phone he was supposed to visit me . But i told him that i will move to his country for study but then soon the war broke out in ...
A. 27 September 2011: Chigirl has some good points.
I will bring this a step further here and mention that he said that he has a "sex problem". He went out and had sex when you were mere days from meeting him. This means that he lacks self-control, and has a sexual a... (read in full...)
Did she lie to me about being a virgin?
Q. hi.. M 22yrs old n my g.f is 18.. She told me that she is a virgin but when we had sex.. She got such tight pussy but she didnt bleed but felt pain in another day.. She never played any sport nor cycle.. Is she lying to me? Plz tell me sm1.. Shall i ...
A. 27 September 2011: She wasn't lying to you. All the things you mentioned confirm that she actually was one (i.e. soreness, tightness). It's very common not to bleed. or bleed so slightly that it could be mistaken as general insignificant spotting. Not every woman ... (read in full...)
How much trouble would we be in if we have sex at a movie theatre and get caught?
Q. I am 19 and I have been with my bf Brett for 2 yrs. Our 2 yr anniversary is on wednesday and I wanted to do something special so I asked him what he would like to do. I was kinda shocked when he sadi he had 2 things he had always wanted to do the ...
A. 27 September 2011: One word.
YOUTUBE.
If you have sex in a movie theater, someone could whip out their iPhone and take some juicy public action. Then they could either use it as evidence in your public sexual indecency trial, or they could post it on Youtube wi... (read in full...)
B/f wants me to move to where he is and I can't do it!
Q. Dear Aunts, We just had a fight. My boyfriend got so furious seeing me talking to another guy on facebook. I wasn't doing anything wrong, and plus this guy is way younger than I am. So I defended myself and said that he should have put his tru...
A. 27 September 2011: You're at the moment of truth.
This is your life's crossroad.
This isn't really about you talking to another guy. I don't know if you and this Facebook guy were being flirtatious, but what your long distance boyfriend is telling you is t... (read in full...)
After seeing his emails I feel like I can be replaced
Q. my Bf left his fb open on my pc... i didn't realize it was his at first clicked on the messages and saw that he was in serious contact with his ex... to the point of lending her 2500.00 to get a place... she is having issues with her man etc... same ...
A. 27 September 2011: He's going to visit you?
He is CHEATING on you!!!
What are you waiting for, a neon "I CHEATED" sign??
Break up with him now!... (read in full...)
How do I stop becoming bitter?
Q. After you have been burned by someone, how do you stop from becoming bitter and cynical about love? I still feel my heart becoming harder. And anger and frustration dampening my hope and enthusiasm so that I do not believe in love anymore. What...
A. 27 September 2011: You know, to be honest, the old and seemingly-worn-out axiom that seems to be the most relevant in a jaded and disillusioned heart is this:
Attitude is everything.
Think about how you are when the subject isn't love. Would you say that you're ... (read in full...)
I was considering writing him a short email with my phone number. Is this stupid to do?
Q. I will be leaving my job soon and was hoping to keep in touch with certain people..There is a guy coworker in my area..i sometimes feel the way we look at each other we like each other and other days things are just normal without any looks..we also ...
A. 27 September 2011: Yeah, if he's dating someone else now, that's a really clear sign that he's not looking to pursue you romantically.
If you're leaving your job that he's in, best to chalk him up to a work memory and move on.... (read in full...)
When my ex and I are around each other, he tries to stay busy, why?
Q. Hello, I would love a mans perspective on this as well as a womans! My Ex and I have known each other for 10 years, was together for 1 year and have been broken up for 2 years now. We still remain friends but feelings are still there on both of our ...
A. 27 September 2011: Well, what you really have now is a "friends with benefits" situation. Yes, you have a history, but the old relationship you once had is now gone. You still refer to him as an ex, and I'm sure you are doing that in public (referring to him as "ex" ... (read in full...)
After seeing his emails I feel like I can be replaced
Q. my Bf left his fb open on my pc... i didn't realize it was his at first clicked on the messages and saw that he was in serious contact with his ex... to the point of lending her 2500.00 to get a place... she is having issues with her man etc... same ...
A. 27 September 2011: First of all, his ex sounds *ROTTEN*. She snakes $2500 from your boyfriend behind HER boyfriend's back and makes fun of your posts and eggs him on and encourages him not to reply to you?? What a nasty pig of a girl. What's worse is that he's not ... (read in full...)
I love him. If he was doing his part, would I be cheating? But am I wrong?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together 9 months, known each other 3 years, havent seen each other in 3 months, spoke on the phone once in those 3 months. our primary form of communication is texting. And sometimes we go a week without a text, es...
A. 27 September 2011: "I wouldn't have cheated if he was there for me how a relationship should be."
Best to take responsibility for your own choices and not cop out to other's behavior. Would you also say to the judge that you had to rob a bank because your job laid... (read in full...)
If he's not a breast man, why did he notice hers?
Q. Hi, I just want to know if I am over reacting or if my husband has not been respectful. My husband never touches my breasts and every time I ask why he just says that is him and he is not attracted to women’s breasts. I have been suffering a...
A. 27 September 2011: PS....when I hear that stuff about men saying they're "breast men" or "leg men", I keep thinking of a guy eating a plate of chicken. Where are all the good "gizzard men"? heh.
I can't help it. :|... (read in full...)
If he's not a breast man, why did he notice hers?
Q. Hi, I just want to know if I am over reacting or if my husband has not been respectful. My husband never touches my breasts and every time I ask why he just says that is him and he is not attracted to women’s breasts. I have been suffering a...
A. 27 September 2011: No, he's not right. He's a complete idiot.
I'm guessing that he was being sarcastic or trying to be humorous or fit in with this conversation, but to remark on a woman's breasts like that in front of his wife is absolutely disrespectful and call... (read in full...)
How common is it for women to have sex because they think it will help "catch" a guy?
Q. I realize this is a very broad question, and every woman is different so there's no single "right" answer, but I'm curious what people's general thoughts are? To what extent do women have sex because they think it will help them catch a guy? I r...
A. 27 September 2011: First, I think the whole "women give sex to get love and men give love to get sex" is a flawed statement, because it implies that love and sex are not expressions of love, but merely the tools for the bartering of services.
Also, in my opinion,... (read in full...)
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