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| | *o_Very_Confused's profile:I've got the life experience to be wise for others, not so wise for myself. A degree in psych doesn't hurt either. So when I respond to people while I may just give advice, I'm more inclined to ask you questions that make you think and make you HURT and figure out what to do....
Choices I make are made on years of experience and may not be the best choices for YOU but what I do and what I advise may be two different things. Like I've said I KNOW what's the BEST thing to do and do not always choose to do what's BEST for me.
My primary interests include age gap relationships where the woman is older than the man... I am 13 years older than my future husband... I am also currently very interested in 12 step programs and addiction and recovery
and Long distance relationships...
I also understand alternative lifestyles as I was a "swinger" in my last marriage and I am a bisexual woman although currently I am just with my one male partner by choice...
NEVER STAY WHERE YOU ARE UNHAPPY NO MATTER WHAT. DO not make the same mistakes I made.
Rules:
IF YOU HAVE AN UNEASY FEELING IT'S FOR A GOOD REASON.. listen to that little voice
NEVER EVER trust a liar. IF they lied once, they could lie again. IF you dont' trust them there's a reason for it. LISTEN to it.
IF you have to ASK if you should leave... just do it.
We don't know WHY someone did something... only why WE would do it... so you have to ASK THEM.
IF you are afraid to ASK your PARTNER anything.. it's not a good relationship and you should probably end it.
IF he only calls when he's horny at 2 am you are a booty call nothing more....
Old cliches:
Women need a reason to have sex; men just need a place
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Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: "dont deny i was a fool also. but i never cheated as i said to her last night, if id stuck my dick in another woman or similar then fair enough got no comeback on that but i didnt. what i saw was harmless actions, obviously not on reflection, but to ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 14 October 2011: you were not a fool for believing her. YOU were a FOOL for CHEATING on her and LYING to her and breaking YOUR PROMISE to her. ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: " ive got myself sorted out just and only for my family and Laura’s sake"
WRONG reason to get help. totally WRONG reason for seeking help and therapy. YOU need to go to therapy to FIX YOU and get help for you FOR YOU... NOT for Laura or the fami... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 13 October 2011: You really are NOT seeing the big picture are you?
this was not a fight that just happened... THIS WAS A YEAR AGO AND SHE HAS NOT CHANGED HER POSITION.
if you keep this up she may have the ability to get a restraining order... you need to let ... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 12 October 2011: so you were with your x and you met with Laura and plotted how to leave your current partners so you two could be together?
and I'll be you did that without permission from your first partner...
yeah... I think we are beating a dead horse here.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel resentful when someone makes you feel responsible for their personal happiness?
Q. I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt ...
A. 12 October 2011: You did the right thing. NOW if it's going to hurt you, remove him/block him on facebook at least for a bit.
His postings are drama queen in nature and designed to elicit sympathy from you and any mutual friends you may have.
Take the high... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 12 October 2011: So to recap...
you were a couple and were fully totally sexual including penetration. 6 months ago she decided she no longer wants penetration but does everything else and you have not discussed it further....
If the above is accurate, then y... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 12 October 2011: oh well wait.. she said you would try... let me get this straight... are you doing everything but penetration??? have you discussed it with her since she first brought it up?... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 11 October 2011: You do realize that by asking her to have sex with you even once a month you are totally DISRESPECTING her newfound wishes right?
You keep saying that you are ok with it and will stay with her.
Then do it. She probably has enough bad feeli... (read in full...)
Boyfriend paid more attention to his friend's son than my daughter. No one thought it was weird but me??
Q. Am I the only person who thinks that this situation is very hurtful? I was with my partner for fifteen years. When we met I was divorced and had a young daughter of seven years old. My partner was 5 years younger than me and from a single pa...
A. 11 October 2011: oh you are very very very entitled to FEEL your feelings and well you should.
I guess what I was missing amid all the emotion was that you are seeking a way to find peace with this relationship with this woman..
" I am left wondering how th... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel resentful when someone makes you feel responsible for their personal happiness?
Q. I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt ...
A. 11 October 2011: OUCHIES... a dear john email... ugh.
if you don't talk on the phone then I guess skype it is.
but you can keep it short...
"hey insert name here I really need some time to think about how I want to proceed with my life and I think it'... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 11 October 2011: compromise what?
are you thinking that asking her to have sex once a month is an ok thing to do?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend paid more attention to his friend's son than my daughter. No one thought it was weird but me??
Q. Am I the only person who thinks that this situation is very hurtful? I was with my partner for fifteen years. When we met I was divorced and had a young daughter of seven years old. My partner was 5 years younger than me and from a single pa...
A. 11 October 2011: "I gave this woman a huge - I mean really a huge - amount of my time using my own skills and knowledges to really help her"
ah so you are a kind generous giving person. Do you do these things because you can, because you want to or because ... (read in full...)
I masturbate a lot and I hate it. How can I stop?
Q. I am a girl and I masturbate. I'm a virgin and want to stay that way till marriage. I masturbate almost every night and anytime I'm alone which is usually a lot because my mom works. I even do it when my sister is in the house but she's never caught ...
A. 11 October 2011: sounds a lot like me at your age... I didn't have a computer or a cell phone so I would sneak into my parents room and read my dad's Penthouse magazines that he kept in his night table...
you sound quite normal to me.... (read in full...)
Should I approach him based on his body langauge?
Q. Hi everyone, I usually prefer trying to give advice rather than ask... But there has been something- rather someone- on my mind since last January. I'm basically asking if he's interested (typical I know) by the signs I list, or if I should...
A. 11 October 2011: when people list a laundry list of reasons we should comment on if another person likes them, it tells me they are putting way too much thought into this.
I make eye contact with folks on the highway when driving.. it happens.
IF you like h... (read in full...)
My wife is the breadwinner now and wants me to be a house-husband, should I do it?
Q. Hi I m from Detroit city age 35. I lost my job couple of years back because of the recession ; haven't been able to find another one. However, my wife,33, has a great job with big fat pay package. Surprisingly, she got a promotion during the rece...
A. 11 October 2011: do you like cooking and cleaning? if so go for it. I see nothing wrong with it.
are there children that require care before and after school? ... (read in full...)
Do you view oral sex as "less than" regular intercourse? Why?
Q. Do you view oral sex as "less-than" regular intercourse? I have dated a few girls in the past that readily admitted to giving head, but proudly stated they were still virgins. I have gone out with a few girls who blew me away, pun intended, by ...
A. 11 October 2011: deep sigh... these are what I call technical virgins.
sorry, sex is sex
oral SEX
anal SEX
vaginal SEX
sexual intercourse.
I think anything involving my face is more intimate.... (read in full...)
Should I make her leave me alone?
Q. My ex and I broke up. she wants to be freinds and talk. I cant be just her friend. I love her too much. I have told her I dont want to be friends. I told her to just move on and she doesnt. I dont want her to move on at all but she has told me that ...
A. 11 October 2011: you are not being selfish she is.
if you can't deal with being friends with her then have no contact. I can never deal with being just friends...... (read in full...)
How can I learn to accept he wants someone else but still loves me?
Q. My partner has decided to start looking for other female company on chat sites. We got into a situation of our doing but I found I could not cope with the situation. He cannot understand that I have feelings that get hurt. It is destroying our ...
A. 11 October 2011: YOU don't learn to accept it.
If you don't want it you say NO. IF he insists he has to leave.
but I doubt it's that simple. It never is.
can you elaborate as to why you think it's ok for him to seek outside companionship?... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: " why would you wanna be apart from the man you loved, struggling with 5 children and being alone? "
because the man you loved CHEATED on you and LIED to you and BETRAYED your trust...... (read in full...)
Is he just using me for sex?
Q. I know guy for about 11 year we never talk before i though he hated me bout 8weeks ago he gave me is number and we being having sex since dose he like me or is he just using me for sex please help me ...
A. 11 October 2011: Well other than sex what else do you do?
does he take you out to dinner or the movies
does he help you with things?
have you met his friends or family?
do you just sit around and talk sometimes?
go for a drive?
if all you d... (read in full...)
Why do I feel hurt that he thinks it's normal to go to a strip club/pole dancing at a stag party?
Q. The subject of my fiancee going to a stag weekend where there they go to a strip club/pole dancing came up (we're together a year). He said he wouldn't think of going twice and what was the big deal. I was shocked at his reaction. He was then ...
A. 11 October 2011: have you ever been in a strip club?
the men cannot touch the women even when getting a lap dance they have to sit on their hands.... the bouncers make sure to support the women in this.... the best dancer i ever saw was a (young) GRANDmot... (read in full...)
We are in love, but is she back with her boy toy?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship with a woman who is 42. I am 43. We have only seen each other 3times in the last 7 months and had sex on two of those occasions. I love her and she says she loves me completely. However a few weeks ago her ...
A. 11 October 2011: I'm in an LDR and I can tell you yep if you are not around it's easy to cheat... if you don't trust her (and you have no reason to) I'd end it.
either she's with YOU or she's with him... she can't have it both ways...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is just too emotional and needy and I cant handle it anymore, but I don't want to leave her in ths state either.....
Q. Patience with my girlfriend is wearing thin. All she ever does nowadays is complain about everything, she rarely asks me how I am, and if I have a problem she usually just tells me it's nothing or she just doesn't listen at all as if my issues don...
A. 11 October 2011: If you are not feeling loved and nurtured (and clearly you are not)
deep sigh the pain of ripping the band-aid off will be brief and then life goes on...
yeah I think she's sucking you dry and is not giving back what she's taking...... (read in full...)
I'm in an open relationship. my friend's brother and I had sex. So why did'nt he reply after our great night?
Q. My husband and i agreed to an open relationship not too long ago after being married for 6 years. I met my friends brother at a club few days back. He was flirting with me, buying me drinks, dancing with me etc. I told him about my relation...
A. 11 October 2011: deep sigh. An open marriage ruined my marriage. Just saying.
why in the world would you be hurt... in an open marriage extra curricular activities are all about sex and bodies... not emotional attachment. Sounds to me like you will be a very b... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my friends? Give in to my doubts? Alarm bells, not wedding bells are ringing in my ears?
Q. i'm with a guy who wants to marry me. Yet alarm bells are ringing? He has his own business in istanbul and two other businesses in another city. But my friends say he is using me for passport and visa. Has anyone any advice for me? ...
A. 11 October 2011: are YOUR alarm bells ringing?
how long have you known him?
do you know him in real life or just on the internet?
how did you meet?
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend paid more attention to his friend's son than my daughter. No one thought it was weird but me??
Q. Am I the only person who thinks that this situation is very hurtful? I was with my partner for fifteen years. When we met I was divorced and had a young daughter of seven years old. My partner was 5 years younger than me and from a single pa...
A. 11 October 2011: Well I think that I can see it without emotional eyes but you won't like what I have to say
young boys need male role models... that's why they have the Big Brotehrs and Big sisters foundation (because young girls being raised by dad need fem... (read in full...)
Sex for the 1st time was painful and now I think I'm angry and don't want to talk to my boyfriend!
Q. I had sex for the first time yesterday and it wasnt what i expected at all. It was PAINFUL and awkward... although my boyfriend is great and tried to make me feel extra comfortable i still felt uncomfortable. Now I dont feel like talking to him but ...
A. 11 October 2011: it's very very very wrong to cut him off. He's concerned and caring clearly...so i'm going to bet that the discomfort you felt was not intentional and he feels bad adn confused as well.
I can't see being angry at him.... I can see being angry bu... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel resentful when someone makes you feel responsible for their personal happiness?
Q. I am with a wonderful man whom I love very much. We are in a long-distance relationship but he is endlessly sweet, thoughtful, and loving to me. We talk every day on Skype. In most ways I feel I could not ask for a better man. But. He has been hurt ...
A. 11 October 2011: you are not being a jerk at all.
YOU are NEVER responsible for his feelings even if you do marry him. OR live with him.
If you are 21 and he is 50 we are talking a nearly 30 year age gap.
let's talk here..
it's age gap
it's long dista... (read in full...)
To Text or not to Text? Does it work for all or only for some?
Q. Hi All. I was wondering what you think is an acceptable amount to text your partner? See, I was once in a long term relationship with a girl who would always send a text each day with 'Good Morning' and then 'Good Night' later on, as well a...
A. 11 October 2011: I could text my bf all day... he HATES texting so I rarely text him. everyone is different... just because they don't like to text does not mean you are not important to them.
I email him important stuff and we talk on the phone as needed..... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable that I'd like sex with her every so often? She's stopped all sex now she is a Christian
Q. Dear cupid, I am in a relationship with this amazing girl and have been for over a 18 months, when we first dated we were having sex twice a week. This carried on until about 12 months later when she asked if we can stop having sex as she is a ...
A. 11 October 2011: ouch I'm sorry. She changed the rules on you mid-stream but it's not for some arbitrary reason.
IF she has become religious and it's part of her religious belief, you really have to respect that.
IF you love her that much and never want to le... (read in full...)
Can a school nurse give a pregnancy test?
Q. Hi im 15 and i think i might be pregnant the last time i had sex was early september and i had a period since then but it was kind of weird. A little over a week after my period i started spotting and my bras are leaving marks on me i know its ...
A. 11 October 2011: so glad you have an adult you can go to and that she's supportive.
best of luck!... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 11 October 2011: "rude, ignorant and selfish towards me. she only contacts me when she wants something and makes me feel unimportant"
and yet you want her to mistreat you or else you would leave.
so do you think you deserve better?
even if she won't... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend ?
Q. Should i dump my boyfriend ? I stayed at his place from thursday until yesterday and we argued on friday and saturday.we argued on friday because he wanted us to lose our virginity together,especially as it was his birthday.we couldnt though as i ...
A. 11 October 2011: He should be dumped hon. NO man should force a woman to feel bad about not having sex. and no woman should make a man feel bad either.
a temper only gets worse and the reaction to not having sex is not a good sign.
I'm sorry.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of people having a go at me over my relationship!
Q. Dear agony aunts I really need some advice as my prob is upsetting me so much and I don't know how to handle it. I am with a really amazing guy. He loves me and is loyal, kind and honest. I feel so lucky to have him. However, he has chi...
A. 11 October 2011: if your partner does not know about his ex threatening you he needs to know. keep records of her threats and if she escalates you need to report her.
as for your family... you are over 21 and unless they are supporting you, they should have no ... (read in full...)
The difference between breaking up and on a break???
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend on Saturday. However after several break downs on Saturday, and seeing him yesterday I've realized I really want to be with him, and he want's to be with me. So we've retitled our breakup, to a break. My question is ...
A. 10 October 2011: maybe you just had a fight?
a break means no contact in my opinion and rarely work...
whatever YOU and your partner decide is ok for you two is what YOUR break is. I don't think there are any rules...... (read in full...)
Help! The long and the short of it!
Q. hi I'm just 20 and going to university for engineering studies. We moved to a small town recently. I'm about 5'2" and 140 lbs. There's a big tall amazon girl who is 22 years old in the neighbourhood. She is almost 7 feet tall and about 400lbs, ...
A. 10 October 2011: if you like her why not?... (read in full...)
Emotional affairs...
Q. via text, emails, pictures and dating sites, women, is it really that bad when a man does it? even after a year my ex still goes on about it when i ask her to start again and see how we get on. silly cow isnt interested and just uses these as an ...
A. 10 October 2011: yeah it's in MY opinion WORSE than a physical affair.
You want to get back together with a woman you call SILLY COW??? Nice... so when you're mad at her what do you call her then.... ( I guess silly cow is a term of endearment)
She's N... (read in full...)
A sex question!
Q. I have been dating this girl for quite some time now. I would say about a month. We do a lot of relationship type of things like going out, spending the weekend together, and staying in. We kiss, hug, cuddle... real basic stuff. However, we have not ...
A. 10 October 2011: my thoughts on this are that it's a conversation you need to be having WITH HER now a bunch of strangers. ONLY she knows how she feels about this.
every one is going to be different in terms of how they approach having sex the first time in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex all the time!
Q. Hi Everyone thank you for reading this even if you cant help me. I recently turned 18 and im in a relationship with a 30 year old women. She treats me well and i feel close to her, loved and respected but i still feel like there is something ...
A. 10 October 2011: you love her?
why do you love her?
what are the specific things you love about her? (don't tell me write the list for yourself) make it as long as you possibly can...
make it on half the side of the paper... draw a line down the middle ... (read in full...)
Am I Too Sensitive?
Q. My husband and I have only been married 3 years. We are both in our 50's. We usually get along very well and he's always been very respectful of me but recently we have had some really severe financial problems that have put a bit of a strain on ...
A. 10 October 2011: so the issue is still going back to the money.
and how you and he don't handle it the same.
I am not sure how it's done in your home but in my home it always has and always will be all for one and one for all. This means that what's m... (read in full...)
First it's all good. Then he stops replying. Then stupid excuses. what does his confusing behaviour mean?
Q. Why would a guy who seemed really into you, told you he liked you a lot, text you all the time, suddenly not reply to your text message? Secondly after a couple of weeks you text him again, but this time he replies, with a stupid excuse as to why...
A. 10 October 2011: Short attention span.... he is now bored with it... not your fault... ... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time dealing with husband's selfish and uncaring ways!
Q. I am seeking your opinion and advice regarding the state of my marriage.. I have been married for nine years and over this period of time I have experienced a decline in the way my spouse has been relating to me. First of all let me confess t...
A. 10 October 2011: Yes I agree that you holding your tongue leads him to believe you accept his behavior.
He is keeping a huge part of his life from you and to me that would be unacceptable. He is hiding things. and maybe people.
I personally would not accept... (read in full...)
I really want him back, but does this plan make sense?
Q. All opinions needed and welcome....and sorry for the lengthy read. So I had been in a LDR for 3 years and then in April he dumped me because he became depressed. It took me a couple of months to get over it but I managed but I still love him. ...
A. 10 October 2011: do not base your decision to go over there on him.
do not count on him as a companion for your trip.
it does not sound to me like he's willing or ready to make the commitment to you for this 2 year time period.... (read in full...)
Can a long distance relationship work for two 15 year olds?
Q. Hey not a big problem but I just wanted to know whether a potential relationship between 2 15 year olds in the Uk that live about 30 miles away could work. As I have been in love with this girl for about 3 months, I can't focus at school I find it h...
A. 10 October 2011: to be honest:
maybe but not likely.
30 miles when you don't have a car and the cash or time to make the drive might as well be 3,000 miles.
and it's highly unlikely at age 15 you have those things.
That being said....
I would sugges... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex all the time!
Q. Hi Everyone thank you for reading this even if you cant help me. I recently turned 18 and im in a relationship with a 30 year old women. She treats me well and i feel close to her, loved and respected but i still feel like there is something ...
A. 10 October 2011: I'm thinking getting in touch with your parents to see if you can reconcile and come home is a great plan...
As an older woman with a younger man (he's 13 yrs younger than I am) I do not treat him any differently than I would a man of my own age.... (read in full...)
How do I stop letting him get his way?
Q. Long story short: i (stupidly) slept with this guy and i lost my virginity to him (he doesn't know that). After i slept with him he said he wasn't looking for anything serious but because i liked him i agreed to sleep with him anyway. This goes on ...
A. 10 October 2011: You are not rubbish, It's hard to have willpower and just say no but that's what you have to do for a short period of time.
you need to not take his calls, texts, emails etc. block his number if you can...
IF he comes to see you you just... (read in full...)
We're talking about moving in together, but our circumstances have been very different
Q. I was hoping to get some input or advice from married women or just people with experience in this kind off thing. I started seeing my boyfriend a few months ago. He's a bit older than me but I am 25 myself. I love him so much for his personality, ...
A. 10 October 2011: If you are moving in with him you need to be able to discuss all things with him. Finances are an important thing to have worked out before you combine households...
You also should discuss all the things that concern you about HIM WITH HIM.
... (read in full...)
Can a school nurse give a pregnancy test?
Q. Hi im 15 and i think i might be pregnant the last time i had sex was early september and i had a period since then but it was kind of weird. A little over a week after my period i started spotting and my bras are leaving marks on me i know its ...
A. 10 October 2011: I do not think the school nurse can or will give you a pregnancy test but a local Planned Parenthood would.
... (read in full...)
Not happy with our open relationship anymore, but then again I would rather him not cheat on me if we went exclusive! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 17 f in a 9 month open relationship. To start with I was completely fine with this- wasn't anything serious just getting to know eachother more etc. But 9 months later I am serious about being with this guy and it hurts to see him texting ...
A. 10 October 2011: sorry if you are not seeing others then it's not a fully open relationship.
IF you do not want him seeing others then you need to tell him. He may or may not like this. He may or may not agree to this. IF he does not then I think it's time for... (read in full...)
Am I Too Sensitive?
Q. My husband and I have only been married 3 years. We are both in our 50's. We usually get along very well and he's always been very respectful of me but recently we have had some really severe financial problems that have put a bit of a strain on ...
A. 10 October 2011: it sounded much better in his head. BUT the problem I see is how angry you sound about how the money is being handled. You give us all this background on the money and that has NO BEARING on the story of what he said to his family that upset you ... (read in full...)
Am I too old to find love again? Should I stay or go?
Q. I've divorced my husband. He is a selfish person and his stinginess has bothered me for years. He never wanted to spend money even if needed. Finally I've decided to end it after 20 years together. While I was going through my divorce I've met ...
A. 10 October 2011: you are never too old to find love.
IF you are unhappy and you've talked to him about it then you should go.
IF you have not talked to him about it, then that would be your first step. IF you say you can't talk to him about it then you don't h... (read in full...)
How can I ask to stay over without being rude?
Q. I've been invited to a night out in November for my friend's birthday.She recently moved in with her boyfriend in a city that i havent been to that much so i'm not used to the area and its about 40 minutes away from where i live.i might have to ...
A. 10 October 2011: I would ask a friend who invited me to visit them if they had room for me to crash at their place. Besides, someone has to be the designated driver right?... (read in full...)
Ignoring him isn't making him go away, so how do I break up with him?
Q. One of my friends who I didn’t really like asked me out three days ago. Said he loves me and would like if we were in a relation. He asked me if I could start developing feelings for him. I didn’t want to be rude and I thought that maybe something ...
A. 10 October 2011: you can't just ignore him. you have to be brave and tell him "look it's just not working out, I'm sorry"
it's hard to break up with someone but it's cruel if you just walk away and don't say anything.
it would be "more mean" to ignore him an... (read in full...)
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