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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
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30 September 2011: Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
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Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 23 December 2011: ROFL.. my ADHD made me forget that conversation... sorry!
I guess I'm very clear about my flirting and if someone thinks I am hitting on them, they are making it up in their head.... ... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 23 December 2011: to IamheiAmHereToHelpYou:
see that's where you are missing the point... flirting is NOT sexual. if it's harmless and friendly even with babies it's FLIRTING
if it's sexual it's HITTING ON THEM...
for me when I "flirt" with my fiance i... (read in full...)
4 yrs with my bf who still married but separated..still no sign of filing for divorce!
Q. hi everyone, I needed help and advice as I'm in so much pain.. I love my bf so much.. i am single mum and currently in a relationship with a man whos 18 yrs older than me and still married. were in a long distance relationship for 4 years now ...
A. 24 October 2011: here's an old cliche.... "that which does nto kill us makes us stronger"
it is hard.
be strong.
be brave.... (read in full...)
4 yrs with my bf who still married but separated..still no sign of filing for divorce!
Q. hi everyone, I needed help and advice as I'm in so much pain.. I love my bf so much.. i am single mum and currently in a relationship with a man whos 18 yrs older than me and still married. were in a long distance relationship for 4 years now ...
A. 21 October 2011: sometimes OP we have to suffer pain to get to the good stuff.
I believe that yes in the LONG run you will be happier without him.... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 18 October 2011: Flirting that is intended to get someone's sexual attention is very much sexual. And when done to a taken person is rude.
FLIRTING as I am talking about it, is
a. NOT sexual
b. NOT to be hidden from a person's partner
c. NOT contrive... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 7 October 2011: Thank you for your very detailed response.
I clearly see your point of view and while I disagree with it I respect it enough to think that maybe i should not talk to anyone anymore but my boyfriend.
Seriously. How in the world can I NOT flirt.... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 7 October 2011: Thank you for your very detailed response.
I clearly see your point of view and while I disagree with it I respect it enough to think that maybe i should not talk to anyone anymore but my boyfriend.
Seriously. How in the world can I NOT flirt.... (read in full...)
You don't bring me flowers anymore..
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been ...
A. 6 October 2011: does he have to say it? NO
do you want him to say it YES
do you NEED him to say it: maybe
if you do you need to tell him.. if he can't it may be a deal breaker.
MY BF never says it to me... well rarely maybe once a month or so.. but he SHOWS... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 6 October 2011: Dear Anonymous poster,
At first I thought you were male but now I am not so sure. Hard to tailor my response to anonymous folks without a gender so I'll be generic..
You said: "I hate it when people flirt with me, it makes me feel horrible ab... (read in full...)
You don't bring me flowers anymore..
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been ...
A. 6 October 2011: ROFL we have two places still in two different cities... we still consider ourselves living together as we are together more than we are apart.
we refer to our places as our {his state} apartment and our {my state} home...... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 5 October 2011: Oh Chigirl you are so right what this girl is doing is NOT harmless and to me it's not even FLIRTING.. it's blatant exploitation of her sexuality to gain attention to stroke her ego.
See this is interesting to me... I would NOT classify what you... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still be a virgin at 22?
Q. Um ... I am writing this because I am not sure if it's normal. I am a young female (22 years old), kind of tall, OK-looking .. and I've never been asked out. Like .. ever. I was recently having a casual conversation w/ some of my peers...
A. 5 October 2011: It's perfectly normal for YOU. It's harder to meet folks when you are shy.
If you don't meet folks, you don't date and you need to date and have relationships in order to have social and sexual intercourse...
Are there any hobbies you have... (read in full...)
Age gaps while dating in school?
Q. My mates younger brother asked me a question the other day that i couldn't answer properly so I thought I would ask the dearcupid community. In a rough round about way he is 15 and he fancies a kid a 2 years younger but he was getting stick fr...
A. 5 October 2011: 2 years when older is not a big deal. and in some cases even now 13 and 15 can work out but there are huge differences between 13 and 15 on many levels.
even 15 and 17 is a better fit.
the older we get the less the age matters...... (read in full...)
You don't bring me flowers anymore..
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months...we moved fast and are in a committed relationship. I want to know why things change...We used to text constantly during the day..now? Not as much...He used to bring flowers...Now? Nope..We have been ...
A. 5 October 2011: once you are living together you can see each other every day and communicate face to face.. texting and calling tends to get less and less... even emails stop... because you will talk to each other when you get home and have dinner...
SOUND... (read in full...)
I'm very attached to him, but I find him boring!
Q. Help. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. Well first off, I love him, i'm very attached to him, I think about him all the time. And when he's gone I miss him so much. At the same time though, i'm bored with him, the sex is good, but t...
A. 5 October 2011: do not stay out of guilt...
and do not feel guilt that at your age you want to experience something new and different... that's what the teen years are for.... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 5 October 2011: "Tickling, sitting on their laps, splashing them in the pool, and flirting up a storm.
Oh dear... that's beyond what I'm talking about... seriously. I would never TOUCH a person I flirt with. Body contact is NOT flirting.
Sounds to m... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my boyfriend or go after the other guy who has a 6 month old baby and a babymama?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months now, our relationship is pretty good, I love him very much. The thing is about a year ago I hooked up with some guy I used to work with, we decided to stays friends but with time we grew apart. ...
A. 4 October 2011: You say you love your boyfriend very much but you are willing to ditch him for the baby daddy... not cool in my book.
the baby daddy is NOT interested in you as anything more than a plaything... tread carefully there.
as for the current boyf... (read in full...)
Can you be friends with your ex?
Q. Are there signs that your ex might want to give you another chance. I dont think mine is like the typical ex. but then again i dont know. she messaged me today so we talked a little bit but she kept asking me questions. and I got annoyed and said is ...
A. 4 October 2011: The best I've ever managed to be with an ex is civil. never friends.
I know folks want to try to remain friends because they think it looks good for them "see we remained friends" but it' never really works.
she wants to be on good terms so... (read in full...)
How do I make these feelings stop?
Q. I think I'm in love with someone who's with another woman. Neither one of us are married. We've been close friends for months, now. I've dated off and on, and he's been with his girlfriend for a couple of years. He calls me his BFF. He confide...
A. 4 October 2011: OUCH... this is a tuffy.
I'm not going to have a popular response here but my take on it is this....
You need to tell him how you feel. For all you know he feels the same way. Be prepared for him to NOT reciprocate those feelings and t... (read in full...)
4 yrs with my bf who still married but separated..still no sign of filing for divorce!
Q. hi everyone, I needed help and advice as I'm in so much pain.. I love my bf so much.. i am single mum and currently in a relationship with a man whos 18 yrs older than me and still married. were in a long distance relationship for 4 years now ...
A. 4 October 2011: so when you met him he lied and said he was single.
now he lies to you
he lies to his wife
he lies to his friends and family
and you are so hurting. for so many reasons. and I am sorry.
I wish I could say he's not using you.
I wish ... (read in full...)
I don't think I took my b/c pill when I had unprotected sex!
Q. hi, i have been taking my pill as normal, about 5 days in i had unprotected sex then today, about 4 days later i found one of my pills on the floor... it can only be from this month as i just moved out. i will be taking a pregnancy test when i a...
A. 4 October 2011: Unless it's changed a lot 2 weeks of BCP will NOT protect you from pregnancy. I always thought you had to be on them a month.
Call your doctor and ask what to do....
... (read in full...)
How do I get closer to the girl I love?
Q. ok im a 17 yrs old boy and i love a girl who is my neighbour.i dont know her name nor have i ever talked to her.for her education she lives at anither town and is back for her vacations so she is here right now and i dont know what to do......should ...
A. 4 October 2011: You don't love her. You like the way she looks.
what you do is you go up to her and say "hi" and talk to her... and ask her if she wants to get a coffee or soda or something....
BE brave. the worst she can do is say NO... and that's not a... (read in full...)
How long do women want their men to last?
Q. I thought I'd ask a question instead of answering all the time. I answered a question recently about how long a man should last in bed? So here is the question. After penetration, and without stopping, how long do most men last and how long do ...
A. 4 October 2011: not as long as they think I do... since I will NOT orgasm from penetration I am more than happy with 5 minutes or so....after that it gets pretty boring and painful as the lube dissipates...... (read in full...)
How do I deal with feeling so Betrayed? My husband told family intimate details of our sex life.
Q. My husband recently told my family that I let him try anal sex. This was really rude, disrespectful, and certainly uncalled for on my part. I am really upset that he felt it was 'ok' to share this private and personal information with my family of a...
A. 4 October 2011: My boyfriend OFTEN interprets peoples responses based ON HOW HE FEELS about something.
SINCE you were mortified (and rightfully so) is it even REMOTELY possible that everyone else (in the spirit of drunken revelry) had LESS of a response to it th... (read in full...)
I've lost hope over my Ex. But she's still confusing me by still contacting me. How can I move on?
Q. My ex girlfriend broke up with me because I screwed up. But she contacts me everyday. texts me or calls me. I dont answer. She broke up with me! Is this even normal? I thought when you break up with someone you dont talk to them and let the heal...
A. 4 October 2011: IF you have asked her if there is a chance you can get back together as a couple and she has said no, then the only thing you can do is block her number and ignore her. Eventually, without any response from you she will stop.
Personally, for me i... (read in full...)
Any make-up and style tips for me?
Q. I'm a pretty nerdy person. I have never had a boyfriend and I would like to change that. Most guys I like are out going and "crazy" but I'm pretty shy unless around friends. When I'm around my friends, I'm crazy, random, and fun. But with strangers ...
A. 4 October 2011: You need to be true to yourself and then the RIGHT boys will be attracted to you... the ones that FIT YOU...
You can either go to a department store and get tips and hints from the ladies that work at the make up counters usually for free or go to... (read in full...)
Will my breasts sag if he touches them?
Q. Hi all,i av a bf nd we love each other veri much.he likes touchin my breasts nd sometimes i feel like the way he is touching it could make my breasts to sag.i told him about this and he said that's not true.and also,that it's only those who breast ...
A. 4 October 2011: Gravity will make them sag
Pregnancy will make them sag
Breastfeeding will make them sag
Age will make them sag
your boyfriend touching them will NOT make them sag.... (read in full...)
The relationship has lost its spark
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend who is 25 for a year and a half. We moved in with each other pretty much straight away, about three months in... for the first 3 months of being with him we had sex maybe twice a day... always t...
A. 4 October 2011: teasing, taunting, belittling and telling you that you are stupid or annoying ARE NOT DONE IN JEST. These are signs of emotional abuse.
So he holds you down so the dog can have at you? That's physical abuse.
Tell me again why you are with him... (read in full...)
Seeing his old messages brought up my insecurities
Q. Well this morning my boyfriend left me alone in his flat as he went to work. I wanted to watch tv online so I turned it on but before decided to check my fb. As he never usually is logged in I didn't expect it when he was. I then began looking ...
A. 4 October 2011: You need to believe you are worthy of love. You need to love yourself. You need to accept that people have lives both before and after you are part of their lives and it does NOT detract from how they feel about YOU.
... (read in full...)
Married to rich girl, but her parents don't wana see me attending parties at their place, my wife doesn't know this, what should I do know?
Q. I am married to a girl for last 10 months with whom I was in a relationship for one year before we got married December last year. She is from extremely rich family and my monthly salary is equaled of her daily pocket money . Somehow she ...
A. 4 October 2011: I think your FIL is vile. He's also WRONG. AND your wife needs to know about this. She needs to be given the option to make HER OWN CHOICE. I am thinking she will choose NOT to attend without her beloved.
Be prepared for them to cut her off ... (read in full...)
We chatted online, why wont he talk to me face to face?
Q. Just met this guys who is really nice and I think I might like him alot. He added me on the Facebook and we started chatting, we have loads in common and I think he wants to be more then friends. However, when I see him around in college he do...
A. 4 October 2011: I agree with Angeldelite, sometimes the class clown, the outgoing charming one, is really deeply insecure and shy.
Just continue to be yourself and maybe cut back a bit on the online talks to force him to have more contact with you face to ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend uses emotional blackmail and I'm not sure how to deal with it anymore
Q. We’ve been dating for about 15 months. I am 27. My gf is 26. We attended my friends’ wedding. I know both the groom and bride. My gf came along as my guest, but she didn’t know neither of them. The wedding was ending since other guests were ...
A. 4 October 2011: Yeppers she needs to be given her key and told "you're right just friends" and you need to walk away from her.
I'm ALWAYS cold. my bf is ALWAYS hot. It's easier to put on a sweater or blanket than take stuff off. We keep a blanket in the car ... (read in full...)
I'm very attached to him, but I find him boring!
Q. Help. I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. Well first off, I love him, i'm very attached to him, I think about him all the time. And when he's gone I miss him so much. At the same time though, i'm bored with him, the sex is good, but t...
A. 4 October 2011: So what help would you like?
are we to tell you how to deal with intellectual boredom?
are we to tell you to stay with him?
are we to tell you how to leave him?
what is your question???
Personally I look at your age (16/17) and the fact th... (read in full...)
I want someone who will find me sexy and I don't think my boyfriend finds me sexy!
Q. ok so this is confusing. Been with my partner 3 years. It's on and off long distance, which has been hard but we've always worked out ok. Well I'm having an have been having doubts and I don't know if its my insecurity or what. Well I have this ...
A. 4 October 2011: AH OK I feel better 5 stone is not like 6 pounds or something so it's a bit realistic. Walking and HIKING are great exercise and since you like them it's a win-win situation.
LOSING the weight is EASY.. it's the keeping it off that's hard.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's parents broke up and now he's not sure he wants to be with me
Q. Hey everyone. So awhile ago my boyfriend found out his dad was leaving his mom. A few months later he came to me and said that he wasn't sure if he wanted to me with me anymore and it didn't seem like either of us were happy anymore. It eventually ...
A. 4 October 2011: If he refuses to go to counseling there is not much you can do. YOU CANNOT FIX HIM, you can only fix yourself.
5 years is a long time together to just walk away from.
He asked for space...I suggest as painful as it is that you should give it t... (read in full...)
Is my ex BF gay?
Q. I have been in a fantastic relationship with a 38 old handsome man who speed up the relationship since the beginning by introducing me to his family and friends very quickly and making tons of projects with me, telling me how much he loved me, etc. ...
A. 4 October 2011: He sounds just like my boyfriend right down to no real relationships at 38. My bf is NOT gay. He is in touch with his feminine side (we joke that he's the girl int he relationship) but he's not interested in being sexual with men which is what GAY ... (read in full...)
Does she regret what she did, does she miss me
Q. My gf and i broke up about 3 months ago.We dated for 3 years.She also has a 3 and a half year daughter,which i took as my own,because the childs father wanted nothing to do with them,he has never seen the child.She broke up with me to be with the ...
A. 4 October 2011: well of course her daughter is asking to see you... to her daughter you are daddy... ... (read in full...)
I want someone who will find me sexy and I don't think my boyfriend finds me sexy!
Q. ok so this is confusing. Been with my partner 3 years. It's on and off long distance, which has been hard but we've always worked out ok. Well I'm having an have been having doubts and I don't know if its my insecurity or what. Well I have this ...
A. 4 October 2011: just remember UBER skinny girls are NOT sexy.. most men especially older men prefer curves and softness on women...... (read in full...)
I'm 13, and I want to kiss my teacher!
Q. I have a huge crush on my form teacher and no one knows but every day when I come in to form I get more and more desperate to kiss him. I dont know how to do it though, or to do it at all. Also i really want to tell my friend but i am also worried ...
A. 3 October 2011: I was 17 when I had my teacher crush. He was a first year teacher so he was about 22 or 23 but It was STILL OFF LIMITS...
and sweetie no matter what you think or want... TEACHERS ARE OFF LIMITS TO YOU.
ask mom.
ask dad.
TEACHERS ARE A NO-G... (read in full...)
I broke up with b/f to make him realize he took me forgranted, but it backfired!
Q. i don't know what to do... i was in a long distance relationship for almost 5 years, and things were not going well... he's always been insecure, never trusted me enough and i was going through a rough time in my life... i really needed his suppo...
A. 3 October 2011: No it's NOT ok for him to toy with YOUR feelings but YOU allowed it. OWN your behavior.... (read in full...)
What's something really sexy I can do for his birthday?
Q. dear cupid, soo, my boyfriend's birthday is coming up. i've already bought the first part of his present. aaand of course, the other part of his present will probably be somewhere along the lines of birthday sex. the thing is, i want to come up ...
A. 3 October 2011: I had a boyfriend once who when shown pretty ligerie would say "that will make a lovely pile on the floor"
Chigirl is right... all they want is a beer and to see something naked. so bring him a beer while naked and prepare for hot birthday... (read in full...)
4 yrs with my bf who still married but separated..still no sign of filing for divorce!
Q. hi everyone, I needed help and advice as I'm in so much pain.. I love my bf so much.. i am single mum and currently in a relationship with a man whos 18 yrs older than me and still married. were in a long distance relationship for 4 years now ...
A. 3 October 2011: In my experience, a man will move heaven and earth to be with the one he loves. IF he is with you for four years already and you only see him sporadically, you can pretty much bet that what you currently have with him is all he wants to have with ... (read in full...)
Does she regret what she did, does she miss me
Q. My gf and i broke up about 3 months ago.We dated for 3 years.She also has a 3 and a half year daughter,which i took as my own,because the childs father wanted nothing to do with them,he has never seen the child.She broke up with me to be with the ...
A. 3 October 2011: There is really no way we can know what she is thinking or feeling...
The truth is that if a person is truly committed to someone it's rare that an ex returning will make them give up the current relationship to TRY to get back with the ex....
... (read in full...)
I'm only 15, if nothing's happened with a guy yet, will it ever?
Q. im 15 and i have not had any interact with a boy. ive never been kissed, or had a boyfriend or had sex. i get attention quite a bit from older men. but im worried that if i havent manged to do anything so far it will neverhappen. like i keep ...
A. 3 October 2011: 15 is young... give it time... you may meet someone next week... do not do anything with some random person just to get it done.... not a good idea.
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We fell in love while he was in Afghanistan, but he left me shortly after he got out
Q. I meet my boyfriend online almost a year ago. He was stationed at that time in Afghanistan and it was a rough time for the both of us. Waiting 9 months. I supported him all this time with letters, packages etc. We became closer and I started ...
A. 3 October 2011: You can't do anything to get him back sadly.
IF he will not address his PTSD he is not stable and not willing to do the work to get healthy...
He wants to work OVERSEAS away from you right? How is this working towards a permanent stable... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and have never had an orgasm!
Q. I am 23 years old. I never experienced having an orgasm... ..i want to but i cant do it..my bf ask why cant i ejaculate but i d know how to exactly!!! Any suggestions?'...
A. 3 October 2011: Wait wait wait... Women don't ejaculate. MEN do that. Women MAY "SQUIRT" which is to release fluid but that's not always going to happen... AND it's not mandatory for an orgasm.
Have you never masturbated to orgasm? Do you get sexually... (read in full...)
I used her laptop to watch porn, and now she's mad at me. I don't understand the fuss!
Q. Hey there, I got in somewhat of a shocking fight today with my girlfriend, let me explain. First of all she found out that Ive watched porn on her laptop in her house when she was in class. That day I woke up and she was already at class, I ...
A. 3 October 2011: Regardless of what YOU MEANT, she FEELS a totally different way and you have to respect her feelings.
Personally I'd not have a problem with it but then I'm not like most women... I have no problems with porn or masturbation...
the issue is ... (read in full...)
I broke up with b/f to make him realize he took me forgranted, but it backfired!
Q. i don't know what to do... i was in a long distance relationship for almost 5 years, and things were not going well... he's always been insecure, never trusted me enough and i was going through a rough time in my life... i really needed his suppo...
A. 3 October 2011: Yep, you get up and go out and make friends and get a hobby or take a class and MEET new people.
AND you learn... emotions are not to be toyed with... do not BLUFF in a relationship and do not leave someone in hopes they will chase you.... (read in full...)
I usually date skinny girls, my girlfriend is bigger. I'm worried I won't be attracted once she's naked!
Q. Okay so this is a rather simplistic question. I am 16 dating a girl a month younger than me; just to provide you with an age. I usually only date girls who are pretty skinny but I recently fell in love and am dating my best friend who is a little ...
A. 3 October 2011: ain't love grand :-)... (read in full...)
An older guy w/ two teen boys is flirting! Then his elder son did it!
Q. Hola! Yes, I'm learning spanish! Okay enough funny talk here's the question. Should an older guy w/ two teenage boys be winking and smiling and flirting at me? That happened when I went out o eat at a Chinese restaurant last friday. Then lat...
A. 3 October 2011: He should not be doing that. I'd suggest if he continues you tell your daddy...... (read in full...)
Why are men so sneaky about pornography?
Q. My finance and myself have been together for almost 3 years; long story short..When we met i seen history of porography on his computer; in the past year i have caught from history finders and my computer skills him looking up stuff. He said when ...
A. 3 October 2011: I've never had a man SNEAK porn or masturbating. Maybe because I ACCEPT both of them as a fact of life. I have no problem with my man taking care of himself. He has no problem with me taking care of myself.
WE are open and honest about it... (read in full...)
I want to hear I love you from him. Should I wait?
Q. I'm dating a great guy and it's sadly long distance. We do as much as we can to skype as often as possible and so far, it's working out well. When we are together (every three weeks or so) we are always having a great time. My boyfriend has ha...
A. 3 October 2011: My Boyfriend never says "I love you" we've been together 11 months and I think I've heard it from him ONCE (and he was drunk)....I Know he loves me. he told me early on that he can't SAY those words. HE KNOWS it's a limitation he has.
I had... (read in full...)
I want someone who will find me sexy and I don't think my boyfriend finds me sexy!
Q. ok so this is confusing. Been with my partner 3 years. It's on and off long distance, which has been hard but we've always worked out ok. Well I'm having an have been having doubts and I don't know if its my insecurity or what. Well I have this ...
A. 3 October 2011: There is a LOT to be said for EASY low maintanence women.
AND there is all kinds of sexy. AND you don't know he doesn't think you are sexy. Have you asked him?
I think part of the problem is how YOU see yourself. And what you feel you are... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 2 October 2011: Exactly Cindy. A natural flirt flirts because THEY CAN... it's not to gain anything (i.e. sex) it's flirting for the sake of flirting.. it's FUN.... and yes, those are the young guys that flirt with the old ladies at the nursing home, etc...... (read in full...)
Who is a Natural flirt? And what qualities signify a Natural Flirt?
Q. Today as I was leaving work and walking to my car, I passed, going in the opposite direction a co-worker who I *barely* know who was walking with another man. He is a tall, attractive man with an engaging smile and bright eyes. He's 10-15-maybe 20 ...
A. 1 October 2011: See I disagree with it to be honest. If someone thinks that I flirt just to hook up they would be wrong.
Flirting is not about LOVE.... it's about fun and humor... yes occasionally it's about hooking up but to me that's not true flirting... (read in full...)
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