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writes:Hi everyone, I usually prefer trying to give advice rather than ask... But there has been something- rather someone- on my mind since last January.I'm basically asking if he's interested (typical I know) by the signs I list, or if I should approach.[*background*--(sorry it's long!)] Has anyone liked someone as soon as he/she has seen them? Well that's what happened to me, it was like I felt this internal shift when I saw him. I've thought of him everyday since, and I can't help but measure every man I meet to him. Because this is under anonymous I don't know if it shows any of my info, but I am 22. The said guy is about 27. The problem was that I could never approach him because at the time he was one of my bosses, and I didn't want to jeopardize that. I moved away last June for job reasons, But now I am back in the area and he is no longer my bossWhile there I got the feeling he may like, or at least be attracted to me also. Here are some of the things I noticed while working there:Most telling ?:~Eye contact 1- Once I was alone in a hallway by the office door during a break on my phone, I heard footsteps so I looked up. It was him. And he was already looking at me. We just stared into each others eyes for about 4 seconds as he approached the office, and then I looked away. 2- I was doing paper work at my desk when I noticed he was going by, so I look up. Just so happens he was looking back, and again we gazed into each others eyes for about 3 seconds until I looked away 3-I think I saw some side glances as he went by my desk (those are sometimes hard to catch). 4- Once during a information talk, I looked up because I heard him coming by... But he was looking right down at me, which i did not expect so I slightly jumped in my chair (haha) 5- And random very short eye contact because i'd look away, those across the room ones-----Other possible signs:- during informational talks, I noticed he seemed to linger slightly longer in my aisle, and somewhat close to me since I usually sat on the end-----Recently: Because I am back in the area, I decided to go visit some old friends at my former company. They are in a different department, so I did not expect to see him. But I did. As I was leaving and going down a busy hall, I looked from my phone and there he was. I'm not sure If he saw me before or if we caught sight of each other at the same time, but again we stared into the other's eye for 3-ish seconds until HE looked away, first time he did first. Maybe because it was unexpected? It also felt different, I felt this awkward tension like "what do we do?" -----This recent experience has just fanned my emotions/feelings... Any advice or comment or thoughts would be helpfulto Men: Does this eye contact mean you're interested?Thank you ahead of time to anyone that replies
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 October 2011):
 when people list a laundry list of reasons we should comment on if another person likes them, it tells me they are putting way too much thought into this.
I make eye contact with folks on the highway when driving.. it happens.
IF you like him, ask him to go for coffee... if he says yes have a great time, if he says no... move along...
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reader, doublejack +, writes (11 October 2011):
Honestly, this isn't much to go on. You've got a few instances of eye contact, which definitely could be a sign of interest. Then again, it could be nothing. More obvious signs would be touching you or getting really close while conversing with you and things of that nature, but given the two of you meet in a work environment he just might not feel comfortable giving those types of signs. I have pursued coworkers myself, and I am very subtle in the office. He also may have no idea if you're interested in him or not.
My advice is to make the first move. You really won't know whether he is attracted to you until one of you makes a move, and why wait for him to do it? I suggest something informal like an invite to get coffee and a little chat. If he's receptive to that then he's probably interested and the two of you can go from there. I'm also assuming that you know or believe him to be single.
Best of luck!
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